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I am a 39 year old woman who has been seeing the same man sexually for almost 2 years. What we have is very special. We both admit that. We have made an agrement with each other not to sleep with anyone else except each other. My problem is that I want more out of this relationship. And because it has been sexual, I can't tell if he wants the same. In the past when I asked for a committment, he said he couldn't at that time, because he has goals he needs work towards and needs to focus on them. Even though he said he would like to the timing was off. I am feeling like it will always be sexual, nothing more. Can I be wrong? Should I wait it out? I do have very strong feelings for this man.
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Since you have been in a sexual relationship with this man for so long, I'm sure you have developed strong feelings for him. These type of things always start out no strings attacthed, but when sex is involved, eventuually emotions will be involved too. I'm sure after all this time, he has feelings for you as well. You both probably know eachother better than anyone else ever could. It seems like he was honest with you in the past when he told you he would like things to be more but he has goals. You should respect the fact that he has goals, alot of men don't. But, now that time has passed, has he accomplished any of these goals yet? And maybe you should have a talk with him and find out if you fit anywhere in his goals. You know, not that 39 is so old or anything, but you guys aren't getting any younger, maybe its time for a commitment. Talk to him about this and see what he has to say. Send me a note in my inbox and let me know how things go, I'm very intrested in what he has to say. Good Luck! :)
(Rating: 5) Thank You so Much! I will let you know what comes of this.