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is it realli wrong to date your best friends ex boyfriend? cause this kid likes me..and i realli like him..but i have a feeling my best friend will get mad if i go out with him. cause she gets jealous even if i chill with him! please help soon cause i'm gonna chill with him tonite! i rate high!

I would talk to her about how you feel and that you want to go out with him. See her reaction..if she doesnt like the idea, then maybe you should back off until shes over him. Who knows..she might be ok with it. I think you should be able to chill with him though..why is she getting mad about that? Talk to her about that too if you want. Dont let a guy ruin your friendship. :)
-hope i helped
-melissa-

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Ok well I have this boyfriend and he doesnt go to my school or anything. I meet him through my friend from soccer camp. We started talking online and then a while later we started going out. Later he broke up with me saying that he disn't think things were going to work out because we still hadn't seen each other. Now a year later, we still haven't seen each other but we are going out again. I am thinking that now I don't want to go out with him until I see him and stuff. How should I tell him this without hurting him too much? (I have never broken up with anybody before) please help soon!!! Thanx and I'll rate you!

Just be honest with him..he should appreciaite your honesty. Explain that you want to be able to see him..and you dont think it would be fair to either one of you to be in a relationship when you cant even see each other.
Hope I helped..good luck
=meliisa= :)

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Can you give yourself a orgasm without popping your cherry?

yeperz..if your clitoris is stimulated..you`ll get one and that doesn pop your cherry! drop one in my inbox if you wanna ask somethin else! :)
-melssa-

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If I have a crush on this guy, or like him, what is the best way to tell him and do i know if he likes me back?

If you guys are friends and he enjoys your company, or if u catch him looking at you, etc. those are good signs that he likes you.
Ways of telling him can be on the phone..you can ask him "can you ever picture us togethher?'..you can ask him online, in person, write him a letter, get a friend to find out, jus straight out ask if he likes you, or you can be a secret admireror..the possibilities are endless! you can make him a card, shout it out on the radio, or jus ask him out!
-best of luck!
-melissa- :)

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I have a problem. I think i am obsessed with gay sex, or any sex for that matter. I am very young, and i have had sex with more than 20 people in my life. More than half of these people i havent used protection with. Nobody likes me cuz all i want is the sex. I cant help it. I have had bf's in the past but they wanted more than sex, so i put 3 people in the sex, but that didnt work. My family hates me and i was kicked out 3 times and have lived in 2 different foster homes. I dont know wat to do anymore, please dont tell me i am crazy, because i follow god by wat he gives to me, and he says sex is fine. I AM NOT CRAZY!!! JUST HELP ME!!!

ANNONOMOUS
(or however u spell it)

hey..its ok to love sex..just be safe. First off, i would get tested because health is important. Anyway...i suggest going to get counsoling for your obession with sex.If your in a current relationship..maybe go for counsoling.This will help you look deeper into the relationship than sex.No, your not crazy..sex is probably wonderful (im a virgin) but if you look deeper in the relationship beyond it..it will be even better. Along with counsoling..try masturbating more...this might help your craving for sex. Hey who knows..maybe you`ll meet someone who loves sex as well. If your getting counsoling..its a perfect chance to try and rebuild your relationship with your family..hopefully they`ll be happy your getting counsoling and you can strengthen your relationship.
Good luck!
-melissa-

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When I was about 14 or 15 yrs old.. I dated this kid.... I wont mention a name.. and then we had broken up because he was more expierenced then me and wanted someone who would have sex with him. Well after all this we still stayed friends.. Well then he moved to Florida with his dad for a while.. and then moved back here. and when he got back up here. He told me he had these feelings for me. and that he loved me and wanted to be with me forever. Well. I wasnt ready to be with him. I was unsure of my feelings for him and I told him i didnt know if i wanted to be with him after telling him i wanted to be. and we got in a huge fight and then about a month later I had talked to him and told him i really loved him and I wanted to work things out. but the only bad thing is. my parents really dislike him and they dont really have a reason to dislike him. I mean I'm 17 yrs old I should beable to date who i want. but they say not while i live in their house... What do I do? I really love this guy. :(

It sounds like your parents arent going to change their mind..so you have two options. You can either go out with this guy behind their back..or get a good job and your own appartment, this way you can do what you want. If you go away to college and stay in a dorm, you can do what you want also. Its a hard situation to be in, but unless your parents magically change their mind, which sounds unlikely..those are basically your options. I would just date him behind their back.
-hope i helped-
-melissa- :)

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I use anti persperant and stuff but i still sweat,smell and it clumps together...and i really sweat bad for a girl too. i want to find a good deodorant that works! what do you think is a good deodorant?

HELP!!!!

ok, for me..secret works good. I dont think the dove deodorant works too good..so dont use that. I play a lot of sports and sweat a lot also. I suggest try using a man`s deordorant that doesnt have a scent and is just regular. I wouldnt wear the kind of men`s deordorant that smells like cologne lol. Try a man`s deodorant thats scentless and see how it works out. Hope i helped out!
-melissa-

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I like 3 guys- and one of them is a good christian who i thought didnt like me back but last night when i was talking to him he said he wants to kiss me again! I kissed him a few years ago but he said it wasnt good cause his sister was there. and then the other guy is really nice but is the first guys neighbor and best friend so i dont want to make them mad at eachother because i was involved with both of them! and then theres #3- but his a bad boy which is the type i go for but i dont really want to like them, right now his under house arrest,he does drugs,drinks,swears- but i really really like him! I dont know what to do! please help me!

oh and another thing guy number 3 gets jelous really easily, he thinks i'm playing him! and we arnt even going out!

i dont know what guy to like!

Hey..I wouldnt go for guy number 3..doesnt sound like the best kind of person to be with. I think you have to choose between guy 1 and guy 2. If they`re both friends, they wouldnt let you break them apart. I always tell people to make a list. It might sound dumb but it works! List each guys good qualities and each guys bad qualities. You know these guys better than i do..so go after the one who will give you what you want! (ex: if your looking for a fling..pick the best guy for that..if your looking for a deep relationship pick the best guy for that)
hope i helped and good luck! :)
-melissa-

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Well Me and My boyfriend of almost 2 years now are expecting a baby girl in just a few months.The problem is he doesnt have a job yet and has been saying hes going to get one for months now.Hes been looking and everything but still nothing.And everytime i talk to him about it hes always got the same stuff to say and sometimes gets mad about me always mentioning it.I want to believe that hes going to get a job soon so what to i do or say to him? :-/

lay it on thick..sit him down and say "we`re gonna have a child soon..its gonna be a lot of responsibilities...we`ll have a family of our own and you need to get a job to support us. Dont you want our child to grow up in a good enviroment..etc.." be serious and ask him about what job hes gonna get. Good luck! :)
-melissa-

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ok, i was at the movies and i was gunna make a move on my boyfriend but like i dunno how to make out? can u explain to me in steps how u make out?

Sure, I`ll give you some steps.
1. Always remember fresh breath is the way to go
2.Pick a moment where you want to move in..
3.Tilt your head and kiss his lips (without tongue at first)
4. If you want, you can kinda suck his bottom lip a lil ..ive found that guys like that
5. Put your hands somewhere..like around his body ,under his neck,behind his head, some place else (wink) lol
6. now for the tongue..put your tongue in his mouth..remember not to be too sloppy..dont shove it down his throat lol. Massage it gently on his tongue..remember to come up for air! lol
-good luck! And i know you might have heard this before, but a lot of it comes natural! Hope I helped!
:) Melissa

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I have this boyfriend, for 5 months now...but the thing is, is that my mom doesnt like him, so i have to date him on the sly...he comes over to my house when shes not home, calls me, and we go out and stuff like a regular couple...but my friend is getting in the way of this...my friend is very different from me, and she HATES my bf too..she never wants to be there for me when i have a problem with him, or with "US" because she just doesnt like him so she doesnt care...i know shes always been concerned for me, because he does bad things and drives without a license and shit, so shes always on my case about where i am...i lie to her constantly though, because i feel like i have nothing else to do because if i dont, what am i gunna do ruin my great relationship?? shes like my mom, and really, i hate that because i dont need another mother, and everyone knows that they dont niether, i just need her to be supportive and to be my friend...but my question is "OH WISE MELLISSA" haha, is should i break up with my boyfriend of 5 months, or should i stay with him and try to talk to my friend about just being my friend???

...and there is a second part to my question...
my mom knows NOTHING about me and my boyfriend, and if she found out, she'd be furious and prolly dis-own me...i keep it from her, because i know the consequences of what will happen if i do...but should i try and tell her?? or just keep doing what im doing and be happy the way it is???

thanks..xo

Your in a sticky situation..I think if you and your bf are happy together, why break up with him? Your friend should support you. As long as your bf isnt hurting you, she has no business acting like that. I know they always say "dont let a guy ruin your friendship" but its not like you two both want him. Have a serious talk with her..explain how you feel and that you want her to support you. She doesnt have to love the guy to death..but she should at least keep her mouth shut. I hate my best friends bf..but Im gona just keep my mouth shut unless he hurts her.
-As for the second question..I would bring up something like "hey mom..what would you think if i got a bf? or "how old do i have to be to get a bf?" See her reaction...then decide from there if you want to tell her. Maybe you can say.."mom i really want a bf. Theres a guy whos really nice to me..etc"

Back to the friend question...try saying with a serious voice "would you rather me break up with this guy who makes me happy..and be sad just for you?"
Has your friend been supportive of you before your bf came into the picture? Cuz if she hasnt, maybe shes worth losing if it gets so far that she wont stop harassing you about your bf. I hope not though...
good luck! Hope I helped :)
-melissa

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You see, whenever I fly on airplanes, I usually get airsick, and I begin to throw up. But just a few months ago, I didn't throw up, so I was pretty happy. But last week, I just found out that my bf's mom invited me to Las Vegas, so we're taking a plane. I'm really scared that I'll throw up. AND I don't wanna be ashamed. What should I do to keep me from puiking? It seems so uncool typing this on an advice column but no one knows who I am anyways.

What works for me is that i chew some gum and listen to my walkman. Maybe hold off on the eating until you get there so theres nothing to puke up!
good luck on the flight
-melissa-

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Im attracted to mr. clean i always have been. and im only 13 idk, theres somthing about a nice, bald shinny head that turns me on. what should i do?

a lil odd but hey nuttin wrong there. Who knows, maybe you`ll meet a mr clean look alike. Until then, remember hes only a cartoon...i suggest tape his commercials and masterbate to them lol
-good luck finding your baldy babe!
-melissa-

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k when u have sex wit a guy n ur almost done n his pe-pe is still in ur does it get stuck in there n stay there until it unhardens?

I never had sex, but I know that the guy can pull his penis out of you whenever he wants. I know people who got caught or who almost did while having sex so he had to quickly get his penis out of there. You dont have to keep it in there until it "unhardens" or ejaculates. He can pull out early. People do this a lot when they have unprotected sex..which is a gamble but thats another story.
hope i answered your question. If not, ask again :)
-melissa

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my friend is cuttin her wrist and stuff wat should i do to help her?

This will probably be one of the toughest decisions you`ll have to make, but please take my advice and tell someone. Cutting is nothin to play around with..it will only get worse.I know someone who attempted suicide and got help. Your friend needs help, she doesnt see it right now but in the end...she`ll thank you.

tell a parent..tell his/her parent, yours, anything. If you tell your friends parent, his/her mom can pretend to stumble across the cuts, even though you told the parent about your friend. This way you stay anonymous.
Hope everything works out
-melissa

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what should i do both of my friends are fighting over some cute guy at school and they both like him
wut should i do ?

I think you should sit them down together..(or call each of them seperately if you want) and remind them to not let a guy come in between them.Remind them on good times they have shared together.Let them know a friendship isnt worth being lost over a guy who wont last nearly as long as their friendship will! Maybe try to get them interested in other guys..its worth a try.If none of this works, they have to work it out..dont get your head chopped off in their fight.
Hope I helped..good luck!
-Melissa :)

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Hey i have a dog and Our family loves him to death. He is an outside dog but we take care of him very well. The problem is that whenever i invite a friend over it seems like they think i abuse my dog and they ask me tons of questions what should i do so that i feel more confedine and not get scared when friends are coming over or when i invite a friend over?

hey, sometimes people asked me the same thing about my former pets. as long as you know your taking care of your pet, thats all that matters! You shouldnt stress yourself just because they dont think your taking care of your dog. They should trust you! I think you should flat out say...hey i take care of my dog and i love him/her ok? Hopefully they`ll stop!
-hope i helped out
:) melissa

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okay i have 2 best friends and i have a extra ticket to go too carowinds and i dont know who too take!! one is a girl ive had for 3 years and one is a boy ive had for a year and i love them too death

This is tough..pick one..maybe the one you`ll have more fun with or who wants to go the most..or you can pick by picking a name out of the hat. For the person who`s left out...let next time be their turn. In the past did u bring one of them somewhere special? If so, give the other a turn.

tough situation...hope i helped!
-melissa

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yesterday i threw up... 9 times and all day yesterday i ate a bananna {{b4 i thru up}}, a peice of chicken {{after i thru up}}, and half a slice of turkey {{after i thru up}}. today i ate a bowl of ceral with milk, maybe half a bowl of ceral {{dry}} prolly less then half a bowl. i still dont feel good but w/e. well im really hungry and tonight for dinner were having pork {{i personally dont like it and it might make me throw up again}} i dk im really hungry wut do i do??

Sounds like you have a stomach bug.Anything with citrus (fruits) will upset your stomach.Eat things that wont be hard on your stomach. Maybe drink gingerale so you get some fluid in your body and try to eat some toast.(my moms a nurse and thats what she always tells us to do) Its a good sign that your hungry though! If the stomach bug doesnt clear up in a couple days..go to the doctor.
Hope I helped out
-melissa

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How do u french kiss sum1 i noe tounge but i dunno if i can do it.I mean the person i wanna kiss i relly like

Some good tips are:
-first off imsure you know...pop a mint in or a piece of gum a little before..fresh breath is the best.
-pick out a good time or moment..and go for it! Lean in and tilt your head
-when your lips meet dont shove your tongue in right away...kiss his lips and maybe even gently suck on his bottom lip..play around with him and then go in for the kill.
-when your tongue is in his mouth..kinda pretend its an icecream cone..or something lol
-dont shove ur tongue down his throat..one of my firts kisses the guy shoved his tongue down my throat and was all messy..lol not a good feeling
-rub your tongue on his..and remember to come up for air once in awhile lol
-i know you probably hear this a million times.. but go with the flow! it will come naturally i promise! This might be his first also..it wont be perfect like in the movies. The more u do it the better you`ll be!
Good luck! Hope i helped out
-melissa :)

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