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I have this boyfriend, for 5 months now...but the thing is, is that my mom doesnt like him, so i have to date him on the sly...he comes over to my house when shes not home, calls me, and we go out and stuff like a regular couple...but my friend is getting in the way of this...my friend is very different from me, and she HATES my bf too..she never wants to be there for me when i have a problem with him, or with "US" because she just doesnt like him so she doesnt care...i know shes always been concerned for me, because he does bad things and drives without a license and shit, so shes always on my case about where i am...i lie to her constantly though, because i feel like i have nothing else to do because if i dont, what am i gunna do ruin my great relationship?? shes like my mom, and really, i hate that because i dont need another mother, and everyone knows that they dont niether, i just need her to be supportive and to be my friend...but my question is "OH WISE MELLISSA" haha, is should i break up with my boyfriend of 5 months, or should i stay with him and try to talk to my friend about just being my friend???
...and there is a second part to my question...
my mom knows NOTHING about me and my boyfriend, and if she found out, she'd be furious and prolly dis-own me...i keep it from her, because i know the consequences of what will happen if i do...but should i try and tell her?? or just keep doing what im doing and be happy the way it is???
thanks..xo
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Your in a sticky situation..I think if you and your bf are happy together, why break up with him? Your friend should support you. As long as your bf isnt hurting you, she has no business acting like that. I know they always say "dont let a guy ruin your friendship" but its not like you two both want him. Have a serious talk with her..explain how you feel and that you want her to support you. She doesnt have to love the guy to death..but she should at least keep her mouth shut. I hate my best friends bf..but Im gona just keep my mouth shut unless he hurts her.
-As for the second question..I would bring up something like "hey mom..what would you think if i got a bf? or "how old do i have to be to get a bf?" See her reaction...then decide from there if you want to tell her. Maybe you can say.."mom i really want a bf. Theres a guy whos really nice to me..etc"
Back to the friend question...try saying with a serious voice "would you rather me break up with this guy who makes me happy..and be sad just for you?"
Has your friend been supportive of you before your bf came into the picture? Cuz if she hasnt, maybe shes worth losing if it gets so far that she wont stop harassing you about your bf. I hope not though...
good luck! Hope I helped :)
-melissa
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