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I mean, to a certain extent I can understand.
I'm talking about average women.
No bikini model shoots to attend, but not like you mistake her for a whale either. Just a totally normal, within her weight range, woman.
-She's has a little bit of tone, but she's definitely not all that active and fit.
-She's soft enough for you to grab a good handful, but she doesn't have cellulite or anything.
Does it completely depend on the guy?
Of course, I know, there's always gonna be the shallow ones who only go for the perfect, "hott" bodies, but what about the rest of us?
Is there any hope for us to be absolutely comfortable with no thoughts of "ugh, he's probably grossed out right now" ?
It keeps me from performing my best in bed. I know I could be so much better if I wanted to, it's just my insecurity with my body that's holding me back from my full potential.
It makes me sad sometimes when I think about it.
I could really use some reassurance.
Especially from men. (link)
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If your partner was grossed out by how you look undressed than he would be long gone and no longer sleeping with you. Any guy who was shallow enough to treat you badly over your stature is an idiot and not worthy of you.
Having said that, he probably has insecurities about his own body that you may not be aware of. What you need to know is that your body is perfectly fine and that you are beautiful and that your partner sees that.
Next, try to think back to when, why, and even where this dislike for your own body comes from and start to deal with that and purge the insecurities. Did a past experience cause this? Start seeing yourself in a positive light and accept your body and nobody else's for that matter is 100% perfect.
You may want to talk to a doctor or therapist about this if it's a major hang up which is appears to be as it's holding you back from enjoying physical intimacy and that's a problem.
Those models who are skinny as rakes often starve themselves to look like that and are often shallow people. While they may be a fantasy for some men once they meet these girls they usually see them as such. You can look like a million dollars but still have a horrible personality too.
Whether a guy likes how you look physically doesn't depend on just the individual themselves. Most guys know that their partner's body and there's too isn't 100% perfect and they love you for you. Anyone who doesn't shouldn't be seeing you undressed period. Only shallow, naive creeps would think any different.
The problem isn't with what others think of your body but what you think of your own. You have to pin-point where the disgust with it comes from or the fear and get rid of it or it will wreak havoc on your life and sexually as it has been doing. You're doing a real number on yourself needlessly and have to learn how to stop and become confident with your partner and with yourself.
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Ok so i purchased a pretty nice 98 vw bug for $4000 from some people on craigslist. They took very good car of it and its pretty good for a 98...everyone says they thought it was a newer model. The only issue i have is its a standard transmission. Ive learned to drive it and im good with driving it around our town because its pretty flat (hardly any hills) but i am terrified to drive on the interstate or to this town near me that i used to always go to (it has very many hills) so i was thinking about maybe selling my current car and getting an automatic transmission vw beetle instead. So my question is, how would i go about selling it? How can i get the best deal possible? Also my dad said something about trading cars in to dealerships...how would that work? Thanks for any advice! :) (link)
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I wouldn't try to trade the car in at the dealership. It doesn't matter how much care you put into the car or condition they won't pay you much. It's 12 years old so the re-sale value to them is nil. If they offered a few hundred dollars you would be lucky. That's how they usually operate.
You could contact a scrap metal yard or junkyard dealer as they will pay you for the car and strip it down for parts. You might make more money off of it that way.
What you should do is keep the car because you genuinely like it and drive the wheels off of her. You can do that by taking a few classes (6 weeks) or so for a couple hundred dollars and learn how to drive a standard. You'll get a good rate too because most people use automatic and in some instances a reduction on insurance.
You might as well learn how to drive a standard because you never know when you might need that skill if in a situation where you need to drive someone home in an emergency or from a bar etc.
With trade-ins they give you the value of your car which won't be much or even lower if dishonest and then deduct that amount from whatever new car you buy and you pay the difference or they lease you something with better terms.
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So since this morning (I've barely eaten all day)I have had diahria when I use the BR. But a few minutes ago it was just like coming out as water and barely any stool, just water. I have felt fine the whole day. My stomach only feels funny a few seconds before i go, then it goes away. I've gone about 4 or 5 times today. What does this mean? What should I do? I feel perfect! But my stool came out as water!! (link)
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We aren't doctors here at the site. We're young people like yourself. We can't give you medical advice or a diagnosis. You need to see a doctor about it.
Chances are you are fine. If all you had all day was liquids than that could be a reason and normal diarrhea can in fact look like water if that's all you have put into your system. As far as frequency and the bathroom goes if you have more liquids than usual to stay hydrated than naturally more trips to the bathroom.
Odds are you have some kind of bug that will go away soon. My concern for you is if this drags out longer than today. See a doctor to find out what's happening and perhaps get graval or a prescription for something to keep food down. If constant runs and vomit see an Emergency Room as there could be something going on that needs serious attention.
Cramps and stomach pains can happen with what you described. I think if it drags out and you can't eat or hold anything down in the next 12 hours go to an emergency room where they can diagnose reason for frequent vomit issues and the other things you mentioned and find the cause. I've been through that and yes there was a serious issue causing it.
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I am not anorexic. I eat whenever I'm hungry and I eat until I feel full. I even eat snacks in between meals. I think my parents mostly have issues with my portion sizes and my choice to eat tofu meals. I eat small portions because eating too much makes me feel uncomfortable.
I want to be vegan when I move out (I've done my research) so I've been trying to cook my own meals with tofu lately. My parents make me eat fish and chicken whenever they make it because for some reason they have this idea that I can't possibly survive on a vegan diet. But I'm fine with that; I'll just wait until I graduate.
But my mom constantly, constantly, CONSTANTLY reminds me to eat. Actually it's more of a nagging voice. I'm really defensive about it too, which is why I called her out on it this morning. Needless to say she accused me of anorexia.
I don't know how to convince these people that I'm not anorexic. My mother's entire family is on the larger side (but she takes care of her figure) but my father and brother are super thin. I also have tiny little breasts and wear a tube bra because padded bras feel fake and I obviously don't need the support. Ever since I started wearing this tube bra it seems like my breasts look smaller which only heightens my "anorexic" appearance. I've actually gotten comments and stares from my relatives. Meh, it's not my fault my breasts won't grow and quite frankly I like them this way. It seems like everyone else is way more concerned about my breast size than I am.
PS: I'm 5'4, 110-115 lbs, and my bra size is 34A-quite different than my mom's size D.
Any advice?
Thanks guys :). (link)
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If you are at 115lbs and 5 ft 4 you are in normal range. Normal is 105+ and overweight is 146 for your height. See a doctor with your mother and explain to the doctor that your family tends to over-eat and that you eat smaller portions, snacks etc and don't see a problem.
Indicate to the doctor that you don't want to eat meat consider yourself healthy and not doing this to have an eating disorder and would like to be a vegan and do it healthily. That should take care of the problem especially if you ask for referral to a nutritionist to come up with a meal plan.
If you demonstrate in the appointment in front of your parents that you know your shit and the doctor sees that you do than you shouldn't have a problem.
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I was texting my friend as I was babysitting and I said to him "Temper tantrums suck." So he replied "Whom is throwing a temper tantrum?"
I told him the word "whom" totally didn't apply... that he didn't use it appropriately. Which of us is correct in this situation? And can you explain why?
Thanks! (link)
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THE FOLLOWING ISN'T MY WORDS OR WORK BUT RATHER COPIED AND PASTED FROM THE DICTIONARY ON MY MACINTOSH COMPUTER. THANKS. IT SHOWS YOU HOW TO USE WHO AND WHOM CORRECTLY. THAT'S WHY I PASTED IT IN.
whom |hoōm|
pronoun
used instead of “who” as the object of a verb or preposition : [ interrog. pron. ] whom did he marry? | [ relative pron. ] her mother, in whom she confided, said it wasn't easy for her.
WHO/WHOM USAGE
who |hoō|
pronoun
1 [ interrog. pron. ] what or which person or people : who is that woman? | I wonder who that letter was from.
2 [ relative pron. ] used to introduce a clause giving further information about a person or people previously mentioned : Joan Fontaine plays the mouse who married the playboy.
• archaic the person that; whoever : who holds the sea, perforce doth hold the land.
PHRASES
as who should say archaic as if to say : he meekly bowed to him, as who should say “Proceed.”
who am I (or are you, is he, etc.) to do something what right or authority do I (or you, he, etc.) have to do something : who am I to object?
who goes there? see go 1 .
ORIGIN Old English hwā, of Germanic origin; related to Dutch wie and German wer.
USAGE 1 A continuing debate in English usage is the question of when to use who and when to use whom. According to formal grammar, who forms the subjective case and so should be used in subject position in a sentence, as in: who decided this? The form whom, on the other hand, forms the objective case and so should be used in object position in a sentence, as in | whom do you think we should support? or | to whom do you wish to speak? Although there are some speakers who still use who and whom according to the rules of formal grammar as stated here, there are many more who rarely use whom at all; its use has retreated steadily and is now largely restricted to formal contexts. The normal practice in modern English is to use who instead of whom ( | who do you think we should support?) and, where applicable, to put the preposition at the end of the sentence ( | who do you wish to speak to?). Such uses are today broadly accepted in standard English, but in formal writing it is best to maintain the distinction. 2 On the use of who and that in relative clauses see usage at that .
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USAGE NOTEwho, whom
Edward Sapir, the philosopher of language, prophesied that “within a couple of hundred years from to-day not even the most learned jurist will be saying ‘Whom did you see?’ By that time the whom will be as delightfully archaic as the Elizabethan his for its. No logical or historical argument will avail to save this hapless whom.” ( Language; 1921.) A safer bet might be that no one will be spelling to-day with a hyphen. In any event, writers in the twenty-first century ought to understand how the words who and whom are correctly used.
Who, the nominative pronoun, is used (1) as the subject of a verb ( it was Kate who rescued the dog); and (2) as the complement of a linking verb, i.e., as a predicate nominative ( they know who you are). Whom, the objective pronoun, is used (1) as the object of a verb ( whom did you see?); and (2) as the object of a preposition ( the person to whom we’re indebted).
It's true that in certain contexts, whom is stilted. That has long been so: “Every sensible English speaker on both sides of the Atlantic says Who were you talking to? [—not Whom —] and the sooner we begin to write it the better.” (J. Y. T. Greig, Breaking Priscian's Head; ca. 1930.) But there are other constructions in which whom remains strong—and more so in American English than in British English. Although writers have announced the demise of whom, it persists in American English—e.g.:
“Susan McDonough's classroom is filled with primary-school children of different ages, all of whom are lagging behind in reading skills.” ( Washington Post; Sept. 28, 1997.)
“He was implicated in the murder of a man whom his workers caught tampering with some stone blocks.” ( SmartMoney; Oct. 1, 1997.) (In this sentence, that might work more naturally than whom.)
The correct uses of who are sometimes tricky. But if the pronoun acts as the subject of a clause, it must be who, never whom —e.g.: “Alan Alda, who you quickly realize is sorely missed on TV, stars as Dan Cutler, a type-A personality advertising executive.” ( Sun-Sentinel [Fort Lauderdale]; May 20, 1994.) ( Who is the subject of is.)
While the subject of a finite verb is nominative ( I know she is good), the subject of an infinitive is in the objective case ( I know her to be good). The same is true of who and whom. Strictly, whom is always either the object of a verb or preposition, or else the subject of an infinitive—e.g.: “Do all you can to develop your intuition—this will help you to know when to act and when to wait, whom to be cautious about and whom to trust.” ( Washington Times; July 9, 1997.)
But often journalists don't get it right, perhaps because they consider the word stuffy—e.g.:
“And he [nominee Stephen G. Breyer] promised, following the admonition of the late Justice Arthur Goldberg, who [read whom ] he served as a law clerk 30 years ago, to do his best to avoid footnotes.” ( Washington Post; May 17, 1994.)
“A polite, helpful 11-year-old who [read whom ] everybody called Jake was fatally shot in his bedroom in this small rural town on Thursday, and a 13-year-old friend was charged hours later with killing him.” ( New York Times; Sept. 3, 1994.), at 1. (Replacing who with that would also work naturally here.)
“Those friends include Myra Guarino, 62, of Valdosta, who [read whom ] Mrs. Helms represents in a suit against the manufacturer of silicone breast implants.” ( New York Times; July 7, 1995.)
In the citations just listed, who is defensible in informal contexts. But the objective who is not idiomatically normal after a preposition. For example, one of whom is something of a set phrase—e.g.: “Parents proudly whooped it up for the players, not one of who [read one of whom ] wore shoulder pads.” ( USA Today; Jan. 27, 2003.)
Among the toughest contexts in which to get the pronouns right are those involving linking verbs. We say, for example, who it is for the same reason we say this is he, but some very good writers have nodded. In any event, whom shouldn't be used as the subject of any finite verb—e.g.:
“The distinguished political and social philosopher Russell Kirk used the word ‘energumen’ to describe . . . whom [read who ] it is I agitate against.” (William F. Buckley, The Jeweler's Eye; 1969.) ( Who is needed as the inverted subject of is: it is who, as in it is he.)
“Police went to several addresses looking for a 17-year-old whom [read who ] they thought was staying with his aunt.” ( San Francisco Chronicle; Apr. 20, 1994.) ( Who is needed as the subject of was.)
“In the other corner are the anti-Stratfordians, the heretics and conspiracy theorists of literature, most of them devoted amateurs whose dogged sleuthing and amassing of evidence (albeit mostly circumstantial) continues to enlarge the body of contention that Shakespeare wasn't himself. But if not he, then whom [read who ]?” ( Washington Post; May 17, 1994.) ( Who is needed in a parallel phrasing with he.)
“But Beck ought to serve as an inspiration for a host of other superb golfers whom [read who ] naysayers claim ‘can't win the big ones.’ ” ( Sky; Sept. 1995.) ( Who is needed as the subject of can't win.)
“Sam divorced in 1969, and is survived by his son, Sam III, his wife, Angela, and their daughter, Samantha, of Clarksville, Tennessee; his daughter, Marguerite; the mother of Matthew and Grace, whom [read who ] all lived with Sam in Austin.” ( Austin American-Statesman; Feb. 10, 1996.) ( Who is needed as the subject of lived.)
William Safire takes an interesting approach for those who fear seeming pedantic (by using whom) or being incorrect (by using who for whom): “When whom is correct, recast the sentence.” ( New York Times; Oct. 4, 1992.) Thus “Whom do you trust?” becomes, in a political campaign, “Which candidate do you trust?” The relative pronoun that can also substitute in many situations. But one commentator, Steven Pinker, calls Safire's suggestion an “unacceptable pseudo-compromise.” And Pinker has a point: “Telling people to avoid a problematic construction sounds like common sense, but in the case of object questions with who, it demands an intolerable sacrifice. People ask questions about the objects of verbs and prepositions a lot.” ( The Language Instinct; 1994.) Moreover, a phrase such as which person is wordier and slightly narrower than who or whom. Perhaps the most sensible approach was the one taken by Robert C. Pooley in 1974: “Considering the importance some people place on mastery of [the textbook rules for whom ], the schoolbooks may be justified in distinguishing the case forms for the relative pronouns for literary usage. But to insist that these literary and formal distinctions be made in informal writing and speech as necessary to achieve ‘correctness’ is to do violence to the readily observed facts of current usage.” ( The Teaching of English Usage, 2d ed.; 1974.)
Who is the relative pronoun for human beings (though that is also acceptable); that and which are the relative pronouns for anything other than humans, including entities created by humans. But writers too often forget this elementary point—e.g.: “The best borrowers are grabbed by the banks and financial institutions who [read that ] are in a position now to offer finer rates.” ( Business Standard; Oct. 25, 1997.)
Some inattentive writers use which in referring to human beings—e.g.: “The bakery employs 11 people, two of which [read whom ] are English (non-Amish) women, and one who is a salesman.” ( Plain Dealer [Cleveland]; June 13, 1995.)
That, of course, is permissible when referring to humans: “the people that were present” or “the people who were present.” Editors tend, however, to prefer the latter phrasing. — BG
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My friends and I are so immature for our age, we're all sixteen, seventeen, eighteen and we still make that's what she said jokes and talk about nonsense. I love them to death and we always have fun when we are together. I am planning my sweet sixteen happening in just a few days, all the invites are out and all the food and such is planned. I just want to get your guys' take on this and see is this sounds fun. My party is going to be in my backyard, where we can be as loud as we want and have the most fun we can, everyone will know where everything is because it's at a familiar place. I am having my ma set out my chocolate fountain and we are going to have everything known to man that goes good with chocolate out. We are going to have a bunch of fruity drinks out. My best friend is bringing over her volleyball net and that can be up. We may set out some ladder ball. We are renting a moonbounce that has a slide to exit out when you're done or if you just want to slide instead of jump. What I want to know is, would you guys have fun at my party? Be honest. Thanks! (link)
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If I were 6-years-old I would be into the bounce castle and slide thing you want to rent. If I'm 16-years-old and two years away from college my gut reaction would be save your money unless you want to be ridiculed at school.
Besides, they aren't build with adults in mind even if you all fit. You or they break it or damage it some how than you have to replace it. It's for little kids not high school students.
If you want to look 16-years-old and really have people show up for this and be respected keep it simple. Use the chocolate fountain, music that's in style, games that are age appropriate and get a cake and a few flicks and a slumber party going. That's all you really need.
As far a volley ball goes I wouldn't do it in your yard unless it's a massive yard to begin with and your neighbors are a fair distance away on either side. If the ball goes over into their property more than once you'll have to deal with that.
The same goes with outdoor music too. Try a BBQ as that's simple for outdoors or pool party if you have one. If you God forbid rent the moonbounce where are you going to put it? Have a ton of high schoolers (not that they'd use it) there on it and noise and you have pissed off neighbors.
Keep it to the cake, the fruit drinks, chocolate fountain, movies and not much else or hit an amusement park, go-kart track, bowling or something up that fills whatever need the volley-ball or bounce castle with slide would to appear more your age.
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Okay so me and my bestfriend are getting closer then ever. We txt each other all day,we call and gossip like teenage girls do and we juss laugh at juss about everything. We are sooooo much alike its scary. But the thing is, we are a trio with this other gurl but i dont like her. Okay,me and her have been friends in the past but its like we share the same best friend and i absolutely hate it. I mean i juss dont like her. She so whiney and baby-ish. She's just not the type of person i would like to hang with. I know that my bestfriend can be friends with whom ever she wants but how do I tell her i dont wanna hang with this third person. I hate when she invites her out with us when we go to the movies,restuarants,ect. And lately my bestfriend has mentioned us living together at the beginning of next year.....ALL THREE OF US. I dont want to but i juss dont know how to tell her that im stingy with her and i dont want to have to hang with other people that she's cool with. What to do????! (link)
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It's a fact of life that certain people do not get along with or like certain kinds of people. All you need to say to your best-friend is that you love being with her but feel very uncomfortable with her other friend as you are polar opposites and don't get along with her.
If said friend is invited somewhere along with you be cordial as it's your friend who did the inviting likewise she'd do that for you. I doubt your friend would drop you in favor of her other friend but if you don't want to risk it happening perhaps don't say anything. Just be cordial and go with the flow when she's around. You don't have to be buddy, buddy or anything other than tolerate her for a bit.
That may be your best bet just go along and be nice to her when she's there and have nothing to do with her apart from that.
If this person is overly-clingy, whiney etc. etc. maybe there's a greater reason. It could be mental health related, learning disability, or never being taught adequate social skills to begin with or really yearns to be liked but goes at it the wrong way. Don't judge.
I believe you know this person for a reason and your other friend is bringing her along for a reason. Why? She probably knows her friend can be a pain in the ass but knows that you won't cause waves with her and or become a friend.
On the flip side it may teach you a lot about yourself and being patient and tolerant with people who are very different from you. There's good to be taken from this.
You don't have to like the girl but be civil towards her when she's around. Your friend sees something special in each of you knuckleheads to keep you both around and nobody's stealing your thunder or pal. This is probably just a new thing and once they've been friends for a while they won't be around 24/7.
As for living together I wouldn't worry about something that is quite a ways off yet. It's all talk and fantasy thus far of what your friend thinks life might be like. Trust me, you might not know this girl long or end up in different cities or schools for that matter. Deal with today and don't worry over that.
Nobody can make you hang out with anyone else but if you play that card with your friend and tell her who you will/won't hang with or turn down the girl and her friends often enough you shoot yourself in the foot and wind up lonely. If you don't want to hang with them use an excuse.
I have a feeling this girl really needs solid friends and someone to set her straight in a gentle way of course that she annoys people without trying because of her bad social skills that make her seem younger and less mature than her peers.
If you both taught her to recognize the problem and correct it who is to say the kind of person she could be become to a lot of people much less yourself. Maybe that's what she's in your life for. Maybe you can do her a favor.
You once were friends. What happened? Use that past friendship as an example and try to help her as you may find you'll like her more than you thought. Obviously, your friend has found something in her despite all the stuff you hate about the girl to be her friend.
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I have a 40 year old daughter. She is on anxiety medication. Being on this medication she lost her marriage and her children age 13 and 9. I tried to help her and she told me I am trying to run her life. I am trying to get her back on tract she is homeless now. She is living with a girlfriend and the children don't want to live there with her. They want to stay in there own house with there father. She is also turning the children against me. She has a lot of health problems. I wanted to go to the doctor's with her to discuss her medical problem and she said no. How do I find out what medication she is on? As far as I know she is taking Paxil and quetiapine. And occasionally drinks Vodka.
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You can't get access to her medical records or a list of prescriptions as that would violate the law and doctor/patient confidentiality.
If her mental health is in question you can phone the doctor and explain that you're her mother and deeply concerned about her mental health and that she could be in crisis. It's then up to the doctor to call her in.
You can point out to that person that you have seen her drink while on medication and that her children do not and or are scared of being with her for prolonged periods. Aside from that you can't help her if she doesn't want to be helped. An intervention may help but could ultimately fail as most people with mental health issues or in crisis cannot see the problem. They may think you're the one not with reality.
Perhaps the children's father can speak to a lawyer or judge about this and get action if they are indeed in a bad environment.
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My new 9 week old puppy is adorable, but only likes me. I have 4 other people in my family and she doesn't really like any if them. If someone else holds her and I walk away she starts barking and crying Abd staring at me. What should I do (link)
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Well, this is NORMAL. Animals always imprint on a certain person that makes them feel safe. If you provide treats, walks, food and everything else yourself and never done by others that's the issue.
How to resolve this? I'm no dog trainer but the first dog I had HATED male and the male voice at first because she lived on a farm and the farmer was abusive. What we did was introduce her to toys, treats and started taking turns walking her. That way she saw us as benign. Gradually she would let others hold and pet her.
Try re-introducing family members to her that way and gradually. She's 9 weeks old so she doesn't know who to trust other than the one person who always tends to her. It's pretty normal.
If you can't lick it this way take her to a trainer (expensive as it may be) to help which shouldn't take long and or phone your vet for tips. They probably know what to do and also consult idiots guide on puppy training and anything on the breed itself. It's definitely covered in them. It all takes time.
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Very recently every time i masturbate ive been peeing, how do i stop this and why is this happening? (link)
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If you're female which I'm assuming it's not urine if it's always happening lately. It sounds like G-Spot fluid. We can't go into detail on it or this topic for legal reasons regarding minors but if you research using other resources it will tell you what it is and how not to get freaked out about it and to deal with it happening.
In other words, you're fine. It usually occurs if/when you feel like you need to push something down or out. Aside, from that online resources apart from this site are your best way of educating yourself further.
MEDICAL INFO ADDITIONAL: Just so you know the fluid doesn't come from the vagina it's released through the urethra which is indeed the same tube urine travels from much like semen in males.
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is there a way to buy movie tickets in bulk, which will make it cheaper? if so, does it always have to be for a certain theater company like amc, which means you can't use it at non-amc theaters? i know they have silver tickets, just wondering if anyone knows anything else. (link)
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Try COSTCO or SAM'S CLUB. COSTCO in Canada has a deal with Cineplex Odeon for kids and adult 2 admissions, popcorn, drinks and candy. You can buy those in bulk.
I know that they have the same thing in the U.S. at COSTCO and possibly SAM'S CLUB too but for different U.S. theater chains. The only downside is that it's not always cheaper to so and you'll need your parents to own a business or be employee of one or a "member of the public" with a yearly membership to get access to those locations.
I'm not American and over here in Canada AMC is barely on the radar with about 10 theaters in total nationwide 5 of which are in Toronto. I'm not up on the chains but try calling locations and asking the managers about this vary question. They'll tell you.
One of the things you could do rather that works with me is to get a gift card and keep topping it off monthly or when you have money so it's always at $50.00 starting balance as that will get you 5-6 movies a month if you don't factor in candy. In effect that's sort of like having bulk tickets to anything playing at any time without expiration date on passes.
When, I have the opportunity to have an extra $100.00 to play with I load up the card with that and get 10 or so flicks out of it. That's one option. But, do talk to theater employees about deals and such as you never know what they may have and check out their loyalty cards and points programs as that earns you free or cheaper tickets first.
Also, do some research on Google or elsewhere and look for independent theaters or chains not owned by huge corporations like AMC or Loews that are either mom and pop businesses or chains that put prices down to see mainstream flicks. They exist you just have to scope them out.
Here in Canada we have Rainbow Cinemas for example which does $7.00 matinees and $5.00 Tuesdays. A lot of theaters also have student only prices and programs. Check 'em out.
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i had liked this guy for two years and i've been noticing some things on his facebook page that told me that he liked a girl and he was gonna ask her out soon. they didn't directly say that but i kind of felt it in my heart and gut. i guess you could call it woman's intuition since my friend looked at the page and she didn't say it. so i just found out he did ask her to be his girlfriend and she said yes and i am extremely hurt right now. what should i do? i have honestly not felt this pain since i learned my ex boyfriend cheated on me. (link)
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The thing is he never knew you were interested in him. Therefore, he focused on her and they are together. Although it's disappointing to you one should not be devastated.
He's just one person and who knows maybe not the right one for you. You never know what can happen either. Their relationship could turn to shit as often happens or not. You should become his friend so if something happened and he became free again that he knows you're alive.
In the meantime you have to get on with your life and not let this bother you right now. You can't change things so staying upset for an extended period isn't right nor healthy.
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Ok, so im not too sure if this is the right catagory, but i need some help. See im trying to get a job at the Pueblo Mall in pueblo, Co. The thing is, i dont have a car, so id have to take the bus, but i cant seem to figure out how to read the schedual. And for some weird reason, no one i know takes the bus or seems to be able to help me.
All i need to figure out is how to get from my home on East 12th and Reading to the pueblo mall and back. I Know it would be a bit of work, but i would really appriciate the help (link)
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You should never give out exactly where you live be it an intersection or not in any chat area such as this. Now, on to your question. The only thing you need to do is call the transit company in Pubelo and tell them where you are starting from and that you want to end up at the Pueblo Mall.
They'll tell you exactly how to do it and if it runs late or not. The number ought to be on their web site, in the white pages and on the schedule or bus stop you were at. If you call them they'll make sure you know how the routes and schedules work and how to read them. No fuss, no worry. It's better than us looking them up and accidentally giving you incorrect info.
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I heard that you can get hurt from stroking your vagina for masturbation. How can you end up hurting yourself? (link)
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Unless you use jagged objects or anything not meant for penetration or unsanitary for that matter you can't physically hurt yourself or get infections. I believe your friends aren't talking about pain but rather soreness if you're too rough or irritation from level of frequency or intensity as the clitoris is ultra-sensitive.
But, you can't really harm yourself, hurt yourself or affect your health adversely or cause pain or something permanently or temporarily wrong. It's natural, healthy and pretty much universal with both sexes and teens in general. I'm sure this is what they're talking about or you heard others talk about but perhaps you should ask them to elaborate.
They probably are talking about intensity and how it stings or feels irritated after awhile if too rough etc. Nothing to worry about.
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ok so this is sooo embarrigin = [ so i dont wan to become sexualy active becuzse i have a frckle down there... is that normal i know this is probably so funny but its really embarring and im afraid the guy wont like me or he will be disgusted becuz of it ... = [
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If you are too embarrassed to have sex over a freckle which everyone can have than how can you expect to have sexual relations and have your partner see other parts and you without clothing? A freckle seriously shouldn't be what is on your mind here.
It shows that you aren't ready and aren't comfortable enough with your body yet. If a guy didn't like you or was disgusted over this than he's an idiot plain and simple. Most guys are probably thinking the same about what you may or may not notice about their body.
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I am going into 11th grade, meaning I am 15 and I am a girl. I am kind of a worry wart. That I won't ever find a job I like, that I'll be doing a dumb job and will hate the rest of my life, that I won't make enough money to afford a house. See :/ These are the things I think about when I start thinking about a future. I love design, I love making things and painting things, I'm not a fan of drawing very much, I also love music, I make some clothing, I love kids, I like writing, whether or not I'm good at it, who know, I write for myself mostly. One thing I am so passionate about, though, is travel. I love to travel. I want to see the world. So, can you please name some jobs where I can travel and see the world's beauty? Thank you! (link)
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Guess what? If you asked any of your 15-year-old classmates about their future and what career they wanted none could answer honestly. I promise. It's hard for 18-year-olds to decide too.
It's unfair in a way to have to pick now as at 18 most people don't have the life experience to choose correctly. I wouldn't worry yet. It seems you have an idea about what makes your tick and your passions.
If you follow them you'll be fine. When it comes to travel: tour operator, flight attendant, tour guide, travel agent, cruise personnel were all great ideas that someone else already said below me.
There's a bigger problem to deal with that everyone so far has missed. It's your anxiety issues pertaining to the future, jobs, life and anything in between that you can't control. Being in a constant state of worry over what amounts to nothing and always works out is a problem.
How long has that been in your life? Does it relate to everything or just this? I'm taking it that it relates to much of your daily life. I'm just saying that it's not normal in that case and your friend's don't experience this.
It may be a good idea to see a professional (and no you aren't crazy) about it and perhaps get treatment and medication that will make it a thing of the past. You might feel a ton better. I'm just saying because you know it's not normal and doesn't feel right to you or others observing it in you.
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I woke up on a sunday and saw my dog's face so big that her head is big and puffy and her eyes have gotten smaller. She is actually thin and fit. I couldn't take her to the vet since it was a Sunday and all the veterinary shops were closed. I need the most help i could get. thank you (link)
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Look in the yellow pages. There is ALWAYS an Emergency animal clinic you can take you pet to 24 hrs any day of the week. I would head there as the swelling of his/her head and startling changes aren't normal. Don't try to resolve it on your own with benadryl when it could be a volatile situation. Find a vet to see to the problem because they're the only ones qualified.
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my best friend who is now my boyfriend wants to lose his virginity to me. not any time soon and hes not pushing it, just saying in general. he had a girlfriend of 9 months before and they never had sex cause she wasnt ready to. i know he was close to being in love with her.. but anyway weve been each others lives since the beginning of the last school year (late 09) and its mid '10, and weve been together for a few months romantically. he wants to lose it to me, the best friend hes ever had, & a girl hes liked since he met.
if he did lose it to me (im not a virgin, he wouldnt be my first so im REALLY concerned about his virginity), do you think itd be a mistake? that he shouldve waited for.... somebody else?
i just dont want to be a mistake because i was for somebody else once before. hes my best friend & i dont want him to regret me. (link)
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You should continue open dialogue with him about it and find out his reasons, what he expects, fears etc. etc. about it. Read books, fact sheets and other things with him and tell him your concerns about possible disappointment, not being ready or how it will affect things.
Let him know you're honored and if he demonstrates that he really wants to go through with it and you both feel comfortable and ready and consenting it's fine. That's how you avoid it being a mistake.
You may be more experienced than him but he has nothing to compare you to regardless. Also, it's a good thing as you can take your time, guide him and make him less nervous and you know what you're doing give or take and make it into a situation where he's not afraid.
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so on the 20th its gonna be my birthday and one of my guy friend whats to have birthday sex and really i dont care cause were more like friends with benifits but we never had sex but he wants to on my birthday and i dont mind its just he has a girlfriend but he really dont like her and it sounds mean but i hate that b***h and me i dont believe that anybody should cheat on anybody but because i hate her so much i really actually for once dont care so should i sleep with him cause i do like him hes so nice and mad cute but im kinda torn between if i should or shouldnt (link)
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Do something smart for your birthday that you won't regret. Think about the other girl and no matter how much you despise her put yourself in her shoes and imagine she were you. Because guess what? With the type of person he is one day it will be you that is that girl. It's a serial thing with guys like him.
As much as you like him he's bad news and just out for sex and this is a bad situation to get yourself into. Also, you hate cheaters and their excuses to begin with so you're only adding to the problem you hate and hurting other people and yourself.
He's not the right person nor the right situation where sex should happen. You'll regret the circumstances later if you do it. If I were you I would tell the other girl privately no matter how much you hate her that he propositioned you and you felt she should know the truth. That's a gift you can give someone else that will benefit you in the long run because you exercised restraint and character. Character matters.
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Several months ago our 14 year old nephew threatened to kill his 12 year old sister. He was sent to a mental hospital for 2 weeks of mental evaluations. He has been diagnosed with a slew of mental disorders and is on the edge. To keep his sister safe he has been living with his grandparents who have voiced concern for their safety. This is my husbands parents and he wants us to go visit them this August. We have two daughters 13 and 5. I have voiced concern to him that I don't want to put our girls in danger and that I don't want to go. He says he's been talking to his parents and they say our nephew is getting better, but I still don't want to take any chances. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but this could turn out badly if one of my daughters sets him off. I told him that we could stay at a hotel, but he said that would insult them. I don't know what to do.
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Which is more important your family's safety or him not insulting people. You're right tell him if he wants to see his parents to go right ahead but you will not allow your kids or yourself to go along. There's something wrong with his head if he's allowing young children to be around someone who threatened another child with death. Stick to your guns.
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