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do men really care about what a woman looks like naked ?
I mean, to a certain extent I can understand.
I'm talking about average women.
No bikini model shoots to attend, but not like you mistake her for a whale either. Just a totally normal, within her weight range, woman.
-She's has a little bit of tone, but she's definitely not all that active and fit.
-She's soft enough for you to grab a good handful, but she doesn't have cellulite or anything.
Does it completely depend on the guy?
Of course, I know, there's always gonna be the shallow ones who only go for the perfect, "hott" bodies, but what about the rest of us?
Is there any hope for us to be absolutely comfortable with no thoughts of "ugh, he's probably grossed out right now" ?
It keeps me from performing my best in bed. I know I could be so much better if I wanted to, it's just my insecurity with my body that's holding me back from my full potential.
It makes me sad sometimes when I think about it.
I could really use some reassurance.
Especially from men.
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I you need to try and be more comfortable in the nude so try being nude for a little while each day and enjoy the time you spend nude and you should feel less insecure. Basically If you get an average looking guy and your average looking than don't worry about It. Life is short just enjoy
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My lady friend says if you're sad go work out. Problem solved. Now go be 23, not a 13 year old insecure little girl.
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If your partner was grossed out by how you look undressed than he would be long gone and no longer sleeping with you. Any guy who was shallow enough to treat you badly over your stature is an idiot and not worthy of you.
Having said that, he probably has insecurities about his own body that you may not be aware of. What you need to know is that your body is perfectly fine and that you are beautiful and that your partner sees that.
Next, try to think back to when, why, and even where this dislike for your own body comes from and start to deal with that and purge the insecurities. Did a past experience cause this? Start seeing yourself in a positive light and accept your body and nobody else's for that matter is 100% perfect.
You may want to talk to a doctor or therapist about this if it's a major hang up which is appears to be as it's holding you back from enjoying physical intimacy and that's a problem.
Those models who are skinny as rakes often starve themselves to look like that and are often shallow people. While they may be a fantasy for some men once they meet these girls they usually see them as such. You can look like a million dollars but still have a horrible personality too.
Whether a guy likes how you look physically doesn't depend on just the individual themselves. Most guys know that their partner's body and there's too isn't 100% perfect and they love you for you. Anyone who doesn't shouldn't be seeing you undressed period. Only shallow, naive creeps would think any different.
The problem isn't with what others think of your body but what you think of your own. You have to pin-point where the disgust with it comes from or the fear and get rid of it or it will wreak havoc on your life and sexually as it has been doing. You're doing a real number on yourself needlessly and have to learn how to stop and become confident with your partner and with yourself.
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My boyfriend loves what i look like and im not a bikini model. Yes im not obese, and all my friends say that im really pretty. But we all have our insecurities.
Everything i have problems with, he loves. You just need to find someone who you can be completely comfortable with. I know thats hard but believe me it will happen.
20/f
Dont give up!!
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I’m old enough to be your dad and you probably want to hear from someone closer to your own age. While that is probably true I’m going to stick my two cents in any way for nothing ever really changes.
When I was your age I found that the girls with the super model bodies were shallow and quite conceded. They were only interested in the hunks, the football players, basketball players and the rest of the jocks. The hard bodies and super bodies all hung out with the right crowds and if you were not in the “proper crowd” their crowd you were a no one
I was in the no one crowd; I was far from ugly, I didn’t have a six pack but I was not fat. My parents’ were not rich so I worked after school and on weekend. I worked in a gas station repairing cars. I did not date much because I was embarrassed that my hands, no matter how hard I scrubbed them, were always stained by the grease and oil from the cars I worked on. The logical part of my mind knew these stains would not rub off on anyone but the illogical part always worried that I would get the girl dirty if I touched her.
My story does not sound like yours? Actually it is exactly like yours. I was being overly concerned about something I couldn’t control. It took a very mature young lady I asked out, we were both still in high school, who wanted to know why I never touched her. She wanted to be more intimate and wanted to know what I was afraid of. I showed her my hands and said “they never come clean”. She said “you work hard that’s ground in dirt, if any does come off on me it will wash off.” I made love to her for the first time that night. We went our separate ways after high school but we have stayed in touch as friends.
If all anyone is looking at is the superficial they are not worth being intimate with. As you get older you find that we mistake lust for love and lust is superficial and not sustaining. Love on the other hand is very sustaining with or without intimacy and has little to do with external looks. It is the person within that you fall in love with.
Teenagers, more boys than girls, allow lust to rule them and maybe that is the way it is suppose to be so that the hormones raging through their bodies do not drive them crazy. Just remember you are who you are and do not obsess over the women in the magazines. Most of those pictures are airbrushed anyway to remove flaws and they are professionally groomed for the shoot. You could look that good to with a professional makeup artist and hair stylist.
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