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Parents accuse me of anorexia
I am not anorexic. I eat whenever I'm hungry and I eat until I feel full. I even eat snacks in between meals. I think my parents mostly have issues with my portion sizes and my choice to eat tofu meals. I eat small portions because eating too much makes me feel uncomfortable.
I want to be vegan when I move out (I've done my research) so I've been trying to cook my own meals with tofu lately. My parents make me eat fish and chicken whenever they make it because for some reason they have this idea that I can't possibly survive on a vegan diet. But I'm fine with that; I'll just wait until I graduate.
But my mom constantly, constantly, CONSTANTLY reminds me to eat. Actually it's more of a nagging voice. I'm really defensive about it too, which is why I called her out on it this morning. Needless to say she accused me of anorexia.
I don't know how to convince these people that I'm not anorexic. My mother's entire family is on the larger side (but she takes care of her figure) but my father and brother are super thin. I also have tiny little breasts and wear a tube bra because padded bras feel fake and I obviously don't need the support. Ever since I started wearing this tube bra it seems like my breasts look smaller which only heightens my "anorexic" appearance. I've actually gotten comments and stares from my relatives. Meh, it's not my fault my breasts won't grow and quite frankly I like them this way. It seems like everyone else is way more concerned about my breast size than I am.
PS: I'm 5'4, 110-115 lbs, and my bra size is 34A-quite different than my mom's size D.
Any advice?
Thanks guys :).
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If you are at 115lbs and 5 ft 4 you are in normal range. Normal is 105+ and overweight is 146 for your height. See a doctor with your mother and explain to the doctor that your family tends to over-eat and that you eat smaller portions, snacks etc and don't see a problem.
Indicate to the doctor that you don't want to eat meat consider yourself healthy and not doing this to have an eating disorder and would like to be a vegan and do it healthily. That should take care of the problem especially if you ask for referral to a nutritionist to come up with a meal plan.
If you demonstrate in the appointment in front of your parents that you know your shit and the doctor sees that you do than you shouldn't have a problem.
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See a nutritionist and talk it over with them and your mom.
I can't tell from your question whether you have an eating disorder or not. Like your mother, I'm sceptical -- Veganism is far too often used as a shield to hide an eating disorder. And very few people who have an eating disorder realize they are doing it from the get go.
I'm not saying that you are, only that many, many young women do, so it's not as irrational of your mother to be concerned about as you might think. Talking about your diet choices with a professional and your mom in the room would likely help to calm her fears AND correct you if you are actually behaving improperly.
Even if you don't want to take your mother along, you SHOULD see a doctor since you are experiencing discomfort with even slight over eating. It is possible there is something medically wrong with your digestive tract that is suppressing your appetite and causing discomfort. I do have to say you sound shocking like a friend of mine who was diagnosed with Chromes Disease in her early teens...
You sound like a lovely, respectful and intelligent young lady and of course you might be just fine! But I hope you can realize that there are a few little alarm bells in your question as far as an eating disorder or a medical issue. It is rational, for your own health, and for your parents’ comfort, to seek some medical guidance and do some double-checking on your health.
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Dont blame your parents for being concerned, they are just worried that you arn't eating enough in general.
Yes, you can say that you are full and only eat when your hungry, but usually only eating until your full isnt enough. It doesnt give you enough protein or energy for your body to run on.
This is one reason that your breasts are small. Your body probably doesnt have enough fat to grow larger breasts, thus giving you an anorexic apperance. But good for you, for not being picky about breast size and wearing push up bra's like the rest of the world.
As for being a vegan, thats fine. Its your choice, and you obviously make those choices due to your personal preferance. Make sure you let your parents know that its your body and you get to choose what types of food to put into it.
You are a normal weight for your age, so there really is no reason for your mother to nag you about eating habits.
But maybe, to satisfy your parents a little bit, eat things that give your body the nutritions it needs to grow and stay stable in health. Thats the part that is worrying your parents now. They think your not allowing yourself to be open to vitamins(because i know tofu doesnt have much to it...)
So I'd talk to your parents about your healthy weight, reason for wanting to be vegan, ad reason for having small breasts. They are just worried because they dont know whats going on, but once you tell them, they will eventually come around.
good luck!
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