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You should start as late as possible. Make up is to cover up wrinkles, and since you are young, you have none! Also, makeup DOES cause wrinkles. However I would recommend to start using it in later years in high school. But only when you're going to go out. If you make a habit of putting make up on for school - escpecially foundation (which completely destroys your skin) then you'll be hooked. Believe me, it's very hard to stop using make after you have started. It's like a drug LOL. But there's nothing wrong with your taking your time before wanting to reach that 'stage'.

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he wants to please me.. but he doesnt want to recieve from me. he is waaayyy to nice (opens MY car door when I drive)... we try to do stuff physically and he always is giving to me (without me even asking). but when i try to give to him, he will stop me and say that he doesnt need that from me... just being with him makes him happy. i feel like he's not attracted to me or something (im pretty good looking as he says), but he swears he is & emotionally i know he's attracted to me. even with intercourse he will get soft & have to stop. is he gay because he doesnt want anything from me?! (i know that NO guy would pass up an offer by a girl). am i not pleasing him? i dont know what to think or do!!

Are you kidding me!!! SWEETIE! You are dating the perfect GUY!!!! My god, I want that!!! That's called a gentleman. I know that you find it strange since we're all surrounded by assholes but my god he sounds so...perfect. Opening the car door. Isn't sex crazy. You shouldn't be thinking about whether he's gay! You should be thinking about your future MARRIAGE TO HIM!!!!

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Im 13\f i reallyyyy like this guy and i havnt meet anyone like him before. two of my best friends like him to i was okay with it because me and him talk everyday and i didnt think that he would just like forgett about me because he seems like he likes me. then he said one of my friends was pretty and nice and he was going to ask her out. i started crying and i told her that i didnt want her to because it was weird since i like him. and she got all mad at me because i was jelous but i knew him first and stuff but i dont wanna ask him out cuz it would ruin our friendship.
I REALLY NEED HELP!!! i cant take it anymore.
thanks

You did the right thing by telling your friend your true feelings. Hidding them would only make things worst. However if your friend freaked and acted like a total lunatic then she really isn't your friend. She chose a guy over you! No REAL friend does that. I think you should stay away from her, she seems like trouble. That's the type of girl that steals boyfriends. And that guy doesn't seem worth it. Besides, why get stuck with a guy who can't even make up his mind as to who he likes? That only causes more drama which leads to a lot of bullshit. Move on. Get a new friend. And go back to fishing for a guy.

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Hey, I know I already posted a question yesterday, but from the advice I got...I was wondering if I ate healthy(without purging or anything)..like No red meats, some white meat, no sodas, some whole grain, fruits and vegetable and exercise up to an hour a day...how much weight could I lose in a week.
When I was purging, I was able to drop at least 5 pounds a weeks some weeks.
But would I be able to lose more than the maximum of 2 pounds a week by eating like that? I am wanting to lose about 25 pounds before I go prom dress shopping at the end of March and for prom at the end of April.
Also, next year is my senior year in August, and we have senior pictures, and I'm afraid I'm going to be deathly fat for them!
(17 years old)

It is impossible to loose weight in a week the healthy way. This takes time, and determination. Exercise and eat healthy. You'll loose weight and will see results. DO NOT PURGE!!! if you do, then you are bulimic, and there are alot of consequences. Do not play with eating disorders, they are life threatning. Google it!!! Also heres a tip: the less you eat, the slower your metabolism is...

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Everytime I'm laying down on my boyfriend and we are making out, he always seems to shake his knee/foot (like move it back or forth, tap it, i can't really explain it). It's really starting to bug me as to why he does this. It also happens when we're making out standing up. Why does he do it? Does it mean anything?

Well, it could mean a lot of things. One: sexual frustration. Two: a nervous twitch. Or Three: Family problem but in genetics.

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Is there any other movies with Channing Tatum in it except step up and shes the man because i already have them.

thanks :]

I'm sorry to have to tell you this but I found out some heartbreaking news yesterday (ironicaly). Channing is...bi. He has opening appeared on an interview and said it. I mean he appeared in a Ricky Martin video for god sakes!!! And also, he was in a gay magazine with his..partner. I believe he was in Coach Carter as well. But I just thought I'd let you know that little piece of info. Luck. and Sorry.

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Alright, i wanted to do something special on New Years for my boyfriend. Since new years is our 11 month anniversary too. I cant think of any ideas. I was already going to wear a skirt for him since i have never worn somethin like that before (excluding one time for wedding)haha. I need ideas on what to do for him. Anything, sexual absolutely anything. I have no clue on what to do. Thanks.

Have a romantic, candlelight dinner anywhere. Wear something sexy, but not trashy. I recommend a red, short dress with high heels. Straighten your hair and put alot of makeup on. Dont give yourself to him yet though, wait longer. 11 months is still a baby...

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i LOVE singing. Everytime theres a song on that i like i sing. I really want to become a singer but im not sure if im good enough. I always sing in the car when my parents are there but they dont say oh wow your good, but the dont say im bad either. I record myself but my voice seems really low so im not sure if its me or the recorder. When i sing out loud and i hear myself i think i sound really good. A couple of my friends said im really good. Also my sister and I were playing this game because i wanted to see what she would say about my singing and she said i was great but im not sure if thats true because shes only 9. So what can i do to see if i sing good and also what should i do if i want to become a well known singer?

sorry this is long.
thank you so much :]

You should take singing lessons. These lessons will help you grow as a singer, and become more confident of your voice. If you want to know what people think, just ask them. Once you are ready to perform in a live audience, join your school's talent show. Heck, why dont you join chorus. If you want to be a famous singer, you have to put yourself out there. Your dreams dont come to you, you have to go to your dreams.

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okay, i am dead in the middle of the classic issue of being in love with your best friend.

lets call him Joe.

joe and i got really close really fast. my friends say "we just click". and i can see it too. when were together we're inseparable and when were apart we talk all the time. he tells me a lot of things he doesnt tell his other friends, even the ones who have been there forever.

but just recently, joe has become more "attractive", much more attractive..and now girls are alll over him..and guys, too. And ive liked him since the first time we hung out..before his grand transformation. and im afraid hes going to end up with someone who only talks to him NOW beacuse of his looks.

i dont know what to do.

i dont want to tell him because im terrified of rejection and i would MUCH rather have him as my best friend than not at all.

but id also like to know, beacuse sometimes it FEELS and LOOKS like he may like me, but other times..it doesnt.

and my feelings get stronger everytime we talk.

any ideas?
thanks a lot :]

15/f

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!Tell him how you feel. Wouldnt you hate to go on with your life wondering if you two could be a couple? Besides it sounds like you both have a great relationship that could withstand more than a simple crush - but perhaps your feelings go deeper than that. And if they do, then I seriously recommend to confront them before it becomes too late and you loose him. I mean I'm sure you'll still have him as a friend - but not as the 'more' that you want 'Joe' to be.

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This is a really random question, but how do you do makeup for a professional photo (color or black and white)?

First apply pancake foundation to eliminate oilyness. Next, apply brown, or any other natural looking color for eyeshadow. Then, apply eyeliner. Look in the mirror and if your eyes seem very small, and close together, then only apply eyeliner half way in each eye. If not, then apply normally. Next, apply lots and lots of mascara because on camera it seems as though you have no eyelashes. Then apply a natural lookin blush. Dont over due it. Dont only apply it on your cheeks, but also on your chin and forehead to have an even look. Last, but certainly not least, APPLY LIPSTICK , NOT LIP GLOSS. NO SHINY LIPSTICK!!! NOT TOO RED, NOT TOO BROWN. tada !!!!!!!!! your are now ready for a photoshoot!!!

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Ok..i play for a travel volleyball team and our first tournament is next weekend. Well..im the only new girl on the team..the rest of the players played last year and im really nervous that im gonna do bad in the game. I dont want the other girls to think im a bad player. How do i handle this?

Practice...practice makes perfect. Also, relax. If you are tense, and think that you'll do bad, then most probably you will. So be confident and stay positive. Im sure you'll do fine!!!

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okay well i am in the 9th grade and i have liked this guy since i was in 6th grade. we went out for a while in 6th grade then broke up then in 7th grade we went out twice and broke up bc of rumors that were spread. but we always talked and told eachother we still loved eachother. then he just stopped talking to me then last yr [8th grade] we would talk but i didnt klnow how much i acutally liked him then i realized i was still in love with him. we didnt talk for a few months then started talking again and im like dead in love with him. he found out i like him but i dont kniow what to do. like this isnt some kid love, its real . its been almost 4 years. i have no clue what to do. im trying to go out with other people to get over him, but it doesnt work at all.

Tell him. You cannot live the rest of your life wondering what he would have said. Believe me, you will regret if you dont for the rest of your life. I mean whats the worst that could happen? That he says no? Well that will save you from wasting your time on a man that would never return your feelings. Everything happens for a reason...GIRL POWER!!!!

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