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hahahaha was i on crack as a kid or what?

Anywayzzz -- Hey loveys. My name's Martha and I'm here to help you on pretty much anything. Ask and I'll do my very best to answer. I love giving advice and a lot of people say I am a beastly advice giver...so, ask away!

p.s. my screen name is x0mrm0x if you don't want to have your question open to everyone. Also, if you need advice from a guy my friend mark gives good advice...his link is under my favorite columnists.


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Does anyone know of any movies with dancing in them?
Apart from musicals, I think I've watched enough musicals to last me a life time.

It doesn't matter what type of dancing it is I just need dancing in it.

save the last dance...honey...you got served...

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what is it exactly? i am just thats tupid. but i dont know much about it, thanks.

its just when you like...well its kinda self explanitory...you act like, cold, towards the guy. like you're not interested in him or anything.
you play 'hard to get'. lol.
not that complicated.

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Well heres the thing..

Sex..

im completely ready but im scared that the condom will break and ill end up pregnant!

any advice on the subject??

thanks

i rate 5's

don't worry, its not that common for condoms to break. and they work 97% of the time.
you could also take birth control pills...or if you need to, you could talk 'the morning after' pills...i'm not sure what they're called exactly...but thats what i hear is what you can take if you had sex and want to be really safe.

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I wanted to know where you can get a good bra...it doesnt matter the price unless it is over $100. I have to start using the right kind...
Thank-you
Liz

victoria's secret or like, department stores or something. they work.

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yeah... I go to a really bad school (drugs, sex, rumors, suicide, acohal, smoking, & ect.) & I'm mad fun of alot. I under understand what I ever did to them... I transferd from a private school (PRK-8th Grade) that had only 187 students, now I'm in public school & theres more people in my grade, I transferd 2 years ago.

I'm called gay, queer, shim, & all sorts of rumors are going around. & I don't know what I ever did to these people... I'm on medication for depression & I'm seeing a shrink... but its all the popular guys who say these things... & i guess the girls do to, just not to my face. I don't have many friends, acctly, only girl-friends who go to that school... & even they make-fun of me... & I don't know what I did to hurt these people so damn bad... & I've got a bad homelife... my mom is married to someone I hate, my dad is mean & treats my sisters awfull (he was married once befor & had 2 kids, so tehre my half-sisters) & my grandfathers, bother of them, died within a year of eachother & just theres a whole lot of things going on in my life... & I don't know what I should do... kill myself (I'm the only thing between my parents that keeps them fighting)? take drugs? I've no clue what I can do or what I did to them... & I'm not really sure how much most of my friends would care if I just died... & my best friend (I've known him since I was about a year old) dosen't want to have anything to do with me... & I don't know who would really care, other then my sisters, my mom, grandmothers, dad, & various other family... & 1 teacher... & so I don't know what to do... it keeps me so depressed & its so hard on me, I don't do good in school cos I'm depressed, my friends make-fun of me... I know I'm not the best looking person ever... but I just want to know what I can do...

if anyone needs contact with me then at the bottam of your post put your e-mail

-Cameron

well maybe they're calling you those things because of like, something you did or said that maybe implied homesexualness or something? i really don't know since i don't know you. but i don't know, just a suggestion.
and usually people who make fun of other people are just insecure with themselves and for some twisted reason, they find pleasure and joy in making another person's life hell.
but you can't give up. these are just people who you have to deal with temporaraly. not forever. just a few more years. you can get through it. suicide is not the way out, its the easy way out, and if you take the easy way out...well, i don't really kno, but its just not worth it because people DO care about you. no matter how much you think that they don't...THEY DO!
do not get into doing bad stuff either (like drugs) cuz that just complicates things and makes everything worse than it already is.
things WILL get better.

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a lot of guys who haev asked me out say i play hard to get reeeaaalllllyyyy bad. i cant help it. i dont want to come off as easy , i want to give them a challenge to see how long the stick around before they give up. i still want to be hard to get but im scared that it will drive soem of thebest guys away. what should i do 15/F/MA

loosen up. and if you still play hard to get just a tad, you won't seem easy at all!

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I'm a 15 year old girl, he's 17. We both like eachother. But he's not sure if he wants to go out with me. He's worried about our age difference since he's turning 18 in like 5 months. Even then we'll have 2 years between us still. He's told my friend that he does want to go out with me, but he's concerned about the age thing. Should I just give up on him, or still try to hook up with him? Help? :)

try to hook up with him! age is nothing. and he can't really be charged for anything since its consentual (sp? lol). and plus, you should never pass on something that could turn into something great! thats what i always say! lol
hope i helped.

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I can't seem to find and shorts or pants or skirts that fit me... only like the really expensive 12 slim abercrombies... i'm almost fourteen, and going into 9th grade. Where can I find bottoms that'll fit me (other than the expensive 00's or 12 slims). Limited Too and other kids stores and department stores (juniors) are always huge on my thighs! please help!
thanks!

damn your skinny.
i'm too big for them stores...haha yeah.
so, sorry i couldn't help out more...but i just had to tell you that.
you could probably try hollister or department stores like nordstrom or something. i don't shop at either, but from what i know they could be helpful.

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How do you accentuate your eyes? How do you make your eyes look bigger, but with a natural, yet stunning and exotic kind of look? Any tips or sites would be appreciated, thanks.

eyeliner...it brings out your eyes...works for me.

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I am in 7th grade and I am in level math... Next year I am skipping Pre-Algebra and taking Algebra.. can any1 give me any expectations or any math tips? Thanks a bunch!

im in 7th grade and i'm in advanced math (aka i do 8th grade math)...and i'm doing pre-algebra now...so i have a preview of algebra...and i think it is oober hard...most if it is kinda easy...but some of it is REALLY confusing...
basically...its math, and math is tough.

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I have really liked my boyfriend for a while but after a while the "magic" started to where off i am thinking about dumping him but i dont really know what 2 do. I mean i wanna go out w/ him to say i have a bf but i dont really wanna go out with him i dont know what 2 do plez help!

well, if you only want to go out w/ him so you can say that you have a boyfriend...then you should break up with him. you can't be in a relationship where he thinks that you like him and want to be with him when you really don't. because if he ever does find out that that was the only reason you continued to go out w/ him, he might be angry and not talk to you or something. you just have to be honest.

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wats a penis like

umm...well i haven't ever really come in close contact with one...you would probably be better asking a guy this...wait, i'll ask the guy who always helps me with questions...and heres what he says...
"a penis has a scrotum, which is a sack at the bottom that hold sperm that impregnates women
the "shaft" is a pole-like extremity that extends from the torso...it has a "head" at the end with a slit at the tip so urine can come out.......r u puttin this down? ohh and...the scrotum is kinda wrinkly...and the entire penis has veins in it some penis's have more visible veins than others"
well hope that helps ya...

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My friend was raped by a bunch of guys. Now she's pregnant and she also has AIDS because of them. She's anemic which means she's already really tired all the time and gets short of breathe really easily. Well lately she's been really tired, like more than usual and it's really scaring me. Her parents don't know about what happened to her, they really don't care about her she's basically living with me. My parents take care of her and we give her a place to stay. She has a job but lately she's been skipping it and she just seems really tired. It's like she's a completely different person. She'll usually try to do things and not let the fact that she's anemic stop her but she hasn't been doing anything lately and she seems really sick. She says that it's just her anemia but I'm not really sure. My question is could she just be like this because of the anemia or could it be something else? I don't know that much about AIDS so could she be dying from it and that's why she seems so exhausted and sick all the time?
Please help me I'm really worried about her.

Sarah

thats really sad...
but um, yeah, its probably a combination of having AIDs...being pregnant, and anemic.
if she seems like all different, when your sick, you're not yourself. also, she might be slightly depressed because of the whole ordeal.

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Is it normal to still be bleeding the day after your first time?

yes, it can be normal...its not like it happens to everyone...but yes, it can happen and theres nothing wrong with it.
because your body isn't used to that...and also, you were probably tight...sooo, yeah. hope i helped.

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how old are you and how far have u gone

i am 13 and i have only gotten to 1st (aka hooking up...) i don't know if i was ever truly felt up...i've been grabbed before, but i really don't think it counts.

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okay, here's the deal:
I am a twelve yr. old VIRGIN catholic. I have been goin out with this guy, bob, for bout 3 months. I have known bob since I was 7. Me and bob have made out countless times and I REALLY LIKE HIM! Sounds so nice right? Well, the last few weeks, have been weird. Last week, I was leaning against him and he started touching my boobs and butt and even the other place. I guess I was okay with it, but he has been really hitting on me and talking bout sex and condoms and yesturday, on our date, I saw a condom fall out of his pocket. He has been humping me a little and getting erections on me. Today, he was askin me all these sex questions like do u like it hard? Do u want to be on top or bottom? I mean, this is the guy I truly love and i am not a total prude, but, I don't want to be risk pregnancy at age 12!

i think that he either: honestly loves you and doesn't know any other way to tell you that he wants to have sex w/ you, other than the kind of 'jerky-guy' way that hes doing it now...OR...he just wants to have sex with you because hes a horny bastard.
((thats MY opinion...))..now i asked my guy friend his opinion...and this is wat he sed...
"i think that he has been goin out w/ her for sooo long and it is seriously time for them to take another step cuz u dont kno how hard it is for a dude to not do sumthin like that, but at least he is bein considerate and carrying condoms and he wants to be protected...so it is perfectly fine...she should tell him whether or not she wants to...instead of takin hints"
thats exactly what he said...and i would say that i agree somewhat.
so there you go, hope i helped.

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hey i wanna know where to get short shorts for not alot of money.. dont suggest hollister american eagel or any places like that.. that isnt my style and i also want some tight shirts.. i want low prices cause i dont have much money til next month and i need em now.. i wear mainly clothing like rocawear,babyphat,ecko..gunit..thanks bunches if you can help

you could try d.e.m.o., mandees, USA blues, umm...im not sure what other stores, but you could just look up shit on the internet...

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i dont think im very good with boys how many have u gotten with

if you mean how many i have actually hooked up with...one.
but if you mean how many boyfriends i've had...then that would be three.
sooo, yeah...lol.
but don't worry, i didn't start going out with boys until i was 13. (and i turned 13 in the sept. of 2004)...so, don't worry, your time'll come.
some people just get there faster than others.

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i like lots of guys and i don't know why... i just thnk so many are hot!! ugh it sucks not knowing which one to choose!! please help

well no, your not a slut...
and its normal. like, at one point, i liked about 5 different guys at the same time. you just might be a little boy crazy, and thats perfectly fine.
just see what happens with all of them (well the ones that seem most promising for a relationship) and then go from there. you'll know what to do.

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umm this might sound weird but how do you turn a guy on

tease him.
wear some semi-revealing clothes (but don't over-do it and be slutty)
i have never really done this...but i would say: just talk to him and use humor and stuff to lead him on. then he will be all anxious and be wanting you. once you have him at that point...you can actually relieve his turned on self...by letting him 'have it' (if that makes sense)
hope i helped...

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