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Can anyone help me find information on Teen Pregnancy? (link)
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im not sure what kind of question you are asking. if you think you might be pregnant then http://plannedparenthood.com is a good place to start. http://www.teenpregnancy.com/ is another good one.
if you just want facts about teen pregnancy (stats, prevention, etc.) here are some websites that might help you:
http://www.teenpregnancy.org/
http://www.intac.com/~jdeck/tahra/Tp1.html
http://www.cfoc.org/TeenGuide/
if you want more, you should google it.
~rainbow
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Me and my friend have been friends since Kindergarden. (currently in 8th grade) And in 7th grade this girl moved here and we've been friends ever since. But i try very hard to include both of them in all that i do.. and not ignore them. But then when she was in 5th grade here and this other girl became friends and ever since and it seems like i'm always being ignored by her. I understand that she has to have other friends and stuff but i feel like i should be indluded in some of the stuff she does. like occasionally go to her house. and when i invite her to my house.. it always seems like something 'comes up' and she never gets to come.. either that or she already has plans with the other girl. I don't wanna break the friendship.. but i just don't know what to do.. Any suggestions? (link)
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ok, ive had this problem with friends before, infact i am having that problem right now.
ask her why shes spending so much time with this girl and tell her that you feel left out. i'll bet its not intentional. also you have to remember that just because you were best friends since kindergarden doesnt mean that you'll be best friends forever. grade eight is about the time when people start to grow apart. you are starting to find out who you are and thats going to be different than who you were in kindergarden. she might feel that she has more in common with this new girl. but, again just flat out ask her whats up with her spending so much time with this new girl. she might not know thats shes making you feel excluded.
if you really feel ignored spend more time with other friends, you'll feel much better. try to be with someone who doesnt make you feel left out. you'll have a much better time and most likely forget about this other girl whos been ignoring you.
~rainbow
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I have a friend who cant keep her mouth shut! She tells everything I say and I always try to remember tp tell her stuff but sometimes i am just itcing to tell someone. I really wanna be her friend but then again I dont NEED her! any suggestions? 5 points for anyone who helps! xoxo (link)
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well, im assuming you've confronted her about this. if you haven't, thats the first step.
if she already knows how you feel and she is continuing to blab your personal secrets all over school, tell her "listen, i really want to be your friend, but i dont know if can trust you. you need to stop telling everyone private things about me." and go on from there. if she continues, id say, dump her. you dont want a friend who always tells your secrets. if you really want to remain friends with her then when you're itching to tell someone something find a more trustworthy friend to tell. im sure that her "blabbing" isnt malicious and that she has lots of other great qualities.
~rainbow
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Okay. I getting really strest out over school, I try to do my best but it is really hard. So sometimes the smallest thing might get me upset. At school I always feel sleepy, I hav enought time to sleep it's just the falling asleep part. Can you give me any advice on how not to get so strest, not be so sleepy and cranky in the morning? (link)
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take the time to calm down. if you get B instead of an A, so what? don't swaet the small stuff. do your work and if you're having trobule ask your teachers or parents to help you. as for sleep, try going to bed earlier. even if you can't fall asleep just being in bed with the lights either off or low (if you dont have a dimmer try a small lamp) helps yur body go to sleep faster and any kind of rest will do you good. you know yourself, if music helps you sleep use it, if it keeps you awake, don't. don't read exciting books before bed, you will want to keep reading and you will be kept awake wondering whats going to happen next. try not to watch tv right before you go to bed either, it'll keep you awake longer.
remeber that you aren't perfect and that getting a mediocre grade isn't the end of the world. still try to keep up and do your best, but if you need help ask for it and if you don't do as well as you thought you would, you can always do better next time. hope i helped, please rate.
~rainbow
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some people think that i'm fat but i dont think so. i mean i watch what i eat, and excersice daily. But, i cant lose weight. and i have a lot of friends who are super skinny, and they make me feel fat. what should i do, because i want to look more skinny i just dont want to me anerexic.
plese write back,
chunky monkey? (link)
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if you dont think you're fat then thats all that matters. you don't have to live up to someone elses standards of what you're supposed to look like. i have many really skinny friends and sometimes i do feel a little selfconcious around them, but think about it, would you really want to be THAT skinny? i wouldn't. you dont have to look like a model (those girls look sick). if you really want to lose weight you seem to be on the right path. try to eat heathly ( don't go over board, like not allowing yourself anycarbs becuase thats NOT heathly) and exercize (agian, don't go overboard.) if you are happy with yourself then the people who call you fat can screw off. they are clearly not the kind of people you wan to concern yourself with. as long as you like you thats all that matters.
~rainbow
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My mom is bananas.
She doesn't listen to me. Ever. Like, for example, today, I asked her to pick me up a block away from school. She was standing RIGHT out front, so I told her how appalled I was at her behavior and she cancelled my manicure. Her excuse was 'You have a friend'. Yeah, a friend that I carpool with every day.
I always get in trouble, and this summer is going to be full of fun, so i need ways to deal witht his. Thanks! (link)
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im assuming that you're at least 13. you need to tell your mom that you aren't a little kid and that she can't hold on to you forever. if its a matter of being worried about your saftey than make a compromise. if you go out you'll call her every few hours. set a time you are both comfortable with. you might also want to establish a curfew.
i had the same problem with my parents. they never used to listen when i said something and they were always overprotctive. i made a deal that i would call them when i got to school, when i was leaving school and every hour when i was out. soon that turned in to every two hours and so on. now i only have to check in every 5 hours. it may seem like a drag having to check in at first, but the end result is worth it.
your mother probably doesn't want to see you as anything but her little girl that used to want to be with her all the time. that used to listen to everything she said. you've got to expect that your parents will try to keep you close. tell your mom that you are growing up and that you have your own opinions and that you need to be heard. hopefully she will listen to reason.
~rainbow
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how do you deal with rumors and gossip. i really don't care what ppl say i just have a hard time showing that i actually don't care, so how do i show people i really dont care? (link)
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either laugh it off or just ignore it. if whoever started the rumor can get a rise out of you then they're going to keep doing it. people will believe what they want to and you can't let it getb to you. also, if you really didn't care than i don't think you would have taken the time to come here and ask this question.
so basicly its not hard, just don't let it get to you. act normal and keep your cool.
~rainbow
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this is gonna sound stupid but what does ghetto mean? (link)
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from my understanding it means something along the lines of cheap, but creative like if you broke your window and then taped garbage bags to cover it that would be "ghetto". im probably not the best person to answer this question, but i thought id give it a shot. ask your local gansta or pimp.
~rainbow
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i am a girl that is 14 and wheneva my boyfriend is around his friend zack he seems very distant to me! so wat should i do? i am not going to break up with him ! so back off the idea (link)
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dont worry about it. guys are always like that around thier friends. it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. if you feel like your relationship is being neglected then ask him if you two can have some alone time together and he and zack can have thier own time. make sure you make it clear that you on't want him to give up zack as a friend and and that you don't hate zack. believe me if he thinks he is supposed to choose between you and zack he'll breakup with you in a heartbeat.
~rainbow
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I moved here in 6th grade and I've always wanted to be popular...So I tried hanging with the white popular people and it seriously was HARD work!! Each year, things got better..and now I'm at that point where we'd be better friends if I'd invite them over (I haven't invited them over yet because I'm embaress that they will say that my house is small compared to theres..or that they will make fun of my lifestyle..and everything) I'm now in 11th grade..and I really want to be friends with these people..I don't think I can keep a close relationship with them if I never invite them over...I'm just very embaressed of the way I live...Compared to them, I'm so much uglier and poorer..and they're rich...Please don't judge..Thanks (link)
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i really dont think that being popular will make you happier, these people cant be your friends if you're scared of what they will think of you all the time. i would just get new friends that i felt comfortable with. but clearly, you don't want to do that. all i can tell you is that you can't force friendship, and thatjust beacause they are "prettier" and have more money doesn't mean that they're better people. remember that there is a life after high school. being popular won't help you then, it won't matter then. if you want these people to like you so bad, i know its cliche, but be yourself. have confidence. people are drawn to people with confidence in themselves. i have many friends who are much more well-off than i am, but i don't care and nither do they. these people aren't real friends if they're going to be so judgemental. people respect people who respect themsleves.
~rainbow
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Ok,here goes: My friends and I are starting a dog sitting biz but now I'm not sure we can get any customers cause none of us live in a neighborhood and no one wants to drive so far to my house. And the moneys for a really good cose! Any one have any ideas to get customers or raise money? (theres only 3 of us so no car washes,too hard!)
Please don't delete!I will rate! Thanx for your help!
~*Tiffany*~ (link)
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can you bake? if you can try a bake sale. if you like kids babysit, wherever you live im sure there are kids and people who like sugar. those are the only two i can think of right now...if i think of anymore i'll get back to you.
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There's this guy name James...well,in 7th grade, I heard he used to like me and he was going to ask me out...well I HATED HIM...I still do! I'm not in 9th grade and I thought he was over me because he has all these girlfriends...But lately, everytime I just happen to glance over, I see him looking at me! It makes me really nervous..(I'm in 10th grade now) Do you think he likes me--ughh so grossssss...I RATE (link)
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he might like you. he might not. the only way to find out is to ask him. if he says no then thats the end of your worries, if he says yes then try to explain to him that you don't really like him like that. my guess is that he probably does like you, if he does its clearly been going on for a long time and his feelings for you might be more than just a simple crush, so try to let him down gently and for the love of god do not, under any circumstances use the phrase "ughh so grossssss" to his face you could really hurt his feelings and as i already said if he does like you, he clearly likes you a lot.
~rainbow
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hey im 15, and i was wondering can teenagers get breast cancer? like on my left breast i feel like some bump on the inside or something but i dont know if its really a bump and it hurts a little in that area. i was wondering could that be breast cancer? im really worried and i want to know, if any of you know what can that be, maybe its just that my breasts are still growing or something i really dont know. please help me.
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yes, any woman at any age can get breast cancer, you should go see your doctor and have him/her check it out. you'll feel better knowing what it is then sitting at home worrying. wih breast cancer and almost any cancer, if they catch it early enough they might be able to remove the tumor. i really hope everything checks out alright.
~rainbow
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My boyfriend's mom is so controlling! She tells him what to do all the time, and the worst part is, he does it! For example, she told him to wear something even though it didn't match at all, yet he ended up wearing it cause she told him to! It drives me completely crazy! He does stuff like that all the time for her! I really want him to stand up for himself, but he says he has to do what she says because she pays for everything for him. And another bad part to this problem is that he's 23, we've been dating for 2 years, and he's about to graduate college! I want to confront him, but I don't want him to get angry with me for it. How should I go about it? (link)
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hmm...lots of boys have mother issues. i would tell him that i feel like his mother is a bit to controling, that i understand that she is his mother, but the hold she has on him is a bit too much. i cant guarentee that he wont get mad or that he will confront his mother, but i think its best for you both if he knows how you feel. boys really have a weird bond with thier mothers, it doesnt matter whether they're 23 or 63, try to explain how you feel without insulting him or his mother...espicially aviod the term "mamas boy".
~rainbow
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hey everybody this question is for everyone i am getting braces soon and i am totally freaking out on what colors to get because if i don't like the colors i get then i have to wait till i get them changed again and i am very picky so if anybody could help it would be greatly apperciated thanks i will rate 5's for good and reasonable answers. oh yeah one more thing i am a girl and my favorite color is blue and only blue thanks. (link)
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if you really like blue that much then go with two different shades of blue. i have blue and light purple and i like it. also, when you get braces the colours aren't that noticable to other people. after a while braces dont really seem like they're there, but i think at first you'll be in too much pain to care what colour they are. oh, i hope i didnt scare you, but dont worry the pain only lasts for a day or two. anyway i kind of got off topic. trust me colours may seem like a big deal, but its really not that long between appointments. just one thing don't get all black...my friend, micheal has it and it looks awful. if you want black then mix it with another colour. but like you said you like blue, pink goes well with blue, you could get light blue and dark blue, purple also goes nicley...hope i gave you some ideas
~rainbow
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well theres guy that i like like and were friends and yeah he flirts but then again he has a lot of friends that are gurls and well he flirts with them to but how do i find out if he likes me but what i was thinking since he's gradurating this year should i tell him at the end of the year that i like him but i think if i do than he'll just think that i was just another one added on to the list but what i fear most is that he's going to leave with my heart and i didnt do anything about it but then again i act like i do and he can pretty much see it in my eyes i think (link)
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i think you should tell him. there are worse things than a broken heart, love unexplored, for example. trust me, you'll feel better if you tell him and he rejects you or adds you onto the list then if you spend your life wondering what if...
~rainbow
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the girl wants to drag me down to the mall and get me a "whole new look" for prom, including contact lenses and i'm guessing that i will not come away with completely brown hair or my usual hawaiian shirt. The girl is totally bangin, but has not given me a definitive answer on prom yet.
I would love to take her to prom(and date her too), but is it worth my dignity? also considering i have to go on an army outing the day after it is supposed to happen. i think looking like a fairy would not earn me points with the sergeant.
-hitler the manly goat
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if this girl really liked you she would like you the way you are. relationships don't work if either one of the people wants to change the other person. tell this girl that this is the way you are, you like being this way and if she wants someone who is like what she wants to make you to go find someone else go with to the prom. you're not her dolly that she can dress up. if she actually likes you she'll be cool with it.
~rainbow
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I don't really have a specific question I just need some advice on what to do because I have no idea.
Background Info:
Jon and I have known each other and been best friends since we were 4. Our fathers own a law firm together so we're together a lot, obviously. I've only had one real relationship. I've had many boyfriends but only one serious one. Same with him. We're both 17.
Early Jan.:
My parents threw a big block party which Jon and I both attended. I wasn't feeling well that night so we left the street (were the party was) and went to my backyard and just hung out. Everything was going fine until he told me that he wanted us to try to be more than "just friends". I was completely blown away because it came out of no where. At the time, I didn't see him in that way so I let him down. It was weird between us for a while but eventually, things got back to normal. Around early Feb. he met a girl who he claims is "absolutely amazing" and they started dating. I was fine with it.
Now, my real problem:
About a month ago I started to realize that I want to be more than friends and that I do like him. But, he now has a girlfriend in the picture, so there's a problem. I'm not the type to break up a happy couple so I tried to forget about it. But, I couldn't. A friend told me to talk to him about it (she though he still might feel the same way). So, I did and it went horrible. I don't think I've ever known a guy that ever reacted the way he did. All he said was, "I asked you before and you said no. Now you're too F*king late. I like Lauren a lot...you should have F*king said something sooner I can't F*king believe you" and then just stormed off.
That happened 4 days ago and I haven't had the nerve to talk to him since. I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks
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well, i think he is confused and thats why he reacted so harshly. i would tell him that i didn't mean to freak him out and that i just thought that it was only fair to tell him how i felt. i would tell him that i hope we can still be friends. im not going to lie, things are probably going to be akward between you two for a while. if your friendship is as strong as it seems you should be able to get over this. crushes on friends are really common and most people get over them eventually. i hope i helped you. good luck.
~rainbow
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okay so.. I was talking to this guy over easter break.. and this guy never usually talked to me. He always seemed to have hated me or something. But he was with his fmaily in another state for the break.. and on easter night we just started to talk. And we kind of got "dirty" online if oyu should say... for the next couple of nights until it was time for him to ocme home. And like 2 nights after that we would talk dirty still and he would joke around about having me come over. And now this GUY knows that I have a major crush on him! And h knows that I would have sex with him at any point in time if he asked me 2! But now that school has started up again.. he hasnt talked to me like that again. But his mood towards me has totally changed and now hes always laughing and stuff with me. I like it and yet.. I wish that he would talk to me like when we were on spring break. I miss it. It was fun. It was kind of like a trust thing between us. oh ya P.S. this dude is kind of older than me..by a few years.Im 16 and he's over 18... but it was our secret. How can I get him to talk to me like that again or to actually get him to invite me to his house? PLEASE HELP ME!
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i know you arent looking for the answer that you're to young and hes to old, but thats the truth. you are a minor and hes an adult. its a crime, ok? also i think you should stop obsessing about the sexual parts of your life, i know that you're 16 and its normal, but please...PLEASE do it with someone your own age...or at least with someone that it isnt illeagal with.
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ok, there's this girl, i'm not really 'friends' with her but i act like it because she is shy and not a lot of people can stand how shy she is...anyways, at lunch yesterday her chicken sandwich wasnt cooked properly and she started telling me to bring it up for her. so i said 'no, it's yours, i'm eating my lunch, you gotta do some things on your own' was i right? because she always wants someone to do things for her....like take out her trash go to the bathroom with her...i'm sick of her being so dependent on others. (link)
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i have friends like that and i think that it was good that you are making her do some things on her own. the bottum line is there isnt always going to be someone around to do things for her. try not to sound to negitaive or judgemental when you tell her that she has to start doing things for herself, but yeah i definatly think that this girl has to start being more indipendent.
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