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Boyfriend's mom
My boyfriend's mom is so controlling! She tells him what to do all the time, and the worst part is, he does it! For example, she told him to wear something even though it didn't match at all, yet he ended up wearing it cause she told him to! It drives me completely crazy! He does stuff like that all the time for her! I really want him to stand up for himself, but he says he has to do what she says because she pays for everything for him. And another bad part to this problem is that he's 23, we've been dating for 2 years, and he's about to graduate college! I want to confront him, but I don't want him to get angry with me for it. How should I go about it?
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Dump him. If he's dependent on her, he'll be dependent on you. It's sad, but you really can't deal with a guy like that and you don't deserve that. My cousin is going to end up the same as your boyfriend...it's really a pity...but you're better off without him. Find someone who can take care of himself.
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He may never change. I sure hope not for your sake. I can't see what her paying for everything has to do with her setting his clothes style for him. I think a serious discussion is in order. If he doesn't change and do his own thing now, she will be controlling him forever. That wouldn't be good if you plan on taking your relationship further.
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if you have been with him for 2 years and he still listening to his mom he aint never gonna stop...hes a mommas boy and i dont think you will ever be able to change that..
~*Sarah*~
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When you have one of your usual talks, talk to him about it but not in an angry way just the usual one. Tell him that sooner or later he needs to make his own decisions and not rely always on his mother. That sometimes it's not right to let his mom rule always over him. That our own selves also know what's best for us. Then if he won't listen, then ask yourself. do you still want to push through with your relationship or not anymore?
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hmm...lots of boys have mother issues. i would tell him that i feel like his mother is a bit to controling, that i understand that she is his mother, but the hold she has on him is a bit too much. i cant guarentee that he wont get mad or that he will confront his mother, but i think its best for you both if he knows how you feel. boys really have a weird bond with thier mothers, it doesnt matter whether they're 23 or 63, try to explain how you feel without insulting him or his mother...espicially aviod the term "mamas boy".
~rainbow
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