Hi, this is Kate. I'm 17. My life motto is 'Live Laugh Love', I really think those are great words to live by and I'm planning to have it made into a tattoo. I'm not religious but I love learning about different religions. I write stories based on things that have happened to me because sometimes I have days where I just think 'wow that sounds like something out of a book'. I've finished 3 stories and I'm about to start my first horror story..very exciting. I believe in fairy tale love...the kissing in the rain, staring at the stars on the rooftop kind of love..Why? Because I'm in that kind of love and its been the greatest time of my life. And it didn't come easy.
I'd love to help you with whatever issues come your way. I've been in relationships where the guy was too old for me, the guy was my best friend, the guy just wanted to get some. I've been the other woman but I'm not proud of it. I've been the girl who waits years to be with the guy she wanted.
I come from the type of home where everyone seems okay and then when everyone leaves its chaos. My parents should have been divorced years ago and I can't stand to be around either of them so for now I'm going day by day, only coming home to sleep and counting down the days until I go to college in August.
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Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.
I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.
He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..
I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.
Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(
So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.
How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..
ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.
Thanks!
-AJ
PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade. (link)
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okay. im going to help you out the best i can but i honestly have never had any experience with guys liking guys but not in a gay way. so from what i've gotten out of this question you want to be friends with him because he seems like a cool guy. right? if you want to be able to ask the personal questions that will allow him to talk about his personal life then you'll need to gain his trust. when you open up, then he'll open up. now im not saying that you just go up to him and start talking about how you're aunt just got put in the looney bin for running around with knives. (just an example, not saying you have a crazy aunt) but do you know what i mean? you're possibly bi-curious. don't ask dead end questions. ask questions that need an answer other than yes or no. im really not sure how exactly to help you. i don't have much experience in this department.
sorry
modelkate11
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I need to buy a snowboard off of EBAY, but I have NO idea what size board to get!! I'm 5'1" and my foot size is like a 7 or 7 1/2. PLEASE help me, because I need to order this board soon. (I've been snowboarding for like 3 years but I've never taken it seriously and I've been renting) Help!! PS- I don't want to go out to a Snowboarding Shop to get the answer. THANK YOU! (link)
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honestly its much better to buy the board in the store because you can stand on it and have someone help you but i do snowboard so i'll tell you some basics. measure the height from your chin down, that'll be the length. as for the width, you have a pretty average foot size so any width board will do but measure your foot, like with a ruler, and the board should be about an inch smaller than that. your toes and heels are supposed to hang off a tiny bit. i have a size 10 foot and it was hard finding a board. make sure you get a good brand like burton, ride or something well known. mine is a Spice (girls boards) and i absolutely love it. hope i helped a little.
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ok well my best friend dated this guy and well she broke up with him and i fell for him and then he asked me out and i said yes and my frnd didnt care (or so she told me) and well things were going ok for a couple of days and then my bst frnd told me that before he asked me out she was planning on asking him back out because she still has feelings for him and that if i broke up with him she would ask him out again and then my friends started to point out all the bad things and then i statred to see them and i broke up with him a week ago and my bst frnd never asked him out and he has been hanging around alot and everytime i see him my tummy does that little flip thing but i dont know if i still love him or if it is just because the thought that we used to date makes me feel weird and he sorta gets on my nervs
wat do you think? do think i still have feelings for him?
if you do should i go after him? cuz i think he still likes me
xxxpoetxxx (link)
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let me tell you the absolute best advice out there. back away from the whole situation. fight whatever urge you have to go after this guy. i was in a similar situation about a year ago. FORGET THE GUY. i lost a lot of friends in the drama caused by a friends ex boyfriend. trust me, even if you do still like him its not worth it. forget it and move on.
TRUST ME!!
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I have a hair calick, and my hairline goes in a little at the middle. I also have bangs, and when i straighten them they dont lay right because of the calick. Is there anyway to fix this or even get the calick removed so my hairline is normal? (link)
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i had one when i was little because i had short bangs but i grew out my bangs and i think the weight of longer hair make it go away because now i don't have it. so try growing your bangs out.
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What do you think about sex before being married. I don't know if it's wrong or right so I'm asking you. Please voice opinions and experience. (link)
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i really don't think it matters as long as you love the person and you've been dating for a long time. like a year or so.
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What's the average percentage for body fat for fashion models? (link)
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im 5'7" 112lbs and i have 11percent body fat so somewhere around there or less than that. but despite my advicenator name i'm not a model i'm just thin so im just giving you a guess.
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Hi,
The condition:
I have a female friend, who commonly wears very revealing clothing. Short shorts, or tops which show cleavage and stomach, etc. It seems a little bit wrong really.
Although I wouldn't want to go out with her, because of her slightly egotistical personality, and way of dressing, I find myself incredibly physically attracted to her, almost to the point of wishing I could seduce her, even though I know it would be a mistake.
So I know that being around a well bodied girl, in a state of scant dress (even though I don't look favourably on the behaviour) causes this reaction for me.
The Question:
Men in short shorts, etc, just seems like an even worse social wrong than women (although there's no real reason that it should be so, apart from that society is sexist).
I would like to know if there is a similar thing happens to women, around men of scant dress, or even simply showing as much arm and leg as they can, without seeming vulgar.
Thanks (link)
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this is completely my opinion but i think that the key to a sexy or physically attractive guy is a good pair of jeans. slightly tight around the butt but loose around the legs. sooo sexy. guys may think that girls dont look at their butts but guess what, we do. ok next thing is a slightly tight shirt. not gay tight like where you can practically see the veins through the shirt but just tight enough so you can see a guy's peck muscles. with girls/women, we like to see what you guys have without actually seeing it. like teasing us (tight jeans, shirt). understand? guys (from my opinion and point of view) are like "if you've got it then show it" so girls go out exposing absolutely everything. but no men in short shorts is not a turn on...at all. OH MAJOR THING, the cologne!! if you have a female friend then have her pick out cologne with you. i swear even ugly men can seem extremely attractive if a girl gets a wiff of some good cologne.
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i've been in a relationship for 10 months with this great guy .. lately we've kinda been getting in these annoying little fights but they arent THAT big of a deal ;; the thing that kinda does bother me is we do the same thing every time i'm with him* and like i'm kinda getting bored ;; he's a GREAT guy and all and i really care about him but like lately i've been longing to be single have some exitement i'm getting alot of oppurtunies at parties and stuff and if things are going the way they are we will just be togther for a long time same old same old and it will be more hard to break it off .. like i'm flirting with guys and they are flirting with me ..then i feel guilty later on =/ BUT HERES THE THING this will be totally out of the blue i havent talked to him in like 5 days or so .. idn how to say what i'm trying to say idn how to do it without hurting him and making him hate me .. he is a really important part of my life like when something goes wrong with my family (i have a pretty messed up family) i go to his house cuz he lives so close ;; i'm soo stressed out
how do i break it off without making him hate me what should i say to explain it to him? (link)
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alright i was stuck in this situation about 2 years ago. it was pretty easy actually he was really understanding. i told him that i just didn't feel the "connection" anymore and that i wanted to be single. i told him it wasn't his fault i just didn't want to be in the situation anymore and i wanted to break it off before he got really hurt. then he told me that he had realized that i wasn't feeling the same towards him anymore. there was some slight tearing up but when you're with someone for that long i think that's expected so just try that. i think he'll understand.
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i was thinking of being a lion from holloween beacuse my two bestfrineds are being dorothy and the tinwoman.
i was thinking of getting some ears and then like painting whiskers on my face and the little black dots or whatever..but..
i'm lost at what to do outfit wise. help!!:) (link)
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thats adorable. i was thinking of doing this too. if you don't want to go all out with some high budget costume then you can just buy a tan or beige or even brown, sweat suit. like the kind fron hanes that are just really simple. not the most attractive things but hey its a costume. you can probably get that at walmart or k-mart or one of those "mart" stores and you can get the matching sweatshirt and pants set. and it'll be warm incase halloween night gets cold as it normally does.
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hi. i think im going to do something for my mum. just because she's great. now her room isnt somewhere you would think of relaxing. so im thinking i might spruce it up a little. im going to move all her clothes into the spare room, so its like a wardrobe room, and then put a bedside table on one side of the bed. its jsut me and my mum, so she has the double bed to herself, and i cant afford another bedside table. im going to put a new lamp on the table, and get some artwork for her, and expensive bedsheets.
my question is...what can i put on the other side of the bed? to make it look more symetrical? i cant get another bedside table, so what could i get? (link)
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that is SOOO sweet. there's a lot of things you could use. you can put a big plant there or take a chair and put sculptures on it so it acts as a bedside table. maybe you could get a floor lamp and put little nick nacks on the bedside table. if you get something that is the same color of the bedside table then it would look more symetrical,
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Is there anything wrong with a 9th grade girl dating a 7th grade guy? (link)
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one of my friends last yr. (10th grade) was dating an 7th grader. we all thought it was weird and it didn't last long because he wasn't as relationship mature as she was, but hey go ahead and try it, everyone's different. but you'll probably get a lot of opinions about it.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ? (link)
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to be able to change both people must want to change and be commited to it. i don't think that when people "change back" that they change back to the way they were 100 percent because of life experiences but i think you can get pretty close. you two should go out to dinner or something. dedicate a night for just you two to spend time with each other and remember the good times. if you guys have been together for 3 years then i think you can work it out.
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I'm 18/m and in a serious relationship, I mean to say is that I intend on marrying this girl. She's 16, and we've been going out 2 years in February. For me this is huge and I'm tapped for idea's on what to do. I've already cooked her a really nice candle lit dinner, taken her to dinner on a lake and watched the sun set while eating dinner, and taken her to movies and all that other common stuff. But what I want, everything has to be mind boggling. I need something that will make her cry from being so happy/astonished. So, any romantic ideas would be awesome.
P.S. I will rate all answers. (link)
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thats cute but she's 16! she has a lot of life ahead of her. NOBODY at the age of 16 is ready for marriage no matter what they say. if you really really want to marry her then wait until she's at least 18. i don't even think it's legal to marry someone under 18, at least not in the U.S. you need to really think about this. asking someone to marry you isn't like asking someone to go out with you and if it doesn't work out then you just break up a move on. two years is nothing compared to a lifetime with the same person. sorry but i have my doubts. she's too young.
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Ok....do any of ya'll guys out there do anything sweet for your girlfriends....stuff "just because"...not for any particular reason. If so what do you do? And for the girls.......what have your boyfriends done for you? (link)
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we need more guys like you.
anyway one of my guy friends brought a rose to his girlfriend at work. that was cute. ask her to come to your house and then set up a romantic little dining area with candles and cook her dinner. it'll be so sweet you could get away with making macaroni and cheese from the box. unless she's a really picky girl and is on a diet or something. my ex showed up to one of my games unexpectedly and he lives aver a half an hour away. i thought that was cute.
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Like He would
For the good
who's He? why is it in capital? (link)
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whenever something says Him, He,or His it is refering to God.
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i have a question on the rules of cheating.
okay well i had this boyfriend and we had gotten into a fight because he was playing witha girls hair and hands infront of me. i asked him why he did that and he gave me the "rules". he said what he did was being "friendly", kissing is "innocent" flirting and sex is the only thing considered to be cheating. i told him that those rules only apply to him. i told him what he did was flirting (innocent i don't know intentional? yes).kissing is where the cheating starts and the only he got right was that sex was cheating too. would you agree with me or not and why.
please and thank you! =]] (link)
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woah what moron says kissing isn't cheating!? does he come from some polygamist family where they can have more than one wife? i'd get mad if he was flirting let alone kissing. we flirt to get the attention of the opposite or same sex in some cases so that we can start a loving relationship with them. flirting isn't as simple as having a conversation, people get emotionally attached when flirting starts. being friendly is holding the door for someone and talking to them not playing with their hair and not playing with their hands. thats rediculous, this guy is a jerk.
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Hi I'm 27 weeks pregnant with a girl. Her first name is going to be Riley but I need help coming up with a middle name. There are so many names that go good with it but me and my boyfriend can't seem to agree on any. Any suggestions? Please no stupid answers. (link)
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i LOVE that name and want to name my first girl riley...but thats at least 10years away. anways..
riley may
riley anne
riley sky
riley wynn
riley lynn
riley suzanne
riley kate
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i'm a guy. 15 years old.
i have never had a girlfriend before. i have asked someone out before but got turned down. im 99% sure its not my looks (i dont look that bad at all), and its not the people i hang out with (i guess you could say i chill with the "cool people" or something) but girls just dont seem to fall for me.
theres this girl i really like in my art class, and we talk to eachother for a few mins almost every day. im pretty shy when it comes to girls so she always starts the convos. there are always theese awkward silences when we're talking that last for like 15 secs. im pretty sure im gonna ask for her number tomorrow at school, but how should i ask her? and if i get her #, how should i ask her out to the movies (like texting or calling)? and when should i ask her (after tomorrow we have a 4 day weekend)?
if she turns me down its going to be really weird and awkward between us since we have the same class together for the rest of the year.
thanks (link)
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ok if you have aim ask for her screen name first. aim is still unpersonal enough that she wont feel like your relationship is moving too fast. if you dont have aim then you should get it because pretty much everyone in high school has it. so talk to her on there for a while. not everyday but once in a while. don't get too stalkerish here now. so once you've gotten to know her a bit ask for her number. say "hey do you mind if i have you number" then like a week later text her and say "hey what's up" or something like that and then start a conversation from there. if you want to ask her to the movies first you should ask if she wants to invite one of her friends to come to the movies with your friends that way its not a date and nobody's pressured. if she turns you down you can keep talking to her just don't force the issue of going out until a few months later, then you can ask her again. after 2 rejections then give up because it gets annoying when guys keep asking and we say no. we appreciate the determination but we don't like having to reject people over and over again. im not saying you're going to get rejected. go for the screen name idea and go from there.
good luck
modelkate11
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okay so i like this senior boy and hes really cool and i told him that i liked him back. we have decided that we should be friends "FOR NOW" though. and like when i was hanging out with him things got to the point where i think that we both wanna be more then friends. and like im only a sophomore and i dont know if this is bad for him. because when we were hanging out he told me how much he liked me for me and that im beautiful. we talk almost every day and i realy like him. accept for the age difference. im 16 and hes 18. this is a problem because my parents are very skeptical about me dating, and this is pushing it (if you know wat i mean) and i dont know if it would be awkward for him to date down. like i just need advice. (link)
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when i was 14 i dated a guy who was 17. my dad flipped out and it took months for my mom to get used to it. it was a big difference and whenever we went out somewhere i got looks from everyone. that was a 3 year difference for me and he was two grades older. you only have 2 years and 2 grade differences which isn't as bad but if you do go out he'll probably be called a "cradle robber" which is a guy/girl who goes out with someone more than a year younger than them. he seems nice but i don't know him. get to know his history, how many girls has he been with? has he ever had a one night stand sort of thing? so yes it could be akward for him to date a younger girl but if he really really likes you he won't care. also if this relationship lasts sex would be illegal because he's 18 and you're a minor...just so you know. sometimes older guys want more than what younger girls are ready for. if he's a nice guy then go for it but if you start to feel pressured just tell him to back off for a bit.
good luck
modelkate11
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I basically over react to everything my boyfriend does i do not know why, i love my boyfriend with all my heart he is my first priority always but i seem to get jealous and stubborn and cry when he doesnt do something i like, like when he would rather hang out with his friends i break down and cry or when he cant hang out with me because he has a game , i dont know what my problem is, any way i could be more relaxed and not so controlling? and stop crying all the time? (link)
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you need to learn to trust...a lot! if your boyfriend truly loves you he's not going to go off and cheat on you or whatever you're afraid of. if he's with his guy friends...well they're just friends unless he's gay. its not that he doesn't want to spend time with you it's that he's trying to balance out his relationships equally so nobody feels abandoned. he means well you just need to trust that he does. you can be independant and still have him be your first priority. try doing something with just you and your girl friends.
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