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i'm a guy. 15 years old.
i have never had a girlfriend before. i have asked someone out before but got turned down. im 99% sure its not my looks (i dont look that bad at all), and its not the people i hang out with (i guess you could say i chill with the "cool people" or something) but girls just dont seem to fall for me.
theres this girl i really like in my art class, and we talk to eachother for a few mins almost every day. im pretty shy when it comes to girls so she always starts the convos. there are always theese awkward silences when we're talking that last for like 15 secs. im pretty sure im gonna ask for her number tomorrow at school, but how should i ask her? and if i get her #, how should i ask her out to the movies (like texting or calling)? and when should i ask her (after tomorrow we have a 4 day weekend)?
if she turns me down its going to be really weird and awkward between us since we have the same class together for the rest of the year.
thanks
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okay well you dont want to ask her for her number TOO SOON! because then she is gonna be like umm hes weird, so just wait a little like let me say three up to to weeks get a little closer then ask for her number talk to her on the phone and hang out with her out side of school then you will know when the time is right to ask her out to a movie or something like that but sometimes when a guys askes a girl out to a movie he wants a kiss so keep it together and WAIT for a good time ;)
btw if she turns you down dont worry about it there are soo meny other people out there
and im sure the "ONE" is out there looking for you and its will be weird for a little bit but talk to her and tell her you guys are cool and your not upset with her :)
keep it cool tho i hope i helped you let me know how it goes please :)
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Casually ask her what she's going this weekend. Then say "Oh maybe we could get together. Can I get your number?"
If she's talking with you so much already, I'm sure she won't turn you down. Just be casual and confident about it. Then just give her a call on Saturday or Friday night and invite her to the movies.
If you're casual about it and don't make it obvious that you're coming on to her, I'm certain she won't turn you down. Even if she does, it shouldn't make things too awkward because you never officially asked her on a date.
Good luck!
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ok if you have aim ask for her screen name first. aim is still unpersonal enough that she wont feel like your relationship is moving too fast. if you dont have aim then you should get it because pretty much everyone in high school has it. so talk to her on there for a while. not everyday but once in a while. don't get too stalkerish here now. so once you've gotten to know her a bit ask for her number. say "hey do you mind if i have you number" then like a week later text her and say "hey what's up" or something like that and then start a conversation from there. if you want to ask her to the movies first you should ask if she wants to invite one of her friends to come to the movies with your friends that way its not a date and nobody's pressured. if she turns you down you can keep talking to her just don't force the issue of going out until a few months later, then you can ask her again. after 2 rejections then give up because it gets annoying when guys keep asking and we say no. we appreciate the determination but we don't like having to reject people over and over again. im not saying you're going to get rejected. go for the screen name idea and go from there.
good luck
modelkate11
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Ok well a girl who didn't like you would never start up a conversation with you. Just get into a conversation with her and be sure you have some topics so that there are no awkward silences. Then after class just say "Hey I was wondering if you want to go to the movies sometime?" If she says "Yeah that would be great." Smile and say "Great can i have you number so we can talk more?" She will obviously say yes because she already said yes to the movies. Good Luck!!
Reily_xx
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Hey so in my opinion the numbers thing is really more for when your like at a club and you meet someone who you like. It's different for school.Here's my advice. When your talking to her and there's one of those akward silences start telling her something like you saw something funny online that she has to see.If she seem's even slightly interested tell her that you can't remember the site and will send it to her through aim. this gives you a natural reason to get her a.with the aim address at some point be like "Oh hey I'm kinda free today and i was think of seeing this movie(insert name of movie) wanna come?" Hopefully she'll say yes. I wouldn't try anything at the movies the first time. when the movie is over and your about to leave say something like"That was really fun we should do it again somtime" If shes says something like "yea we should" then you can be like"oh by the way whats your cell number?" and then work your way from that point. It's a bit elaborate but I hope this gave you some ideas or helped even a little:)
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Just ask her regularly, say, can i have your number. She will most likely give you it. I say wait a little bit before you actually ask her out, give her some time to get to know you better. Ask her questions when talking to her, so that theirs no awkward silences. Hope I helped! Good Luck!
-Brina
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Come out really casual, you like her but you're only wondering at this point. "Hey would you like to do --- with me on ---" or "Would you like to see the movie--- with me on ---" (if you can't tell, the second --- specifies day ><). But yeah, and if it's casual then it won't seem so awkward for her if she turns you down. And you can make it seem like you just wanted to go as friends.
Don't say "lets just go as friends" though, because then she'll think that's what you mean. This is what a guy did with me when he asked me out, and I turned him down, and we're still really good friends. Not that I'm saying she will turn you down, rather I mean it will be easier IF she does, since you seem to be worried about that as well as asking her out.
I really hope I'm helping :]
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