My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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i guessed my mom's password for her email and it was right.. i know i shouldnt have, but i looked at all her emails with my aunt. i've been having a hard time lately w/ cutting and things and i didnt want my mom to tell anyone (she found out, bc my school found out and yadda yadda..im seeing a theripist..not important)but in these emails she told my aunt all about it. i am kinda mad but i cant say anything bc I wend snooping. im feeling really guilty and dont know what to do..any sugestions =/ (link)
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I think both of you were wrong. But nobody's perfect. Maybe your mom didn't know what to do.. maybe she was confused and needed help. My mom has done the same thing a few times, I know how it feels. It feels like you've been betrayed, by your own mother =\. Just try to bring it up sometime as a reminder that you do not want her to tell ANYONE at all.
Hope I helped.
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ok, my mom an dad have been fighting for like ever.they always swear at each other an stuff.my dad drove away a couple days ago to get away from my mom.thank god he came home.im afraid they r gonna get devorced.i need advice!!! wat shud i do???
sighned,
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Honestly, there's really nothing you can do. So many parents get divorced. I understand it's hard to cope with. But try to think positive. Think of how your parents could be happier. Some relationships just don't work out, and it's better if they seperate. IF they get divorced, you can go to a therapist to help cope if you need to.
Hope I helped.
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my parents are divorced and it seems that all my friends have a very happy family. i cant help but feel theres something wrong with me...why cant i have a perfect family and perfect life like everyone else? what have i done wrong!??! (link)
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YOU haven't done anything wrong. Your parents just weren't meant to be. So many parents are divorced, you're not alone. And even families where the parents are married they aren't happy chappy. Noobody has a perfect life or family. Maybe you could tell your mom how you feel, or tell her you want to go to a counselor. I know some people who have gone to therapists because of their parents divorcing.
Hope I helped.
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On St. Patrick's Day it is my birthday. My family was planning to go to New York (I live in the Tri-state area so it's pretty close) to see the St. Patrick's Day parade (my brother is marching in it). The only problem is in my science class we will be disecting a heart. Even though it's kinda gross I really wanted to be there for it. So now I have to chose to either go to a parade tomorrow or on my birthday. What should I do? I honestly have no idea. (link)
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If it were me, I would go to the parade. But I would suggest talking with your family. You might hurt your brother if you don't go. But if he truly says he doesn't care and do whatever you want to do, then I would do what you want! Especially because it's your birthday =), happy early birthday!
Hope I helped.
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hi! im 13/f and im not loveing life to much.my mom is always yelling at me for nothing and slapping me alot and just hates me. then theres the thing that everytime i start to care for someone the dump me... and after the convince me that they like me or im pretty or something.. i really hate this. i got plenty more going on but yeah i dont need to dump all my shit on yall. but someone please tell me how to cope w/ this... ive been handleing this in a bad way for a little while now.. and i want to stop it..
thanks alot to anyone who helps me! (link)
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If your mom is slapping you, you need to say something to someone. That's not right at all. Maybe you could tell your guidance counselor at school, or even a teacher. Or you could ask your friend to tell an adult for you.
I think you should give up on dating for a little. Until your life gets better. Just hang out with the girls =).
You could cope with things by writing them. Try keeping a diary. Or talk with a friend, that you can trust... or an adult you can trust.
Teenage years are some of the most difficult. Just stay strong, and remember people love and care about you.
Hope I helped.
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i dunno where to start or how to explain it but me and my mom have a very close relationship, like we tell eachother everything and could talk about anything. well when i was little my dad died and she was with this real jerk that hit her and all this other stuff, she went back to him maybe like 10 times and that was hard for me. then finally she realized that that was enough. but the problem is i think shes actually going through it again. she was with this other guy and they seemed happy together and everything. but he had a problem with everything about my my mom, he even yelled her for her job?! she finally broke it up with him cuz she said she couldnt it anymore. but then last night she had told me she was going over his house and i just kept my mouth shut cuz i like to see my mom happy. but he just has a very bad attitude and he scares me. i just dont want her and me to go through this again. i need some great advice..plz and thank you
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I would tell your mom. Especially since you said you have a close relationship. Tell her it means the world to see her happy, and you're seeing a pattern with this guy. Tell her you don't want her to get hurt again.
Hope I helped.
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I feel like my life can't get any lower. Everything I was good at I am no longer good at. No matter how hard I try people are always a lot better. My grades are slipping and nothing I do makes me happy. I hate my life and I just want to stay in my room and be alone forever. What do I do? (link)
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You should talk to someone. Tell your parents how you've been feeling, maybe ask them if you can see a counselor. Or you could talk to a friend, maybe there's no need for a counselor. Sometimes friends can be just as helpful. Also, you could write your feelings in a journal or something. Remember, nobody's perfect. You're probably trying too hard, and stressing yourself out. I do that a lot.
Hope I helped.
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Me and my best friend used to be so clost and now we are slowing drifting apart...we both know it and the other day she sent me an email saying that we weren't as close. I don't want to drift away from her, we tell eachother mainly everything. We are both starting to hang out with two way different crowds too. How can we be as close as we used to?? ~Shelby~
p.s. yes katie this is me..lol (link)
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Try to spend more time together. Maybe you two could join a sports team together, depending on what you like. Even if you can't spend more time together, try to call each other often. You can still remain best friends without talking everyday =). That's how me and a few of my friends are. But when we hang out we have the best times.
Hope I helped.
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Hi,
I'm 5"7, aged fourteen and weigh ten stone (which is 140 pounds I think). I know this isn't majorly overweight or anything, but I feel fat and would like, if possible, to gradually get down to nine stone (126 pounds). I wouldn't mind if this took, say a few months.
I exercise regulary but find it hard to stop snacking between meals. Has anyone got any tips into how to stop this?
Or any other gradual-dieting tips.
Any advice would be very much appreciated :-)
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You could try cutting down on your serving sizes at meals. Not a lot, but a little. And ask your parents to get healthy food for snacks. Like fruits or vegetables. If you feels your stomach is fat, try to do some sit-ups or crunches everyday.
I really wouldn't worry about it though. 140 is normal for that height/age. Just make sure you don't lose too much!
Hope I helped.
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i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!! (link)
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I would talk to her more about it. That could be her way of dealing with things. Maybe she needs someone to talk to. I'd get to know what's going on with her. If it seems like she is anorexic I would say something to an adult, whether it be your parents, her parents, a guidance counselor, teacher.. I would. Aneroxia is very serious. Some cases more than others. Regardless, you wouldn't want her to get worse. Maybe you could ask her to tell her mom, so she can get to a doctor. And if she's making herself throw up, she's bulemic =\.. which is also very serious.
Hope I helped.
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