Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
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well me and my boyfriend broke up 4 or 5 days ago, and I talked to him today and I mentioned that I am talking to a x bf of mine,and he didnt sound very happy, I asked him if he was ok he said yea....but he didnt sound like he wanted me to date another guy, when he broke up with me he told me from his heart that I was the hardest girl to break up with cause he really cared for me, and he barely has emotional feelings for girls but he was CRYING on the phone when he told me that he just wanted to be close friends.... can ya please give me some advice on if he still cares for me... (link)
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Yep, he definitely still cares about you... but not enough to still be your bf. I'm sure it was hard for him to step up and break it off with you. The thing is that you should keep moving on with your life. You don't have to share all the details with him. I think part of his problem is that maybe he doesn't want to be with you anymore, but he also doesn't anyone else to be with you - and that's not playing fair.
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i know this is asked a LOT but..
i like this guy. by these few things, does he like me do you think?
-he whispers "(my name) is such a slut!" so i can hear it then im like yur cool nd he smiles
-he was lying down nd i layed on him nd he was like just talking to me nd smelling my hair nd putting his finger near my face..lol it was cute thou
-he wanted to c if i could bite him so hes like walking his hands down my face nd feeling my lips
-he was on the computer nd my other friend was on a computer rite next to him, i was in the middle reading both ;). well he IMs "(my name) is a whore" nd stuff like like nd im laughing or wutever
-he was playing football with everyone nd he goes "come on (my name) tackle me!" (so i did hahaha, i was the only one that could, was he being easy on me..?)
-i sat next to him on the couch nd he goes "eww i dont want to sit next to (my name)" nd i just ignore it while he puts a pillow between us. then he goes "im just kidding u kno that right?"
-my friend who he was IMing next to me, she said "i think he likes you!"
do u think..?
ps-ill rate 5's for EVERYTHING thats not smart a**! cause this was long! (link)
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It used to be that guys would pull your hair or snap your bra and it meant they liked you.... I guess now days whispering "(your name) is a slut" is supposed to mean the same thing???? It may be so, but don't let anyone say that kind of sh*t to you and take it as a compliment!!! You are way better than that!!!
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Okay so i hang out with these girls in school but never out of school. I want to be really good friends with them but i dont know how to. What do people like in a friend? (link)
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First of all, you are really thoughtful in just wanting to know how to be a good friend! Always being honest and trustworthy, don't tell secrets and if you want them to grow to like you more - be a good listener. People love to talk more than listen, so ask them questions about themselves and then really listen to their answers and ask more. It's fun to learn about each other that way, but don't always come back with a comparison story. You're on the right track to being a good person and a good friend.
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well... my life is great and i know that but like sometimes i just cant help feeling really sad...like i want to cry all the time and i over-analyze everything around me making everything scarry and bad...and like i started cutting a while ago and recently its gotten worse...like its gotten deep to the point where ill pass out and wake up w/tons of blood all over..and like sometimes ill just take some pills to knock myself out and get away from it all..and like i cant sleep.. i havent in about a week...and i wont eat...i refuse to...i have food and it will make me even more fat than i am right now... but like sometimes ill just sit in my room and ill be real calm and just crying for hours...then suddenly ill like flip and like i will start screaming and throwing things and like i will hate every 1 and everything around me...ill just like loose coltrol and start fighting with myself and slicing open my arm while doing so and like its just gotten so far and so bad that everyone thinks im crazy...even though i make sure not to loose it in front of other ppl...but like my arms are covered in scars...like after one of my episodes the other day i finaly calmed down but couting them and i couted 367 on my arms and 68 on my ankles...like where i live its cool all the time so i can wear hoodies and stuff but its still like omg...i wanna stop so bad but its turned into an obsession and like ill jsut find myself doing it...im scarred that one of these days im gonna go too far and die...even though many many times i have thought about suiside...well there really isnt much n e one can do for me but if you do have any non-cocky non-smart ass answers its much appriciated!
p s ill rate high for really good answers!! thx
♥ rrenef ♥ (link)
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You are going to be ok, cause you know you have a problem and you're admitting it. But now you have to tell someone else and get help. This life is hard and it is OK to ask for help! You can find someone near you very easily in the phonebook, or even talk to a school counselor. You need to tell everything that's been going on in your head so they can help you the right way. I know that saying you have a problem that you can't handle is probably the hardest part, but remember it is OK - lots of people need some extra help. Breath deep, and put the effort out there to find someone to help you. You said you hide it well, so you can't expect anyone to jump to your aid unless you tell them. Please, please take care and talk to someone soon.
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i need help. okay, i've been with my boyfriend for a while now, but there's a small little problem that i'm having in our relationship. i love him to death and i know that he feels the same way, but when he talks to other girls.. i often get jealous and feel as if he's going to leave me for this girl even though i know they are just friends, i feel like maybe he sees something more in the girls he talks too. i feel this way because in the past, every guy i was with.. left me for another girl or was seeing another girl behind my back. i just got used to it & so now everytime i get into a new realtionship, i feel as if the same thing is going to happen even though i know all guys aren't the same, it's just something that sort of stuck in my mind. i expect guys to leave me.. i guess it's so i won't get hurt like i did in the past. i've talked with my boyfriend about this and he understands why i feel like this because of past experiences but he always reassures me that there is nothing going on because he doesn't want any other girl in this world besides me & that he loves me more than i could imagine. i mean, we've even talked about spending the rest of our lives together. i don't always have this problem when i'm with him.. but then there are times when i do. i hate it a lot because i really don't wanna feel this way, i TRY to tell myself "hes not gonna leave you" and it works half the time but then other time it doesnt and i get really upset. just so you know, i do BELIVE that he loves me, i don't doubt that.. it's just i really don't know how to explain it. maybe someone knows where i'm coming from. the point is, is there anyway i can convince myself that he's not going to leave me? is there anything at all i can do? or am i gonna be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life because of what has happened to me in the past? (link)
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Whatever you do, don't show that you're jealous and don't say it either. Guys don't want to be with girls that freak out over everything and need to be constantly reassured. If you come off as independent and confident, he's going to like you more! If it comes to a chick that's really hitting on him (and other girls KNOW this stuff immediately) continue to keep a big confident smile on your face in front of her, then in private only tell him, that it made you uncomfortable. Say it clearly when you have his attention, but only say it once. That's another thing guys hate - girls that harp on a subject endlessly. I know at 16 I totally loved my bf and wanted to be with him forever, but know that this guy is not the "one" forever and ever... even though this time of your life and this guy are your whole world right now... there is SO much more beyond 16. Good luck.. Be confident because at least for right now he IS yours.
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I know these aren;t the best questions to ask, but im not gunna ask anyone else!! There's a guy and his name is Gil. I always thought he liked me, but was never sure! Here are some signs he shows:
-He laughs at me
-Today he poked me purposely and I said "What?" and he said sorry
-He popped my bra strap once
-He smiles at me
Thats it...Does he like me? It's starting to annoy me!!! (link)
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Definitely sounds like he likes you.... but for right now, take it as he likes you as a friend and be flirty friends! Don't go around asking his friends, cause that'll just make him feel stupid.
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ok im 13/F and my school dance is coming up, it's on friday 9/30/05 and i really want to go and a lot of ppl want me to go but my friend Halle wants to come over my big nice new house cuz i moved in a couplle weeks ago and all,well me and her have been planning for her to come over for over a week now and i really want her to come over but i really want to go to the dance on friday.the dance is 7:00 to 9:30 and her mom won't drive her over to my new house because it's dark and she won't be able to follow the directions that my mom has or will be giving her. I dont know what to do,what should i do?¿?¿? can someone please help me i rate 5's on good advice. (link)
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Why don't you both go to the dance together? Have her mom drive you to the dance and have your mom pick you both up and bring you home to stay at your new house?
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okay, I am 21 and still a virgin. I have done other stuff just not had sex yet. The thing is I was almost raped by one of my ex boyfriends and I am kind of scared of guys now, not all but some of them. I feel really pathetice because I am still a virgin and I am 21. Plus my uncle has aids and that is another reason why I am scared. I don't have a bf right now but am looking for one. When I do find one and we have sex how can I make myself less scared to have sex? Is there anything I can do to calm myself down?
any help will be great, guys and girls (link)
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Don't feel pathetic at all! When you are in a good, healthy relationship it will be the right time. But always, always insist on having safe sex! Then you won't have to worry in case he turns out to be a jerk.
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I have a couple of serious questions and I would like an answer from someone who is educated and is preferably familiar with birth control pills. I've been taking them for about a month to help with my period and I just started my second pack. During first pack, I ended up skipping a couple days because I completely forgot to take them. But other than that, I've been taking them everyday around the same hour. My question is..if I take my pill a couple-few hours earlier or later than the previous day, is it still just as effective? I heard that as long as you take it within 24 hrs, AROUND the same time, it's fine. But is it really necessary to get it within the same exact hour everytime? Also, I'm about to become sexually active. (We'll be using the pill AND a condom, don't worry.) But I'd like to know how long does it take before the pill actually kicks in and starts working effectively. Remember, I missed a couple days on my last pack about a week or two ago, so should I be okay as long as I continue to take them every single day from now till then? Sorry this was so long. Thanks in advance! (link)
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It will take several months of consistently taking them for your body to adjust. Once that happens you can have a little leeway about having to take them precisely at a certain time. Good thing that the missed days weren't consecutive. If they were consecutive and you're close to the end of the pack you may get your period early. I've been taking the same (lowest dosage they make) pill since i was 18. And i'm so used to it that I literally get my period on that weds by 8am! And a couple of times when I had a special occasion or vacation planned, i stopped taking them, got my period a week early and started on the sunday after that. Hope this helps... even though everyone is different.
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hey there's this guy i really like, and he keeps asking me who i like. i really want to tell him that it's him, but i just don't know how to. please help me! i really don't know what to say!
i rate high! (link)
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I would say "why do you want to know? in case it's you?" and put the ball in his court. If he says no, then say that info is your personal business, if he says yes, then say ok... let's go out for pizza!
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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.
Does this mean he doesn't like me? (link)
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It doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, but doesn't like being put on the spot like that. Guys think it's gay to have friends ask stuff like that from other friends, cause they know the info is going straight back to you. And maybe he's just shy and interested in you, but doesn't know what to say just yet. Don't give up hope, be around, always say Hi with a big smile and let it happen naturally. He'll like you better if your friends aren't asking him about you and putting hin on the spot.
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hey can anyone please help me think of a good screen name? i like gymnastics and shopping, i have brown hair and brown eyes, i'm short, and i have braces. also, do you think mango tango is a good screen name? i want a funny one like bahamaramamama or one that rhymes like mangotango, or something like angelnparadise. also, i dont want one that the boys will think is too sissy or prepy or just weird or something. (link)
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i think mangotango sounds pretty cool
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can someone help me think of a good screen name for boys? i like something like spitfire or american idiot, but other people already have those. i have brown hair and brown eyes and i like soccer. i dont want a screen name thats too kidish or anything i just want one that cool that a teenager would like. (link)
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soccer_ace
rockinsoccer
soccer_dude
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I'm 13/f and I just had my first kiss. Well... Sorta. Anyways we were at the mall and he pulled me aside and said "I love you, I think your beautiful" and he started making out with me. It was the best moment of my life but after about three seconds I got really nervous and I didn't know what to do so I sort of pushed him off a little and I hugged him and he said it's still okay and he loves me. I know he isnt upset but I feel bad because I really wanted to kiss him and I probably made him feel bad although he won't admit it and he says its fine we'll try again another time. He's coming over Saturday. Is there anything I can do to not be so nervous? Or advice on your first kiss? Thanks a bunch. =) (link)
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:) it's something you kinda have to learn... just try to keep it slow, gentle and know your boundaries!
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can someone help me out why do good things happen to bad people ? (link)
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I think that some events are fate and some are god's way of making us stronger. My husband passed away unexpectedly at 31 yrs old... I'm a good person, and he was even moreso. it made me wiser in ways that i shouldn't have had to deal with until i was a senior citizen and I still wonder what the plan for me is supposed to be. even if we can't understand it, there is a reason somewhere, and that's when the strength of your faith truly comes into play.
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hey this is kinda embarassing but im 18 and im a virgin! most girls my age have lost there virginitys at age 14! i feel so lonley and left out! so i lie and say im not! its not that i cant find someone its just that im so picky! i want it to be special and want to be in love! wat should i do? should i lose it with some guy i dont know? or wait for the special one? and is this wiered? i really need some advice! i lie to so many ppl and i feel bad! i want to be honest with my friends but im to embarassed!
-HELP
babyll873 (link)
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Don't be embarrassed! most of the ones that lost their virginity at 14 didn't even have a clue what they were doing anyhow.
i lost mine at 18 and thought it was going to be special with my bf of a year. he was an idiot and i wish i had saved it for someone much better!
when you are ready it will be better if it is a mutual relationship where he wants to be just as wonderful to you as you are to him. find a good healthy relationship and it will go smoothly from there. Definitely don't just do someone to lose your virginity, you'll regret that somewhere down the road for sure!
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ok well my boy friend worries me like he wont kiss me or hug me or anything but my friend whos been knowing him says he was like that in his last relationship what does this mean and what should i do should i make the first move? hlep
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It depends on how long you've been together and if he was all lovey/touchy in the beginning. Sometimes the new and shiny wears off and he won't be trying to sweet you up as much... other times it means his interest is gone and he doesn't have the courage to break up with you. If it's the first thing... relax, you have a committed relationship and don't have to worry if he's not holding your hand constantly. If it's the latter, then you should just ask straight out "do you want to see me anymore?" if he says no, hold your head up and walk away like a lady. it is the girls that freak and cry that give the rest a bad name and scare guys into not being straight up. Yep, it'll be hard, but don't let him have the final view of you all hysterical. and it'll take time but you WILL find someone you like even more and the feelings will be mutual.
I dated a guy 4 years ago that I just adored... he dumped me after about 3 months (just didn't show up for dinner). I walked away like a lady... and here it is 4 years later, we've been seeing eachother since May 1 and having a wonderful relationship. I still don't know where it's going, but if I had freaked and cried and stalked him we never would have had this second chance. And believe me, i cried for 2 weeks solid after the first time around. He's been the same way... very affectionate at first, not as much getting further into the relationship, but i know it's extra special when he gives me a hug or holds my hand. (boyfriend stuff is still the same as it was when I was your age - lol and I'm 40 now!) Good Luck.
PS...The old saying is true (but it's SO hard) if you love someone let them go... hold your head up high, because you are a lovely person... they may come back - amazingly mine did!!! and I was smitten and upset over him for the whole 4 years. now i am more relaxed and think "whatever" and we're having a great time! (we'll see for how long, but at least I'm getting a second chance with a great guy and I never thought that would ever happen.
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ok i asked this question earlier but i didnt see it posted. anyway i am a 25 year old married woman, i have 2 georgeous children. my problem is when i am at work i have access to a computer and for the last 6 months i have been talking to a really great guy. sometimes he calls me also, we talk about everything and he makes me feel really good. i feel like if i wouldnt of gotten married he is the man i would want to be with. to make things more complicated, i am falling in love with him. we have never meet, i want to but he knows i am married and only wants to be a friend, i did to at first, but my feelings are changing. i dont want to destroy my family life ever, but i know it is also not fair to my husband, me sitting there thinking about what if im supposed to be with this other guy. what should i do, follow my heart or do what society and everyone else would say is right.please help (link)
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please remember that just because you don't like the advice you asked for does not mean it's wrong.
that story has been played a million times. first of all you are already cheating on your husband. Yep, you're only typing and talking to this guy, but you are not being true to your marriage. if it is not something/someone you can share with your husband then it is wrong.
secondly, it is so easy to get wrapped up in the person on the other end... they understand you, they support you... yadda yadda yadda. but get smart! that is SO easy to do and don't think that you're the only one he's "talking" to. Generally the people that are chatting/contacting on-line are doing it constantly and it's a form of entertainment, not a relationship no matter what you think.
thirdly... this could very well be a guy that if you ran into in person, you wouldn't give him the time of day. no matter how well you communicate it doesn't mean you're in love, it will still come down to a physical attraction as well.
lastly...how would you feel if your husband had the same little game going on? Is it "cheating" then? And besides the fact that you are being paid to work and you're using your company's equipment for personal use. You need to get away from that fake reality and get back into your OWN life.
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I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors? (link)
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Distant but kind. you've answered your own question. Bachelors at that age don't change and I do know this from experience. I'm sorry to tell you this, but he more than likely used you for sex and now is just being nice to hold you off.
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I like this guy whos 7 years older than me. He likes me too but said the age bothers him. But when we are at parties we end up having sex or doing something sexual. I really really like him shold I just be friends with benefits for now then when im older think about going out with him or what? (link)
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Think about a couple things here carefully. The age difference first... if you are 18 and he's 25 that's one thing. But... if you are under 18 and he's +7 years that is statutory rape - no matter how consensual it is. Next, know that "friends w/ benefits" is complete BS. You are being used by him without him having to date you, or call you, or ever treat you like a gf. Honey... please heed this advice. Save yourself and your love for someone special that will treat you the same way!
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