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can yu make your fingers skinnier
mine are fat (link)
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Hi,
I haven't heard of anything on this, but if you're a bit overweight, when you lose it, you lose it all over including your fingers.
Hope I helped.
Good luck,
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My boyfriend is a little small in size and we are having problems coming up with comfortable positions during sex. Any suggestions? (link)
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Hi,
I don't really understand why the positions are not comfortable, but there are a lot of helpful books with tons of positions.
Try all of them. It will be fun to see which ones suit the two of you best.
Try going on line to get a list of books,(e.g. karma sutra, sexual positions for beginners) you could also try one of those stores that specialize in sexual products. I hope I helped!
Good luck,
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My mum suffured from cancer a few years ago. Now she has mrsa which comes and goes pretty ofter but when its here she takes out all her anger on me *Not physically* but i reli can't cope any more, i'm stressing out with school and when i come home i just get moaned and shouted at and i just wanna leave again, I'm only 16 and i know everyone says well she can't help it, but still i reli can't handle this anymore. even when i'm out with my friends now i'm not my usual self and all i can think is i don't want to go home. My dad is the only person who is helping me through this right now. I cry just about every night and i don't no what to do anymore, between school life and home life nothings going right for me anymore. has anyone got any ideas or been in this kind of situation before, advice is greatly appreciated x (link)
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Hi,
I have been in this situation and so have other people that I have known. My grandmother had cancer, but she didn't survive. That was over ten years ago.
It is a lot of hard work taking care of someone who is that sick. YOur friends are right when they say she can't help it. She feels miserable and she only wishes that she could have her life back to the way it was.
She feels guilty because she can't take care of herself and has to rely on other people especially her 16 year old daughter. She's supposed to be taking care of you. This probably makes her feel miserable. Every time she sees you, she is reminded of this. She doesn't mean it. You are lucky you and your father can support each other through this trying time.
The best thing I can tell you is to try and take some time out for yourself and have a good time. Make your time just that. I know it sounds easier said than done, but you have to do it. YOu have to find some time to be happy.
Also try and talk to a counselor maybe. A lot of centers have support groups for families in your situation. It really helps to talk to other people who are in similiar situations. It helps you to understand better and when you are done, you can go home to your mother with a better spirit.
It really works. Just give it a try. I know you love your mum very much. YOu are perfectly normal to feel the way you do. I hope I helped you some.
Good luck to you and your family.
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Hello,
I have a friend and her 13 y/o daughter who are driving me crazy. They are living with my family at the moment (for free) and I have helped her out with thousands of dollars in which I am now very bitter about, but that is besides the point. I am normally a very giving and patient person, but I am at the end of my rope and about to blow.
These two disagree with every single thing my son/daughter or I have to say. It doesn't matter if I say the sky is blue, they'd say it's green. I can't even hold a conversation with either of them. Typically I just say "I see your point" or "oh really" and back off for the sake of not arguing. It's insulting to do so, because many times they are not correct--but are know it alls.
How does one deal with people like this? (link)
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Hi,
from the sounds of your question, it seems as though you are one of those people pleaser such as myself.
YOur friend was in a bind and of course you wanted to help. It was the right thing to do. Did you think about it throughly before you invited them into your house rent free or was it one of those spur of the moment things? Either way can't be bitter about it now. It was your choice. It sucks. I know. I don't know their family situation.
I just hope that she is not using you. It sounds like she is beginning to take advantage just a bit. I understand your anger. I have a been there too many times to write about.
When people figure out how good natured you are, they take advantage. It lets you know what kind of friend she is. Don't sweat it.
However, you have to get them out of your house. If that's really what you want, go to her like a woman and tell her "I know I invited you and your family to stay and I really want to help you and I still do. But the situation as it is is not working out the way I hoped.
I want you and I to remain good friends, but I think it's best for you to move out. I will give you time to find a new place. I will even help you if I can. I still want the best for you."
If you don't do this, your resentment is going to build and you are going to really blow your top and you and your friend are going to end up enemies. Believe me she will respect you for your decision and she'll also know not to take advantage of you and your good nature again.
It's the first step into standing up for yourself. I hope I helped. It worked for me in similiar situations.
Good luck,
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why is some spit more sticky.. like when i brush my teeth and spit stuff out sometimes its gross and there are other ppl nearby! is there something wrong with mine? (link)
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Hi,
when you brush your teeth, you are not only cleaning plaque, you are cleaning away all of the food, germs and bacteria from your teeth, your jawas and your tongue.
When you sleep, your mouth is closed and tons of unrecogonizeable things begin to grow.
That's probably what you are seeing. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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How wide do they open up your vagina in a pap smear and does it hurt? (link)
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Hi,
this is a common question. The gyn opens your vagina just wide enough so that they can see into the entire insides of your vagina and your cervix which is the mouth of your uterus. They then scrape some of the cells from your uterus which does not hurt and they are done.
If anything it maybe a little uncomfortable, but when you get used to it, it will be alright. Don't worry. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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I have a best friend which is a male while I am a female. We used to hang out alot in the past by going for movie, have lunch/dinner together and doing all sorts of crazy things until late midnight. We are so close till he will care for me when I am sick/sad and he usually shares his problem with me, and vice versa. We used to sms till late midnight too when we need someone to keep as companian when we're bored. Things had changed recently when he told me that he has a girlfriend. I was happy for him to get into a relationship but on the other hand, I was sad because I know things will not be the same anymore as it used to be. I know we won't do all these crazy things like we used to do before he got into a relationship. Somehow, I felt that he has forgotten me and he doesn't seem to care about me anymore now. Whenever I sms him, he replies very short as though he doesn't want to sms with me, giving me all sorts of reasons to avoid me (eg: phone low battery, busy) and there is no word of concern from him anymore. Last time when he was busy, he will definetely get back to me when he is free. I am very sad over this issue as I do not know how to handle this. I thought of forgetting him as my best friend and move on, but its difficult to do it. I have known him for about nearly 8 years now. What should I do? I really need an advice to overcome this problem and I always think of how boring my life will be without my best friend. How can I solve this friendship between him and I, I just want things to be like last time. Should I move on and forget my best friend? (link)
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Hi,
No, I don't think you should move on and forget about him. From what you have said in your case you have been friends a long time and have been through a lot of things together.
I know you are probably hurt byt what he is doing right now, but I can almost promise you that he will come around and start acting like the best friend you have come to love.
There could be two reasons why he is treating you this way. One, he is new to the relationship that he is in and he is in the infatuation stage. You have to be a little more empathetic to him. He likes her and he wants to be with and talk to her all the time. It is only natural.
Two, he might have told his girlfriend about you and she is not too comfortable about him being so close to another female. This is understandable too. Don't you think.
I would suggest that you call him and ask can the two of you meet and talk about your friendship. It seems as though the two of you are close enough and you can tell him how you feel. Tell him that you understand he's in a relationship, but you miss him and you feel hurt.
Let him take it from there. I'm sure it will work out because after all when you meet that special boy that you really like you are going to want that same understanding from him. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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This is probably lame and a waste of your time to read, but if you want to, go ahead. I seriously think something is wrong with me. I am usually a nice person, but I feel so frustrated altely. People think Im fake cause Im like nice all the time. I know its impossible to be nice all the time, but I feel like if I be mean, then Im not making the world a better place.
Ugh, I don't know I feel so inferior to my best friend, she has all the guys and I don't. If I sound immature im sorry, its just that I wanna cry. I feel so much like crap. No guys like ever like me, the ones I like are all taken, i don't know its probably me. I was reading this phobia list and I have like every phobia that has to do with love. It makes me so upset, b/c I never been in love, I want to know what its like, but every chance I get with a great guy, I run from it. I think im crazy, i don't know why anyone would want to be with me. It probably goes back to middle school, I had something happen to me, that I can't escape. I have tried to get over it sometimes I can't but sometimes I want to hurt myself in regret. ugh. I notice that im really negative about myself but nice to everyone else. Im losing interest in singing which I love to do. I feel like i suck at everything. I have an ocd problem and sometimes it gets so intense that I feel like id be better off dead.
I know this may seem totally over dramatic, and if i was reading this about someone else Id tell them to calm down. But sometimes thats easier said then done. I don't even know what im asking, and at this point it seems so effortless.
Can anyone explain whats going on with me? I'm scared of losing myself.
thank you so much for your help, I realize that i am totally insane, so no need to mention it.
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Hi,
don't be so down on yourself. Most of your issues are not that uncommon for your age. Everything at this time can feel uncontrollable right now. There's nothing wrong with being a nice person. You just have to be careful that you don't let people take advantage of you because of your good nature. We need people to make the world a better place.
I think you just feel inferior to your best friend because you're not giving yourself a chance and putting yourself out there. YOu're not giving people a chance to know the real you.
When it's time for you to fall in love, you will.
I don't know what happened to you in middle school, but the fact that you have feelings of hurting yourself has me worried.
I think you should talk to someone you trust about it, e.g. parent, friend, counselor. Everyone has feelings of being inadequate sometimes.
You could also try joining some type of organizations to make new friends and do some things that you like. That way you will meet interesting people who have things in common with you. You will feel more comfortable, open up and maybe find interest in a boy that you like. Before you know it things will start to take off.
First and foremost, please talk to someone if these feelings of hurting yourself don't go away. YOu are not insane. You just need someone to talk to. We all do at one time or another.
I wish you notheing but the best of luck,
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This is something I have been wondering for awhile. I know that you can love your family members and friends and be IN love with your mate. But is it possible to just love your boyfriend/girlfriend and not be in love with them? Please tell me anything you can, thank you :] (link)
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Hi,
yes it is possible to love your mate without being in love with them. It happens all the time. It is perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with it.
Maybe things are just progressing slowly. You may not ever have romantic feelinfs toward him. Talk to your mate about it. Maybe he/she feels the same way. It might be best that the two of you remain plotonic. It could be the best friendship you'll ever have. Only you can be the true judge of that. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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I can't stand it! someone please help....... i can't stand it! i have bdp and it is ruining my life! therapy isn't helping and there aren't really any medications out there for me! i need someone who understands what it is and help me through! my chest contracts and hurts so much i feel i want to rip or burn my hair or just mutilate myself in anyway because of shame or humiliation! yesterday i was on the phone with a friend and she was talking strangely and i didn't realize what was going on until she closed! her mum was on the phone listening in "to say hi" and when i picked up i said hi there fartsi! i miss you! did you see that crappy episode of...! she acted all strange! and already her mum thinks i am ruining her daughter! (I'M NOT!) so after that i collapsed and couldn't look into the face of anyone and just disliked them all! help meee! (link)
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Hi,
I have to say that when I read your question, I didn't know what bdp was and I looked it up on the internet and found a website with some very helpful information. If you read it, it can explain things much better than I can. I feel for you and your disorder. No one deserves to have that.
After reading it I found that although it can be difficult to treat, there is hope and you shouldn't give up. Pleas don't.
After you read it, go to all the people that you care about an explain to them about your condition. I'm sure they will be there to support you. YOu might want to try printing up the information after you read the information on the website so they can have a better understanding.
I wish you nothing but the best and hope you are on a road to recovery. Keep your chin up!
Good luck to you.
Here is that website I was telling you about.
RevolutionHealth.com
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Ok so I have started to like this guy and we have been friends for a long time. We just realized that we have feelings for eachother and surprisingly its really not that awkward. The only thing that i am hesitant about is that hes not like a manly man and he doesnt ahve alot of guy friends. It kind of bothers me because I want him to be a man's man..thats what im attracted to. What shouldi do about this? should i tell him and whats your opinion? (link)
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Hi,
If you're attracted to a manly man, what is it about him that makes you want to go out with him? Have you thought about that? If this is really bothering you, I think that maybe you should reconsider dating him. After all this is who he is. You can't change people. Sooner or later he will begin to resent you for wanting to change him and you will resent him for not being the man you want him to be.
However, don't beat up on yourself about it, you have a right to like who you like. You can still be best friends with him. Maybe you just weren't meant to be a couple.
Sometimes we can be such good friends with someone and it feels so good, that we automatically think that a romantic relationship would work just as well. That is not always the case. Sometimes friendships are meant to stay just that. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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i dated my ex for 9 months we broke up 3 months ago..i never wanted to break up with her she just wanted some space and figure things out in her life...after we broke up she stopped wearing her promise ring...this past week she called me and i basically poured my heart out to her about everything..telling her i wanna be with her i miss her and all that..so she tells me she would like to work things out but take it a step at a time...she told me give her time she will come around...saturday we hung out for a lil bit and she was wearing the ring i got her...so ever since monday i havnt heard from her ive been texting her i called her twice..i just really need advice on what to do and if things look good between us and if things would work...i really would like a girls opinion but anyone feel free to answer (link)
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Hi,
I think that when people tell you what they want, you should give it to them. Give her the space that she needs to figure out whatever it is that is going on with her.
The fact that she is wearing the promise ring again is a good sign, but you're going back to doing the things she said she didn't like.
Maybe she thought things were moving too fast before and she wanted to slow things down. Maybe she doesn't want to get too serious.
Chill out for a minute and let her call you. Believe me, if she wants you, she'll call!
Good luck,
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So I'm currently dating a guy and he is absolutely wonderful. He has so many qualities that I look for in a guy and then some. Anyone from the outside looking in would think that we make a good couple. However, there is something inside of me that has me questioning a lot of things. I don't know why, but something, and I'm not quite sure what it is, doesn't feel right.
Could this feeling be my instincts telling me that something isn't right, or do many people feel this way when they believe they've found "the one."
PLEASE help! I need insight! (link)
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Hi,
you are exactly right! Never doubt your gut or your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. So don't get too serious until you find out more about him. He must be doing or saying something to make you feel this way. No one knows you better than you do. Just take it slow. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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wellll whenever i masturbate and start getting close to orgasming my head starts to hurt! this only just recently started happening! or when im making out with my boyfriend and i start getting more aroused and breathing heavy my head starts hurting! and sometimes i even feel a little dizzy. does anyone know why this could be happening and what i should do?? thank you! (link)
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Hi,
I'm not exactly sure, but the first thing that comes to mind is that maybe you get so excited that you are hyperventillating. That would cause the headache and dizziness. I hope I helped
Good luck,
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I was friends with this guy since the 2nd grade and this last summer i realized what kind of person he is when he's older, two-faced so my question is do I give him a call to talk about this issue [AGAIN] or ignore him and get on with my life? (link)
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Hi,
since you have been friends with him for so long, I would definitely call him out one it and ask him what the heck is going on with him. Ask him does he have some kind of problem with you and maybe the two of you can talk about it.
It all boils down to how much you value the friendship. How much is it worth to you to work it out. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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I took a ept today and it came back with a horizontal line in the circle and a vertical line in the box...my period is supp. to come on the 28th.Im definatley going to take another 1 after my "missed period" but should I take a second 1 now,just in case?Should I take another 1 in a week as well? (link)
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Hi,
First of all, are you sure you took the test correctly. I've never heard of those two different lines, but I haven't done one in a while either. Check just to be sure. Secondly, I can't tell by your question if you've already missed a period, or you expect to miss a period. If you have not missed one, wait until you do to take a pregnancy test. It could be your hormones fluctuating or maybe you had a cold or are stressed.
However, if you have missed a period, take another test and make sure you do it correctly. If it is positive, then you can decide what to do next. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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Well see it goes like this... about a week or two ago i pulled a muscle in my right leg and it's better now but i feel that it is even more inflexible than it was before. and i am like really flexible and it is just like not cooperating with me. so what are so excises i can do to strengthen it and make it flexible. (link)
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Hi,
if you want to become more flexible, I would suggest yoga. It's a great for relaxing and warming up the muscles. It offers a variety of fitness levels and it also gently eases you into becoming very flexible. I know you have seen all of the positions they are able to manuever their bodies into. If flexiblility is what you want, I think that's the best solution. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
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I have had this red bump on my penis for over a year and I don't know what it is. I have had it since before i had been sexually active, no sex and no oral sex. It is filled with puss like a pimple but lately it had been hurting more than a pimple and seems to be swollen. I dont think it's a pimple because i have had it for over a year. Does anyone know what it could be? Any advice would be helpful. I'm 16 and i have been researching and i know its not herpes or warts. (link)
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Hi,
first of all, have you shown this to a doctor? He would be the best judge to diagnose what it could possibly be, but maybe this could help. I have a brother who seems to have this same problem. Except he has about three or four of them. At least that's what he tells me. We are very close. He has the same bad habit of picking them and they bleed. This is not a good idea for either of you. He finally went to the doctor and he told him that they were moles. I don't know if this is the same in your situation. It's always best to get it checked out by a professional. It might be something simple that is treatable with some topical ointment. I hope I helped and relieved some of your anxiety.
Good luck,
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Every time i talk to the the guy i like I talk to much and get really hyper! How do I stop?? && if theres other crush tipps let me know PLEASE!!
Thank You in Advance (link)
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Hi ,
this is very common. YOu're probably doing this because you're nervous. Some people laugh. Some people get extremely quiet. I know it can be embarrassing and you just can't help it. The guy might wonder what is wrong with you. It's okay, just go with it. Just tell him, "you have to excuse me. I can't help it. Everytime I get around you, I get so excited. I feel like I"m talking to my best friend and I want to tell you everything about me and what's going on in my life. In other words, make light of the situation. If he likes you, he'll think it's cute and won't care anyway.
Good luck,
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what are some ways to give revenge without getting in trouble because rumors are going around school about saying im bi and i wanna bang some kid and i wanna give revenge to the person who did it to me and don't say reveng isn't the thing or two wrongs don't make a right (link)
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Hi revenge,
well you told me not to say it, so I won't. I'm sure you have a good head on your shoulders. You don't need me to tell you what is right. I'm also sure that you are not only pissed off by this rumor, but also a part of you is hurt. People can be really mean for one reason or another. Who knows why. Who cares why! You know you're not bi don't you? This person is probably just hating on you. That should make you feel good right there. I know it's wrong to say, but it makes us feel good when people hate on us. It tells us they want what we have and they can't get it. That's all the revenge you need. Every time they see you. You'll know what they're thinking. Look at them and laugh!
P.S. If you really want to get revenge, turn it around on them. Say "yeah I'm bi and the person who told you should know why." See how they like that! YOu have to be really secure in yourself to do that though.
Good luck to you,
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