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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

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ok so this might sound gross but i have had my period for like 2 years now and i am 13 and so well always after my period the WHOLE month till it starts again i have to wear a thick panty liner cause it all comes out like the goop does. the white goop. it dosnt smell or anything though please help i rate high

it's called discharge, and it's normal. every girl has it, it just depends on the girl for how much of it she has. talk to a parent and maybe suggest seeing a doctor. hope i helped :)

i want alot of honest opinions on these 2 questions.
1)what do you consider a girl that has had sex since the age of 13? Had another bf when she was 14 then had sex with another guy (cheated on her bf) she barely knows the 2nd time they hung out together?

2)what do you consider a guy that screws a girl he hardly knows the 2nd date, knowing she has a bf?? will rate 5s for honesty!!

1) she got off on the wrong track. i'd say a little slutty.

2) if he knew, he's an asshole. and why would they be on a 2cd or even a 1st date if she's got a boyfriend?

there's your honesty.

Okay, so my boyfriend and I were hanging out tonight and he kept tryin to like get into my pants, i don't mind because we've been doin that a few times and it doesn't bother me..but now i have my period and i don't want him doing that right now..what should i say to him to get him stop with out him being offended. i dont want him to think i don't want him to do anything any more..thanks

well, you should really just tell him it's that time of the month! if you can let him in your pants, you can let him know that he doesn't need to then. he really shouldn't get offended, because you really can't control when you get your period! i'm sure he wouldn't want to get in your pants while you're on your period, so just let him know.

Well i have been having dreams about sex with guys my age. I am 13f. And all of a sudden i am having urgest to do it.
Is that normal
Ill' rate high!

of course it's normal. once you hit a certain age, your hormones start to kick in. it might not be a smart idea to actually have sex with these guys, but it's okay to have dreams. you can try masturbating to help you deal with these urges if you're comfortable with that.

When you masturbate, does is make ur lower area smell more?

no. it usually doesn't.

Okay, last night I was with my boyfriend and he was fingering me..butbefore he fingered me he had handeled his dick and idk if there was cum on it or not..but when i felt it there wasn't really any there.. is there a possibility that i could be pregant?

there's a small chance. a really really small chance. pre-ejaculate contains a high amount of sperm, but the vagina is not a very friendly environment. the acids in there will most likely kill off the pre-cum, but the next time you get fingered, make sure his hands are CLEAN. you can get infections and possibly pregnant.

I had my period for two years not and it still doesnt come every month. Like when i do sports i never have it but over the summer i have. Is this normal? Im a 14/f. I asked my mom and she says its normal but my friends started last year and they have theirs every month. Do i need to get it chech or am I worring about nothing.
Thanks For the HELp

if your BMI is under 18.5, then that's why you're not getting your period.

http://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpa/bmi/calc-bmi.htm

type in your height and weight. then it'll calculate how much fat you have on your body, basically. it's okay if you don't get your period. girls usually aren't normal in their cycle for a few years. your body needs enough fat and nutrients and stuff to have it's period.

Ok, my girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 3 weeks. Last night we went out to dinner and we made out under the star-blanketed sky at the beach. She called me later that night and sometime later she asked me If I had thought about having one last "night". What should I do? I want to. But I don't know if I should.

you're better off not doing it. sure, it's fun as hell, but it just creates more feelings for the person. from a girl's point of veiw, of course. if you made out, maybe there are some unresolved feelings. i had break-up sex, and it was great. BUT, you might feel a little bit used after it, since you guys aren't together anymore. or she may feel like that, even when it was her idea for the booty call. only have your "one last night" if it feels right. you said you want to, so do it already. :)

theres this really hot girl shes freaking amazing, to protect her identity lets just say her names mary. She lives like half an hour away though what am i supposed to do

(i hear talk shes crazy in bed)

buy her some damn donuts. or just buy her something really cool, fun, & cute.

Ok.I've lived in this city for...about 1 year or maybe just about 2.I want to move back to my old house sooo bad,but i've changed so much im afraid they wont like me. My brother abuses my family (hes 16) and punches us hes so mad he wants to move back to see all his friends.Missing a year in my old city made me so upset,a giant chunk of my life is ripped out.I had loads of friends in my city,but now they keep reducing as the years go by.Here i have a lot of ok friends..but i realllyyy dont like them or how they act.You know,those preppy people and stuff. Well,this year there all trying to change into gangters and ghetto (which is what i was like in my own city) and that reaallyyy pisses me off cause there all doing itcause they think its "in" its not really what they are..there posers.My new town to sum it up is a Stero-typed town and i cant stand it.my city was easy going and free,we might move back,but when we do,how can i do anything to make me the way i used to be? im just so mixed up and sad about this i dont know what to do! i hate the way i've changed,and i would give anything to change back or wish this move never happend.The people in my new town are intiminating!!!please help i rate to 5s

when you change environments and stuff, you change. you mature, you grow up. but i think that if you move back, you should just be yourself. don't worry if how you are is good for anybody else. i'm sure that if you do move back to your old city, you'll pick up your old routines.

hey!! thanks so much for the great advice!! =) The thing is, I've never been past making out with a guy.. so I've never seen/touched a penis lol and I'm afraid I won't know where to put my hand or what to do.. So i kinda wanted to just massage him over his pants.. any tips for that? and if i do decide to stick my hands down his pants..should i take his pants off and just leave his boxers on? or just leave his pants on? should i use 2 hands or 1? and like how do i massage it lol. And if i do stick my hands down his pants.. I dont want him to expect me to give him a handjob..bc at this moment i'm not ready to do that quite yet

i know it may sound realllly cheesy, but if you're going to do this, you need to talk to your guy about it!! you should set some ground rules first. if you've never been past making out, you've gotta relax! it's really just movements in the heat of the passion that'll turn him on. you can't be afraid of looking stupid or doing the wrong thing, because trust me, you probably won't get it right the first time! haha.

okay, well, you don't have to give him a handjob if you're not ready for that. and, just so you know, you will probably be shocked by what a penis looks like. some guys are gross. some guys shave, some guys don't. so, you don't have to take that step yet!

okay, well, i guess you could give him a "massage".. i'm not really clear on that! you can grind on him, if you want. which is sort of pressing yourself against him.

I wanna massage/rub my boyfriend 'down there' while we're making out.. but i dont know how to do it so that it feels good for him.. And I tried the other day but I couldn't find his 'stuff' bc his pants were so baggy lol.. Also can u tell me how to give a hand job.. I've never given one before and I have no idea how. And any more good tips/pointers on things to do for my boyfriend while making out would be helpful too! thanks

while your making out, you can try sticking your hand down your guys pants and just play with his balls. this feels good for guys. or you can tease him by just putting your hand down there or rest it on his inner thigh. if you read the answer i gave a different girl in my column, itll give you a link on how to give a good hand job. he should know what he likes, and if he doesnt, you can just play around and see. if you cant find him, just go in his pants from the top. and when making out, try running your fingers through his hair. this usually drives guys crazy. all the nerves are in his ear, so if you nibble or lick the edge of them he might like that. if you need anymore help don\'t be afraid to ask! theres really nothing you can ask that would freak me out haha :)

I was at temple (weird place ofr this) and this girl was like flirting with all the boys. Shes so outgoing and I cold see it in the boys eyes that they liked what she was doing. She would like go up to them and say "How many girls want you?" things like that. I would never act like that and I was wondering why guys ONLY like girls who play with them? I wish boys would just flirt with me, then I would feel confident flirting back. So, BOYS out there...do you only like flirtacious girls??

the reason outgoing girls get more guys, is because if the girl is flirting with the guy, then she must have some attraction to him.

some guys just don't want to put themselves out there, so it's easier for the guy to go after the girl that shows him her attention.

how many calories do i burn when i'm bumping uglies?

and how can i stop wetting the bed i do it like all the freaking time. One time i woke up and i was actually standing up peeing on the bed like it was intentional

i'm really hoping this is you, nick.

well, when you bump uglies, you burn the same amount as when you're bumping pretties. and with the wetting the bed, get some damn diapers. they even have the ones for big kids. but if you're lucky, you can try to fit into the little ones. because they have awesome designs like spider-man and cinderella.

Alright, I have a question about being popular.

Well, not exactly. You see, I'm not obsessed and crazed and having my whole life devoted to becoming popular. Its just, the popular people are all so out-going and aren't afraid to do anything and they speak their minds. How do I do this? I'm so shy in real life, but I'm actually out-going online. But in real life its just like, "woah, who's that girl? She's so shy." nobody knows me.

How do I improve this? I just wish I could be out-going and be my real self without being so scared all the time.

Please help?

i think the reason you are outgoing online is because you can hide behind the computer. like, you're protected in some way. i used to be like that, but now i'm pretty outgoing all of the time. you might not be comfortable with yourself yet, but that's pretty much the first step. you have to put yourself out there and you could be accepted or you can be rejected. but you have to put yourself out there if you want to be noticed. just get really comfortable with your group of friends, and then you can just talk to people in your classes and be nice. then try to join student council or a club.

ok my guy friend was over a few weeks ago and we like open mouth kissed for about a minute and he did stick his tounge in my mouth and i stuck mine in his and he rubbed me "down there"(but i was wearing pants). people asked me if i made out with him and i just dont answer but hes telling people that he didnt make out with me it was just a kiss..... what was it?

you french-kissed him. along with some touching.. it's all in good fun. :)

what is the missinary postion and doggie style and all those type of things for sex?
like what do u do when in these postions

missionary is your standard sex position. like, guy on bottom or top, girl on bottom or top. nothing weird.

doggie style would be the girl down on her knees and the guy taking her from the back. the girl usually goes down on all fours (like her elbows and sort of like she's praying, i guess). but this position is probably the better of the two, because you get deeper penetration.

if you have any other questions just ask me in my column! hope i helped! :)

will you be my mommy

hi nick. i won't be your mommy, but i will be your wife. let's fuck in the bathroom, k? :)

i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks.

female. a month before 15.

I was reading a question from someone else that you had answered and it said if you don't know how to give head that you could give her a whole bunch of pointers. Well even though I'm not her, do you think you could give me some? I want to, but I'm afraid because iw ill have no idea what im doing

thankss in advance

hey, no problem, i'm just going to repost the answer i gave a girl a couple questions back.
Start out slowly, touch the penis, stroke, gently grip it in your hand, slowly moving up and down the shaft, getting faster as he becomes aroused. He may be producing lubrication (pre-cum). Don't be alarmed, it's going to happen reguardless.

Then kiss, lick and start to suck on the head of the penis. Flick your tongue on the head, then up and down the shaft of the penis. You can also kiss, lick, and suck his testicles while stroking his penis. At the same time, you stimulate the shaft with your hand. Go slowly at first, then much faster, still being very gentle because the penis is very sensitive. You can also ask him how fast he would like you to go, and how hard he wants it. All guys have different tastes, just remember that if you're using your hand and gripping his shaft, you can push up towards your mouth on it but don't push down because that might hurt your guy.

We all have a gag reflex at the back of our throat, so if you take his whole penis into your mouth, you will hit your gag reflex and feel like barfing. So, here's the secret, only take the head into your mouth, co-ordinate hand and head movement into a smooth rhythmic movement.

If you don't want the guy to ejaculate in your mouth; tell him before hand so that he can warn you. You can't get pregnant by swallowing ejaculate, but it tastes pretty gross.

Behind your guys testicles(balls) is the prostate gland, so if you play with them while you give him head, and rub the area directly behind (no further than that or you'll probably be touching his anus.) because it makes his orgasm so much better. if you have anymore questions just ask me :)

after a guy cums, he goes kind of into a "sleepy-mode". which means that the penis is usually sensitive and he just feels really freaking great. so afterwards, he'll probably be all snuggly and cute. lol

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