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I naturally have very blonde hair. Its also soft and silky. But there are man different shade in it...the front is extremly blonde and the back is more of a dirty blonde.
How can i naturally lighten my hair without dying it at the hairdresser, and still keep it silky and soft? (link)
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Put lemon juice in it and then lay out in the sun. It will lighten your hair
No it wont dry out your hair or anything, it just lightens it. I did it to my hair and mine feels awesome. Its super soft and light, but not fried or anything.
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i want a website called topix hacked and shut down and where can i find some hackers (link)
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You cant. Stop asking this question. You've asked it at least 20 times in the past month. This website can not be shut down just because you dont like it. Get over it
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How can i find someones weaknesses and get into their head? I'm not trying to be rude when I say this, but if you're going to answer my question saying that this is wrong and immature and that karma will get me than please don't bother responding. Thanks. (link)
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This is wrong and immature and karma will GET YOU
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So I'm a fourteen year old female and, as you can tell, I want to stretch my ears. I am a good student getting mostly A's, I am responsible, and, for the most part, mature for my age. I brought up the subject with my parents and they screamed at me to the point where I just left and cried. I can't explain to them why I like them without them yelling at me. I understand that they are concerned that it would be hard to find a job. It is pretty clear that their opinion won't change and I was thinking maybe just doing it on my own. I've researched the topic a lot.
I got thinking why not do it now? I like them and I want them so what's stopping me? My parents.. but why should they stop me from what I want to do with my body? As a teenager I want to make my years rememberable and it just makes sense to me. I can buy tapers on my own and slowly stretch them. They won't notice up to a certain point anyways..
No hate, please. And just tell me what you think if you have them done.. Should I just go for it or wait until I'm 18. Thank you.
I was also thinking of writing a paper on it and giving it to my parents since they won't listen to me maybe they will understand better even though they will probably still say no.
I think I will try this before I stretch my ears myself. (link)
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Okay, first things first, your 14 years old, you cant really do anything with your ears unless they approve. But they have fake gauges that you can use. Its just an earring that looks like a gauge. They also have magnetic ones u can use as well.
Those would probably be your best bet, try checking out Hot Topic!
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I'm meeting up with my bf and I'm gonna give Him handjob through his pants. When he cums it's like an explosion. So he gonna have sticky boxers. I was wondering how it could be made less messy. Also we arnt in a house so we he can't get cleaned up. What shall I do? (link)
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Honestly, you should just give him a handjob minus the pants. Less mess, and he can clean up, and you wont have to worry about "sticky boxers"
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How to win a guy over (link)
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Get naked, show him your tits. That'll win him over.
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Okay, so I'm desperate for someone's opinion right now. I recently, on July 12, had sexual contact with someone who I really shouldn't have. If I were to get pregnant, the world might explode and my partner and I would be exiled from our families.
So, here's what happened: we did everything, except we did not have sex. However, there was a point where he was on top of me and (I was wearing yoga pants and underwear,) but he pushed himself right into my vagina. I mean, he didn't go inside me, but he was pretty close to it. He might have a little bit, but not much at all. He was attempting to grind into me since we couldn't actually have sex. (He had no condom with him.) And when this happened, it freaked me out a little, so after like thirty seconds or so, I changed positions with him so that he was not doing that. To be honest, I didn't think much of it at all, until now, July 23. About two nights ago, I got a major head ache and some side cramps. The next day, today, I had intense side pains and just a little bit of a head ache when I woke up in the morning. My back hurt really bad, so I took an Aleve. It seemed to somewhat work. Later tonight, I had very minor side pains and lower abdomenal cramps. However, about two or three hours ago, I noticed my body temperature felt hot, but I was cold. I took my temp and got a response of 100. So I definitely had a fever. I haven't taken anything for it. I typed my symptoms into google and got "early pregnancy symptoms." So, of course, I began freaking out and remembered that night where I had sexual contact.
Basically, what I am asking is, do you think I am pregnant. Remember, I was wearing yoga pants.
Should I buy a pregnancy test, or am I freaking out for nothing. Please, please help me. Because if I am pregnant, some serious shit could go down and everyone's lives will be fucked up.
I'm sorry if I sound stupid. I just need someone to calm me down. Just don't lie to me. I'm hoping I am just catching a virus or something.
Thank you in advance! (link)
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Personally I dont think your pregnant. Your probably fine, but to calm yourself down you can always go ahead and buy a pregnancy test. It cant hurt.
Just remember, you didnt have sex. For you to be pregnant, your partner would have had to leaked through whatever he was wearing, and then through your 2 layers of clothing.
Your probably fine hun. Just relax, you might be getting period symptoms or actually getting a summer cold.
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I have been married for 5 years and have never been satisfied in the bedroom because of this 1 thing. My husband is great but this is really weird. I have this fantasy of him having sex with me while I am sleeping. It would be OK with me if I woke up during it as long as it started while I was asleep. I know this is not normal but it's what I really want. How do I approach him about this without sounding crazy or creepy? (link)
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Just tell him that's what you want. He'll probably be excited that you want to try something new.
Now on to the 5 years without any satisfaction. That's a problem, you both definitely need to address it because if you don't it will definitely make your relationship suffer.
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As you might have guessed, my girlfriend is pregnant. She's freaking out, and I'm thrilled. She's thinks about an abortion, and I want to keep it. Not the way we pictured it.
The reason she's freaking out is that I'm in the USMC, and will be deployed for all of her pregnancy and probably a lot of the child's life. In fact, I'm leaving in about a week for my latest deployment.
She's worried that if something happens to me, she couldn't handle being a single mother. But I know she could.
Don't get me wrong, I am pro-choice. But I never considered my child to be on that line. If she wants to terminate the pregnancy which she has every right to, she can do that, I doubt I could speak to her again.
I love this woman! I want to marry her! But,I am at a lost. It's her body, but my child. I feel I should have a say, but I seem to not.
(Late-teens/early-twenties couple)
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You need to tell your girl to nut up or shut up. My brother is in the military and had a girlfriend the whole time he was gone. If she got pregnant and got rid of it, he would never have talked to her again.
Its your child to. You need to sit down and tell her exactly how you feel. If she doesnt want it then she needs to stay pregnant, and when she gives birth, you need to take that child and not talk to her.
Tell her you want it. She might not listen, but you need to try. This is a childs life.
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I've had two abortions previously and they have been very expensive $$$. I just found out that I'm pregnant again and I don't want the baby and so my first thought was to have another abortion right away. I called the clinic and they gave me the same estimate as the previous time and I really don't have that kind of money right now and don't know how I can come up with the money. Is there a way I can get a cheap abortion or something really low-cost? I just turned 18 a couple of weeks back so I don't think my parents insurance would cover it or anything either so that's kind of out of the question I think. I don't think I can ask my parents for money for the abortion this time because they already paid for the first one I had.
I'm up for any ideas you guys might have.
Thanxxx (link)
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First off, start using a condom. This is the third time you've had an abortion? How can you keep messing up like this?
Your not going to find a cheap version of an abortion. The only "cheap"-er version is the pill, but you are probably to far along for that to work.
Start using a condom, close ur legs.
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im 14 female and i really want a boyfriend, but no one seems to be interested in me that i can see. not to be vain, but i am pretty and nice. my parents say that "you'r only 14 and no one is going to ask you out at that age" but that isn't true. i know a lot of girls my age that are dating. i don't like any one at school and i'm not in any clubs etc. i do go out a lot though. i guess what i am trying to say is, why can't i get a boyfriend? i know there is nothing wrong with me and i love myself :) please don't tell me that i am too young, i should just enjoy life and hang out with friends etc. i can do all that with a boyfriend too :) thank you for the answers. and where can i meet a guy? and what do i say? (link)
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If you want a boyfriend you need to flirt with them. A guy at your age is to shy to approach you first. If your as confident as you say you are, just start talking to them. Make friends, flirt, and see what happens. Just don't be slutty.
A question to ask yourself though, why do you WANT a boyfriend.
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I was at a party about a week ago and we were drinking. It was a fun time and there was this guy that was flirting with me all night. He asked me if I wanted to hookup and I said yes.
We ended up having sex that night. I didn't say no or anything but I WAS DRUNK. He had been drinking too but I don't think he was as drunk as I was.
Is this considered rape? I mean, I was drunk so I wasn't in my sound mind or whatever...
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If you consented it wasnt rape.
Unless he's a lot older than you, in which cause it would be statutory rape. Which means that someone 18 or older had sex with you, because your under age. But if he was 16-17 then its not rape.
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past week. I let him cum inside me every time because of something he told me before. I mentioned this to my friend and she told me that he lied.
If you pee right after you have sex can you still get pregnant? My boyfriend told me that a girl who pees directly after intercourse can NOT get pregnant no matter what because everything is released into the toilet then and is like washed away. It sounded very convincing when he said it but when I was telling my friend it kind of sounded like he was just using me and that I'm stupid. What's the truth? (link)
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He lied.
You CAN get pregnant even after you pee. The only thing peeing helps with is UTI's.
Use a condom
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how do u know when a guy is ready to kiss you? (link)
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Most of the time, he'll look in your eyes, and then glance at your lips. And maybe start to lean in while holding your hand or something. But most of the time he wont go all the way, because he's waiting for you to show u want to kiss him back.
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i have a new guy ive been dating for about two months but he plays games like the im not interested game but when questioned explains hes all about me...so the other night when my guy stood me up(which he later explained his fone died) i ue met with a new guy and had a one night stand i really enjoyed the experience but i feel bad do i explain to my man what happened or let it go and part of me wants to continue having sex with new guy idk wht to do please help me? (link)
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If he's playing games and your cheating on him, (even if it was only once) you should break up with him. No offense, but you said it yourself, you "want to keep doing it". In other words, you don't have very strong feelings for your boyfriend, because you don't mind doing something that you know would hurt him.
Playing games is for children. If hes doing that, he's not worth your time.
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15/f Soo this is gonna be long...sorry.
Well I have this boyfriend, he's 17. We're a year apart, I'm turning 16 soon. Then there is this other guy, he's 18, just graduated high school. I liked him when I was a freshman then going into sophomore year. Then I started dating my boyfriend, so I got over the guy. Those feelings came back.
To be honest, I never felt right with my boyfriend. I was always afraid to end it though, for stupid reasons. You know, the whole who will ever like me after I end it? I know I'll find someone eventually, I'm over that. It's just now its this guy. Me and him are like best friends. I tell him everything, except for the fact that I like him. He doesn't like my boyfriend though. He has good reasons, plus he acts like my brother, saying stuff like, "If this guy ever hurts you I'll go to his house and kill him" ect. Which I find really sweet haha.
I'm not planning on leaving my boyfriend for him. I would break up with him for me because of how I feel about him. I don't think I can even get involved with my friend because he's 18 now and he's going to college soon. I'm not losing him forever though, which is good cause I'm best friends with his sister too so I'm always at their house.
Well he does act like he likes me and stuff but we both know nothing is ever gonna happen. It's just I can't get over him. Well my boyfriend knows about him. I finally came clean about it. My boyfriend said I could do whatever I want but he still wants to be with me and he loves me and all of that. He just wants me to be happy and he's never gonna leave my life either.
So I really don't know what to do. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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You've already given yourself the answer. If you are with him because your afraid of never finding someone else, then you need to end it. Your leading someone on, who obviously has more feelings for you than you do for him.
As for the 18 year old, i wouldn't try to go for it. If hes leaving for college your just going to end up getting hurt. Try being single for the rest of the summer. I know its not what you want to hear, but it can be very liberating.
Good luck
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If my boyfriend wanted to have oral sex with me I know there is no way I can get pregnant. He doesn't have any STDs or anything so is there still chances of me getting anything if he doesn't? (link)
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If he has no STDS and ur postive of that, you should be fine. Just make sure his mouth is clean, your mouth is clean, etc etc. And dont fall asleep before cleaning urself up. You can get UTI's
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16/F so this might be a dumb question, i dont know, but me and my boyfriend were messing around and we had had sex earlier but he didn't go inside me or anything but than later i gave him a hand job and it went every where and i was on top of him and some could have gone in me... so i don't know if that could be bad. but i am on birth control. so could you help? (link)
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No. Your not pregnant.
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.)) (link)
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First off, wow good job making a fake question. I dont believe this is a true question at all, and because of that you get this answer. Your stupid. Your boobs will grow as you go through puberty. Stop being a whore.
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My boyfriend is going camping this weekend with a group of friends.. part of that group of friends is his ex girlfriend..I can't go because i have to work. should i be worried? (link)
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Eh, probably not. He's with you because he likes you. If he still liked her he would still be with her. I would try not to stress about it to much, itll only cause problems in your relationship
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