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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.

I do it because I enjoy it.

If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.

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i was with this guy for almost 5 months and we broke up because of a bunch of drama and now we r wanting to get bak together but my ex best friend is saying that he wants to be with her. i dont kno wat to believe.

Now, when you say "Ex-best friend".. this only makes me assume that you and this girl are no longer speaking. Therefore, it isn't her concern what your potential boyfriend and you are planning to do about your relationship.

She's probably looking for a way to sabotage your relationship-- or maybe just you. The only way to crack the truth out of this, is have them speak right in front of you. If she's so sure that he wants her, have her ask him what's up while you can see exactly what's going on between them so you can debunk this drama fest and move on.

Ex best friends are EX best friends for a reason.

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My name is Dwayne i am 19 years old and the girl who i think is the love of my life hename is shanice she's 15 years old, I can understand that she's yong and has no idea of how to handle a relationship.
I want to know how can i get her to love me again because i really love this girl and would not do anything to hurt her, since lately i can see that she start to moving away from me slowly.

Technically, there is no way to make anybody love you. It sucks, because I know I've been in situations where all I wanted was to make the other person know the way I felt, and feel it back.

But things in life are just never that easy. I'm sorry to say is if your girlfriend doesn't love you, then the signs of a real break up are starting to show.

All you can do at the point, is remind her how you feel, but not barracade it into her head[she'll get annoyed}.

In the mean time, don't drop every other possible good girl from your eye sight. You never know what might come along.

Take care!

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My bf and I just had sex for the first time a few days ago. I have not had my period for a couple of months now. Thinking its because i am slightly over weight. If we messed up on the protection some how without knowing, can i get pregnant?

A girl can become pregnant any time a penis is inside, or even near a vagina.

But, given your recent menstrual issue, it should be seen by a local doctor on what could be causing you to have months of no period. That's not normal.

A girl needs to have her period because it's your bodies way of cleansing out the system. A few things can change the way a period flows such as change in diet, excercise, and stress.

Have this checked out, not only will it help solve the no-period mystery, it'll calm your nerves about the aftermath of sex.

Take care!

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My boyfriend asked me out about a week ago. I like him alot, especially becuase we were very good friends a long time before he asked me out. So, im really comfortable around him and trust him 100%. Well, for some odd reason i keep worrying im going to do something to cause him to stop liking me, and then breakup with me. I have no idea why this is bothering me so much...after every time i talk to him ill think to myself, did i say something wrong? sometimes ill even think things like, im not good enough, how could he ever like me. Does anyone have any advice for this, because its really starting to make me sad =/

Your boyfriend is with you because he likes you. If you two were friends before hand, then he already feels something for you that appears to me, you don't see yourself.

If you continue to question your relationship-- then there's a chance that he'll start to as well.

Remember, that he has already evaluated you, and decided that you're the girl he wants to be with. If those feelings change, then there's nothing you can do about it. But don't bring yourself down until or if that comes to happen.

Keep your chin high, and know that he's with you because he WANTS to be.

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ive known this guy for almost 3 years and we were in junior high when we met but we are now in high school and we have been off and on since the first week i met him we got together after knowing him for 1 week. before that he was with my friend but she used him. every time i see him it feels like my heart is popping out of my chest and i dont know what to do. he likes my friend that used him 3 years ago and she likes him back and they always flirt and i cant stand to watch him do it...what should i do?

It sounds to me that this guy wants to have the best of both of girls. I've been in a situation similar to this, and unfortunately there's nothing that you can do that isn't going to take some work.

If you really like this guy and want answers, you're only going to get them by asking him straight up what his interests are. Don't let him sound like this victim, by saying that your friend was using him--because that's no excuse for a guy who still flirts with her anyway.

Either way, from what I read, it sounds like he's a bit of a jerk. Therefore, if your heart is really going nuts when you see him, enough to make you still want him, then tell him.

In the mean time, look around you and see what other guys are good or even better for you. Because even if you don't find something better, this other guy will see that your not hung up on him, and possibly try harder.

Good luck!

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I'm a worthless human being. I've been a worthless human being for a pretty long time, but I've just now come to accept it.

I've decided I want to die. However, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it. Perhaps it's the thought of pain, maybe it's the risk of failing at failing.

In any case, whatever some (Relatively) painless and (Relatively) reliable suicide methods, preferabley accessable to the common 20-something who doesn't work in a hospital?

I was actually saddened while reading this because you're obviously way too young to believe that things in your life cannot work out.

Find ways to lift your life because decided against living it. I doubt anyone is going to give you instructions of suggestions on ways to take your life. You need to find help in other places-- like from people you love, and professional doctors.

Keep your head up.

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Saturday night, a couple of my friends were hanging out in my basement celebrating a friends birthday. We couldn't throw it at her house because her parents were away for Mothers Day. Well were all laughing and playing videogames when my oldest brother Scott came home early from where ever he was, he came down stairs completely drunk and swearing at up saying everyone has to leave because he's going to bed. [[His room is downstairs]] And he started going off about how he owns down here because he pays rent and everything. My Dad was gone and Jason was over Natashas so I was like Scott shut up you came home early you can wait because you deffietly don't own down here! Well Scott ended up picking me up by my hair and like throwing me on the ground! So Cole stepped in and like attacked.. and he completely protected me from my intoxicated brother!!! Well my brother ended up telling my Mom Cole picked a fight with HIM and now my Mom is saying I can't see Cole anymore...
What do I do?

Okay, there's a few odds and ends here. First of all, your brother, if he's paying rent probably felt the authority to tell you all to leave-- especially since he must be older then you.

The other answer the this question made a lot of sense-- tell your mom the truth, and explain that even though the fight was immature, the story was one-sided, and she needs to hear you out.

If worst come to worst-- print out this entire Q&A. Show her how much is concerns you and how bad it would hurt if you she didn't understand your side and know that Cole means a lot to you.

Take care!

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okay, so i'm wierded out to tell my mom my personal issues so i'm just going to ask you all.

well. i have like a few white bumps around my vagina, like around the clitoris part, and i'm not sexually active, except getting fingered. but i was just wandering what it might be and if i need to go to the doctor. can i buy OTC stuff for it? thanks. :)

This could have something to do with the oil glands in and around your Vagina. If you do research for the symptoms you have, that's probably what you'll find. If that's all it is, then you don't have anything to worry about. But don't touch, or trying to pick at them- they may become infected.

If your vagina area has an odor, get it checked out. It could be a bacterial infection.

Hope i helped!

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Can I Can I get pregnant the day after my period has ended? Even if the guy did not release his sperm inside me?

You can get pregnant any time of any day-- period or no period.

Even if sperm doesn't get in, pre-ejaculation still can. Pre-ejaculation comes out a few moments before ejaculation. It can still get you pregnant, and it can still give you STD's.

Planned Parenthood is very confidential. If you go there for birth control or condoms, they access to your parent's is illegal if you don't want them to know.

Hope I helped!

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Hey, im 14/f and Im Thinking about getting hair extensions, I mean my hair isnt that short It's like on my shoulders, But I would like it to be longer, Like Middle of my back/a little bit above my butt.
But I just need to know 1) Where do you get them. 2) If I should get clip in or glue on 3) If they do it at hair salons

Thanks so much

Hair extensions are sold in beauty stores that are mad for hairdressers. If you don't know any, ask a local salon owner where he/she picks up their stuff.

Glue in extensions are okay, but they come out with conditioner... So if you're a fan of soft an smooth hair, don't do it.

Clip ins are your best bet-- but they're expensive.

If you have the extensions, a hairdresser will do them for you. But if not, it's not likely.

Hope I helped.

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when you give a guy a blow job are you actually sucking on his penis or moving your mouth up and down on it? or both? i want to surprise my boyfriend with one this weekend but i'm really nervous that i wont do it right. please help! (and please don't send a link to a website, i've looked at those and they make it sound so complicated
thanks!

First hand, I probably don't know enough. But I read up on my cosmo, and I have many guy friends. These are the basics:

It's not about sucking.. it's just moving up and down with a small amount of pressure closed in from the sides of your mouth.. if you put too much it could hurt, so be careful.

No teeth, but lots of tongue, twirling around the tip.

Trust me, if you're surprising your boyfriend for the first time with head, he's going to be wayy excited. Don't act like it's your first time, and he'll never question it.

Seriously, by cosmopolitan too.

I hope I helped a little bit, otherwise! =)

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I really appreciated your advice...especially the dumpster thing. I am going to do that any time i have a flair up. What is it about computers that aggravates the hypochondria? I would really like to know, cause I work on websites for people and do my websites and stuff,
I know tv has a lot of bad ads so I don't watch too much and i mute commercials. Thank you for your time.

Computers are bad for hypochondriacs because whenever we have these sudden feelings of death or dying.. we turn to research. I've spent endless amounts of hours online looking up reasons when I have t a headache, backache, dizziness.

It's a disease, and I'm telling your right now, that nobody around is going to understand you the way you need them to. Just be rational with yourself. You're young, so if anything was wrong with you-- you'd be able to fight it. Also, many illnesses and disorders are genetic, and obtain symptoms that you'd find in advance.

My therapist says that even though being a hypochondriac is a pain in the ass, it's also beneficial. A lot of people are too stubborn to go and get pain checked out-- or even physicals. Because we're so focused on staying healthy, we'll probably fight off any illness on a pedestal. =)

What we have is VERY common.. I didn't know then until I ended up in the Emergency room after my accident and the doctor told me. You're definitely not alone.


Keep in touch!

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Ok when I'm with a guy he always tells me about "oh this girl likes me, she does too, she likes me.. Oh these girls we're trying to talk to me, they said I was cute & but I told them I had a girlfriend." Blah blah and they tell about all their incidents with other girls why??

AND THEN.

When I talk about my incidents with other guys they get mad?

Weeeeeird.

He's looking for attention. By telling you this stuff, he's probably hoping you take more notice to the fact that he could be wanted by other girls. It's kind of an issue, and you should definately talk to him about it. Good luck.

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I was playing soccer and This guy pushed me and i slid across the grass and it felt like something was scraping along my leg like.. splinters (or bindies sp?). After a few hours or so, i looked onto my leg and saw about 10 - 30 "bite marks" at first they seemed like bindy.. marks but they still havn't gone after a day!

Can ANYONE tell me what this is, and how can i treat it without going to a doctor (trying to keep doctor as a VERY LAST RESORT).

THANKS IN ADVNCE.

Kronix

Check out www.webmd.com.. and go to "Symptom checker" click your leg.. and go from there. If you don't get an answer, go see your doctor.

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13/F/UK
I love computers, but, however, not considering Computing as a carrer.
But, i would like too have a website for Teenagers and make it a BIG hit around the world.
I havn't got any ideas of a site that can make wesites for free yet or ideas for names. I've seen alot of teen websites floating around and they look really good and they have staff and members etc.
Any ideas?
Anything will do.

Talk to a computer teacher at your school... they could probably point you in the right direction.

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ok so i have this friend her name is lizsandra. her recent boyfriend dumped her and he didnt tell her why he just said he wanted to be friends with her.so today at school she was in the girls bathroom making she was making herself through up and shes thinking of commmiting susicide what advice should i give her?

Report it to an authority figure. A teacher, parent, adviser. I know you might be worried about her being angry with you-- but her life is apparently on the line. She confided in you.. so she trusts you. Make the right decision for her.

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Will someone please help me with setting my rates of babysitting please and thank you =]

The ideal rate for babysitting is as follows.

$6-8/hr.+gas -1 child
$10-12/hr.+gas. - 2+ children


Never ask the parents how much they think you should take it. They'll scam you.

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how expensive is GreatLengths hair extensions?

and how expensive is HairDo by jessica simpson and ken paves snap in hair extensions?


please tell me how much both are around like price ranges for about 22" of hair or 24"

thank you

In stores, it's between $80 and $120. Over the internet, you're getting scammed by 200 bucks.

Try Trade Secret.

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Hi, I'm Jacky.
My life has been rough, because of me.
It got better, until I did stupid things, and now I feel like there's nothing else I can do to make it better, I just mess up more and more. The more I mess up, the more I look like a dumb ass.
First, I have a friend over and I sneak two guys downstairs at 11 at night, and my dad's caught us.
So, my dad and mom have absolutely no trust in me, what so ever. I actually think my family hates me, because I don't listen, and I do things I'm not supposed. I've been doing that, for the past years. Plus they found out I tried pot and I'm sexually active. So that's a huge minus. I get in huge fights with my parents, mostly with my dad. I feel like I just failed my family, honestly. I don't know how to talk or act around them anymore. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward.
And then, I reported this kid for selling drugs, which he sold them to me, and I told a teacher at school about it, and she ended up telling the principal on me, I thought I could trust her. Then I had to rat him out because of what I told my teacher, then I have to go to all this court shit and be a witness, which I don't really want to be. I wish this would've never happened, this kid is going to have a fucked up life with my involvement. What the fuck is wrong with me. It's all my fault. And I can't take it back. But that's my fault.
And 3rd, I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy. I couldn't stand my boyfriend, he's attracted to assholes, shit, and farts. And I'm being honest. He hits me. He's just a jackass. But he knows how to cover himself to make people believe him. But honestly, he was a huge part of my life. And now that's gone. But now I'm with the other guy, who hardly calls me, he says he thinks it's best because he doesn't want us to get too attached and end up being bored with each other. Now, I love talking on the phone, and really like him, but I don't know. I just think there's something wrong with me. I honestly think I'm hated by a lot of people. I do not know what to do with my life anymore. I'm really scared and stuck. I've cheated and lied before. And I've just been a bad person lately.
I wish I could've handled things differently. But, I didn't. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I've fucked up my life. I think a lot of people hate me too. But that's besides the point.
Please anybody, give me advice. I don't know how to start know, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore.
Thank you.

First of all, you are too young to believe that things aren't going to be okay. I'm sure that there are many other teenagers//kids.. that have or are going through what you're dealing with now.

If you really want your life to get better, you're the main factor. Once you stop causing trouble[even if it's not intentional]-- things will improve with your home and social life.

Everything you do now, if fixed, won't effect you at all in 5 years-- I promise.

Try counsoling, or seeing a social worker involved at your school.

Take care of yourself, and you'll be fine.

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I want to become some kind of creative writer whether it be a poet or some kind of author. I already have wrote alot of stuff...i just don't exactly know how to get it out there. Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.

Local newspapers can help. Also, network over the internet. Local libraries/book stores may have readings. Live your dreams.. good luck.

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