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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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i had sex about a week ago, i fear i may be pregnant.. is there any way of preventing this pregnancy thats over a week old? Besides abortion. Anything simpler or easier?
Thanks.
I am afraid the only options are having the baby or terminating it with an abortion. I wouldn't assume you ae pregnant because some infections may cause pregnancy like symptoms. If you see a doctor, it is part of their job to keep that information quiet unless you authorize it.
I just found out that I'm a few weeks pregnant and it's been pretty stressful trying to change my lifestyle around. I have stopped drinking and have cut down dramatically on smoking cigarettes. I know you're not suppose to do other drugs like weed so I have been staying away from my friends who do those things so I don't end up in a bad situation for my baby.
What else do I need to avoid though? What else is bad for my baby? I don't want to be taking something in my body that is harmful if I can avoid it and I don't want to be doing things that will risk my baby's health. Is it ok to exercise and stuff when you're pregnant too? I don't know anything about this...please give me some advice!
The only exercise I would suggest doing now would be walking. Also watch bumping into things and try not to fall down. Spicy foods can cause heart burn but it really depends on the person and what their body can intake. Drugs, smoking, and alcohol is given because it cause severe problems. I would suggest taking vitamins during your pregnancy or what they call prenatal vitamins. Try to avoid stress in anyway you can, the minimum thing that will happen is you will be put on bed rest but enough stress could kill the baby. Also eat lots of meat it helps build the baby's immune system to be strong. There are certain proteins that can only be found in meat like chicken, turkey, etc
I was adopted when I was little and I really want to meet the woman who gave birth to me. I'm curious about what she is like, especially since I spent a whopping 9 months inside of her :)
I don't know how to approach my parents about this though. I know my mom is going to cry because she's totally going to feel like I'm choosing my birth mother over her. I'm not though because my parents actually RAISED me and taught me stuff while my birth mother just, well, gave birth to me. I don't want to hide this from them either and I really do need their support.
I haven't really talked to my parents much about my birth mother to begin with because I'm nervous. How do I start asking questions about her to my parents who adopted me so that I can get on track to finding my birth mom?
Well, this is definitely something you should never hide from your family because in the end it will hurt more. Tell them that you love them and you hope that after what you are going to ask won't change how they feel. Tell them that lately you have been thinking about your birth mother and why she gave you up. Make sure you clarify that you still love them and no matter what they are your parents. You just need to make sure that you let them know that no matter what you uncover, you will always want to be with them. The first place you need to check is your birth ceritifcate, it should ahve your birth mothers name on it. After you check that, look at the hospital you were born in, they should still have records on her. The hospital might be able to tell you what adoption agency she used and go there and they should have information contacts on file for you to contact her with.
I've been pondering the idea of being homosexual for some time now. Last week I fully decided that I am really gay and that it's what I want to be. I've always been attracted to the same gender so it isn't too shocking to realize this about myself. I've dated a lot of people before (nobody of my same gender) but I've never been happy with anyone and I know this must be the real reason why.
My problem is that I want to tell my mom and my dad about me being homosexual before I tell anybody else. My mom probably won't like the fact that I'm gay but it's who I am, right? She'll understand that being a gay teen is hard though so I'm not afraid she's going to anything drastic like kick me out.
How do I tell my mom and my dad about my new-found sexuality without them freaking out? Should I tell them right away or should I hide it from them until I have a partner? Should I use slang terms like queer and fag around them so that they understand that they are terms that relate to me and not to joke about things like that? Just a thought I had...
What are your thoughts?
You should never hide who you are no matter what. Trust me, hiding your true identity will destroy yourself and eventually the people around you. The best thing to do is have a family meeting and say that you want to talk to them about something personal. "Start off with I love you both and I appreciate everything you have done for me. I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for you guys. Tell them that you have been thinking alot about your future and have come to terms with some things that may shock you. I am hoping that what I am about to say won't affect our relationship in anyway but I am gay. I know the first thing that you are thinking is am I sure and the answer is yes and that will never change". Or something along those lines. You don't want to hide who you are but feel completely comfortable about the person you are and embrace it to its full potential.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. Everything is going OK but I'm really just not happy with him being my boyfriend. We don't have anything in common and so it makes it hard to talk to each other since there isn't anything we're really both interested in. I'd rather just be his friend, I guess, because he's a good person but just nothing that makes us really compatible.
Last night we were on the phone and I knew I had to tell him my feelings about our relationship. I told him that I had been thinking of breaking up for awhile because I think we're better suited for different people and he totally blew up. He cried at first and I tried to calm him down but then he started talking about being depressed and that he can't stand to lose me. I was freaking out because I've never dealt with this before and he has never said anything about being sad like this before to me.
We talked some more and what it came down to is him saying to me that if I leave him that he will kill himself. His dad owns a gun and he knows where it is and how to use it. Last night he said he would go get it and blow his brains out while we were on the phone talking about breaking up. It really scared me because he was sounding serious about it.
I don't want him to kill himself and I especially don't want to be blamed for his death if he does commit suicide for some reason. I can't be in this relationship and I don't know how to get out now. I told him last night that I was sorry and that we would stay together but that isn't what I want at all. I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing now and starting up this kind of conversation with him again.
Please, help me, I'm trapped. What do I do now so that he doesn't hurt himself and so that I can move on?
The only way out is to savatage the relationship so he ends up breaking up with you instead of the other way around. If it is his idea, then he has no reason to kill himself. These kinds of situations are very scary and cannot be taken lightly. Majority would say, oh he doesn't have the guts but with the right motivation anyone is capable of doing it. Continue to feel depressed, feel sad around him, find an interest that keeps your mind off things that would take too much of your time. An example would be picking up an instrument such as guitar or even bass. If you find something you need to devote significant amount of time too, he will eventually see that you are completely unhappy and you don't really have any time for him. I am in a band and it consumes majority of my time sometimes in a bad way but it is also good because it helps release any feelings you have out and be consumed in your own little world. Other things you could do is write a book, scrapbooking, sewing, charity, etc. Remember if you want out without being trapped or him hurting himself, you need to convince him that he doesn't want you or that the relationship is straying in his eyes.
My boyfriend wants me to go on the birth control pill so he doesn't have to put a condom on when we have sex but I'm not sure if it's safe to do that. We really can't risk me getting pregnant so I want all of the information on this before I go on the pill so I know what needs to happen for us to be safe. I'm not against going on the pill or anything, but I do want to know if we'll be safe and protected if he doesn't wear a condom any more when we have sex. My boyfriend says as long as I take the pill every day then he won't have to wear a condom, but a friend of mine says she still makes her boyfriend wear a condom just be on the safe side even though she's been on the pill for like 3 months now.
Any info. is great info.
Thanks!
The risks are still the same whether to go on the pill or use a condom. It is in the best interest to do both to really increase the chances of not getting pregnant. My best friend made the mistake of just taking the pill and having him not wear one, she unfortunately just had her third kid. So the risks are probably not as good as doing both.
anyone know the print screen keybored shortcut for my compaq laptop ?
Actually there is a button in the far right corner at the top of your keyboard. My mine is three spaces from th left that says prnt scrn, press this button plus alt plus ctrl all at the same time. you should be able to paste your contents in microsoft word or something.
Hi Lee Ann!! You actually recently just answered my question about the guy I borrowed something to and wanted it back..thank you for that by the way!:)
There are a few things you should know - i'm sorry this may be long but I promise I will return the favor.
His name is Joe .. well I call him Joseph .. i'm like the only one who does .. it's just what I've always called him!! We've actually known each other for like 4 years now, and yes I'm still uncomfortable talking to him because he gives me butterflies.. STILL. When we were younger .. well a few years ago you know how people would be like ohhh your my boyfriend, husband ... just saying it w/one of your good guy friends? Well we would always be like you're my best friend!! To this day, we still call each other best friend, but we don't really act like it.
He use to text me saying how he wanted to get w/me and we would basically dirty talk .. and he's stopped that and I wish he would start it again. I just feel weird starting it because what if he stopped for a reason? When he does it, I know that he wants it. We have not done anything sexual though .. just the really physical flirting .. and he's gone down my pants but hasn't done anything beyond that. . but that was when he would like dirty text me .. and when we use to hang out alone once and a great while.
The last thing you should know is that I borrowed him these handcuffs I had. I never used them before (he doesn't know that haha) but when he asked to borrow them I was like sure why not!! Me, being the dumb one not thinking about how he was going to use them .. but I was dumbfounded because I would honestly do anything for that kid. And please don't judge me .. people would be like why would you let him borrow that?? It's not like he is a stranger .. I trust him w/them .. so please don't judge me about that.
Anyways .. wow I'm so sorry this is long. But I actually ended up texting him tonight. I had it all planned out .. and then it ended up getting late so I panicked and this was our conversation ...
Me: Do you still have my handcuffs?
Him: Haha yes
Me: Thanks for not giving them back!! I forgot you had them until today .. and I realized it's valentines day tomorrow and you get to have them for that jerk!!
Him: Hahaha
Me: Thanks for looking out for me
Him: Always
Me: More like never
Him: Always
Me: You better check yourself on that one (I say this because it seems like I'm always the one who does everything for him .. but he's a typical guy)
Him: Why?
Me: Awe it's Valentines day! (It was like 12:30 haha) Happy Valentines Day Joseph!! Lol
Him: Haha thanks .. you too
Me: I'm going to bed .. I expect my toy back soon! Goodnight
Him: Haha alright goodnight
and that was it. I said I was going to bed because I panicked and didn't know what else to say. I honestly don't even care about getting them back .. it's basically an excuse for me to talk to him and eventually see him.. you know?? And I was kind of disappointed when he was texting me because it didn't seem like he said much .. but thats how he always is.. and how I know most guys are when they text.
I just don't know what to think from here.. Just by texting do you think it went okay? I feel like I just want him physically, which may be bad but I want him somehow!! Haha. I'm so confused :(
Don't second guess it, he means that if you ever needed a favor, he will be there. If you asked him to do something, he would do it. Theres nothing wrong with wanting a physical relationship, you probably feel that way because your already have an emotional one to him already. As far as the item of the handcuffs, I won't judge you because there are worse things people can have. I know this may sound weird but you can always ask if he has used the handcuffs, maybe say i wish you would use them with me, or even say I have a key to some handcuffs but it would seem I can't lock anyone up because I don't have the cuffs :). Those are just some ideas, once you get started, it is really hard to stop but eventually you will get use to it. Your right, guys don't always say much and to be perfectly honest he responds exactly like one of my old friends and my brother with the haha and stuff. In today's society, it is up to the woman to do all the work because when it comes to hinting, men are completely clueless. It is to say that they are completely oblivious to things outside their world.
What are good sites to video blog on? Safe ones, that have an option of privacy, just for my personal venting?
Thanks.
youtube is probably the safest one you will find. they have different options when you post your video and stuff.
i'm having a hard time knowing who i am right now.
like personality wise. i don't know who i am or who i want to be.
am i nice or a bitch? do i want to be open-minded or what?
i just don't know who i am anymore. i really need some advice on how to 'find' myself.
i'm kinda scared.
I spent years trying to find myself but the secret to finding yourself or your true self is to try out different things. I went from scrapbooking, to writing, to playing musical instruments, to teaching, and also giving advice. I tried out different subjects and did different things just to find out what I love to do. I figured out that I love to help others but I want them to learn something as well so I am studying to be a music, spanish, and english teacher. Once you find that thing you love to do, the personality that you have been searching for will develop from it. The best thing to do is explore and try out different things until you find your knack.
18/female.
You should know that when I like I guy .. I distant myself and won't talk to him unless he texts/calls me first .. yeah I know doesn't get me far at ALL .. but I can't break it.
So.. there is this guy i've liked for so long .. we flirt all the time but don't get to see each other that often since we're both busy. We don't go to the same school either .. he's actually a yr younger than me. I haven't talked to him in like three weeks :(
ANYWAYS - my problem is that I had borrowed something to him about a month ago and had never gotten it back. I actually forgot he had it until now. I feel bad just texting him saying "do you think I could have it back?" To me, that just sounds kind of like a bitchy move .. but maybe its just me because I think everything sounds dumb when I'm talking to a guy I like. I remember telling him a few weeks ago he could have it for another week .. but then I needed it back and he was like haha okay .. but then I forgot about it and obviously he hasn't said anything. We never text each other just saying like "hey" so that would be strange for me to do .. and then ease my way into asking for it back.
I don't know what to do .. how can I ask for my stuff back without me seeming like a retard. I could say something like I forgot you had it .. but then what .. but now I remembered and it'd be nice to have it back??
I look into things way too much .. but could someone please help me on what to just text him saying ... because then after I ask him it'd be nice to talk to a little bit .. so I don't really just want to be like do you think you could give it back to me? Because he'd probably just be like "yeah"
You see this item as a way to lose him but it can used to your advantage..this is item ties you two together. Depending on the item, you would probably need to use the item so you could say, "hey i know that i said you could keep the item a little longer but i was kind of wondering if you could give it back because i really need to use". maybe he can come by your house and drop it off. When he comes to the door, invite him in, and ask if he wants to stay and hang out for awhile. I distance myself from the people I care about also and it is almost impossible to breka out of that habit. The best thing to do is to try and put in effort into being friends with the guy. Just because he hasn't put in an effort doesn't mean he isn't interested, maybe he likes a woman who takes charge. I would just pace myself and take it one step at a time.
hey.. so im 16f and wanting some advice on a guy and sex.. so ive known this guy, lets call him john, for a while and we've liked eachother on and off,we havnt talked alot he moved and cuz i started talking to one of his friends which i still am. but me and john want to hangout soon and first im debating on wether i should or not.. me and him always had the emotional aspect of a relationship but we never experienced the physical with eachother. so i know if we hangout we're going to get physical, and i want to have sex with this guy but i cant, im a virgin and i dont want to be that easy and other reasons, so how do i know when were about to have sex..? like are there specific things that he will do that shows like hes ready to have sex. and when we are about to, how can i stop that from happening without like crushing him and killing the moment? lol. other than that i want to get physical with him, just NOT regular sex.
Well certain signs start from specific places like in the movies, drive-in, or being completely comfortable on the couch are the most crucial places sex will be engaged. If you are looking to just just makeout or stuff i would suggest sitting upright on the couch. If he is trying to get you to lay down then use your force to continue kissing but make yourself upright again. Another sign could be him rubbing his hand on your stomach then slowly lifting your shirt, if this hands simply move position or sides. Its all about being aware and then shifting your position.
so when i go to use facebook on my phone it comes up with the log in page so i do the password and email part an press log in but then it just keeps coming up with the same thing saying '' entering secure connection continue ? '' so if i press yes it just comes up with the log in page again and im back to the start but if i press no it does nothing, i have the lg cookin by the way. anyone no how to fix this ? :)
Ok, on your phone near the place where you type in the website there should be a section where you can delete caches and cookies. You want to do this because if you don't it will mess up the internet connection and most likely one of the cookies has been infected with a virus. Also you want to delete your history because too many websites could slow the connection down. If a slow connection is the case, you won't get to the website. This happens to my phone all the time.
I'm 18 and a female, and i really like this one guy that i work with and he's my friend on facebook. About a week ago, i told him over facebook that i like him, but he never responded, does this mean he doesnt like me. I thought he did too and so did my friends because he would always do the thing that guys do when he looks at you then you look at him and then he turns away, he's always seemed like he was interested in me too, and now i dont know what to do. I just want to know if he could still like me or something, please help! Thanks!
A man likes a challenge, he assumed he couldn't have you so he consistently flirted to try and win you. Once you told him that you liked him, the game was over and he won you way to easily. A way to show him the game is back on is to play hard to get. You want to keep him interested by still liking him but also not letting him have you for a little while. If you have ever seen the movie "John Tucker Must Die", you will notice that the main character pretending to like John has to play hard to get because then he wouldn't be interested.
hey, my boyfriend gave me a really pretty ear ring and necklace set. Its gold and has a pretty blue topaz stone at the bottom and a baby diamond and there is gold little swish on it too. I'm not sure where he got it and that's the problem. I lost the ear rings and I want to replace them so that he doesn't know that I lost them. There is a little JCM printed on the clasp. either that or JCH?
do you know of anywhere that is called that? or something? any idea of where I can replace them? thanks so much
It is the makers mark, it can't be determined from that where you got it from because different parts have different markings. Maybe look for another marking of some sort. If JCM is the only thing on it then you can email the directly to the manufacturing company. Also there is another jcm intial called jewelry by collen marie, it might be the place he ordered it from. Here is the link to her main website.
http://www.jewelrybycolleenmarie.com/
hi .. ive been dating this guy for 5 years now im now 21 years old and im starting to get the feeling that i done even know if i really want to be with him and its getting confusing i feel like our relationship is so systematic nothing new is happening and i dont know if i really want to spend the rest of my life with him he is a good person and everything but i feel like im missing alot of things i dont feel loved hes not good at showing emotions and i feel like i need to feel in love not just kknow it as a fact im afraid of leaving him then regretting it and i dont want to hurt him we should be getting engaged next year im thinking maybe then ill feel happy but what if i dont i really dont know what to do plz answer as soon as possible
What you need to do is make a pro/con list. Write down the things you lke about the relationship and the things you don't like about it. From what I am reading you have more cons than pros You seem to want to move forward with a relationship while he seems to want to keep things the same or monotone. For someone in their fourties that would be ok but for someone your age, it is kind of boring. You need to have fun and let loose, it doesn't seem like you will get that sort of thing from this guy. Feeling bad about brekaing up with him and the regrets therafter make you human and also a very good person. In this kind of situation you need to figure what you want and what you want alone...leaving everyone else out of your decision. This is because what makes him happy doesn't necessarily mean it will make you happy too. If wanting to try something new is something that you truly want to do then you won't regret leaving him. Don't force yourself to be happy when your not. Evaluate your pro/con list very careful and think about what you really want.
I own a dell laptop and when I go to the start menue and click shut down, log off,lock, restart, sleep, or hibernate nothing happens. Then to turn it off I have to click the power button everytime. But once I turn the laptop back on, it has the same time and date as the last time i was on it. Will someone please let me know how I can fix this? Thanks
Try this: taking the battery out from the bottom of the laop, wait 10 mintes, blow both the battery and the space where the battery can out of. Next put the battery back in, turn the computer on, and then try to shut down...hopefully it will lt you. If it still doesn't work, they didn't put the shut down mode onyour harddrive so you will have to take it in where you bought it. They either will have to add it to the harddrive or give you a different computer.
heyy, anyone got any ideas to do my make-up for new years? with my eyeliner or eyeshadow if you have any
good ideas shoooot thanks
It is god to give the natural look but it also gets the job done too. You want to put your foundation on, then put lotion over tope of it. In case of any kissing, you want your face to smell good, feel soft, and it also helps blend in the foundation. If you very light skin then youwould want to use a tan r light brown eyeshadow then put a light color overtop like light purple. If you are tan then a medium brown with a medium shade above it. Blush should be pinkish or light red, it helps bring out the check bones. Black mascara will help bring out your eyelashes and black eyeliner is always good. It helps keep focus on all the areas instead of just one. For lipstic light pink or clear is always best. IF you use a color put clear lipgloss overtop of it to give the shiny glow.
we would be togeather all the time it would drive my dad crazy we would wacth moves till 2.00 am we would fall asleep in the same bed holding hands he would tell me every thing but then he started going out with my bestfriend one day when we were all togeather he told me he loved me and when him and my other friend broke up i would be his next girlfriend then we started to kiss over and over but he was drunk when he told me this they broke up but me and him never happend we dont even talk any more i just dont know what to do
He probably remembers what he said and feels like it wasn't the best thing to do. Alcohol has a way of bringing out the truth in someone. He was probably scared to let his feelings free. The day after it happened you should have talked to him about it. He probably feels like you don't feel the same way because you didn't confront him about it. Boys are very tricky, the sound of true commitment scares them to death. He is probably hiding, and waiting for you. The thing to do now is confront him about it. Go up to him and say can we talk, ask when you were drunk you sid some things, and we kissed. I want to know if you meant them and if you still feel that way because I do.
i have a pretty good voice. not trying to brag but thats the fact.
however, i am absolutely TERRIFIED of singing in front of anyone...like i don't know why, i'll sing with my friends like jokingly and stuff but i don't sing seriously...but i kind of want to. and my ex boyfriend is really into singing and when we were dating i promised him that i'd sing to him but we broke up shortly after...but i kinda want to....soo how can i overcome this fear?
The first thing when trying to sing professionally or doing it ias a profession is the startng audience. The first step is gathering cover songs to do and rehearse them until you know them to the t. If you want guiatrists, bassists, and drummers to back you up it would be good to get a band. IF you want to see how things go by yourself thats good too, the first place you would probably want to sing in is a nursing home. You would have a large audience but the old people kind of are doing their own thing, in constant need of assistance, and it is continously chaotic. This is a good place because you won't be their focus but they will enjoy the music. This is great especially if you are trying to get the jitters of performing live out of the way. Another way is inviting a group of friends and playing sing star. I guarantee if you can sing on expert on that your voice will be golden. The more people you invite, the more comfortable you will be about performing. Once you have done all of these things then you can start with writing your own lyrics and songs. Its all about practice, attitue, and faith that you will do well.