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Q: i want to wear a strapless bra do they hurt casue i havnt worn one b4 lol isnt this stupid but i wnat to no and do they feel the same?

i dont no where to put this but ya!

No they dont hurt at all. No, they feel different, like sometimes the bra goes down(and you have to lift it up every few minutes, its annoying) if you dont tighten it just right.

Q: we were together for two and a half years and have been through a marine corps deployment and came out even stronger. she broke up with me cause i was not helping out with the bills. i have made many changes with my money and have now paid all my bills off. i understand her reason for breaking up with me. but are relationship was extremly good exept for that one part. all though she has kicked me out she has not asked for my key back or to get my stuff out. i have sent her flowers and we went out to dinner. whe have plans for tomorrow and i dont know if i should ask her what is going on with us or not. also is she just playing me know cause if i get my stuff she will not have a kitchen table, couch's, entertainment stand and a bed for her sister to sleep on. i want to work this out but dont know how long to hang around. thanks b

Talk to her, ask her if your going to get back together soon. If your not gonna go out again, then since you feel so bad about taking your stuff. Why not just sell it to her? that way she gets to have all the stuff and you'll have money for new furniture. Hope i helped, good luck

Q: hey...theres this guy who I just met but he goes to the school in the town next to mine...anyway...we hit off really well bc weve only talked for about a week N I like him N he likes me...last nite I was talkin to him on the phone N he said that he was 18...I was suprised bc he doesnt really look like 18 N then he asked if I had a problem with it...I said no bc I think age doesnt matter...but Im only 14 N he was askin how my parents would feel if they knew...then today I was thinkin bout it N now Im kinda worrying...but maybe its just bc I never liked an 18 year old...I kno this isnt really a question but Id just like to hear oppinions of wut ppl think bout age differences...or if anyone has been in this situation...thanx!

Age differences are ok i guess, as long as you guys like eachother who cares what people say. But keep in mind, older guys usally go out with 12, 13, 14, and 15 year olds to get sex.

Q: Does anyone know of any website counters that can tell you who visited your site specifically (not just as # but like a screen name) Thanks so much. I'll rate you all.

http://www.sitemeter.com/

Q: Hey Sherry. you give awesome advice! I am so obsessed with your column LOL! I need help. This guy likes me and I dont like him but he's a good guy. He said he would ask me out soon, but I dont want to hurt his feelings. What do I do?

Thanks for the compliment! Hehe:) Anyway, I think you should tell him that you dont like him and that he's a good guy and all but you dont want anything more than a friendship. Because if you dont tell him, how embarrased will he feel when he asks you out and you say no?

Q: i love my boyfriend so much and he says he loves me but we barly talk maybe its because we live far apart i dont know. what should i do?

Try to talk to him more. IM him and call him, a lot..and when you can, hang out with eachother. Thats all you can really do but yeah it works!

Q: Homecomings coming up which means the dance, the pep rally, and the bon fire. One of the best weeks of school. And its great cause I actually have someone to go with to the dance. :) I need a dress though still. So my question is, what can I do during homecoming to make the best of it? And whats a good kind of dress to wear? Or even just say if your goin this year to urs or a past experience. I want this homecoming to be really memorable, especially cause of the guy Im with now. :)

A tube top dress, or a speghetti stap dress! And have all your girl-friends meet up somewhere so you can do your hair and nails together. And then yeah, have dinner afterwards or hang out at someones place. Have fun at the dance!

Q: Like the title says...
This is just an opinion thing. I'm curious as to what you all think. I'm turning 17 in 5 days, if it matters ^_^.
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and I still feel like I have a crush on him...
Lol I mean, I get nervous before picking up the phone and dialing his number...I get butterflies in my stomach when I see him...I hear his voice and I smile...
We're totally in love, and all that. He's told me he feels the same way, though not quite as strongly as I do (the "crush" thing, not the love thing.) Is it weird that I still have a crush on the guy I've been with for almost a year?

Maybe a little, you could just be scared of lsoing him since you like (or love him) so much. And its not a bad thing, shows him and you that your still intrested after all this time. Oh and happy birthday!

Q: Ok i have a boyfriend and this is a long distance relationship!he lives in iowa and i live in minnesota. so we are about 6 hours away from each other. We resently havent talked for almost two weeks and i know it doesnt seem long. i know its hard for him to get on with sports and homework and stuff and i understand that but i dont know if he doesnt want to talk to me or if he even likes me anymore.i love him so much and he says he loves me too but i just dont know what to do. am i just freaking out for no reason or what? can you please help me i have no clue of what to think or how to talk about this with him. ~Thanks~

You guys dont call eachother? Well anyway, just wait it out and if he doesnt try to contact you within a few weeks..I'd be worried. Start IMing his friends and emailing him or emailing his friends. From my personal experience, after one month of not talking to this guy I started asking his friends what was up-and he had decided to stop talking to me. So yeah, good luck.

Q: I am really sick and tired being made fun off when I talk because of my accent. I always feel as if I can stand up for myself, that is until I face the problem. I am cool with most people or so, but i feel as if i need to find this one friend i can share everything with. But there is no one who I truly trust. I try to talk with my mom but she nevers sees my point. Sometimes I am just afraid to tell her somethings because of her way of taking things to seriously. So I try to talk to god it helps but I still feel as if I need let it all out to someone physically. I try to be true to myself but sometimes that gets hard especially being a freshmen. I am afraid to go and find a guy because i don't like rejection. I feel as if I just can not be myself infront of my peers. Even though I am very outgoing and I never get boring.
If anyone has any advice or suggestions on how to feel confident around my peers despite the way I talk, or how to stop myself from always feeling rejected, please say so.
P.S. I tried writing, it doesn't help.

You shouldent be feeling weird around people just because you have an accent, most people think accents are cool and then they ask where your from, and all that. Maybe you should join a sports team, or school club to find new peers and maybe you'll find a really good friend from that. You just need to tell yourself that no-one will judge you because you talk differently-because they wont judge you. Hope I helped a little!

Q: What exercises can I do to tone my stomach as fast as possible?

Pilates-Get the Pilates video at Wal-mart. Its about $10!

Q: How do you scrunch ur hair?

I dont suggest doing what "i am nobody to you" said. She's probably talking about something else but the real way to scrunch your hair is, well first off.. Make sure your hair is wet, but not damp! you use moose. Shake your moose can for about 2 min, and apply lots and lots of it in your hand. Then put all the moose in your hair and let your hand grab peices of hair and tighten your fist. When your done with scrunching it, it should look a little curly. Then apply lots of hair spray, and wait a few hours and your hair will be pretty-ful!

Q: I can do just about anything with my hair.I can scrunch it, straighten it, put it up just name it and I can do it with my hair but tomorrow is picture day and I don't know what to do with my hair. I was thinking of scrunching it. I also don't know what to wear. Any suggestions?
thanx!

Yeah, scrunching hair is totally the new thing haha. Colors that are cute now are hot pink, baby blue, turqoise, a light green and light pink.

Q: Hey, I've noticed a lot of people's icons. I think they're so cute! Where do you guys find them, or if you make them, could you please explain how?? Thank you so much!

Go to these sites: http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_r_great and i love this one http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=ShimmerSweets ... hope i helped

Q: i have a friend that constantly bugs me about her weight. shes not fat or anything and i dont think she needs to lose weight and if she does..the maximum weight she needs to lose is about 5-7 puonds.. she asks me if theirs any good diets that will make her lose wieght fast. i really want to get her to shut up (not being mean)and be happy with her weight so if anyone knows of anything besides excersising, like a good diet for instance, then please help me thanx for the help in advance..

Tell her if she really wants to lose weight, all she has to do is eat less protions and exercise more. And next time she complains tell her to shut up because your sick of hearing it. And yes its mean, but she gets annoying so yeah.

Q: hello everyone!

15/f/california

ok well here is my question does anyone know a few really good diets that work! my problem is that i love carb (bread and such...) and i really really want to lose 5 lbs. i know i know no junck food or soda of any kinda and exercise but i do all that fun stuff and i havent lost anything, iv asked my friends but they give me speaches on how i dont need to lose weight.

thanks everyone
_lisa

My cousin lost 7 lbs in one week doing this. Eat your regular 3 meals but dont eat any junk-food in between and just drink water. thats it! It works too!

Q: I really want ot be popular..can you give me some tips? DONT tell me to be myself or tell me popularity doesn't matter, ive heard that enough. I want real tips. Thanks!

Just be nice to everyone. And talk to people,and invite them places. Really all you can do!

Q: i need a job and ive passed out flyers for babysitting but forget that... im 14 do u think theres a job out there for my age

No, thats like child labor. haha but you can ask some fast food places..other than that its usally 15 and 16 year olds.

Q: HI!
15/f california :)

ok well see i want to get a job cuz i dont like how i have to get my shitttt aproved by my parents b4 i get it with their money. But most importantly cuz i got my cell phone taken away and it has been said that i wont get another one under their pocket.so i want to get a job but i am only 15 and my birthday isnt untill february 6th. does anyone know of places wheir they know 15yr old can work.
thank you.

You can be a bagger at a grocery store, fast food, or you can work at Cold Stone creamery or Dairy queen..Hope I helped!

Q: it took me almost a year to get over my ex boyfriend and even then i still wasn't all the way over him..i loved him so much and i still do only i was moving on sorta but now all the sudden im having tons of dreams about him and like all of them are of me and him being together and bein happy and shit, its freakin weird. i miss him so much..like hes my world and he makes me feel like i can be myself and he wont judge me or anything. i have no idea what to do. please dont tell me to move on because my hearts telling me not to. my bffl is neighbors with him and me and her and other people are going to this 4 story haunted house around halloween and shes bringing her boyfriend (most likely) and i want him to go..is that stupid even though we aren't together? should i try and make things work between us or what should i say/do??? thanks sooo much.

If you still want him, go for it. Ask him if he still likes you and if he wants to go out with you again. Tell him you miss him and that you dont want to move on. So yeah, ask him if he still likes you and go from there. Good luck!