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how could i pleasure myself in bed

I'm not exactly a "masturbaying expert" ..so if you dont find me helpful..go to google.com and search for techniques. What i hear from Talk Sex With Sue Johanson (tv talk sex show) is to experient until you find what works for yourself. If your into toys..then go for it..if not work it. It will work if you work it..as they say lol. everyone has something that they like..some might watch porn while doing it..some may lay in the dark an fantasize..find what works for you and thats the best i can tell ya
hope i helped out

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I like how you answered my other question so I'll ask u another!! I used to have this friend before she met this sluet and now she is friends with her...and not me!1 what should I do?

Aw thanks.Has this happened recently? Friends go in phases. They drift apart sometimes for awhile..and sometimes they are closer than ever. Talk to her..and if shes a true friend she'll listen to what you have to say . Maybe she hasnt realized that she totally has been ditching you. You cant control who she hangs out with..but you can let her know that your hurt and you want to still be best friends. Just be straight out honest because thats the way to get the problem solved. Good luck with it!
-meliss

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O-k my boyfriend is so cool.... but lately he's been acting differently. as if he wants more from me!! what should I do?

The only way you should give him "more" is if you want to. If your not completely ready to ..then dont! I owuld sit him down and ask whats wrong..let him talk with you.. If he says " want to go further" and you dont want to..then tell him you dont and he needs to respect that!
-melissa-

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I was hanging out with a group of my friends the other day after school. We were just hanging out having a good time and one of my friends pulls out a joint and lights it. She started passing it around our group of friends and everyone took a puff of it but me. I basically just stood there confused. These innocent girls that I had known since I was 6 years old had just lit up a joint and smoked it. I am completely disgusted by drugs and drinking and I will never do it because it's the worst thing you can do to yourself. They started making fun of me that I wouldn't smoke it. I wasn't hurt that they were making fun of me, but I was just hurt at their stupidity for smoking it. I don't know what to do. They've been my friends for a very long time and have always been loyal to me, but this is something I can't handle. What should I do? Should I tell them they should stop? I'm so confused! Please help.

I know some people are going to say "talk to an adult and get them help"...but in reality..not many people do that. Of course i would tell them to stop. Sometimes they need someone to tell them what they are doing is wrong for them to stop. Sometimes we get caught up in the wrong stuff...but i think your friends will snap out of it. The yare true friends..but right now threy took the wrong turn off the "path" as i call it. Keep being their friend..tell them you hatre seeing them like this and how you think drinking and drugs are crap. Hopefully they will come back to the path..but if not you have a descision to make. You can either chose to be theor friend but let them know you wont have anything to do with drinking/drugs..or if you feel you have to..you can leave them behind and make new friends.
I would stick by em for now
-melissa-

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Well,where should I start? My parents split up when I was 5 1/2. I have moved about 6 or 7 times.My dad doesn't pay child support.My parents call each other retards,bitch,idiot,bastard,loser,and so much more.Now we live in an one bedroom apartment with my grandmother.we don't have enough money for me to buy a skirt or somethin.My mom pretty much depends on me for money.I don't do that good in school either,and i think it's cuz of all the stress.Now i don't no what I should do. SOMEBODY HELP!!!!!!!
.:.Ashley.:.

If life is getting you down this much..have you ever considfered foster care? Also consider talking to a school counselor. Hang out with friends ..and motivate yourself to succeed in school. If you ucceed..you wont have the same troublesome life your mom has. You have to stay positive and dont give up because the more positive you stay..and the harder you work in school..the more successful you'll be in ~life~
-melissa-

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my friend is having her birthday party tonight, she invited a few of my other friends that arent really friends with her, but this girl didnt invite me and we are really good friends and it kind of makes me jelous of my other friends and a little mad at this girl... what should i do to feel better??

yeah i feel you. someone once invited all my friends (they dont even talk to her)and didnt invite me..(not like i talk to her either lol)
But what i would do is to hang out with friends you have but you dont usually hang out with. It will keep you busy and it will be a lot of fun! After you hang out with them maybe you'll start hnagin out with them more! Do your thing..dont sit home!
-melissa

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hey whats up i have read some ? you answered any ideas what i could use to have some fun with myself ......

I'm not exactly a "masturbaying expert" ..so if you dont find me helpful..go to google.com and search for techniques. What i hear from Talk Sex With Sue Johanson (tv talk sex show) is to experient until you find what works for yourself. If your into toys..then go for it..if not work it. It will work if you work it..as they say lol. everyone has something that they like..some might watch porn while doing it..some may lay in the dark an fantasize..find what works for you and thats the best i can tell ya
hope i helped out
-melissa

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how do become more happy and try to make my life less boring.. i feel like i do the same thing every single day .??

I feel exactly what your talking about.They key is to change things up a litte. Do something you wouldnt normally do..like join karate..a gym...or a club. Make new friends and hang out with them. Maybe even hang out with one of your friends you dont normally hang out with outside of school. You'll be suprised how much fun you'll have and it could lead to a new friendship. go somewhere you dont usually go..like a club..bowling alley..anywhere! Maybe on the weekend wake up and do something different like go on a long walk while listening to your cd player. Its the little stuff..but it makes a difference!
-melissa

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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks

Well how was your friendship before all of this? if it was generally good and you didnt have a lot of problems with her..i would give her the benefit of the doubt and let her calm down. If you have had problems with her in the past..then i would think about hanging out with other people. Try talking to her on AIM...or on the phone..or in person..even a letter. Just ask her to hear you out! Maybe after she listens to you she'll realize she was jumping to conclusions. Tell her to trust that your telling the truth because your her best friend! After you tell her everything you wanted to say..leave her be for awhile so she can reflect and have time to think. Let her come to YOU. If she doesnt..then shes not a true friend. But i think she will eventually.
rate me if you like.
I hope everything goes well
-melissa-

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Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
Please help

he's your bf so he should understand and respect you. Tell him you dont want to do anything until your completely ready..and if he likes/loves you..he should be ok with that and wait. He shouldntt pressure you or anything..if he does then there is a problem. I would just be honest with him. When you get on the topic..just come right out and say your not ready and tell him exactly how you feel. Be honest and he should respect you for that.
-melissa-

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u see, i write peotry.....i really like this girl so i wrote her a poem....i read it to her at a party...she splashed coke in my face...i cryed.....wat should i do????

it was really sweet what you did..buut you have to get over her. She sounds like a bitch! I dont care if i like the guy or not..but any guy who would do that for me...would make me very happy! you need to get over her because you desserve a lot better than that. You'll find a girl who will be swept off her feet when she meets you..and thats the type of girl you desserbve. So keep your chin up..stay positive..but most of all..forget the other girl!!

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ok me n my bf started making out last week and hes the first guy iv made out with and i think i might be his first too so anyways all weve done is liek frenching and iv nibbled his neck and hes bitten my nose... but thats it.. what else should we do? if u hav any liek tips... plz tell me!

hat all depends on how far you want to go. If your kinky you can succk his fingers..he can feel you up..kiss you *there*..oral..touching places like fingering or jacking him off. he can give you a hickey..or you guys can just cuddle!
-melissa

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Im 13/f. I went out with this guy last summer but then we broke up. Recently I think that i made a mistake by breaking up with him. And i do want to go back out with him but he has a girlfriend now, but he told one of my friends that he likes me. What should I do?! Should I tell him how I feel? plz help!

Tell him how you feel but dont try and break them up. That can get really messy. Just let him know how you feel..and then leave it up to him. If he wants to go out with you he'll break up with his gf. If not..then it wasnt meant to be.
-melissa-

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Well you see I have dated this kid many times and the last time we broke up was because we were going to schools different from eachother, but then he asked me back out after he realized we talked and saw eachother alot more then expected... and i think i love him and we tell eachother that we do, but I have a crush on a boy that goes to my school who I think flirts with me. And i had a dream last night that the kid I like picked me up and swung me around in a hug and kissed me on the cheek.. and he chose me out of alot of different girls. i don't know what to do?

I would dump your bf. The guy at your school seems to like you..and you would see more of each other. As for the other guy..maybe you can still be friends?
-melissa-

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Hey...im a 14 year old bisexual and i want to have intercourse with the same sex...and i also want to tell my parents but i dont know how they will act... :( im kinda worried..

Signed..14 year old bi guy

OK it depends what kind of beliefs your parents have. if they are really christian, conservative/republican, they might have a hard time with it at first. When you tell them they may go in denial and insist that your confused and your too young. They can react several ways..they may be verry angry..or they may be verry accepting. I dont think you should wait because keeping things in when you want to tell someone isnt a great idea...although in this situation waiting would be ok but i can see your ready to tell.
Wait for the right time when nobody else is around. Sit them down and have a serious talk with them. Things might be bumpy for awhile but i think after they adjust they'll be ok with it
-melissa-

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ok this might be kinda long but pls read this and pls help me please !! im goin crazy !!ok theres this guy jak and we started as friends cause me and his sister allie are like good friends we go evry friday night to the movies ) so that friday night we both went to the movies and were hangin around and stuff again and we went and watched a movie and he sat by me well evry time we moved seats i would follow him and sit right next to him or he would follow me and sit right next to me !! so then i found my friend and there was 4 of them and only plus me and jak and there were only 3 seats so one girl got her own seat and the other girls shared a seat and it was me and jak left right so we shared a seat and then after a while i started thinking i really like him alot ( i didnt noe that though before cause i hadnt known him that long probably i had hung out with him for about 2 weeks ) but ya so my friends i didnt tell them that i liked him but they could tell so they were like we will pay u 2 bucks if u kiss him and i was liek ok so i made sure he would kiss me to and he said ya so i turned around and kissed him !! and so he was like smiling and evry thing so we were hangin around and then i had to go find my brother and so while i was gone my friend asked if him if he like me and he was like ya so they told me when i came back out of the movie thing and he had to go skate with his friends so thye asked me if i liked him and i was like ya so my bff spent the night at my house and we were callin allie his sis and he answered the phone and said she wasnt there so we talke dot him from 10:30 pm to 4:00 am !! and while talking he asked me out and i said ya so that how it started and so we went out for about 3 weeks and then he broke up with me right after x mas when i got bak it was like jan 1st maybe well he had his sister break up with me for him !! and i was crying and crying cause i really liked him and now i cant get over him like i always go to her house to do stuff with her and hes there evry time i go or if i go some where like to the movies or some where else hes there so it makes it so much harder for me to see him have a good time without me flirting with other girls not big time but just a lil flirt and me being heart broken over him !! i cant get over him !! i love him and not puppy love i mean i love him and he knows i still like him buti dont think i have another chance with him though. and dont just say get over him cause its not that easy to do !! cause i love this guy amd its to hard to let him go !! what do i do to get over him or better to get bak with him !! pls help me im heart broken and i need help please give me advice !! thanks alot !!

Aww..I feel your pain. And about the additional info you wrote..dont worry 3 weeks is nothing.It took me a loong time to get over somebody i once knew.Well did you talk to him or one of his friends to find out WHy he broke it off with you? Maybe hes confused and he'll come back to you. You cant make him go back out with you..he has to want to do it on his own. To get over him..hang out with your friends a lot and try not to talk about him. Have a girls night out and eventually you'll end up not thinking about him for the whole night until you go to bed. Start looking around in school for cute guys. Join the gym,a team, karate, etc. it will get your mind off of him. The more you sit around bored doing nothing..your mind will drift back to him..
Time will heal you..its going to take time to get over him but you will
-melissa-

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im failing and have no idea what to do!

I know how you feel..im on the border line in math and its overwhelming. I stay after school a LOT..i ask tons of questions..spend extra time on my homework..i brought a review book..i (try) and study my book..and im considering a tutor. Those are some simple things you can do that might help.
-melissa-

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ok, heres the thing every summer since i was little ( i'm now 15 ), we would go to NY and visit my moms close friend. Well she has four kids and i had a HUGE crush on her one son thats 3 yrs. older then me. So a couple of years ago he found out i had a crush on him and after he found that out we got close and we would always makeout. We havent gone down there in a couple of years, so we havent spoken . His mother sent us a christmas card with his cap and gown picture ( he is now a senior ) in it and ever since then i can't get him off my mind and i keep havig these dreams about him. Why is this happening, do i stll have feelings for him, what should i do?? Thanks and sry it's so long!

Yeah you still have feelings for him! Its happening because you miss him. If i were you i would try and get your mom to go back to NY so you can see him! At least call him! Who knows..maybe now that hes 18 he can come out to visit you! Good luck with everything

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okay the guy i like right now is totally flirting with me or at least thats what all of my friends say because when we hug he hugs me real tight and long... where with all the other girls its looser and real quick so im not sure but he always puts his arm around me and stuff like that in the halls so im not sure if he likes me like that or just a 'one of the guys' so help me plz thanks in advance!

i think he likes you because your friends even see it. also..the hug thing is obvious..so he really likes you i think. Just get a friend to ask him if he likes you. A guy whos friends with you and him would be the best choice because i think he'll be more comfortable talking to a guy friend.

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okay my best friend is such a copy cat! and somtimes i cant take it anymore and get mad if she acts like me or anything like that because every time i tell her the guy i like she then says o yeah i like him too and then she wants to have the same things i have i mean she painted her room the same color as mine and got the same comforter as mine too!! and she totally acts like me and talks like me and trys to dress like me! what should i tell her ? cuz i love her like shes my sister and dont wanna make her hurt i just want her to stop being me plz help me! thanks!

She definately admires you. Tell her to form her own opinions and to do her own thing. Let her know your getting sick of her copying you and you want her to do her own thing

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