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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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im in 7th grade and pretty much every weekend me and my boyfriend go to the movies with our 2 other friends who are going out and these other two who are going out like on and off..there kind of friends with benifits..and another girl and another guy who are single and sometimes some other friends. would you consider this a date? also i have another question, you said pathetic middle schoolers think they are in love and end up getting hurt..and im just wondering if you think me and my boyfriend are like that..were in 7th grade and before we were going out we talked on the phone for hours each day and ended up becoming great friends and likeing eachother..and then he asked me out and we have been goign out for only a few weeks now, we talk on the phone every night between an hour and a half to two hours, sometimes more..we sit together every day at lunch, we go to the movies every weekend and he puts his arm around me and everything,and the only things we have done are hug and kiss. and if this helps we even kissed before we were going out when we liked eachother..omg im sorry this is kind of long..lol oh and uhm whoever said your hair is fried and gross is like retarded..omg every time i see your pictures im like omgg i want that hair ! your soo pretty too♥

I kind of would consider that a date. When I said that middle schoolers thing that they are in love and end up getting hurt, I didn't mean that about everyone. Majority of teenagers do not know what true love is. You and your boyfriend are not in love. Don't let that get into your head. You guys just really like each other and care for one another. Both of you been together for a few weeks, you can't love a person just like that. It takes time but just because you both spend time together and are good for one another, doesn't mean you're in love. Hope everything is still great for both of you. & thanks hun. You're so sweet and I'm sure you're really pretty too. :]

My boyfriend (PJ) and I have been together since 6th grade. And know its freshmen year. Hes 15 and Im 14 1/2. We both love eachother alot. We have made-out&kissed&and all that other good stuff, but he wants to take it a little bit farther. well so do i but i dont want to take it so far that i'll be know as "Arrowhead #1 Slut"! and alot of my best friends have taken it pretty far. i just dont know what to do! please help!

Girls do not know the defenition of a slut!! You and your boyfriend have been together for soo long, and if you guys do anything sexual it's because you care for each other. A slut sleeps around with so many guys and you're no where near that. I don't know what all you guys did, but if you both feel comftrable going further, then go ahead. Don't worry about what people will say. They won't find out unless you guys tell people. It's personal and it should stay between you and him.

i'm 15 and my bf & i have been going out for 6 1/2 months. neither of us are ready for sex & we've hinted that. i know for sure i'm staying a virgin til i'm married. i also think anything with the guy's penis is just gross, or with him touching me down there. we both know we think those kinds of things are wrong. we get together every weekend and hang out, we usually end up making out. the farthest we've gone is me sitting on his lap, and he had his hand up my shirt. it seems like every week we go a little farther, but we both know when we or the other person wants to stop. we both hint to each other that we're going to be together for awhile, such as saying 'i hope we have this class together next year ..' or 'you should come to our pool this summer.' that kind of thing. my question is - should we just keep doing what we're doing?and i'm not really asking for suggestions, but what can we do without having sex? or like, oral/anal sex cause that's just sick. looking at it in my opinion is wrong!! oh & another sort of question - [i hope these arent too awkward for you to answer.] - do you think it's wrong that i sometimes sit on his lap, or put his legs between mine? [not in a gross way.] or like "straddle him" i guess you could say? not to sound slutty. sorry if this is too long, thank you for your help!

What you guys are doing is not slutty or bad at all!! When you sit on his lap it just shows that you are comftrable around him and that you both care about each other. He's a good guy for not pressuring you into anything. If you feel comftrable and secure around him, then you guys can keep doing whatever you're doing. I sort of understand why you think that oral sex is gross, but have you tried doing anything. Now I don't mean that you should or anything, but a handjob isn't gross. It's just when you put your hand down his pants and sort of massage his penis. You guys don't have to do anything oral or anal to show that you guys care for each other. I don't want eather of you guys to think that and don't worry about what you're going to do. If something happens between you guys, it will happen on it's on when the time is right and because it was right for you guys not because you had to do it. It's good that you're saving sex for marrige but whatever you do make sure you always use protection. So even if you ever were going to perform oral sex to him, make sure he wears a condom no matter what. I don't think it's wrong that you sit on his lap at all. It's actually really cute and like I said, it shows you're comftrable around him. Whatever happens and whatever you guys do, it will be because you care about each other. :]

okay well my arents are constantly fighting so which makes them always in a bad mood ;; so whenever i want to ask them for a favor or money or something i feel like i have nobody and of course im not gonna ask my friends for money and stuff bc yeah im sure they wouldnt have any to give me really.and whenever i want to ask for something i have to ask my parents if their in a good mood or not bc i dont waNT to get in trouble for asking or something .

any advice?

All you should do is talk to your parent's and tell them about this. Say that you don't want to get on their nerves and get them even more mad, but you just want to be able to talk to them sometime and ask them things. They're your parent's and they love you so they will make sometime for you and you shouldn't be afraid of telling them what you think and ask them for favors.

Hi there;;

I was just wondering the TRUE meaning of dating. Everyone in our school practically thinks dating is just being boyfriend and girlfriend, but I KNOW for a fact, that there is way more to dating than just being boyfriend and girlfriend right? Ok. Well there is this girl and she is "kinda sorta maybe, going out" with my crush, and they NEVER talk, because SHE chickens out. Its pathetic, they will never go on dates everr! And were only 7th graders .. wow, people in my school (7th grade) are loserrs, and immature .. PLEASE HELP! Isnt there more to dating? oh and they dont even have true love and feelings for each other! geez!

Thanks doll. xox -Christa

That's not dating. It's just a middle school think where pathetic kids think that they are in love and when they get hurt they get so depressed. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend isn't dating. Dating is when you actually go out on dates but that's not all to it. I don't really know how else to explain dating, but it's just when it's more of a serious relationship.

well theres this guy named kory and like we have a long time back. we went out during the summer, and stuff. i think that he liked me but just didnt want ppl to kknow so he broke up with me.. and like yeah i think that he does like me sometimes. but than other days he ignores me. yeah well the other day he like says he wants me to give him a blow job. and i havent gaven one before. and like after that. i said i love you. and he said i love you too. now i dont know if hes using me, or he even likes me.

helpp.

I don't even know. It seems like he is using you and talking all sweet so you can give him head. If he liked you he wouldn't ask you to do that right now, so just don't. Wait to see if he has feelings for you or if he's just using you.

hey .. you dont have to answer this if you don't want to but, this kid i like.. is going to be at my best friends party this weekendd. we always say were gunna hookup but it never happens only becauz it feels so awkward after were done anything i should do so it wont be? thanks!

I don't really know what to tell you. If you don't want to hook up with him, don't. If you never done anything, maybe you should give it a chance and see what happens.

I think whoever said that you'r hair is gross & fried, should get a life, because you'r hair is adorable.People these days. *sigh* You'r very pretty & I don't think you would be the "bitchy" kind. >33333333333

Aw, thanks hun. You're really sweet & people are really stupid sometimes. They just don't get the point that I don't care. I don't get my feelings hurt easily but they have fun trying. I can be really bitchy, but that`s only if someone pisses me off. :]

I've had sex about 7 times, and everytime I still bleed the next morning. Is this normal?

Bleeding everytime after sex isn't normal. Bleeding once in a while is. You should go see a gyno or a doctor because it could be something else.. unless it's your period?

why would a boy aske me out if he knew that he wasn't allowed to date untill he's 17?

He probably doesn't care about that and he wants to date you anyways. He must really like you and he doesn't really seem to care about what his parents think about the dating thing.

i REALLY don't get this. there are [a lot of] people out there who cut, and say it's addicting. but doesn't it HURT? why would you want to do something again that hurt you? i heard that "it takes away the hurt from the inside" but i still don't get why people do it. it kina bothers me.. 13/f in case it matters.

I don't really understand why people do it too. They think that cutting takes away the pain that they are going through, but they don't get that it doesn't. It takes their mind of the problem for about 10 minutes, but in the end they're left with a scar and the issues that they are dealing with. Those people need help and I think it's stupid that they do that. People are so odd.

thankss fOR thee heLPP aboUTT what tOO weaRrr = )

No problem hun.

ok well tonight im going too my boyfriends comfirmation..what should i wear?
--its dress uPP.
im preppY if thatt helps?
please hurry. thankss alOOTT

You can wear cute jeans, a dressy top & shoes. You can also wear a skirt that comes up to your knee, a cute top & cute shoes. Don't be too dressy though.

Can you be forgiven for being gay? Is it really a sin? What if you just want to try it and see what happens are you going to be penalized for that? Can someone help me asap.. these questions are for a friend who really needs it

Everyone belives in something different. A human is a human and not everyone is the same. If a person is gay, lesbian, bi .. so what?? I don't think it's a sin but that's just my opinion. The bible might say different. Your friend shouldn't be scared or embarassed of his/her sexuality. Like I said, everyone is different and you can't help beaing who you are. I don't really see how you can try being gay. I mean you eather like guys or you don't. Same thing with girls. You can't just pretend to be someone you're not. It doesn't work that way.

I am a guy 5'6 and in 7th grade 3rd marking period. Is that tall for my age? And does anyone know if I will stop growing or not? I heard guys stop in highschool( middle)

You are taller then most 7th graders, but you won't stop growing until you're about 18 years old.

im suppossedd to fuck 3 guyss ! and i dont wanna be a slut and im only 13 HELPP !

If you fuck 3 guys then you probablly will be a slut.

how do you cook a lemon pie?

Ask your mother.

i like u..
can i have sex with you?
have u ever done it before?
i like experienced girls..

-answer..
call the cell 225-5555

I like more matured people. When you grow up and get a life then talk to me. Okay sweetie?

as i wrote before.. the guy "jack" he kinda ignores me still. but he imed me and he said i g2g bye xo and yeah i guess that means he likes me? well the next day he was kinda nervous to see me i gues.. and my friends thinks he likes me but hes not ready to admitte it or hes hidding it .. yeah well sometimes i dont know if he really does or if im just wasting my time.. & he looks at me and smiled at me.. or he looks at me and does the "eyebrow" thing to me. yeahhh well i odnt know what to do.

pleaseeeee help

Just because he said g2g bye xo doesn't mean he likes you. He's flirting with you and maybe he does like you but just give him some time. Don't rush him into telling you or anyone else how he really feels. Keep flirting and talking to him to find out.

Ok well my boyfriend and his 2 friends made a recording on one of his friends mp3 players. They said it said something about me. They were acting really secretive about it but then once i didnt want to know anymore they told me. But me and my friend thought that if they were acting all secretive when i wanted to know and then all of a sudden tell us that their lying. They said it was saying how much my boyfriend liked me and how much his friend liked my friend hannah. What should we do cause we really do wanna know but their the kind to lie...we really wanna believe them but how do we find out for sure cause they wont let us listen to the mp3.

If they won't let you listen then I don't know how you can find out about it. They probablly said it was something really important because they wanted to get on your nerves and wanted to drive you crazy. You could tyr getting the mp3 player somehow? The more you care the more they will lie about it. Just drop the whole thing and eventually they will tell you guys what they said.

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