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How Far Should We Go?
My boyfriend (PJ) and I have been together since 6th grade. And know its freshmen year. Hes 15 and Im 14 1/2. We both love eachother alot. We have made-out&kissed&and all that other good stuff, but he wants to take it a little bit farther. well so do i but i dont want to take it so far that i'll be know as "Arrowhead #1 Slut"! and alot of my best friends have taken it pretty far. i just dont know what to do! please help!
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if youre really ready and i mean REALLY ready because you shouldnt do this because your friends have done it, it wont make you cooler.. do it because you want to and not because you feel like you have to. your bf should understand that you arent ready and he will just have to wait until you are, make sure you are though.
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it sounds to me that you want to go farther just because all your other friends are doing it. dont base your decion on what your friends have done but base it on what you this is right, and make sure your safe and everything
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First of all if you do end up doing this, don't tell anyone, and you will not be a slut....And only having sex with one guy is not slutty...
But, people here cannot really answer this question for you...You need to really think about this and decide if that is what you want to do...
I think that you should really consider that you are young, and that there are a lot of risks that come along with sex.
But, really think about it a lot...I lost my virginity when i was 13 1/2...and I regret it every day...so just think about it a lot...
If you need anything drop it in my inbox...
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if you have to ask other people what to do, then you're not ready.
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Hold your ground, if you don't want to take your relationship to the next level (sex) don't. If you feel the slightest pressure to please him and go against your wishes the actual act of sex will not be that great. In fact you will probably resent him and your relationship could fall apart. If he doesn't understand and continues to attempt to take it one step further, he's not being very considerate of your feelings and might not be the right guy for you anyway.
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Just because your friends have doesn't imply that you should too, does it?
You're 14 and he's 15, not only is it illegal, are you sure you're ready? I'm not just talking about STDs like AIDS or pregnancy.
When you sleep with someone, things change and especially when you are young. if you can't talk to someone about it, and you are hiding stuff because of it from your family, things are going to get really! tough. And having sex, it's not just the joining of hearts, for any type of fulfillment, you also need to be relaxed and a lot of other stuff. Read up or ask someone about teenage sex, there's a reason why people ask you to wait.
IF you guys love each other, then it's ok to wait at least until the both of you have been separated by high school and are still serious about each other right?
Good luck with whatever decision you make....
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Girls do not know the defenition of a slut!! You and your boyfriend have been together for soo long, and if you guys do anything sexual it's because you care for each other. A slut sleeps around with so many guys and you're no where near that. I don't know what all you guys did, but if you both feel comftrable going further, then go ahead. Don't worry about what people will say. They won't find out unless you guys tell people. It's personal and it should stay between you and him.
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