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Ok I started this advice site to help out others. My friends say I give good advice but they could just be saying that to be nice lol. Tell me what you think by rating me (1-5, 1 l worst, 5 best). Good or bad, your rate will be appreciated!! Thank you!!
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Basically I'm 13 and i love to draw, swim, play volleyball and soccer, dance, sing, and hang out with friends. i love collecting purses haha, i have this huge purse collection in the back of my closet, most of them i never even use lol. i also like the shop and travel. i make madprofiles and i LOVE movies haha. i pretty much like anything non-academic related lol..god i'm so glad summer's started. anyways that's pretty much all about me!!
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Ok well i have been going out with this guy for like a year. We barley do anything! Like when we hug its like hes scared or something...and it dosent seem like he likes me that much. AND i call him! He N E V E R has called me be4 and i get sad over that..who wouldnt? And now there is this one guy that likes me and i think i like him too. But im not sure. Around my bf im not the same person, around this other guy i am! And i feel like my bf like me for some1 im not and this other guy likes me 4 me! And im so confused i dotn know what to do. I Still love my bf very much!!! Thanks o0x (link)
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i think you should probably go out with the other guy if things with your boyfriend don't start happening soon. if he doesn't even call you and you barely even do anything with him, what's the point of going out? i know you like him and you've been going out for so long, but you're in what i would call a "dull" relationship where you don't really do anything together. the other guy likes you for you and you could probably have so much more fun with him if you two went out. talk to your boyfriend about things happening and that if stuff doesn't, you might break up with him (if that's what you're thinking!). the other guy sounds like he'd make a better boyfriend anyway. good luck!!
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im so stressed out over this boy i cant get him off my mind i love him so much and he likes me to and he says that he has the same feelings as me but i just dont get it why he wont ask me to be his girlfriend i mean im like goin crazy over him i know there is no one else like him in the world hes everything i want and everything i need hes like my bestfriend but i love him i cant help it i dont know what to do should i just wait for him to ask me to be his girlfriend or ask him to be my boyfriend or just move on or wait around for him??
signed___hopelessly inlove =[ and dont know what to do=[ (link)
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maybe he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment. either he thinks he's too immature for one, he's had a bad experience with one, or he just wants to be single for the moment. it could be for another reason too. but try waiting for him a bit longer, if he plans to ask you out, he probably will soon since school is about to end. if he doesn't, you could take the chance and ask him out. if he says no, please don't get all bummed out and cry every night and cut yourself and think your life is over because the love of your life rejected you. no guy is worth that, no matter how gorgeous, smart, sweet, honest, or loyal he is. you shouldn't let any guy's decision ruin your life. and try to stop obsessing over him so much, you are going to meet so many other boys in your life, and you may think i'm talking crazy but it is so true. if he rejects you, take a break from guys for a while and then come back to it when you think you're ready. good luck!! :)
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ok yeah this is kinda a weird way to ask adivce and stuff .. but idk i'm pretty paraniod about eating in public and ESPECIALLY around my boyfriend and other guys.Sometimes i even dont eat for like 6 hourz wen im at his house. And i've alwayz been like that. I've alwayz been very worried about my weight and my skinny or fatness. I weigh 102 pounds and im 13, but i am on the short side [5"2] so i think thats normal [ doctor sed so ] but i never think my bodies good enough. Im just really confused and i don't know what to do and how to help myself cope threw this. If you could just give me a lil advice or how you feel on my situation thatd be greatly apperchiated.
*modelz wanted*
p.s. - i dont make myself throw up or anything..just so you know im not hurting myself (link)
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102 pounds for a 13 year old is not overweight :) i know this might sound really dorky, but i think you should probably make a "food" schedule. list the times that you'll eat food, whether or not you're in public or private. you will FORCE yourself to eat no matter what!! (unless it's impossible to find food anywhere) you don't have to make yourself eat too much but have a snack between breakfast and lunch, and another snack between lunch and dinner. and just because your boyfriend or other random people see you eat, doesn't mean they'll think you're a pig. everyone eats in public, they'll only think you're a pig if you eat A LOT and you gobble it all up in one bite lol. try to stop worrying as best as you can. i know it's hard, you're at a very "self-concious" age right now (just like i am...) and i know this might sound totally mean, but there are plenty of people out there that are so much fatter than you and you should be proud that you aren't overweight or anything. and don't ever start hurting yourself. good luck!! :)
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well me and my boyfriend just broke up, but i still like him, he of course likes one of my best friends, i rrreeallyy missz him even tho he was a bad bf cuz i have liked him my entiire life... a bunch of other guys have asked me out since we broke up, but i still like him. . should i forget about him or try to talk to him.. but if i talkto him i dunno what to say..
Girl. . . 11 (link)
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does your boyfriend still like you? and how bad of a boyfriend was he? if he cheated on you or forced you to do things you didn't want to do, then you should probably call it quits. if he never talked to you or hung out then you could forget about him or give him another chance. he's only 11..or 12? or maybe older but guys that age tend to be immature and thye deserve another chance.
i think you should take a break from him and date other guys, that you like of course. try to see how it goes. if you still like him, then try to be friends with him and see if things start to heat up. have a casual conversation without mentioning anything about you ever dating him. if he still ends up being a jerk towards you, you should consider it over. you can't always be wanting him to like you when he's really just a jerk and a bad boyfriend, plus doesn't even like you. well...good luck with him!! :)
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i really like this boy his name is "matt" he is really awesome and he came to all my parties and he always talks with me.. ireally like him but he was kind of dating my best friend earlier .. they broke up but he knows i like him and i wanna talk to him more about it and i`m afraid since the school year is ending that i won`t get to see him again.. i have his insant messanger name.. but that won`t help..
sincerly..
DAZED AND CONFUSED!! (link)
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well hurry up and try to talk to him and become friends with him!! talk to him on instant messanger a lot, try your best to not lose contact with him without totally stalking him!! also he comes to all of your parties, you should have a summer party so you could still meet him over the summer! maybe you could even get his phone number :) if you're really good friends with him, you could even invite him over to your house, with other friends too of course, just as a first impression thing. you could probably go to the same summer camp as him, but that's up to you. i hope i helped, good luckk!! :)
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ok... i was in love w. this kid.. for 6 monhts we dated... n we were serious.. n things got werid n he was going threw alot so we decided to take a break...n see how things would work out... wel he asked out my firend alreayd but of course she said no cuz.. she is my friend... n like now he wont even look me in the eye ne more.. we talk here n their but its just so hard going from beingin together for 6 monhts... to not even tlaking n i hurt n cry everyday.... wat should i do ? ... i reali need help (link)
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why is he not even talking to you anymore? is it because of the friend incident? i think you should go up to him and ask "okay we used to date for 6 months and i really loved you, but why won't you even talk to me now? did i do something wrong?" he is acting very strangely though so he shouldn't be too surprised to hear you ask that question. but if you don't have the guts to ask him that, just try talking to him more and if he keeps on giving you one word answers, try thinking of questions where he has to give long answers instead of short, curt ones. then you can start a conversation and possibly even "sneak" in that question. i think that's probably the best advice i could give you. good luck!!
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ok so my boyfriend called me n told me he was goin out wit his "" brother "" n this is wut happend wen he called me wen he was done""
hes like oo were leaven now..n hes like i love u..n then i hurd a girl in the backround n hes like ok bye n hung up ..n then he just called again n hes like do u wanna chill for a hour im like ok n hes like but i wont get there untill 9..im like yeh soo0o ur point..hes like is it that worth it..n im like obviously..(( now i was starting 2 bet heated)) so then his voice changed dramatically!! n hes like ok then(( like in a sad upset voice )) (link)
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what?? sorry i totally didn't understand your question. i think part of it got cut off or something. and he's going out with his brother??? ok yeah i know that was in quotes but i don't really get it? his best GUY friend?? and from what i can make out, it sounds like he's cheating on you. but i totaly didn't get that, sorry!! :(
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Ok.. i need major help and it looks like your the right person to ask* So theres these 3 guys that i am totally in love with .. and i dont know which one to choose .. the one that i used to date his name is anthony and the other one that i started talking to is named derek and the other one my best friend just stopped talking to is sam. i like all of them and i dont know which one to chose cuz anthony is so sweet but hes too immature and he doesnt understand anything i say. and derek, hes my brothers best friend and hes 17 and im 14 .. i mean i like him a lot and he tells me everyday that he likes me .. but i dont know if i should see him cuz hes 17 .. thats 3 years older than me .. and plus my family doesnt really like me talking to him.. but i love talking to him.. im thinking maybe i should just be really good friends with him and not talk to him romantically..ya know ? and then sam - hes just soooo PERFECT.. hes more of the thug type of guy and gets into smoking and everything .. but i dont care about that - i love his personatlity..hes also 17 years old but i dont care about age.. so yeah what im saying is im stuck between guys ..and i know the only thing i can do is pick the one i see myself with and the one i like the most .. but i cant chose -and if i chose one .. the others will get hurt* so yeah i dont know what to do .. im sorry that this is soo long! but i need help obviously...
thankss!
14/female (link)
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well think of it this way, you're luckier than some girls. some girls are still trying to get guys to like them and you have 3 guys who like you loL!! okay i'll shut up sorry.
all i can really do for you is say my opinion on who you can choose. like you don't have to follow my decision since i'm obviously a totally different person lol soo...here's what i think
i don't think you should go out with anthony, since you two have already gone out. you should try someone different, especially in a situation like this. plus even though he's sweet (the way you make it sound, all the guys sound sweet), he's still immature and you probably shouldn't risk having one. the other boys are older and hopefully more mature soo...i crossed out anthony.
now it's between derek and sam. you said for sam you didn't care about age but for derek you do? personally i would choose derek. it's not like i know him or anything but you make it sound like he's a bit better. he says he likes you and does sam even like you? *you never said if he did or not* you love talking to derek. and you said sam was perfect, but he sounds like a bad boy since he's a thug. i don't know, bad boys are more likely to force girls to do things they don't want to do, they want to get what they want. that's just ME!! you should probably just totally ignore this advice and make your own decision, but you asked me for advice and i gave you some. i hope it helped at least a little bit and good luckK in choosing the *perfect* guy!! :)
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well see...theres this kid..and like i love him so much ; and i jus told him this past friday .. and ever since tht hes been treating me different ; better. and he keeps staring at me and stuff .. and it like is weird bc he is like in love w. my best friend taylor .. but im in love w. him and i think he is gonna ask me out but ive been waiting so long and i am jus to afraid to ask him myself .. but like when he is around taylor he talks about her chest and stuff .. and when he is around me he talks smack about her .. i dunno wht to think! i love them soooo much i cant jus pick one side...so u can see these r sorta multiple questions..but ugghh i jus dunno wht to do it hurts me .. bc they always seem to fight bc taylor promised to go out with this kid, but never did and he gets mad at her a lot .. and the funny thing is .. i think he likes me, and isnt telling me .. wht should i do ??? = (( i need help, thanks for listening .. or readind ; ))
much love..
.. anna (link)
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either your crush doesn't really like you but is pretending to (either to not hurt your feelings or to try to get closer to taylor). because of that, he acts like he likes taylor around her (since he really does like her) and talks smack around her to get closer to you. or your crush actually likes you but doesn't want to, yet can't help it! and he still likes taylor but doesn't want you to think that so he talks smack about her, but around her he can't help himself and talks about her chest and all that. and he might even be pretending to like you to make taylor jealous somehow. and trying to make you think that he likes you, not taylor. all these mixed signals he's sending is really confusing and those are pretty much the only reasons i can think of.
i don't know any other real way to find out the truth other than either talking to him or taylor. or plot a secret plan to reveal the truth...muahahha. okay j/k but you could sneak him into telling you or have a spy have him tell it to instead lol. i'm not sure, but it is really weird. good luckk!! :)
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im 15. yesterday i went over to my boyfriends after school and was suppossed to stay there until late. my boyfriend started talking about sex and that he wanted to have it with me/*but when i said that i wasn't ready yet and that I thought it was wrong, he forced me to! I didn't know what to do so I just did everything he told me to do like getting nude, spreading my pussy lips, and doing a blow job on him and all that.He also did anal sex on me! I know it was wrong and all that but i couldn't help it! now he wants me to do it again! What should I do? i dont want to break up with him though and i so dont want to tell my parents *x*! What should I do? (link)
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you have to tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have sex with him and that if he forces you to do it again, you'll break up with him. i know you said that you didn't want to, but is it really worth having a boyfriend that forces you to do things with him that you don't even want to do? make it clear to him. he might even be using you just to have sex with, if he constantly forces you to do it with him. also he's practically raping you, that's against the law and he could get in huge trouble for doing that.
but also tell him that you're afraid of getting pregnant too. even if you use condoms, birth pills, diaphragms, contraceptive implants, spermicides, the rhythm method, RU 486 *otherwise known as the abortion pill*, or IUDs, then you still have a chance of getting pregnant. the only way to totally avoid it is abstinence, like not having sex. or you could get sterilization, whatever...sorry you don't really want to know that. but just let him know how serious you are about this sex thing, good luckK!!
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ok so there is this guy i like his name iss let say billy(not his real name), i really like him but the only problem is he barley knows who i am..we used to be like friends but then we just forgot about eachother..so how do i get him to ask me out?? cause he is single and really cute and nice..help please?be the way i am a 7th grader 13 years old. (link)
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you should go and talk to him. say "hey remember me? we were friends in *whatever* grade...* or something like that. yeah it might freak him out a bit but it's better than doing nothing. become friends with him again, don't try to rush it, make it slow and steady. then maybe he'll like you after getting to know you after all these years. it's a good thing you used to be friends with him, since it'll be easier to make friends with him than if you were never friends with him before. well... good luck!! :)
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okay i was like IN LOVE with this guy, aka my really good, practically BEST friend. and i didt think he was into me so i gaev up then, i spent some time with him alone n all the sudden, HE CAME ONTO ME and i dont know what to do because ive been seeing signs about him EVERYWHERE and i want to call him and as him what those things meant to him but im afriad that ima gunna get a bad anser like "oh, it was nothing" or something but now, im like the farthest thing away from not like him, i thinik im in love...again
signed,
WhatShouldIDo? (link)
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what do you mean, you're like the farthest thing away from him now? is that what you mean lol? well first of all, what kind of moves did he make on you?? you have to tell me that a bit. but like i think you should at least be friends with him, just because he may not like you doesn't mean you two shouldn't still be friends. he might like you, best friend relationships usually almost always end up being more! just keep on talking and if he doesn't like you, don't just all of a sudden not be friends with him anymore, that's a poor sport. just be cool and just try to figure out what his true feelings for you are, without making it too obvious! good luckk! :)
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Ok... i like 2 guys but i only like guys who like me back so i know if dont ask them out i wont feel embrassed and one of them likes one of my best friend! everybody like my friends but nobody likes me.. =( im 12 and i am kinda popular i know people do like me but how do i get them to admit it? (link)
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how do you know they like you in the first place? constant flirting, call you all the time, constant emails, IMs, etc...? or is it just a RUMOR? if it's a rumor, it may not be true, which is why they aren't admitting it. guys don't always want to admit to the girl they like that they like them, but you have to be postive if thye even like you in the first place.
then you could have them admit it, by having one of your friends ask them and they tell you what the guy says. or (only if you are brave and sure enough) you could ask them yourselves. either way is a way for them to admit it. but sometimes they jsut don't want to admit it and keep it to themselves, maybe the guys who crush on you are all shy guys? i'm not really sure ...sorry but i wish you good luckk! :)
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theres 2 guys, chris and andrew. im in 9th grade now but in 7th grade chris and i went out for a little over a year and we've been friends forever. like we went to preschool and everything. the whole nine years.. well chris started going out with this girl megan which is totally fine with me since we were still good friends and everything.. well they went out from the beginning of 8th to like the middle of 9th.. so they were pretty serious aout each other. but meg and i were fine and we cheer together so i have no problem with that. but chris and i have always still had chesmistry.. even when him and megan were going out you could just tell there was still something there. and now that they are broken up were starting to talk more and more and planning on hanging out and stuff.. well i really think im strting to fall for him again. but heres where andrew comes in.. he's a lot older then me.. 18 and graduated and i am 14 and a freshmen.. and he feeds me the lines and everything, but i dont know if he means it or not? and for the past weekend andrew would come over my house at like 2am and i would go out and sit in his car with him for like hours and we would make out and everything.. but the whole time we would listen to music and all the songs would just remind me of chris. but if chris and i were to get back together i dont want to start anything between megan and me (were not that good of friends but we have to cheer together and everything so i dont want to cause any cheer drama) but then if i get involved with andrew.. i dont know if he really likes me or not (he already asked me out and i said no) and plus, thats totally ILLEGAL. so i duno.. advice please? (link)
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if i were you i'd go out with chris but THAT'S JUST ME! here are the reasons and i hope you sort it out.
why you should go out with chris:
a)you've been friends forever
b)he's your age and you've always been good friends, even when he was going out with someone else
c) you've gone out with him before too
why you shouldn't date chris:
a) it might upset megan and you don't want that
b) andrew...
why you shouldn't date andrew:
a) he's 18 and that is actually totally illegal, you won't get in trouble if you two are caught but HE WOULD (i'm not really sure it really applies to 14 and 18 year olds. like it'd def. apply to 50 year olds to 10 year olds lol but idk)
b) you totally think of chris when you're with him
c) chris..
why you should date andrew:
a) well you love him and you can do more stuff with him since he has a car
b) plus you two already make out and all that
you decide, and chris sounds better anyway since even if you two break up, you'll still be friends (pretty much...). in my opinion, it's better to go out with a good friend than like someone else since the friend is more trustworthy. but dating someone else is new and exciting, but it depends on what you want.
also wouldn't andrew be going to college next year anyway? then you wouldn't be able to see him, unless he goes to a college nearby. even then, he'd still be really busy with exams and all, unless he never studies and plans to fail college lol. well i told you some stuff about it and i hope you make a good decision (it doesn't have to be chris, just because I said so lol...you totally don't have to listen to me) good luck! :)
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ok i have a picture phone and people said that you can look at your pictures on the computer and then you can print them where do u go to do that like what website??
sry if thats confusing=] (link)
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i'm really sorry, my picture phone is like broken and even if it wasn't, i'd still be too stupid and clueless to ever figure it out lol. i'm sorry, try asking someone else who has a picture phone. or ask the store where you bought the picture phone on how to do that, they should know about it. hope you figure it out :)
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Alrighty so theres this guy that ive known for awhile but i havent talked to him in awhile. I just saw him and im like in love with him. I duno how to talk to him now. Im afraid he mite be verry different from the last time i talked to him.
Help me! (link)
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well just talk to him then. if you never talk to him, you'll never figure out if he's different or still the same. at least he's not a complete stranger. just start a casual conversation with him, you know like old friends kind of do. if he turns out to be different, maybe you hate it or like it, just do whatever. and if he's still the same, then hang out with him like you used to do. even if he doesn't end up falling in love with you like you are with him, at least you two can still be friends. hope i helped, byee!! :)
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There's this guy I've liked forever...We'll call him Chris. Chris knows I like him ((thanks to a loudmouth friend)). Sometimes I really think Chris likes me, but other times he'll just like pass me by!! Should I wait for him to say something or just forget about him??
-:¦:- CONFUSED -:¦:- (link)
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how long have you been waiting for him exactly? if it's like...5 months or more lol then you probably shouldn't wait any more. 3 months or more, you probably should stop. 2-3 months, it depends. 1 month, wait some more. and if under 1 month, definitely wait some more lol. but just because you've been waiting, doesn't necessarily mean you should forget about him. maybe he's just really shy and you should make the first move. is he the kind of guy that might be too shy to make the first move? if he is, you could ask him out or something (if you WANT to...or think you should). i don't really have enough information to tell you really what to do but i hope i helped anyway! good luckk! :)
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ok, so my little brother plays ona baseball team nd from today 5-1-05 he has only 2 games left, n one of the boys on his team has an older brother n we talk n stuff. i really like this guy n hes just so cute, nice, smart, etc.. but im afraid i wont see him again after the season ends.. he gave me his cell number but i just totally wimp n cant call him cuz im too scared, hes sixteen n im only 12 but i look older then what i really am..
so can u haelp me please?!
signed--> lost in love (link)
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make sure you go to your brother's 2 last games to see your crush again. talk with him but this time, when you leave, get his cell and email and everything, since you two may not see each other again. asking him for his email isn't that OBVIOUS really, if you two are friends then that's totally normal when ya'll may not see each other again.
is your brother friend's with your crush's younger brother? if so, maybe when your brother invites his friend over, the guy you like might come too, to see you of course. if not, then just communicate with him through phone, email, or whatever else.
you should call him, no matter how scary it sounds. did he till you specifically to call him? if he did, then go for it. tell him "ohh sorry i was busy and i sort of forgot to call you, and then i remembered you asked me to so here i am lol" or something similar to that. if you don't call him, then you may never contact him again. plus it makes you closer to him too, not only do you talk to him at just the games but on the phone too. yeah you might be totally embarassing on the phone with him and turn him off, but if you don't call him, you may never talk to him again after the season ends. call him, but to avoid saying anything embarassing, try not to talk about your "feelings". it's almost always your "feelings" when a girl says totally embarassing things, so just try your best to avoid it, i guess. good luck!! :)
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okay.. theres this boy and were "together" meaning were not fully going out cuz he hasnt asked me out yet but he told me where together and we hook up and do other stuff ; but when hes around his friends he ignores me but wen its just me and him hes the sweetest kid ever .. and ive been waiting awhile for him to ask me out and hes just not doing it and im getting tired of waiting for him.. and im sick of him being mean to me when hes with his friends. wat should i do?
im a female and im 14 (link)
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seriously i think you should just ask him straight up why he's treating you like crud when he's around his friends but like the sweetest kid ever around only you. is he somehow embarassed of you? you should ask him or else you'll never figure out why he's acting this way. i'd feel the exact same way you feel about this so just ask him, on AIM, email, mail, phone, person, or whatever, just ask him or have a friend ask him for youu. maybe he has a good reason for his actions? and he didn't even hook up with you yet, so (no offense!!!!) it seems a bit like he's using you. he won't admit to anyone you two are going out, including you. just ask him and hope for the best! good luck :)!!
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yeah so me and my little sister were bored one day and my hair used to be really long and we were just messing around and cut it a little to short and i want it to grow back but idk what to do to make if grow extra fast right now its like a lil longer than my shoulders and i want it like down to my boobs hah.. any ideas?? or prouducts that make it longer quick?? (link)
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i'm sure there's some hair products that can make your hair grow longer fast. just go to a store and look under the hair products section. the secret to long hair is actually strong hair, so make sure to get rid of damaged ends or split ends (if you have any). also hair grows faster with well-balanced meals, so eat rightt! stress less and sleep more helps a lot too. i'm seriously not making this up, exercise works too. it's not like those things will make your hair grow suddenly to your boobs in 2 days lol, so don't expect that lol! just do all of the above and your hair will grow longer, or at least faster than it would have taken if you didn't do the suggestions. hope i helped!! :)
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