ugh omg i am extremely freaking out. My mom has been stressed out enough and her boyfriend has been proud of me lately but now im pregnant and don't know if i should make my mom more stressed out or what. the only thing that i am worried about after telling my mom is that she is going to go tell her boyfriend and i don't want him to know anything about it and if i tell my mom she is going to think that everytime i go see the oppsite sex that she is going to not be able to trust me even though being in this position i am scared enough and i never want to be in this position again.
please help A.S.A.P.
You have to tell her eventually, and no matter when you pick, it isn't going to be pretty. Try to get her alone, and before you tell her, explain that you are really going to need her support with something. Then, hope for the best. There's nothing I can say other than get it over with, because it isn't going to be a pleasant situation. Good luck.
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I'm a senior in high school and part of a requirement to graduate is a project in which I have to have 15 hours with a mentor. The mentor I chose was my mothers boss. She's always been friendly and she agreed to do it. Unfortunately for me, my mother found employment with another company and quit yesterday (Monday). Her boss wasn't happy. The company is attemptig to refuse to pay my mother money owed to her, they're all in a big fight. Her former boss signed a "contract" in order to be my mentor and agreed to continue meeting with me becuase she doesn't back down from a committment. This puts me in a really difficult place. I still plan on meeting her and whatnot, but I'm not sure how to act. I want to be polite. I also know that she'll ask me questions about my mother and the family and I'm not sure how to go with it. I'm only 16 (17 soon) and it's just a really awkward position.
My parents and mentor are currently fighting, I have to spend another 10 hours with her. I'm just not sure what to say when I get there. I don't want to be too cordial and stiff, I also don't want to be too personal. Our next meeting isn't until October 26th so I have plenty of time to figure out what I want to say and how to act. Once I break the ice after this first meeting I'm sure the meeting after will go smoothly. I just don't want to be uncomfortable this first time because if I can find comfort in the meeting the first time then I'll know how to behave all times afterwords. I know it's kind of confusing but I'm not sure how to word this.
Anyway, do you have any advice on how to greet my mothers former boss? It's just so complicated right now. I know I'll have to face adversity in life and this is a grand time to start. I don't want to back down and choose a new mentor when it's so close to the due date for the project. (The paper is due Nov. 2nd. The other things are due in the begining of December). Especially when I don't know anybody else who has enough experience on my topic to meet the mentor qualification requirements.
Thanks in advance.
There is absolutely no reason for you to talk to her about your family. Just keep it strictly professional; her problems with your mother have nothing to do with you.
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ok so me and my bf broke up. after 3 months of dating!! it has been 2 weeks since the break upa dn i am still a reck
all my friends say that i am not as happy anymore and the i seem different! and i dont fell like myself eaither!!!!!
but the werid part is that...
when i went out with him last year and we broke up
i would go out with a differnet guy and after a week of dating i would all of a sudden stop liking him! then i would break up with them and think about my ex(ryan). and taht happen all though out the year!
adn the same with ryan 2!!!!
then when ryan ask me back outi said yes!! and we dated for 3 month. the best 3 month of my life all my friends said that i looked so much more happy i thought it was great then he broke up with me!!
but it has been like 2 weeks and i am still not over him
i tried going out with a different guy but all i did was think about him and the same pattern happen again(date them for a week then all of a sudden stop liking them and break up and think about ryan!)
and now he has a new gf and the same pattern is happening to him to!!
adn also the werid thing is every where i go i see him
one night i needed some advil so me adn my mom went up to walgreens to get some at 11 30 at night and he was there!!!!!!!!!! and there was a walgreens closer to where he lives then the one i went to!!
and it is like everywhere i go i see him!!
it is crazy!
can u plz help tell me what all this means!!!!!!!!!
thanks a bunch,
softballbabe2610
First of all, calm down. You like Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend...I'm not sure exactly what you are asking. There is absolutely nothing you can do in this situation except wait and see what happens.
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i have a serious problem haha. i get turned off by guys soo easily. like for example, at homecoming, i thought this kid was soo hot, like the hottest kid i have ever seen, but when i danced with him, i was soo turned off afterwards. and basically it's like, i am attracted to a guy until he starts talking. i know that sounds so mean but its true. what can i do to get over this?
You need to stop looking at guys as beings that are supposed to attract you. Think about it: dating is all about getting to know someone else, not reveling is how physically alluring they are. Just stop worrying about being turned off and start thinking about the actual guy.
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I am a semi-White collar/blue collar type and women my age shun me like I was the plague. I have tried everything and I am about to "throw in the towel" and remain single for life. I tried Internet dating and that was a flop, I even tried flirting with unmarried (and unattached) women where I live but that only turns them off. It's like I have a dark cloud above my head that says "doom". I would make a perfect husband but no woman seems to be willing to take me up on that offer. I can take the truth. If I'm doomed, then I understand. (Male, 32, Anglo-German, writer and Christian and political activist)
I don't know why that would be. You seem like an amazing guy, and I honestly have no clue as to why any woman would avoid you. Perhaps you are looking at the wrong women? Try to find someone who is as nice and decent as yourself.
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Younger [teen] guys are easier to start a conversation with than guys who are, lets say in their late teens or early 20's. i think, and you can correct me, that after they've hit 27 and older, they start seeing you more as a daughter and little girl than anything else [not that i'm interested in anyone that old]. so i'm l6/f, and i like an older guy who i'm sure feels the same way. The problem is that even though he's only 19, he acts more mature than his age, and i don't think he knows quite how to get more comfortable with me, which in turn, makes me feel awkward as well. I want to do so without him thinking of me as a little whore who needs to get screwed, but i don't know where or how to touch him, playfully of course. interestingly enough, when he's around not only do i freeze and ignore him, but when i don't, my affection comes off as hate and indifference. does anyone have some good tips on how to avoid getting nervous and acting this way?? thnXx in advance
Stop letting the age difference intimidate you. And stop using such negative self-talk. Why would you ever assume he would think of you as a whore? Relax. You're just getting to know the guy.
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ok so i have smoked about 5 times. its DEFINIATELY not something im proud of and i hated it so i stopped. i have been drug- free since june.
i reall tyhink i have asthma since i have a lot of trouble in pe and had the issues before the smoking... if i get tested for asthma will they...
1. be able to tell i have smoked.
2. tell my parents?
& my grandma used to smoke ciggs. heavily when i was younger. could i blame it on the if they do find something?
and if they made me get a drug test would it show up in my system even though i have been drug-free for about 4 months or more?
PLEASE HELP thanks =)
A good doctor will be able to tell, but I'm pretty sure they have to keep all information confidential if you ask them to. Try to find out about their privacy policies.
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i was wondering:
how many times do you have to meet a guy (if you don't go to his school) before you are an option for him liking you?
i've met this one guy twice. once was when my friend invited me to go to the movies with her and her friends (he was one of them). we didn't talk that much. the second time was the next week, at the same friend's bday party. we sat next to eachother on multiple occasions.
am i on his radar now? i think i might like him but is that just naive?
Liking someone is never "naive". Just follow your instincts and try to be around him as much as possible. He'll get the message eventually.
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Everyday I wake up knowing that I'm not going to do anything. I just always feel like everyone is having loads of fun and I'm sitting at home. i'm left out! I just hate this feeling. any advice?
Try to find something you find interesting and important and start doing it. People who are exceptionally bright and people who have had expieriences others have not (be they negative or positive) are often the people who feel the way you do. It can be tricky if it feels like everyone is laughing along to a joke that you just don't find funny (metiphorically speaking). All I can say is hang in there and something will work out.
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I'm a girl, 18 years old, and recently I was talking to this guy on an internet dating site. Through our conversation we found out that we had in fact attended the same high school and now were going to the same college - him being 3 years my senior. Even more weird, he turned out to be the best friend of MY best friend's older brother. Now he wants to meet in real life and he won't stop messaging me about it. (he says things like, "let's meet up at [our mutual friend's] house,") I don't have any desire to date him, or meet him at all. Even if he's my friend's brother's friend, I still don't want to. How can I make him realize that those two instant message conversations (only two!) didn't mean as much to me as they did to him?
Just tell him you aren't interested in dating anyone and that since he is, it would be a waste of his time to meet you. Tell him he should try and find someone who is looking for the same thing as him. That being said, why don't you want to meet him? You could meet him on a strictly friends basis. There's no harm in having more friends.
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homecoming is coming up this next weekend and my parents have always been too over protective and strict. my mom keeps talking about how before the dance she wants to like, go to whos ever house we are going to and i dont know like meet everyone or something? but im a sophomore and most of the people im going with are juniors and we dont need parents for rides or anything. and no one elses parents are like going and seeing everyone before hand and i have tried telling her this 100 times but shes just like "i dont care those are our rules" and i dont know how im supposed to get through next wekeend without her embarrassing me because i really want to have fun but shes already starting to ruin it
Ughh. Overprotective parents are something I have a lot of expierience with. The best chance you have to change your mom's mind is to tell her how you feel. Be emotional without being angry and she might change her tune. But, if she dosn't, you're going to have to grin and bare it.
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My best friend has been really upset lately, and every time i ask what is wrong, she says nothing. but im not stupid, i know when something is wrong. should i just leave her alone, or should i keep asking her what is wrong? i know she wants me to know, she just wont tell me. i know this because she will half bring up that she is upset and then drop it. im pretty sure i know what it is, and i want to help her, but she wont let me. idk, what do u think? thanks,
Keep asking. If your friend is bringing it up that she's upset, she obviously wants your support. And if you have a suspicion as to why she's upset, it would be a good idea to ask her if your suspicions are right. Be direct, and try to figure out what's wrong. Unless she tells you to stop, in which case, stop.
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14/f. I have started talking to this boy G, I've always thought he was cute, but then I started talking to him and his personality is great! I really really like him, I have hinted around about be more than just friends but he laughs like its a joke so do I so I won't look stupid, but my question I want advice on is "How can I tell him I want to be more than just friends?" I am really good friends with his brother if that helps. Thank you guyss and girls haha
Just tell him straight up; be direct.
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17/f.
me and my best friend sara like the same guy but she doesnt know i like him too. ive known this guy longer than she has though and i think he likes me too. the thing is shes one of my best friends and i dont want her to get mad at me. everytime that he comes around, she's like he's so hott and i dont say anything because i dont want her to get mad. last weekend we were at a party and he was flirting with me and he gave me a hug when he left and she got a little mad at me. he knows that she likes him, but he doesnt know about me. im really good friends with his best friends sister and she said that she would talk to him for me but idk. do you think i should talk to sara? or should i just play it off until she gets over him cause at the party she didnt even talk to him and she's not shy.
thanks in advance =]
Tell your friend the truth. It's better to be direct about these things. Make it clear that you have liked him the entire time. Then, get his best friends sister to work her magic.
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hey
i like this guy but hese 16 and im 13
i really really like him ive liked him since last year and please dont tell me to tell him because i wont. anyway he liked this other girl last year and now this year he likes some other girl. i am so inlike with him that it hurts so much he gives me mixed signals sometimes he will talk to me and sometimes he wont sometimes he looks at me and sometimes he doesnt i just dont know what to do i dont even think ill ever get over him he has this charm hese with me in skool so i cant really ignore him i dont want to like ignore him becuz even if i don like him i wanna be his friend
please anyone help
thank you
This guy does not think of you the same way you think of him. Wait a year or so before you persue anything with him; it's for your own good.
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So my mom all of a sudden started freaking out about my boyfriend.It started from him not getting me a mum.Since he is a procrastinator && never gets things done, especially for school functions..anyways.I ordered a mum, thinking he would have paid for it, But if he didn't It wouldn't be a big deal since it wasn't his homecoming.. (he graduated last year) anyways.My mom just freaked out about it, But it wasn't like I could do anything.She ended up bringing everything about and yelled at me about it.That we don't go out on dates and stuff,But every once in awhile (when me & him AREN'T busy) we go to the movies, out to eat.. somewhere.We don't go to his house much because his dad pretty much lives in San An. and comes home every other Tuesday and every weekend.And his mom won't let him stay there unless he pays the bills and his mom doesn't even work, (she just graduated to be a nurse) but yeahh.So she tells me how bad of a person and boyfriend he is and that I should get a new boyfriend.I thought that was very rude and uncalled for when he hasn't been a bad boyfriend.Especially compared to me ex.It's just really hard when your mother just talks down on your boyfriend when he has no clue he's doing anything.I don't know what to do.Our 6 month is on the 9th and I love him so much. I don't want to lose him.. anyone have any input or advice for me?
Is it possible that maybe you wish you saw your boyrfiend more? Maybe your mom saying it kind of touched a nerve, so to speak. If that's the case, tell your boyfriend you would like to spend more time with him. As far as your mom goes, just ignore her.
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im a 20 year old girl whos in love with a 25 year old guy who i know that my parents would never be approve of him...ive been dating a guy for three years and ive cheated on him with the 25 year old guy my parents love my current boyfriend and they think that this guy has been the best thing in my life but i donn feel the same way towards him and im scared if i end it with my current boyfriend hes ganna be devistated...something happend to me that i feel in love with the 25 year old even more but i know there will be no future with me and him becouse we come from two diffrent worlds..him to me is like a fantacy and right now whenever he calls he plays games with me and i have no idea how to handel myself wenever im around him or wenever he calls...i need help
If you know it's all games, drop your 25 year old lover. Why would you set yourself up to get hurt? If you know he doesn't truly value you, then STOP. As far as your relationship with your boyfriend goes, it's obviously pretty rocky (at least, from your end). You need to make a decision here. Do you want to dump him and stay single? Or do you want to stay with him? Regardless of your decision, you need to end your affair with the 25 year old. And whatever you do, do NOT tell your boyfriend you cheated. It will only hurt him, and it won't do any good.
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so my Xs are at my school(3) and 2 of them hate me. But the other is nice (Caleb) And like I like him but I'm fake dating this kid Ray Ray and like I like him 2 but I dont think he likes me!!!!! I dont know who 2 chose!!!!
Ray Ray has given me 4 hickeys and caleb broke my heart!!!!! Ray Ray is my friend but so is caleb what do I do???????
HELP!!!!!
Sondra ; )
It depends on how Caleb broke your heart and if you think he'd do it again. If you think he's going to hurt you again, it's probably best to stay with Ray Ray. If you think the situation has changed, go for Caleb.
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Alright so last year (sixth grde) i became friends with a few of the (lastyears 7th) grade class. But i especaially became close with this kid Ryan. And so we would hang out once and a while outside of school, always hang out at school, and call eachother like everynight, and talk on myspace and IM alot too. But now hes in 8th (hes leaving next year because i go to a jewish school and it only goes up to 8th) and hes starting to ignore me alot. Never calls, never IMs even when he knos im online, and same w/ myspace!! And every now and again he'll talk to me for five seconds and then leave for his class friends. And same with the other kids in his class, i mean basically hes the only one that knows me and my friends exist anymore,the other guys dont even look at us! So i tried calling him lastnight and it was probably the most one-worded okward conversations of my life! And we could used to talk for hours and hours! I dont get it!!?? Please help me so i dont loose one of my BEST friends! !
thnks a bunch
--Kay Anderson
I wish that I knew how to make best friends stay, but I don't. But, I do know that when people ditch a friend it isn't because they don't care anymore, it's because they want something different for their lives. Just remember that. Also, try to get involved in some kind of activity to take your mind off the end of your friendship.
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theres this guy named ryan who goes to my high school and he's in the same grade as i am. he's a MAJOR flirt and is also incredibly sweet and not to mention extremely cute.. our lockers are like right next to each other and we talk all the time. it's easier to compliment him because he doesn't make you feel stupid if you say something silly. (its hard to explain). i complimented him on his cologne and we hugged twice. however, the thing is, is that he sometimes hugs other girls as well.. i don't get jealous when i see him with other girls because i know he's free to do whatever he wants & i'm cool with it.
- we talk a lot
- i've seen him check me out
- he hugged me, twice! :]
- he smiles a lot when i'm around
- he looks at me in the corner of his eye whenever i'm around and he like sits in front.
- he always says 'hi' to me and is the first to start a conversation
should i just keep flirting with him?
Yeah, have fun with it. If it ever comes up, admitting you like him couldn't hurt either.
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