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ok I'm at a stage of my life where my personality is changing. I wear dark clothes and a studded belt and no I'm not turning into a goth I just have a dark personality. I'm giving rap a break and I'm into rock,favorite band is The Offspring. So to top it all off I want a new hairstyle. I'm thinking of growing my hair a bit long so I can go to some barber shop and ask to make it stand up staight and spikey and I want red stipes on it too. So is there any like website that has hairstyles like that?

P.S.
Since I'm into rock any one know any good rock bands or rock songs. I like songs played by people like Panic at the Disco,The Offspring,Greenday,All-American Rejects,Nickleback, and Sum 41. (link)
k well i dont know anything for the HAIR part, but i am sure that you can go to any hair place and they will have magazines to let you look at with all sorts of diffrent hair ideas.

i know alot of rock bands..some from like the 80's are and some now (but really good & people still listen to them) are: acdc, guns n roses, cheap tickets, talking heads, bon jovi, the doors, van halen, lynard skynard (im not sure if thats how you spell it) & more (just tell me if you want some more)

some from like currently are:
the plain white tees, from first to last, taking back sunday (tbs), my chemical romance (mcr), system of a down, blink182, and moree =]

-hope i helped


and if you want anymore bands justt tell me kay?


What do you do when you have a boyfriend who you love and you have been goign out for 5 1/2 months but you statrt to fall for your best friend and your best friend likes you?
I think I'm starting to fall for my best friend who I am always with and I know I flirt with him. He likes me too but the problem is I have a boyfriend. I feel like each of them has one of my arms and they are both tugging away and I can't decide whos hand I want to let go of because I don't want them to fall.
What Should I Do?
~Confused in Love (link)
I guess it really depends.

Your going out with you boyfriend now but on the other hand, you like your best friend. Well, it really does depend. I mean does your boyfriend treat you as good as your best friend does? If your constantly flirting with another boy thats like kinda being dis-loyal to your boyfriend and why would you wanna do that to him. It like your making him waste HIS time on a girl who is flirting with other boys. && thats not really right..Also, if you let your boyfriend find out on his own that your flirting and stuff with other guys, then its worse then just breaking up with him.

BUT, if you break up with your boyfriend for your bestfriend, what will your bestfriend think? Like if you break up with your boyfriend for another boy, what will that person think because if you broke up with your boyfriend for another guy, then what makes him think you would do it to him..? Also, lets say you go out with your friend (because lets say you dumped your bf) and then you guys break up. it might ruin your friendship.


Theres postative and negative reasons for both.. but if your constantly flirting with your friend and you like him..then i say you probably shouuld go out with your him... it really depends on what you think is right to do...

-hope i helped



well okay on thursday night my mom picked my sister and i up from my gradmas house at 1am, even though so was supposed to pick us up around 8:30. she was so drunk, and i was scared to get in the car. my sisters 7 and was asleep so i carried her outside with me. i get in the car and my mom goes crazy for NO REASON! she's being so mean, and i asked her why are you doing this to yourself? and she called me names. we got out of the car when we were home and i was on the phone with my gram and she hit me in the face and tried to get my cell phone, but i ran down street until she got inside, then i went in and ran up in my dads room (the attick.) he has a lock in the inside that i locked it. and sooo, she comes upstairs and trys to open in and calls me EVERYTHING in the world. a cunt, she hopes i was never born, ALL FOR NOTHING! as i was on the phone with my gram she heres everything. my dad comes home from work bout 1:45 and my moms passed out in her room and my sister is forced to sleep with her. she hurt me sooo badly, and i got no sorry. i wanna move out more then anything in the world. since then we haven't even talked. even before this TERRIBLE DRUNK DISASTER she was always so rude and treated me so much different then my sister. i don't like her, and i need help. sorry this is longg. (link)
k your probably filled with anger and stuff. i mean i kknow i would be. if i were you i wouldnt talk to her or anything like that. i would OMGGG like arghh i would totally wanna like kill her (i wouldnt tho) okay but serouisly you should talk to you dad and grandma about it. if i were you i would probably wait untill my mom says something to me about it.
best of luck


you said you had a 'million ideas' for the black and white nails, but you only gave me a few, which was BARELY helpful =[

could you please give me more, otherwise its not the best advice and ill change the rating (link)
kay well i exgerated. alright ummm heres a link with nail ideas:
http://www.pronails.co.uk/nail%20art%20ideas.htm
http://www.waningmoon.com/nails/design.shtml

or just go to google and try
nail ideas or nail designs for the key word.


My hair has recently started falling out. Not a lot, like alopecia (I know what that looks like, my brother had a mild case of it when he was younger), but significantly more than it used to. I have really thick hair, but it never really shed before and now I find that whenever I run my fingers through my hair in the shower I lose probably somewhere around 8-12 strands. My eating habits have not changed and I'm not under any more amount of stress than I have been, so I'm just curious as to what else could be the cause and whether or not this is something I should worry about. So, is it a big deal, or does this happen to everyone? (link)
im sure you could ask your doctor whats going on. explain to himi whats happening and then find out what you have to do to stop the whole situation.
-hope i helped


Okay, well i have this freind, Jane, and she is the nosiest thing. She'll look aat my grades, eavesdrop on me and my freinds conversation and ask personal questions. it's like shes a stalker.
But shes realy nice, but annoying
what should i do?
-jan
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talk to her about it NICELY. dont get her upset and dont do it in a way that will make her feel bad. just try to talk to about it nicley.
-hope i helped


im not sure weather or not to shave below .. i know ill be doing something soon becuase im kidna getting close to this boy and everytime we see each other we make out but it never got any further. but i think hes going to be going down or something and i wanna be ready .. and i dont know if i should shave all of it off.. help please ... rating (link)
shave it all off. no question about it!


well there is this guy i like his name is ian. i have had people tell me he likes me to; two of his closest friends told me that. & we write notes back & forth, tell each other we love them & we flirt like crazy. We can talk on the phone for hours at a time. I really like him & I want to start to date, but I dont want to ask is there anyway I can get him to ask me? (link)
kay do what your doing now. its working. that or you could write a note asking him out, or have a friend tell him that you like him and if he likes you, then
maybe he'll ask you out. also, maybe even get his friends to tell him that you like him. that might encourage him to ask you out.
-hope i helped


ok well...
In second and Third grade, one of my best friends was in my class. She left the school for 2 years. She is back this year. She is in different classes than me and i want to bcome one of her bst friends again...

what can i do? (link)
if she remembers you start trying to talk to her again. bring up good times from when you were younger. dont seem to "clingy" and dont be anyoying. since she is in none of your classes you could stop and talk to her in the hallways or something. maybe even ask some one or her for her screen name so you could im her and then start talking. im sure you to will have an awsome friendship again.
-best of luck


okay so i heard that you are a REALLY good advice person. haha . no serouisly. so i want to know if your boyfriend keeps blowing you off for another girl, do you think hes cheating on you with her? like ill have plans with him for the movies and he'll be like okay and then last minute hes like umm oh i forgot sorry...i kinda have plans with "SALLY" now tho.

it really ticks me off and i cant stop thinking about how he constantly blows me off for her. someone even told me they thought THEY were going out!
please help ADVICE EXPERT!!!!!!!
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help is on its way! haha jaykay. so yeah if i were you i would talk to him about it. its not right that he constantly is blowing you off for this girl. if i were you i would feel really suspisous. if he continues to keep blowing you off you could dump him. i kno that sounds "drastic" or what ever but i mean why would you want to be with a boy that spends more time with another girl, then his girlfriend? do whats right...dont waste a time on a guy that isnt serouis.

-hope i helped


im 12 years old and i've had pimples since the beginning of 6th grade (im in 7th now) and i have a boyfriend, but i hate my pimples sooo much. i would do ANYTHING to get them gone. i have recently purchased ProActiv Solution and i've been using it once a day because it was drying out my skin. How long do you think this will take? I've tried Benzaclin, AcneFree, and now Proactiv, and nothing seems to work. Help? (link)
alright. firstly i have proactive to. you have to make sure your apply the same amount they are telling you to apply in the right order, or if will dry out your skin. your probably applying to much of the step three "repairing lotion". try doing it once a day too (at night, thats when i do it). then i take a shower in the morning so the proactive works all night. in the morning i use clean and clear scrub. my face has no pimples or anything so that obvously is working. try that and if it doesnt work, write back to me and i'll tell you some other acnea treatments.
best of luckkk


so i jsut found out today
that my cousin who is in 3rd grade
is blind now
because he had a headache and didnt say anything
and now he has a brain tumor
and my aunt and uncle are getting the reults back today
to see if it spread to his spine
and if it did
they cant do anything and he is going to die
and i dont know what to do!
im crying right now talking about it
i dotn want him to die
because i love him so much
and espiaically cause he has a full life ahead of him. hes only like 9 or 10
idk if i should be sad that he can possibly die
or be happy for him cause hes not sufferring and hes in a better place.
help me please!
:[

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its natural for you to be sad, i know i would. well theres nothing really you can do if he is going to die (which is serouisly a horrable thing). if i were you i would just try to spend the most time you can with him and your family. Theres nothing you can really do. maybe try to start some like fun raiser or something for brain tumors. idk. just try your best to be with him and the family.
best of luck*


I like painting my nails black or white, but I was thinking of doing black AND white, so I need a list of things that are black and white that would be nice on nails (dominoes, ying yangs, etc) (link)
kay i have like a million ideass but heres a few: stripes, polka dots, checkered, doing like the whole nail black with white stripes at the top (like a french manicure but with black and white) or the oppistite way. also zig zags might bee cuteee.(im sure you could find some nail kit with these paterns in a nail book or something)
hope i helpedd


does any1 believe in telekenisis or having premitions or anything like that?...(sorry i probably spelt them both wrong)

(link)
yeah i do.. i mean like i have expericanedd things


hi..

So here the deal..I think this guy might ask me out and if he does i'm pretty sure i'll say yes..but like how do or when or should i tell my parents? (link)
firstly, dont lie! trust me thats the last thing you want to do. okay well they should know that you hang out with guys (just incase they dont) and tell them a little after you guys are going out, just to see if you actaully are getting along and stuff. it really depends. like my parents are the kind to make a "big deal" that im going out with some one but what everr. so just do it when the time is right. BUT if you dont want to tell them (cuz i probably wouldnt tell =|) it might be better. it really depends like if your parents are laid back and relaxed about that stuff go ahead tell them but i would probably not tell my parents but if they asked if i were going out with anyone or something i wouild prob tell the truth.


I like my best guy friend. He doesn't know it. But I get extremely jealous when he spends time with this one girl. I don't care if he spends time with girls, there's just this certain girl I'm worried about. I KNOW they're just friends, and that he for sure doesn't like her, but why do I get so jealous? I cry myself to sleep every night they hang out/talk. I know I can't control him, he's not mine. We've talked about it, he knows I don't like her, etc. Whenever they talk/hang out I never get mad I just get seriously depressed, I can cry for up to 2 hours. What is wrong with me? I think I just don't understand why he's spending time with her, and not me, but I'm not sure. Is there any tips you guys can give me about how to calm down when I get jealous? Thanks. (link)
firsty, dont try to yell or start anything with that girl because she has probably has no idea that it makes you jealous. you could tell him how you feel and all that stuff ..you could also use a stress ball or something. maybe even getting over him and going on to a new guy is a better thing to do then cry about it. also, dont cry about it! or try not to. hes just a guy and i bet that yo'll get over him eventaully and like someone else.
HOPE*** i helpppped.::.


Im 14, and im 150 ilbs. I am not athletic at all, I can barely do a cartwheel. My dream has always been to be a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader. How can I start exerciseing and doing streches, where by the time im older to be one=].

Everyone tells me I'm GORGOUS. It's just my weight! And i I'm not Athletic.

I can't join a cheer team, because they use the best! It's so imbaressing. So whats hould ido at home, Im willing to do ALOT a day =]. & how much weight would I loose, and how fast? (link)
okay how much weight you loose is up to how tall you are and stuff. but i think you should start gymnastics to start getting that athletic body and when you your older you will be able to do back handsprings and all that stuff. also, stretching every day is good (if you take gymnastics that will help you). try sit ups, the ymca gym because they let you in the gym when your 14, and read articals in magazines. they usaully ALWAYS have stuff in there about weight loss.
hope i helped.


My dad used to be really mean to my mom, and would treat me and her badly, and alot of stuff, I wont go into detail, but now he says he is sorry, and how he wants MY MOM bak, not really me. He just uses me to get to MY MOM. Like he willl only take me to the movies if my mom comes, and so on. But i like to be with him .But the thing is that the last 3 years i cut him out of my life, becuase he was so mean to us, and now he wants to a part of my life. I kno it is good to 4giv, but i 4 gave him so many times. I stood up 4him so many times, when no one else wud. Is this the last straw or no? Can you plz give me some advice? (link)
talk to both your mom and dad about it. togehter or either seprataly. i would say that you should go with what you think is right, i mean he is after all your dad but remember the stuff that he has done. do what you think is right.


I have a bump on my lip thats kind of like a coldsore.. but its not. This is kind of gross, so beware. It looked like an unpopped blister at first, so i popped it numerous times and everytime this watery lookin stuff ran out of it. I don't know what this bump is.
It kinda looked like a pimple at first, but now its a dried out sore and my lip is swollen around the area where the sore it.
My boyfriend won't kiss me until i find out what it is.

Please HELP!

*please don't say go to a doctor, my mom won't take me unless its serious* (link)
k well going to the doctor would be good...but since you cant how about you have your parent/parnets look at it. also, try getting medication for coldsores because i think i had it once too. just keep it cold, dont pick at it, put medication on it (like campho-phenique, or carmex), and after everytime u touch it wash your hands because it probably could spread like a cold sore.
hope i helped

(and for the mean time, maybe use concelar or something)


i've been getting acne lately ( the little red bump kind) and its sooo annyoing!! what are some really good medications- and i'd like to know....does proactiv really work ? is it worth buying? i have oily skin and this just started happening. thanks in advance! (link)
OKAY I HAVE LIKE THE PERFECT THING! okay so if you watch t.v. you probably have seen the commercails for proactive. yeah well proactice REALLY does work. it even comes with this lotion that makes your skin not oily (and some other things like extra scrubs, ect.). i dont have the number or anything, but next time you see the commercails for it try to write it down or something. it costs like 50 or 60 dollars (no higher, maybe even a little lower) but its totally worth it, and it works pretty fast. also, clean and clear is pretty good.
hope i helped!




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