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Q: ok i got this thing in the mail that said i could be in national american miss. but the thing is, i'm fat. 5'2 13/f 145pounds. i really want to be in it, but do you think they will accept a fat person? i have a bigger stomach then butt. but i'm just plain fat.
please help me
p.s. i have to answer in 9 days

If they don't, so what. Fill out the application. What is there to lose but a bit of postage. Apply. DO IT! Strike a hit for all us fat chicks. :)

Q: why do people put eyeliner on the bottom of their eyes? doesn't it like make your eyes look smaller???

it makes mine look bigger. Its mainly to draw attention to the eyes. I ONLY put eyeliner on the bottom.

Q: Does chocolate make you fat?
How about popcorn?

its all quantity. If you eat all popcorn all day long, maybe, same with chocolate. don't overdo it, and you'll be fine. :)

Q: I have absolutley no idea on what to get my best friend. I have asked her and she won't tell me antyhing. I want to get her something [ special ] and I have til about Saturday to do so. I really wanted to get her an iPod nano, but it's $200 and that's way to much.

Suggestions please?

My standard gifts(for girls) is handmade jewelry. If she's you're best friend, take some time, knot her a friendship bracelet. It'll show you were thinking of her, and took the time to make it. I'd rather have that than any expensive gift. It shows how much you care when you handmake something.

Q: So for tomorrow, my teacher has given us groups where we are supposed to remember 4 soliliquies/monologs from Romeo and Juliet. My group decided to divde them amongst us, and I was wondering if anyone had any good ideas that would help me remember my part...Thanks.

Oh I hate that.
When you do this, I find its best to split the monolougue up into pieces and learn the pieces. like every four lines or so. Then string them together.
Say it over and over and over. OUT LOUD. reading in your head does very little. Read it out loud, and then recite(with others is better, cuz they can correct your mistakes.)
hope this helps!
Rose

Q: i want to get my cartilage pierced. *spelling?

How bad does it hurt?
i am only 15 so i dont think i can get it done by claires yet. but thinking about getting it done by a tattoo parlor thing. (clean one of course)

anyone tell me their story of when they got it done?

Well. In complete opposition to the last person(sorry) mine did hurt. Its a very pinchy feeling at first, then it got really hot. It hurt like heck for about 5 days(I had it done at claire's... I'm 14) and then it just was hot all the time for about a week after that. It felt fine for several weeks, but it got sore if something pulled at it at all. Its all healed now, but its sensitive. I can wear anything in the other holes(I have double pierced earlobes) but I can only wear silver, gold, steel or titanium in my cartilage.
However, my mom also got hers done at the same time, and it didn't hurt her at all.
hope this helped!
Rose

Q: I have the sbc yahoo browser and no matter what I do, I can't figure out how to clear my history. I've gone through the whole control panel, internet options, clear history deal and it doesn't work. Is there some special way to do it with this type of browser?

I have to open it through favorites, click history, and then delete one by one. Its annoying, but it gets the job done.
okay... on my computer [windows XP], there's a little star[favorites] up in the top lefthand corner of my box. when you click it, there's a sidebar that comes up, and if you click on the "history" button, a list comes up of your visited sites. click on the one you wanna delete, and hit the delete key on your keyboard. then a box comes up, hit okay. continue as needed. :)

Q: ok so i have these blisters that keep on poping up.

let me explain:
on friday i had one on my middle finger on my left hand.
then on sunday night i had 3 more on my left hand. one on my middle finger one on my palm and one below my pinky and another one on my right middle. and today i had one below my middle finger on the left hand.

the thing is though. they don't hurt or itch or anything. like they for the most part are reasonably small. maybe like half a centimeter. maybe more. and then i get bigger ones that are like maybe a centimeter. and some of them are like flat and some of them are risen.

my mom said it could be some disease called like fists or fifths disease.

and i know it isn't scabies because it itches

any idea what it could be?

I thought I had blisters too... They started out like them, but then they hardened. Turned out I had warts on my fingers from stress. They make bandage things that have the stuff already on them... dunno if this'll help. (warts are about the size described, and hardish...)

Q:

I love picture quotes, but can someone name some good sites to find them? they look like this.

http://xe9.xanga.com/3fdd461714532110392729/w78529837.jpg

iconator.com... if yo ugo under avatars there's a whole bunch of things like that. ;)

Q: i've been on pointe for about 3 months now- and I have these REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY excruciatingly bad blisters on my toes. And whenever I roll from 3/4 to full pointe they start bleeding more. I always put band-aids and neosporin (sp?) on them, but it doesn't help.

How can I get them to not hurt when i do pointe?

I never made it to pointe. My teacher told me I sucked. LOL.
I have issues with blisters too. If you're going to be doing it a lot, you want calluses. This may sound really icky, and I'll put an alternate method jic, but if you pop the blister and peel off the covering(don't take off more skin than the blister size) then let it be open to the air for awhile, it starts to harden into callus pretty quickly. Also, when you keep band aids on for a long time it keeps the blisters soft. don't ask me why, I don't know. rub a little neosporin in and just let it sit for awhile. If you walk around without a band aid whenever possible(whenever you aren't wearing socks) it heals much faster. When you're dancing though, you can put in nylon. If you get a ped(one of those little nylon socks you get at shoe stores to try on shoes with) it doesn't show on the outside of the shoe. Putting something between your foot and the shoe is good, because those things are MURDER.
Hope your blisters get better...
Rose

Q: what exactly does it mean when someone says that their hair is greasy?

Greasy hair is where your hair is grimy feeling, even though you wash it enough. Greasy hair is very soft to the touch kind of the way it feels if you don't wash out all of the conditioner in it. It tends to be dull and flat looking, and it doesn't style easily. If your hair is greasy it makes it much harder to keep it looking nice.
hope this helps...
Rose

Q: ok so i have 2 really annoying friends. i mean i dont want them to not be my friends but they wont leave me alone. theres just mainly this one who i have been friends with for a year. and like shes never away from me. we ALWAYS have to hang out. she calls me at least 17 times a day. and she gets mad if i dont pick up. she comes to my house everyday. she lies about when shes getting picked up. i have to like pay for her like i have no choice. shes always pushing me around. and if i yell back at her she gets mad at me and wont talk to me. and i cant stand it when people are mad at me. but she gets mad over the stupidest things. im never away from her! liek if were just walking she'll just push me and if im like stop! shes like oohh you mad at me (puppy face) and im likes yeah! can you not push me?? then she walks away.. then like at the mall she'l lrandomly walk away and go somewhere.. and i will call her and be like where are you? and shes like in the store. im like yeah but where? and she'll be like in the front. and im liek well im jsut going to leave because your liek being really annoying. and like then like she constantly takes pictures of her on my phone then sends them to my computer which costs a dollar per picture. and like i had pictures of my crush and of me and my friends and she deleted them all and wont admit it but i know it was her. and then like she cant keep her mouth shut. and i feel so embarassed when im with her because she talks about people and like she says it soo loud. and liek in the mall there was a couple in front of us and shes like god these people are soo slow liek so loud. and then the guy is like sweetie let the people pass us. and hse even does with the elderly. and its just really annoying! but like she doesnt get it! and i tell her that its really annoying but like she wont stop!

and the other friend i have. lets call her friend 2. when you answer my question =D well she doesnt have her own life and obsesses over others. like i like this famous guy for like 6-7 years and now all of a sudden this year shes obsessed with him and like i have pictures of him and she jsut took them away and is like you cnat have these hes myne. and im like wtf? first of all your not gonna get him and you cant tell me who i can and can not like. and its really annoying. and like she gets so jealous. and like i was talking to her one day in the summer and were tlaking about guys and how i liked someone. and shes liek you know its gonna be hard for you to get a guy because you never made out with somebody. im like wtf? that doesnt matter. and shes like well you see you have no experience. and liek she just wont stop dissing you. and then like shes always like omg im soo fat and its just really annoying. and we tell her shes not. but she is. but then we stopped doing that and we just are to the point and say then just go on a friggen diet talking about it wont help you and your obesity! like she just wont shut up! and shes so controlling. like if im trying to have fun and i poke her or someting she'll be like oww! that really hurt! carissa stop! but then like she does it to me constantly. shes like treating us as if shes so mature and is our mother. and shes constantly saying that we look like shit and how she has to fix us and crap.and she just makes us look worse because shes ugly. and one day i was wearing uggs and and outfit from abercrombie and shes like eww why are you turning into one of those girls? and she like threw her gym clothes at me and is like go change. im like no! i like my outfit. and shes like you look like a slut! (and i was wearing sweats and a longsleeve shirt. im like wtf? liek shes so controlling! and nobody likes her.

i mean i dont want you guys to be liek oh dump both of them. because i mean everyone has their own possitive and negative traits. but i jsut dont want to be with friend number 1 constantly and i dont know about number 2. me and my "group" have kicked her out soooo many times but she wont leave us alone.

help.

Wow. okay.
I understand what you're thinking.
If you truly don't want to be friends with the first one anymore, make her angry, and don't attempt to make up with her. If you just need some time alone, tell her that you're going through some things you need to sort out on your own, and you don't want her to feel pressured to support you the whole time.
As for the second one, she seems like she needs a friend more than anyone. If you don't want to be her friend any longer, slowly inch out of her life, a little at a time, until you guys aren't really talking anymore. Don't just outright reject her, because she'll worm her way back in. SLOWLY push her out, and she won't realize its happening.
Well, I sound bitchy, but I'm sorry.
hope I helped
Rose

Q: There's this strapless dress I want to wear.
How do people have the confidence to wear them? there's only one zipper in the back that could go down and your dress would slip or if someone tugged the bottom it would go down! And worse is that I have small boobs so it'd prob won't hold up. Help!

If its such a big deal to you about the zipper, add button loops down the back on the inside. sew a little loop of fabric in(use matching thread) and a tiny button. a row of these will keep it closed- even if the zipper gets pulled. As for the boobs problem, not if you get the right size.
look for one thats moderately tight there.
hope I helped!
Rose

Q: What are some good authors for teens. I like Standiford, Rennison, Katie Maxwel, and Meg Cabot.

Hmmm. I personally love Sarra Manning. she's a Brit, but good. also Stephanie Meyer(she writes a little darker; her books involve hot vampires, even for people not into it like me, incredibly sweet), Gail Carson Levine, although she's a bit less adult. I forget the author, but the Earth, My Butt, and other Big Round Things was excellent.
Rose
(I have more, just didn't want to overload you.)

Q: So I've heard that it is healthy to put mayonaise in your hair, let it soak for a little and then wash it out. Could you tell me if this is true or am I just being tricked? Will it like bleach my hair?

oooh. it actually is. 0_0
seriously. My mom did mine, and it made it soooo shiny for like a week.
a couple of tips though:
1) don't leave it in too long
2) make sure you rinse it REALLY good, or it'll make your hair greasy
3) don't let the mayo get on your face and sit. it WILL make you break out.
LYL
Rose

Q: I gave junk food up for Lent.
But I'm not sure...

1]are granola bars (espeically w chocolate chip] junk food?
2] what are other foods i can eat, besides fruits and veggies that can replace it?

nopes. granola's pretty healthy.
if you get things you can heat up in the microwave, like waffles or mini pizzas, they're good. If you wanna do your own, you can use tortillas and sauce and cheese(its really pretty healthy). You can also do things like yogurt and fruit. Good for you, AND yummy. I personally like to eat salsa con quesa with a couple of tortilla chips(I eat the healthy kind). It tastes junky, but is good for you.
hope this helped!
Rose

Q: Ok well how many days is your period supposed to last?
Cause my sister said hers lasted about 5 days.. and mine only lasts 3. She said there was somthing wrong with me....do you think its true????
Or is that normal?

thats stupid. periods can last anywhere from 3-7 days normally. Mine tends to be longer... I had one that was two weeks. But yeah, 3 days is perfectly normal. Tell her she's wrong.
Rose

Q: My hair is sooooooo poofy!! I absoulutly HATE it. I take a shower every morning and it's great when I first get out, soft, shiney, wavy, and relitivly flat. 30 minutes later it's still soft, still shiney, still wavy, but (and I know this 4 a fact) it's 2 inches thicker. How can I stop this? I'll try anything, please!! Any good help will get a five, and I'll answer 1 of your questions!!

Yeah, mine does this too. Everyone else pretty much gave my answer, but if all else fails, get it chemically straightened. This is kind of drastic, but it works really well. Lots of salons offer Japenese perms, but they can be a little pricy, depending on where you go.
But yeah, the Sunsilk is really great. Also, a little bit of freeze spray when you get out of the shower is good.
Lots of Love...
Rose

Q: ive liked like 15 guys in the 14 years of my life but this time its different i like some one (he is kind of my friend) i give him things he asks for(food,candy and stuff like that) i talk to him like he is a regular person all my other crushes i was blushing and i had butterflies in my stomache but with him it like we can have a conversation without my throat getting dry and ive had 9 dreams about him one dream we almost kissed i feel so different all my friends tell me that im in love with him and they can tell that he likes me and they said i need to tell hm that i like him im so scared he would reject me i cant even begin to explain my feelings for him

Okay. This could sound stupid but whatever. I felt the same way about a guy for the longest time. Before that, I'd just been crushing, nothing serious, but this guy made me feel like nothing could ever go wrong. I didn't tell him how I felt for about six months. That was a really stupid mistake. He started liking a friend of mine. When I did ask him out, he went out with me, but promptly "forgot".
Don't wait around for the perfect time. This guy sounds really great, and you sound totally head over heels. Talk to him!!!
*hugs*
Rose
P.S. don't let the fear striking out...

Q: i was thinking for my non school uniform day(red nose day), i was going to wear them footless tights with a nice skirt but i was thinking would red footless tights look nice with a black skirt??

anyone got any ideas??

thanks xx

yeah, that sounds REALLY cute. :)

bio

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose