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Today my boyfriend and I were making out, and he put his hand up the back of my shirt. He has done that many times before and its fine. Nothing else happens. But today he kind of made his way to the front and tried to get up to my chest. I didn't say anything. I just kind of subtly put my arm in his way and he stopped. He didn't try again and I never told him to stop so I can't blame him, but I got really upset. I actually started crying which was weird because I don't cry much at all, but I tried to hold it back, and I told him it was just my contacts bothering me. He kept asking what was wrong but I couldn't tell him. I could only say "I don't know". I can't get myself to say the words. I want to wait a while and I know he cares about me, I'm sure he would be willing to wait till I'm ready for that. But I don't know how to tell him. He's shy about things like this when you actually talk to him about them so I think telling him face to face might be really difficult.
HOW do I tell him? When can I bring it up? How do I put it into words? What do I say to him exactly?

Okay, if you don't tell your boyfriend that you don't like that, he might feel like he's in control or he may feel he can do something bigger. Just tell him the truth. Explain to him how you feel. Relationships are based on honesty. Say something like "I feel really weird when you touch me there." Just be totally honest.
♥ Mz.JENNiFER

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ok so that tv show the girls next door on E!, what happened to it? it used to be on sunday nights at 10 but since the simple life started the girls next door hasnt been on. does anyone kno if the season ended or what?

The show ended. They re-run every once in awhile so keep your eye out. :-D
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14/f
okay well, blah this sounds embarrasing. if anyone hugs me, my chest, like hurts. im only 32a and my doctor or w/e says i wont grow a chest && everything till around 15. But like can this be a sign of my chest growing? Cause it annoys me when i hug my best friend or boyfrienf good bye cause i have to be like "dont hug so harrd". or do i have like breast cancer or something? I dont know im so confused :/

You probably don't have breast cancer. It's just a sign of growing. It takes awhile but your boobs will grow. If you really think you have breast cancer go see a doctor or you can examine your breast. Like touch them and if they feel different, consult your doctor.
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my boyfriend wants me to give him a handjob, but i'm not sure how to. can anybody tell me?

Well, basically stroke his dick until he has an organism.
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My best friends mom say no to have a sleepover everytime I go to her house and that she will miss her too much. But might not say no if she knows about it before. Evertime I ask my mom to have a sleepover she always says YES! We really want to have a sleepover. How could my friend convince her mom to sleepover my house.

Have a sleepover at your friends house first. That way her mom may feel comfortable with the fact of her daughter sleeping over your house.
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Is there such a thing where you can make your original AIM profile longer?

I tried searching google but came up with nothing

oh and please don't tell me to get a buddy4u or buddyprofile because I don't want that type. I just want it where you open the profile and already have it on there.

THANKS!!

Nope. Sorry hun but nothing else works.
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Hey everyone im 14/f and i am in Jr.high and i wanna be on the cheerleading squade and to do so i need to have a really cute/sexy cheer to preform at tryout's so i was wondering if anyone had some cheer's i could use and it would be well apresated ! i have to have them by wensday
Thanks in advance!

Oh Oh. Hmm... Here are some of my old cheers:
*You might be good at football
You might be good at track
But when it comes to basketball
You might as well step back
Might as well step back
Say what?
You might as well step back
Can't hear you
Might as well step back
Go (team name)!

*1 2 (team name) r coming 4 u
3 4 gonna rock the floor
5 6 we got some new trick
7 8 our team is great
9 10 were gonna win again!

*The (team name) r on the loose
Hey crowd pump that juice

*We stung you once
We stung you twice
so back off
or well sting u again
so back
off or well sting u again

*Smiles on our lips
Hands on our hips
spirit in our hearts
were ready to start!

*1 2 3 4
Wat do you think your feet r for?
stomp em get down
stomp em get down

*Spirit let`s beam ( clap )
we`ll show you our team ( Clap )
were so complete we can`t be beat
we`ll show you our team
( repeat x3 )

*Hey, Hey you,
get out of our way.
Because today is the day,
we will put you away!
Hey!

*Hey, (team name)
We're back to fight with pride,
So step aside,
Yell Go, Fight, Win,
Hey (Other Team)
We're back to attack,
We'll show no slack,
Hey fans,
We're back to fight with all our might,
Yell (3 team colors)
Yell (3 team colors)
Go (team name)(team spirit).

*You're down,
We're up
You really do suck
We fight,
We're right (repeat 3 times then say)
That's right, we really shut you up,
Go (your team)!
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I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I weigh 115 and im 5'5". When ever my dad sees me he always makes a suggestion like, you shouldn't eat that, you're just getting fatter and fatter. And if i ask for money for new jeans, he says, we'll stop gaining weight so you can fit back into them. I wear a size 0, and i'm growing, what does he expect? How am i suppose to cope with this? It's been bothering me so much lately. My sister, whose 20, is like anorexic skinny. She's my height but doesn't even reach 100 pounds. And my dad always compares me to her. What am i suppose to do?!

Goodness. First of all, YOU ARE NOT FAT! Don't let that bother you. You need to open up to your dad and explain to him how you feel. Tell your mom, if she's around. Don't ruin your health. Please don't. Then you hurt yourself. Just ignore your dad at the least. Just remember that you are not fat and do not let anyone ever tell you that. Be happy the way you are and don't strive to be something or someone your not.
♥ Mz.JENNiFER

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14/m whenever im somewhere and girls i do not know see me that are my age, they seem to be embarrassed and wont look me in the eye. I see them looking at me when im not looking at them and they wont face me. i went over to my friends house and she had two of her friends i had never met before. They were eating when i walked in and the two new girls looked really embarrassed and wouldnt look at me. then when they get to know me there not embarrassed anymore. does this happen to all people when they have never met before??? im not doing anything or looking at them strangely.

Hah. They probably thought that you were really hot. Its happened to me before. When I see a hot guy, I tend to be embarrassed. The girl that you bumped into probably was embarrassed because she thinks that you think she's lame or she just bumped into a really hot guy. Hehe. Its kinda what every girl does. Its totally normal for girls and guys. Don't worry about it "stud" hah.
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ok, so I don't have a lot of freckles but mine are really noticable. how do u make freckles lighter with out surgery. and my face already gets sunburned easily so I really don't want any ideas that will make my face more sensitive or lighter. Is there any way I could do this? tips? ideas?

Tan yourself so that your freckles are unnoticeable.
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on the previews for the new show 'Greek' theres a song being played by plain white t's. does anyone know what it is? all i hear playing is oh oh oh oh oh...

It's Hey there Delilah by Plain White T's

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Hey I have a question about clothes. What kind of clothes should I wear to be more attractive to girls. I have most of the basics of dress down but just wanted some tips. Any advice is appreciated. 16/M

It depends on the girl you are trying to attract. I prefer if a guy is wearing layered shirts with cute pants; anything layered; preppy kind of look; or emo. hehe. [Can't help it. They are hot] Long tee's are in. Also shirts with cute saying are adorable. Sweater vest are good. Maybe if you mixed up your style it would appeal to more than one clique. Now I am not saying to change your personality every day but just your style. Just diversify.
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14(almost 15)/f
whenever i am introduced to a new guy or meet a new guy they are always really weird around me, like they stand a few feet back and don't really make eye contact with me. the guy friends i have now say before i met them i came off intimidating. i don't see why, really. i'm not really loud and obnoxious or anything. and i'm 5'4'' (i guess that's like an average height) and i'm not huge so it doesn't look like i can beat up someone. whenever i meet them i'm always pretty friendly and smiling and stuff...what's the deal?

Hmm. Well, what can be intimidating is being too perky. Try to be regular around guys. Most of them like girls that are relaxed around them and not all nervous and shy. Don't try to be to normal but more like in between. Confusing, ehh. But what you must remember is NEVER to change for a boy. If you want to, that's another thing. If a guy likes you, he should like you for you, not who you pretend to be.
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[14/f] my parents are divorced my dad is a great man, works 5 days a week and has been doing the same job for 13 yrs. My mother on the other hand has never been able to keep the same job for at least 2 weeks, and im not lying on that one. she has been going to College for 6 yrs. and hasnt even gotten her bachelors degree yet! Because she keeps changing her mind on "what she wants to be when she gets older" Well when she told me that she would be transferring AGAIN but this time to get her masters degree. I flipped! she was like whats wrong and i told her, YOU NEED TO GET A JOB! and you need to DECIDE WHAT YOU WANNA MAYJOR IN!!! im sick of it. Soo a day later she tells me i thought about what you said and im gonna start my own buisness selling pottery,(pottery is her hobby) and in my head i was thinking all i wanted her to do was get a little part time job maybe at like borders or something. Soo im like whatever i give up. Then i go away on vacation for 10 days come back and she throws on me, by the way i filled out a job application for Urbana Library (a library in my dad's neighborhood!!!!!) AHHHH i dont know what to do, someone please HELP ME! I want my mom to have a job BUT not one in my dad's neighborhood!, i mean one of the reason's why i like to come to my dad's house is to get AWAY from her, if you can't tell we dont get a long at all...i dont know what to do, please ANYTHING would help at this point, even just support. Thank you =]

Talk to your mom about this job. Tell her why it bothers you if she works there. Explain to her in a calm manner. Try not to lose it. On the up side, Your mom may not get the job. Even if she does, you'll manage to live. This isn't that bad. Plus your parents may feel obligated to talk more and think about what to do about their relationship. Don't let this bring you down. Its a minor set back. Explain it to your dad. Maybe some way he can convince your mom to take another job. Don't let one set back ruin every thing.
♥ Mz.JENNiFER

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Where can I get a cheap crimper(crimps your hair, wavy look) that works good? I'm not willing to spend a lot of money(over $20.) Thanks!

Wal-Mart. Target. Tons of Stores. Don't limit down to one store. Try going online too.
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I need know how can I stay focus on reading a book that sound interessing, but thing is my mind so somewhere else. I really try like read words and picture what i am reading, but can't seem do it. anybody know any good word that help me focus?

Hmm. Well what I do is pretend I am a character in the book. Then the book gets more interesting. If it helps, stop every once in a while and predict what your character will do or what might happen next.
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okay so this is my first year cheerleading and im in 8th grade. yeah i think i started late but thats not the point. i joined it because i've always wanted to do cheerleading and people that i know are on my squad. then as a few monthes pasted, one of my good friends was online and asked, "should i do cheer?" i said yes in a heartbeat. shes doing it now. but now idk what im gunna do bc now she has this big problem with me and ive said im sorry and everything. idk how im gunna do cheer with her "hating" me. how will i do this? it's my first year, im so worried. please help me!!!

Goodness! When cheering forget about her. If you like to cheer, go ahead and cheer. Don't let anyone stop you from doing something you like.
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ok im 14 f i masturbate usually about once a week if that i have to get very u no n e way when i do it doesnt feel that great its good for like a minute then my thing start spasing and i cant keep going like it doesnt feel good

and what can use around the house i dont have n e condoms so plz dont say use that and my brother is home so where can i do this o and besides website wat can i do to get myself "excited"

thanks

Umm. Well. It basically depends on what gets you excited. You can try putting water on your vagina. For example, lets say you have a pool, put your vagina near the jets or when you are taking a shower, just put your vagina and let your vagina soak. You can also get a back massager and put it where you please. Just turn on the shower so your brother can't here or go in your room and lock the door and turn the radio up really loud and do what you gotta do. Just have fun and invent your own ways. Good Luck
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i'm asian, my hair is 7 inches past shoulder length, really thick, really heavy, straight, and black. my face is oval-shaped, and i always part my hair on the side because the left side has good bone structure that i like to show off. i'd really love a change that makes people look at me differently, like i just got a major makeover. any ideas? i have very minimal time to style or anything. all i'm willing to do is blowdry. please send links to specific pictures of haircuts because if you give me a link to a website, i've probably already seen it, but i want your opinions specifically. thank you all who respond so much!!

Hey there. I am also Asian. What you should/can do is cut your hair so you have bangs. [Side Bangs] and get your hair layered. http://weeklyecho.com/blog/media/1/20061027-NicoleRichie.jpg
like that but a different hair color. What else could work is getting dark brown highlights. Lots of Asians look good like that.
Good Luck! ^_^
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after i shave "down there" i always get these little red bumps that never go away
..is there anything i can do to make them stop appearing?

This happened to me before. My doctor recommended putting lotion on my vagina. It helped a lot. If you come to the point where the bumps don't go away, consult your doctor or go on a website such as the one the other advicenators have given you.
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