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intimidating guys
14(almost 15)/f
whenever i am introduced to a new guy or meet a new guy they are always really weird around me, like they stand a few feet back and don't really make eye contact with me. the guy friends i have now say before i met them i came off intimidating. i don't see why, really. i'm not really loud and obnoxious or anything. and i'm 5'4'' (i guess that's like an average height) and i'm not huge so it doesn't look like i can beat up someone. whenever i meet them i'm always pretty friendly and smiling and stuff...what's the deal?
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You are 14 of course, so I am assuming the guys you are talking to are also 14. Guys get intimidated very easy, and when your friends say that your are intimidating... well it could easily meen that you are very attractive, and guys get shy when you talk to them. That could also be why they dont like to make eye contact too.
Keep being pretty, friendly, and smiling. Guys like that kind of attention, but maybe these guys are too young to know how to react to it yet. But if you are who you say you are, dont change. Guys like girls who show them attention and dont shy away, it makes us feel better.
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I just had this talk with my friend. Guys get intimidated so easily. They can look at you, and if you have a pretty face they'll just get intimidated since you're pretty.
He meant you intimidate them by your looks. Guys are afraid to approach some girls that they think will reject them on an instant. They don't want to be rejected by you so they think avoiding you and being intimadated will just save them the trouble of rejection.
You could be gorgeous and guys will just be intimidated. It's not anything you're doing, like being obnoxious or even loud, but if that's how you look, they'll just be intimidated. That happens with me all the time. I'm the total opposite of being loud, and obnoxious, and I'm always friendly and even sometimes shy, but from how I look some guys get intimidated and don't approach me.
It's not you so don't worry about it. And that's what your friend meant by being intimidated. Hope this helps you. :)
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means your hot, they dont want you to think they're weird. eye contact definately means there scared of making themselves look like an idiot. well about the smiling stuff, smiling for no reason right in their face might look strange.....anyway a little bit of flirting and play fighting might loosen them up. but generally just interacting with them and complimenting them, asking questions etc... also your probably staring at them the whole time waiting for a response.... that would feel imtimidating to any guy, no matter how confident he was. if your just standing there, it feels strange to just be looking right in each others faces both staring. ask him do you want to go for a walk or something so you have something to concentrate on. if your just standing or sitting then you should look him in the eyes sometimes blink naturally and look in other places. its much easier if your with a group of people because then you can talk to other people. also you might be a bit too close to him.
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Hmm. Well, what can be intimidating is being too perky. Try to be regular around guys. Most of them like girls that are relaxed around them and not all nervous and shy. Don't try to be to normal but more like in between. Confusing, ehh. But what you must remember is NEVER to change for a boy. If you want to, that's another thing. If a guy likes you, he should like you for you, not who you pretend to be.
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