I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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Is it right for a girl you are going on dates with but isn't your gf to makeout with one of her guy friends once while you are both contiuously going on dates?
Also is dating multiple people at once acceptable while not being a couple with anyone but going on dates with one person over and over again weekly?
How do you convince someone to get tied down and realize a relationship isn't bad and that while they may lose their freedoms it's worth it? Should one even try and convince them of this? (link)
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K the answer to your first question yes because technically shes not your gf so she can do whatever until you do ask her to go out with out ask your gf. The answer to your second question like i said she isnt your gf so she can do whatever and even though its not right to lead on the guy by going out with him weekly shes entitled to do whatever she wants its her life. And lastly you cant really convince someone to tie down unless they really want to meaning you can sit them down and talk to them and try to convince them but most times its a waste of time for both you and her.
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I'm going to go tanning in my backyard tomorrow and im fair skinned. Does anyone have any tips for me to get a good tan? How long do i have to stay out there? If i ware sunblock will i still get a tan? I will rate! (link)
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I suggest using tanning lotions because skin cancer these days is kinda big but if you are still gonna do it i suggest wearing a lot of sunblock or else you will get burnt and will have a higher chance of getting skin cancer. Also i should add dont sit in the sun for too long the longest i suggest is 30mins because your fair so its gonna take longer for you to tan and if you sit in the sun too long you gonna get burnt really bad i suggest going tanning every day for small periods of time which will prevent you from getting burnt and still give you a good tan.
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Ok my friend katie likes my boyfriend when we were going out. and then we broke up and she didnt even wait 1 week to go out with him. should i tell her off or just suffer? (link)
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I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel because i think thats kinda shady and bitchy i mean the least she could have done was waited atleast a few weeks or a month or even asked you if it was okay with you i cant say tell her off because im suppose to give you good and helpful advice and i dont think telling her off is going to do anything but create more problems and cause bigger fights and a lot of drama.
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What is better? Asking a girl on a few dates then asking her to be your gf, or, flirt awhile and be "talking" then ask her to be my gf. Which is the better way to go? How do you go about starting a relationship up with someone you just met? (link)
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I think dating then asking her to be your gf is better because that gives you the opportunity to get to know her better and gives her the opportunity to get to know you so that theres no misunderstandings or confusion afterwards.
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i like this boy..alot...buttttt i dunno if he likes me..and i DONT WANT TO ASK HIM but back in middle schooll he alwayz flirted wit mme an all but now i dont know noo mo..r u gonna help or what? (link)
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Asking is kinda the only way your gonna know unless he comes up to you and tells you because no sign he sends is gonna tell you for sure if you dont want to ask him have a friend ask for you or have your friend ask his best friend to ask him i find it usually works in this situation.
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what do girls do when they start to get sick of a guy? (link)
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I dont know why they wonnt just tell a guy straight up i know i do but i guess some girls just dont want to hurt the guys feelings or maybe just want to keep the guy around until they can find someone else. I dont really know why some girls do that but not every girl does
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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her? (link)
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If he really likes you then he will break up with his gf but since he hasnt i think he might just be using you i suggest talking to him and asking whats up you dont want to be with a guy who doesnt really like you.
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I have an ex that im still crazy in love with.He obviously broke up with me..because he said he stopped liking me as much as he did in the beggining. We still talk and hangout ALL the time.Once in a while alone,but most of the time we are in a group. We get along so well still and always have fun times together.He even told me he hangs out with me more than some of his best friends and the same goes for me too. When we first broke up,he made a few attempts to hookup with me and made a small attempt a couple weeks ago.We sometimes fight though and then he gets mad at me and it usually results in him saying "im not your boyfriend anymore so stop acting like it!" so i feel as though he gets the vibe i still like him..yet whenever we go to parties,im usually flirting with lots of other guys,in front of his face. We never ever talk about eachothers hookups,or if we are talking to any other people,or anything about love interests etc. so thats good but I cant continue hanging out with him if we aren't dating.He's become routine in my group of friends and it's almost hard to avoid him all together.When we dated,we mixed our groups of friends into one big group and now we are all close so i dont know what to do! I was going to write him a letter about how i feel and tell him i can't talk to him anymore and maybe then he'll either realize what he had when im gone,or we will just separate and hopefully ill get over him.help! (link)
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I think its hard or sometimes impossible to be friends with someone you use to date which is why i never do it i think if you feel uncomfortable being friends with him now after youve dated him or just dont feel its right then you should just tell him you cant do it and if he wants to get back together awesome and if not then move on theres more guys out there and as for the friends part just hang out with them still i mean im sure hes not gonna be with them all the time and if he is then try to get your friends to do things away from him.
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I am 46 yrs old and am thinking about getting a bachelors in healthcare administration--I got an assoc in rad technology 24 years ago. I would like to do it online and it is expensive so the question is do I risk going into some debt to pursue this new career. I don't think I have what it takes physically to do my current job for another 20 years so that is why I am thinking of continuing my education and it is something I always thought I could do--just worried about risk versus reward I guess. (link)
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I think if you really want to do it and feel that its the right choice you should just go for it im thinking its better then doing your physically challenging job now so i say go for it you only live once you might as well do it and this could open some new oppurtunities for you and after completeing school and starting the job you can put some money away to save to make up for the money your now spending on education.
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i had sex with my girlfriend without a condom i put it in twice and pulled out and she is on the pill is there any way she can be pregnant????????? (link)
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The answer is yes its possible to become pregnant when you’re on the pill a standard birth control pill is effective about 99.5% of the time if it is used absolutely correctly, so if you use the pill according to the instructions you have a 0.5% chance of becoming pregnant over the course of one year. You could get pregnant even if you do everything right so basically there is a chance and theres even a bigger chance if she didnt take it properly meaning if she skipped a day or two she should probably take a pregnancy test and go to the doctor to make sure.
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Hey I need help. My sisters have gorgeous rooms. We liv in a nice house, but i want a nice room. My room has ugly colored walls. They were supposed to be light pink, but they turned to a white with a little peach in it. It looks like puke. anyways, i want a room makeover, but how do i do it myself? How can i reorganzie my room and make it looks pretty? What stores are cheap and have nice stuff? How Can i paint my room myself? btw, my parents are too busy to help, i know pathetic. They have alot of money too but they spend it on unnecessary things like fatty foods etc. Please Help me (link)
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Well painting your own room isnt hard if you have the right supplies and i would get your sisters to help out if they can it can be a lot of fun. But anyways painting just pick your favorite color put tape around the areas where you dont want the paint to go and just move the brush up and down. For decor JYSk is a good store if u live in cananda, ebay has awesome stuff, department stores as well or homesence basically any department stores will have room decor that you will like ebay i still find it best because they have a lot of cool stuff you cant find at stores. I hope this helps. Good luck :D
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19/f. i'm in college and i have kind of a busy schedule. the thing is that sometimes it takes me a while to get ready in the morning. i usually like to go to the gym before class or before work. but, i always usually go in the morning. they have a very nice dressing room with amazing showers so getting ready there isn't really a problem... it just seems that it takes a while to get my makeup on, change into nice clothes. I'm not saying i go super fancy to school... but i do want to look descent. I don't usually wear sweatpants to school, i wear jeans, skirts, you know, just more appropriate. then sometimes, from school, i have to go to work (where i usually sell a lot to young women/girls), so i need to look "girly." I was just wondering if you can give me advice on maybe how to get ready quicker. it seems that i have to go through this whole "process" to get ready. i don't overload on make-up or anything, but i just sweat a lot and usually have to blow-dry my hair. are there any quick tips for that? is there something i can maybe use to not sweat so much on my hair specifically? i don't mind sweating everywhere else but it's hard to look descent when your hair is all sweaty.. and then it gets frizzy, etc. sorry if this is so long, but if you have any experience with something like this, let me know if you can offer me any advice. thanks a bunch! Cristy (link)
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I know what you mean i use to take forever getting ready for school what makes it easier for me is just taking a shower the night before and then just taking a quick shower in the morning and then for your hair just get some serum and hair straightening balm that should control the frizz and make it easier to control your hair and for makeup instead of doing a whole bunch what i started doing is just applying what i really need such as foundation, concealer and a little blush and maybe some eyeliner or mascara if you just do whats necessary it will be quicker also if you can i suggest working out at night and then taking a shower right after so in the morning its easier for you because working out at night it actually helps you sleep better and is just as effective as working out in the morning.
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By the way for the great advice on my last question but now something has happened that I need advice on more than that. Ok I'm was friends with this one girl and she was awesome I loved her to death! She failed school so I went to high school before her. We didn't get to talk much after that but we were still very close. A while went by until yesterday. She and her brother (which I was also good friends with) were in the car with their mom. I do't know whybut they swerved or lost control or something and all three of them died. I am deeply depressed now and every object in this world reminds me more and more of them. I haven't stopped thinking about her and her brother since it happened. I couldn't even sleep because I couldn't stop crying. I don't want to forget but I want to get my mind off of it. Do you have any advice at all??? If you don't thats ok. At least you tryed but it's just so depressing. Thanks! ="}
CrazyRandumChick (link)
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Its always hard when you lose someone i suggest just hanging out with friends or doing something you like to keep yourself busy im sure if you keep yourself busy doing things you like you wont think about them too much or another way to feel better about what happened is just wait until everyone is out of your house go to your room turn your music up and just cry and scream once your done you will feel better and you wont feel like crying and then you can start doing what you like doing again and not be so emotional like this anymore. I hope this helps Good luck :D
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hi, its kathleen20. thank you so much for your answer. do yuo have a unanswered question? i would love to help u out (link)
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Hi np and no sorry i dont but if i do i will ask you :D
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So my ex boyfriend and I are very close again,after a breakup about 6-8 weeks ago. When i say close,i mean very close friends. We talk all the time ,hangout all the time,and just get a long great just like we did when we were dating,obviously without the commitment,without the kissing,and all that. We both aren't talking to anyone new and I don't have anyone in mind and I'm not sure if he does though. ( I wouldn't dare ask..but i dont think he does.) We often do flirt sometimes but it hasn't led to anything major.He's basically gone from my boyfriend for about 3 months,to now like my best friend.I am still crazy in love with him and I don't know what to do! Summers coming and i was thinking about just ending my friendship with him and writing him a letter telling him why..and maybe if im out of his life he will rethink things..help! (link)
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I think telling him face to face how you feel is better then writing him a letter because if you write him a letter he will just think you didnt have the decency to tell him to his face and then he will never rethink things. You need to tell him to his face sit him down tell him how you feel and if he doesnt agree end the friendship because if you cant be his friend because you like him you never will be able to because you will always have feeligns for him and if you continue to be just his friend he will date other girls and that will make you uncomfortable. So ya if things dont work out the way you want move on find someone new who does want a relationship with you and who will love you like you love him.
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i have a crush in school, and at one point he liked. me. then i made the stupid mistake by not liking him. i really really really like him now, and his birthday is next week, and i dont know what to do. what do i get him?!?!? do i tell him i like him again? he knows i really like him, and he acted annoyed by me, but im not annoying :( help. what do i do for his birthday?! (link)
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Well for his birthday i suggest you tell him how you feel i mean i think he would love getting a gf as a present for his birthday :) but ya you should tell him and as for his present get him something he likes like cd's of his favorite band, clothing, watch, calogne, something sports related or music related if hes into it theres a list of things you can get him it just depends on what kind of person he is and what he likes.
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i can't achieve the curly look and i really need help on it. I have medium brown hair and its shoulder length. Its naturally straight but my hair holds curls really well.. its not like i curl it and then it falls apart after an hour. It actually stays in for a good 2 days before it looks bad. the only problem is that when i curl it, it gets kinda frizzy. like there's a bunch of small strands just sticking straight up. and i try to hairspray it down and use serum but doesn't work. and its not like my hair is damaged because its actually very healthy considering i use professional salon products.
also whenever i curl my hair, its too curly. like the spirals are big and tight.. I want it to be more small and loose. like this picture right here:
http://ths_assets_production.s3.amazonaws.com/hairstyles/images/9772/icon/Lauren-Graham-1.jpg
http://www.haircareknowledge.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/curly-hair.jpg
http://www.marieclaire.com/cm/realbeauty/images/qK/rb-long-natural-curls-18-0809-de.jpg
also- how do i make it more wavy looking? i have a straightener that can straighten, crimp, and curl hair but i have no clue how to actually create waves. its it like curls but more relaxed curls? or what? (link)
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k well to get rid of the frizz i suggest getting something meant for frizz and since your into salon products just go to your salon or where you purchase your salon products and ask them for a frizz easer or what i find helps is taking a dryer sheet and rubbing that in your hair it takes all the static and frizz out of you hair also lotion is good to use to remove frizz try some of these things im sure something will work. Now for the loose small curls i suggest using more pieces of hair so when your curling take a larger chunk of hair and that will make them more wavy beachy loose looking curls like the ones in the pictures. Also for the wavy look again take larger chunks of hair and pull the curls away from your face in a kinda side ways motion and make sure the hair isnt so tight around whatever tool you use make sure its loose. If this doesnt help go onto youtube there are tons of girls who make videos about this kinda hair that will be more helpful just type in loose curls tutorial or something. Good luck :D
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I have known this guy for a few years now. And I have never 'ever' felt this way about anyone and I swore I wouldnt ever let myself get like this. I swore that I would never cry over a man. We went out once for about sixmonths about a year ago. And are the begining of this year we were so close, I mean like brother and sister. And we were texting and he say "I really like this girl. And I think she likes me back. Im asking her out tomorrow." Well he was coming over to my house the nextday we 'were' going to hang out. Bu he blows me off for some other chick claiming his parents grounded him(his parents dont care what he does. But now hes with this awful girl who is so mean to me. And he hardly ever talks to me. But I still love him. What do I do? (link)
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Well first i would message him and talk to him ask if he wants to hang out maybe go bowling, go for dinner or go watch a movie or something or just invite him over to talk tell him how you feel and how you really like be around him but you cant because his gf just doesnt seem to like you. If talking it out doesnt work then i suggest just moving on forget him because he obviously isnt being very good about it i mean if you were close before and that friendship is still there then he should be able to talk to you about this and come up with a salution but if he doesnt then forget him and find a better person no point in wasting your time over him.
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I'm new to Advicenators and I was wanting some tips from you. I've noticed your really good at this and I also love all your answers and the fact that you tell the truth and don't beat around the bush or lie. I was hoping that you could give me some tips and advice on how to be a good Advicenator like you......
CrazyRandumChick
P.S. I know that you really aren't supposed to ut your username on a question but I wanted you to at least know who was asking you this. =)
P.P.S. How'd you decrate you column like that???? It looks awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hi first of all thank you for choosing me to help you im very happy and secondly welcome to advicenators always nice to have a new member to the team. I guess the only tips i can really give is just be yourself tell it like it is and never lie to make someone else feel better because telling the truth will help them lying wont. Another thing i suggest is dont go by ratings people will rate depending on how honest or real your answers seem so if you pay to much attention to your ratings you wont be able to do well. And lastly when answering a question relate it to yourself or someone you know personally and that will help you answer the question better also always take you time when answering a question. Those are basically all the tips i can give you because thats what i go by when im on here I hope you have fun on here helping people like i do and just enjoy yourself.
P.S: I just actually decorated it this past weekend lol i just picked a background from one of the many advicenators offers you can check them out under miscellaneous tab on the left hand side of the page and as for the rest just go to column or profile settings.
Also if you ever need help or just want to talk feel free to message me on here or on my email pavandyal@live.ca :)
GOOD LUCK:D
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I am a 15 yr old female. I have been dating this guy for 3 and a half years. He is amazing. We have been best buds since I can remember. He is kind sweet sensitive. I am not in love with him. Because I am too young for love. But I have very strong feelings for him. But here is the problem.
Me and my boyfriend have only held hands. Wehave agreed we both want too have our first kiss. But we dont know when to do it. We see each other once a week.But I really wanna kiss him. He said he wants too kiss me very badly. I dont know how too kiss but how do you know when it is the right time too kiss. We only see each other at youthgroup. We get 15 minutes to ourselves too do what ever and we hang out in a van. Any ideas on how we can have our first kiss????I am soo very sorry this is so long. (link)
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The first kiss is always something special and although you feel like you dont know how or your scared you might mess it up or something just think of how good you will feel once you just do it because you'll be kinda expressing your love to eachother i say just give him a little peck on the lips to just start off since its your first kiss im sure with time you guys will get more comfortable and be able to kiss better afterwards just give it time no need to rush but ya next time your alone just lean in and give me a little kiss. :D
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