I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
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I just moved from New Jersey to New Mexico.
I met a really cool kid named Matthew here, and I think that we are close to dating, because we really like each other. The problem is should I tell my ex boyfriend [we're SO close, and we've been best friends for like 7 years, the reason we broke up is because I moved] that I found someone new? & how should I tell him.
Thanks. =P (link)
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I wouldn't just get right to it and be like "HEY, I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY DOWN HERE!" Just have a normal conversation with him and kind of casually bring it up.
He's going to have to face that you're bound to find someone down there. If anything he should be happy for you. Sure, he may be bummed because you aren't his but what can you do? Just hang around in New Mexico not dating anyone for his benifit?
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i'm going to be 15 october 3rd, and i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, anything close to a boyfriend. i have a TON of guy friends, i'd like to think i'm pretty popular, i have gorgeous friends, i think i'm pretty well-liked...but i'm just not that pretty. i'm a 'prep' (in other words, i wear american eagle, aero, etc...i straighten my hair and do my makeup) but i wear like a size 12-14. guys think i'm 'cute' and they like me as a friend. i really want to get a boyfriend before formal which is january 19th. what to do??? (link)
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Try being more flirty with them. Remember, guys aren't everything and don't feel bad for being a bigger girl. Im a 14 myself and quite comfortable with my size.
Why not just ask one of your guy friends out to the formal? I know it would be considered as a 'friend' date but if you can get any of them one on one and talk to them maybe more things would develop from it?
Start asking guys around the school if they want to hang out or something. You could even fake that you need help on a certain subject for school. That's always a classic way of getting to bond with someone. Goodluck, and remember to be confident.
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My girlfriend and I have been in a very seriuos relationship for about a year and a half. She doesn't really have many other friends other than me and hesitates when turning to her parents. (I am 17 she is 16). This leads me to one problem. When she needs to turn to someone, I'm the only one left. I love when she turns to me with her problems. It makes me feel like I help her out, but a lot of the time I don't know how to give her advice. The latest thing is that she's been under a lot of stress. She baby sits a metaly disturbed child who threatens her and she is taking advanced placement classes in school. I want to help her manage her time but it's hard to give her advice on a situation I've never been in. Please help me help her.
P.S. Any general advice to give her in the future is much appriciated. (link)
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Just tell her that you are there for her and that you're definatly there to hear her yell. Let her rant to you for a while. Advice can be tough to give but you'll be helping her a lot just by listening and letting her yell and get it off her chest.
Maybe you should take her out someplace nice too? Nothing fancy, but something maybe a little private. I can understand if it's not really easy to do that, but it might take her away from the stress a little bit.
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Ok, so this guy that I am in love with and yes I am positive it is love, well he is being a total jerk about it. He doesn't want to open up and share emotions, he never wants to be around me anymore, he has girls as friends, but tries to like hint that they are more... I'm not sure what he problem is, he has said "I love you too" or "I love you" to me before but lately we have been bickering because of stress on both parts and its just dramatic and we both hate it... I try to tell him how I feel, but he thinks that its stupid infatuation and virgin attachment (he was my first). I think else wise because of the way I am... its hard to express in words how it is. He makes me heart flutter fast but slow, Im thinking nonstop about him, I've stuck up for him with friends and family... Ive battled my best friend over him and now no longer am talking to her. Im starting to think he is not worth it, but I cant fight the feeling of how much I care for him. It keeps bringing me back to him. What should I do?? Just forget him and move on? Crack down and be a hardbutt and make him open up? Oh and forgot to mention, he is moving on Saturday, 3 1/2 hours away... my mother knows this and says its a challenge but one we can tackle if I love him.. so she is with me on this. Frankly my whole family is, they adore him. I'll rate high!!! I'm desperate for help and please I want some help from people with at least some expierence in this.. (link)
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If it's stressing for the two of you why deal with it? Ah. Love. You need to talk this out with eachother, and work out your problems. Or take some time apart, which to me sounds like the best thing for the both of you right now.
I've been in your shoes a lot. I've put up with a lot of things from my ex boyfriends, and I did it because I loved them and I stood by them because I loved them. Once our relationships were badly burned I realized how much better things were... and what I could have done to turn everything around.
Having a relationship long distance IS hard, but it is very doable. A lot of people go through with it and suceed.
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Hey everyone. I'm kind of stuck in a situation that I don't know what to do with, please help. Recently my friends have been noticing alot of changes in my mood, such as it changing every few minutes; Like from excited to depressed in 2 minutes. My friend's dad has Bipolar Disorder, and she says that I may have it too. Well I'm really tired of being like this, because I just want to be happy, without the feelings of sadness all of the time. I want to ask my parents if I can go see a doctor about this, but my parents never take me seriously. I'm 15 years old and they still treat me like a 10 year old. If I were to ask them then they would laugh in my face and say nothing was wrong with me; 'It's all in my head' would probably be a response. Can someone help me with my problem? I don't want to be in so much pain anymore, I want to be normal. Without any help then I can't live like I once did. What should I do? Thanks so much ahead of time. (link)
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I used to go through phases of depression as well. I delt with it pretty much alone and without the help. So now doctors, no pills. I'm out of that stage now, but I really remember how much I hated being like that.
You need to put your foot down with your parents and tell them how unhappy you are. If they don't listen to you then go to the school counciler if you have one and tell them. Or. Try to find something that will soak up most of your interests and take you away from being so miserable.
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ok i love this girl i was going out with her for 9 months and then she broke up with me but i found out she still loves me and i still love her but she odesnt want to love but she does and i dont know wut to do...i need help....i dont know wut 2 do..... (link)
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Take her someplace quiet, maybe a tad romantic. Tell her your feelings for her, and that you'd never hurt her. If she wants to take things slow this time around, you'll wait for her.
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My friend just broke up with her boyfriend, and he happens to be one of my really good friends. For the past couple of weeks shes been treating him like dirt and she even told him that she had him rapped around her finger! I thought that was really mean of her. Anyways, they broke up today and now he is sooo sad. He loved her so much and I don't know what to say to him. He's so upset. What do I tell him? I keep telling him it's not his fault but he's just like ugh =(. (link)
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First, I woul tell your friend to stop being such a witch. There's no need to treat your ex like dirt, though it seems to be the popular thing to do.
As for her boyfriend? Just talk to him, that's probably what he really needs right now is just someone to talk to. About anything really. Words of wisdom and inspiration will probably naturally come to you as you speak more to him about the situation.
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this is a little confusing sorry if it's long.. well okay this year i started liking this guy named Ron. My best friend, Kelly started liking Ron's best friend, Peter. well me and kelly were really close and we are bff. ron and peter r the same way. well i've always liked ron but i don't really "know" him.. he said he'd go out with me if he knew me better. anyways, kelly & peter started going out.. they went out for about a mounth. peter dumped kelly and kelly says she still likes peter. but now i'm mad at kelly because she has been really flirty with Ron and she KNOWS that i like him. it's reall making me mad. we went to the movies last night and she was always talking to ron and flirting with him. we just recently got off the phone and she told me that her and ron were text messaging last night and that ron called her today. i'm really mad at kelly.. what should i do about my situation??
ps-sorry it was so long (link)
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This is a two sided kind of answer, and it's probably not what you want to hear but...
Kelly is your best friend, yes? The relationships between my friends is basically - if I like a guy, they won't go near him. She shouldn't be rubbing it in your face that they've been talking, especially since she knows you're into him.
BUT.
Ron also has said he doesn't like you, it's not really fair to Kelly if she has feelings for someone and he has feelings for her but they can't date becuase it will upset you.
In the mean time be Ron's friend, get to know him more and such. Don't necessarly try to steal him away. You may find out that you really don't like him and he isn't right for you anyway.
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Ok there is this boy in school and in the begining of the year we talked not alot but enough...so then one day he told me that i was pretty so i figured he liked me..(he didnt really just go over to me and say ur pretty but there is a hole long story but you dont need to kno it to help me)...so then after that happend he kinda just stopped talkin to me and we never really talk much...so does he like me or not??
please help ------->i'll rate 5's (link)
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Did you respond positively when he told you that you were pretty? You could have given him the wrong response so he figured that you might not be into him and he kinda ditched you.
Or, maybe now that he's come out with what he thinks about you he's too shy for conversation?
It's hard saying, try striking a conversation with him again to find out. Don't come out and just ask him. Just let it come kind of naturally.
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My Tenth year highschool reunion is coming up next year and I'm really nervous about it.
This is because me and a guy that I had a mad crush on left on really bad terms.
He was the most popular guy in school, class valedictorian and jock. I was one of the nerds. He new I had a crush on him and he treated me like dirt. He would make out with his girlfriend when I would walk by him in the hallways to upset me. He would play little games to humiliate me, like coming up to his friend whose locker was next to mine just to see me go red in the face.
He even went right up to my friend at the senior prom to hit on her while she was standing next to me and then he ignored me.
The last time I saw him was at the bar 8 years ago. I went up with my friend to talk to him and he completely ignored me even though I said it was my birthday.
Do you think I should go and confront him or just ignore him? This was a long time ago and I think that by now he would have matured a bit. I want to be the better person even though he made me senior year a living hell.
Buzzie (link)
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What a jackass. You have to remember that people are the cruelest in high school, they seem to grow up a bit more afterwards. Lame what he did to you in the bar though.
Personally had it been me. I'd try to look as hot as possible and get myself a really hot date. I'd make him wish he'd never tortured me in high school. So when he comes up and says hi, you could either ignore him or be like "Oh, who are you?"
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well there is this really hot guy and he likes me but he has a gf since last december and i dont know wut to do cuz i really like him and i want to break them up or shouldnt I????????????? HELP!! (link)
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If he likes you then let him be the main source of the drama. He needs to break it off with his girlfriend if he likes another girl.
I wouldn't be the one to ever interfer with someone's relationship, to me, that's just asking for trouble.
Question. Seeing that he has been with this girl since December and is now is digging you does it make you weary at all that if you guys do end up dating that he could do the same thing to you?
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im 15 and i am girl need advice on how do you break up with a guy you have been dating for a year and four months because you dont like him or love him anymore and i dont have an explaination why??...HELP!!..he thinks it because of the hurricane and me loosing everything i had but its not ..my feelings were this way before that..and we are taking a break right now but he doesnt get the terms "TAKING A BREAK MEANS"...and i have basically created a monster..because i never get to hangout with my friends anymore or doing anything but be with him and its getting old and soo is the relationship because he takes it way to seriously considering we are only 15 and 16..he thinks that im "THE ONE" ..and wants to spend forever with me??..and there will never be another girl for him???..soo i need advice on how i should break it to him in a way that it wont hurt him that bad and we can still be friends!! (link)
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You really don't need an explanation for how you feel. Sometimes these things just naturally happen.
You need to be forward with him, but try sparing his feelings a little. You need to put your foot down and be the one in charge here. Giving his feelings for you I don't think whatever you say is probably really going to upset him anyway.
Just tell him that your feelings have changed, you still care about him as a person but not really a lover or a boyfriend. Really, tell him you don't think it's fair to you that you don't get to see your friends, and that you don't want to be that serious at your age. You never know what's going to come at you in life.
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My fiance and I live together with our two children. We have decided to live in a small apartment for now while we are saving for a house. My mother had to move out of her house because of financial hardships about 2 years ago. When she moved, she told me that she would be going between my apartment and her boyfriends apartment until she got her own place. She now has her own place and she is still here. She sleeps on the sofa all the time. My stepmother keeps my kids a lot to give me and their father a break and she still stays here. What should I do? (link)
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It was nice of you to put up your house as a temporary home for your mother, but now maybe she feels like it's another permanet home.
She could be really lonely or there could be something deeply troubling her at home? Maybe she's afraid to go home? If she lives with her boyfriend maybe he's treating her wrong? Or maybe you just have a case of someone who got too comfortable.
Either way, confront her about it. Just ask why she spends so much time over at your place when she has her own. Especially when you need alone time with your fiance occasionally when the kids aren't around.
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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.
Does this mean he doesn't like me? (link)
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He could be a shy, maybe he's too scared to answer becuase he doesn't want to be rejected by you. Then again, maybe he doesn't like you and the nicest way he could think of a response was blowing your friend off.
Anyway, if you're into this guy you should probably try talking to him instead of sending your friends to do it. That's the only sure way to know if he likes you. Guys like a girl with confidence so don't be afraid to walk up to him and say hi.
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i'm 14f and this guy at my school likes me and i like him too ALOT! but my best friend likes him too but she said she only liked him like a little and everything. and the guy asked me out and he's still waiting for my answer.. so what should i do? (link)
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Your best friend is going to have to learn how to deal with that. You never want to loose a friend over a guy though.
It's an iffy situation. I'd tell your friend, if she knew how much you guys liked eachother then she should be able to understand and just be happy for you. Seeing as how she doesn't like him that much she should be able to get over it. Just talk to her about it.
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So I like a freshman and I'm a sophomore, and I'm a girl. He has a girlfriend [also a freshman] and I'm not too disappointed but I was considering hooking up with him if at all possible, I'm not sure if he's interested, right now I basically just have a small crush on him and we have a class together, that's it. What should I do? (link)
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Being that he has a girlfriend you're moving in on dangerous grounds. Why not have a crush on a guy that doesn't have a girlfriend and is available?
A crush. And a class? So do you talk to him? Or is he just pretty much eye candy?
My expert advice says: Find another guy to talk to and doesn't have a girlfriend. Move on, not in.
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What does 'bj' mean....... and what does'hj' mean??? (link)
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It means that it's time to talk to your mommy.
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i like this girl who is a junior and im a sophmore but this other girl likes me and she keeps asking who i like. i dont want to tell the girl that likes me that i like someone else and hurt her feelings but that might be the only way out. what do u think i should do? (link)
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It's nice of you to spare her feelings, but it's not going to be her only let down in life. You have to be straight forward with her and not string her along. Tell her what you really think of her and let that be that.
I wouldn't tell her who your crush is, becuase when a rejected girl gets jealous and mad.. she'll go all out and try to screw you over. Depends though on what kind of girl she is.
As for the girl you're crushing on, goodluck with her.
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ok so im 13f and i have a friend who is almost 17m. he goes to a different school but he asked me to go to homecoming with him. He is my exboyfriend tho and allll of my friends hate him because he either dated them nd played them, or he is just a prick to them. so idk. i really wanna go...but i also dont kno ne1 at that school and i dont want to act all weird. what should i do?? should i go or just forget it?? i rate high..* (link)
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Why would you give a guy who played your friends the time of day anyway? When it comes down to it you'll probably have your friends a lot longer than some guy. Especially when he's a seventeen year old who doesn't know his ass from his nose, though some guys around that age can act somewhat mature.. it's questionable.
Anywho, you'll probably feel out of place not knowing anyone. That's a given. But you can always spread your wings and introduce yourself to new people.
Personally, from what you've said about him. I'd forget it and have to reject his offer to homecoming.
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Okay this was like a couple years ago i was in 5th grade and he was in 6th and like he talked to me online and he was from my same school so i started talkin to him and he IMed me and stuff and then he stopped talkin to me online for a while and we dont talk at school but now he seems like he likes me because he always like looks at me and stuff and when i was in a school play and so was he i was tieing my shoe before i went onstage and he like looked right at me. But I'm scared to go up to him and start a conversation with him and then he doesnt like me but hes really cute and i like him and i think he likes me. what do u think?? i'll rate high for good answers!!!! (link)
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Start talking to him again. You don't have to jump right into "Hey, do you like me!?" That would just be extremely awkward, especially seeing how you guys don't talk(What I gather atleast) and all he does is give you 'the look'
If you're not sure what to say just bring up a few things from the past to get a conversation flowing. Guys normally can be pretty closed about their feelings so don't expect him to just blurt out with 'Hey, I like you.'
Though is occasional stare and look should be enough to tell you that he's digging you.
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