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My girlfriend and I have been in a very seriuos relationship for about a year and a half. She doesn't really have many other friends other than me and hesitates when turning to her parents. (I am 17 she is 16). This leads me to one problem. When she needs to turn to someone, I'm the only one left. I love when she turns to me with her problems. It makes me feel like I help her out, but a lot of the time I don't know how to give her advice. The latest thing is that she's been under a lot of stress. She baby sits a metaly disturbed child who threatens her and she is taking advanced placement classes in school. I want to help her manage her time but it's hard to give her advice on a situation I've never been in. Please help me help her.
P.S. Any general advice to give her in the future is much appriciated.
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Just tell her that you are there for her and that you're definatly there to hear her yell. Let her rant to you for a while. Advice can be tough to give but you'll be helping her a lot just by listening and letting her yell and get it off her chest.
Maybe you should take her out someplace nice too? Nothing fancy, but something maybe a little private. I can understand if it's not really easy to do that, but it might take her away from the stress a little bit.
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To manage her time better she should look at her proirities. Maybe cut down on things that are simply extra. Only hold onto the things you love the most when it comes to an overloaded schedule. If your not great with advice, maybe encouragement is the route to go. Always let her know that you believe in her and that she can do things that she sets her mind to. (And your a damn good boyfriend if you already tell her that alot ;-) )
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Your girlfriend/boyfriend should also be your best friend. It's great she turns to you for advice and trusts that you can offer her support. Support does not mean you can always solve her problems for her. You can't always have the answer to everything she faces because there are always some things that she has to do on her own. When you're at a loss of words and you don't know what else you're supposed to do just remember to be the one to believe in her and let her know that you will be there for her. That is the most important role a best friend can offer.
As for her advanced placement classes, maybe she's got a lot more on her plate than she can and should handle. If she wants to continue taking those courses, by all means do so, but switching into some stress free courses (such as yoga) can really take a lot of pressure off of her. Since policies differ from state to state, I would suggest finding out how she can change her schedule. You should encourage her and let her know that she should take it slowly and it's not important how many advanced placement classes she's taking when it's damaging her health. I've seen many kids take this route and it really hurts you more than it helps you in the end. No one is born a workaholic but they can be made into one. As for the disturbed child, just tell her to get her paycheck and get out of there!
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..Just tell her that you will always bee there for her..Try and help her do homework..Maybe even help babysit..Hope i helped`
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