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I ride a hayabusha, and they made me this offer for a job. Ride 7 hours normal speed to the boarders of Albania, take some stuff and ride back. And when I mean stuff, I mean illegal stuff. Now they say that there is zero risk involved and of course I know there is no guarentee but I know it is pretty safe. On the big highways there are cops only during day on weekedns when all people driving, not at 3 o clock in a Wednesday morning. I am not going to provoke or anything, normal speed, only if I have to I am going to run away, and where I am from, you do run away from cops with a hayabusha.
Your personal opinion:
A)Is the risk worth the shit load of money offered to me?
B)Riding at night on the biggest highway, does that look suspicious? On weekends, there might be a lot of cops and they are only there to write speeding tickets, not search cars for...stuff.
I dont need the money, but its a lot. I believe that even the tiniest slightest smallest amount of risk is not worth it at all,but if you think about it, I take risks all the time, every single day, deciding to go out on the street to buy eggs and milk is a risk cause you might end up hit by a car or something. Anyways, I just dont know and I am becoming obssesed with the idea. I ll probably do it. (link)
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You already sounded as though you were starting to justify the risk, so I wasn't surprised when I read the last sentence "I'll probably do it". If you've made up your mind, why ask this question?
But anyways...if this is purely a one-time deal then the risk might very well be slight. But if this turns into a regular run then your risk goes up dramatically. Of course, saying no to another run after already doing it once can be dangerous, depending on who you are dealing with - that in and of itself is reason enough for me to say 'no' to these kinds of things.
The problem with this, as 'Money versus Risk', is that if you do get caught, you probably wont get paid either. And heaven forbid if your friends with the package get angry and want to take the cost of the package, when the police confiscate it, out of your skin. And add in the fact that, they simply could be pissed at you for being caught in the first place...
As far as I am concerned, there are better ways to make money, legally.
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I'm not sure what should I do so I come to you guys. I'm going to take a poll so I have a better way to do it or not.
My sister just began to drive (she's 17) and she broke a law. For the first 6 months, she shouldn't have anyone in the car except herself and a sibling (that's me). She took some people to Dairy Queen (less than a mile far...you could walk there) from school. She does colorguard and thought it won't hurt. She didn't just break my mom's law, she broke the actual law.
Should I:
A. Let her go and if she breaks a law again and gets caught, it's her fault.
B. Tell my mom that she did it and she might get her keys tooken away, but maybe she'll think again...maybe.
If you have any more things I could do, do tell. And why should I do it?
Thanks! (link)
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A without a doubt.
First it isn't your job to police her, or anyone but yourself really. Sure you could narc her out but that might very well create animosity later. And someday she'll be in a position to narc you out for something possibly.
This is a really, really minor infraction. If she makes a habit of it, then its possible she'll get caught on her own.
Narc to your mother, and whenever she does drive she'll simply start hiding what she does from you.
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Hi its me again! I was the girl who had the trouble with the mormon guy I like.
Well he is just so confusing. Because despite this "Oh well my parents blah blah blah" He is still acting very flirty. After school he comes and sits with me while I wait to get picked up and we just stand there with our arms around each others waists looking outside and then he pulls me in for a close hug (sorry for the over-detail, I am a girl lol) and we just hug forever! What is his deal?!
I want to tell him something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I dont want to do this whole friends-but-more-but-not-really thing. I like you. And I don't want to do that to myself. I think we should be just friends or I think we should go out." But a lot less mean. Or not.
I should also mention he's one of my best friends and even if we can't date he's such an omportant person to me that I don't want this to mess everything up but I'm afraid if we're alone he's going to want to be all huggy and flirty and I just can't do to myself.
GIRLY MOMENT:
Ok so when I seem him my heart skips a beat and I get all fluttery and my breath get quicker and all I want to do is hold his hand and feel his strong warm one around mine (we've held hands once before).
I think only a few teenagers can truely love and I'm not going to flatter myself and say that I do, but gosh I really really like him.
I want to stop but I cant!!! And mostly I want to have a relationship with him. Any advice???? (link)
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Well I'm certain he likes you, but can the relationship move beyond that? The person who posted after me earlier had a point: it might not be the Church per se, but his parents, that are preventing him from going beyond friends with you.
I kind of feel bad for you, especially that it is him that has the restriction on this yet it doesn't sound like he is stopping things. In a sense, this is forcing you to make the decision. It might have been easier on you if he had said "Look, my parents/church/whatever is going to keep us from dating, so lets end this now".
Someone might need to be the decisive one and bring this up, otherwise the two of you might go on being close and the feelings will deepen. Then you will have to either ignore parents and Church to be together (would you both be willing to do this?). If not...I really would suggest the two of you having a talk and possibly just remaining as friends for a while...the more you 2 are together, the harder and harder this will be on you (well, on him as well).
Hopefully (!), he isn't just using this as an excuse to NOT have to commit to you, and still be able to be all huggy-feely with you. Later in life, you might find a lot of guys who dont want to date you or have a relationship, but they will want you to consent to sex. While the two of you havent gone to that extent yet, I hope he isn't the kind of guy that would steer you in that direction. And I'll tell you now, a lot of guys are like that.
I know what you mean when you say that you want to tell him the "Friends but more but less thing" thing isn't going to happen. A lot of this comes down to what you owe yourself. Plus I would say you need closure on this one way or the other - either dating, or break up. If you feel bad that you cant date when you want to, then maybe you owe yourelf finding someone who can.
If the relationship cannot, will not, be able to happen for whatever reason, the longer you continue to be more then friends with him the more it will hurt you emotionally when things do come to an end. I know you want to be with him, and its tough...but if he cannot meet you halfway then what else CAN you do but break up? Well, other than following him around hoping something changes...which might never happen.
When you are older, you might very well look back at this guy and think that he was just one of your first big crushes. If you do break up with him, sure you'll feel lonely and all that for a bit...but it wont last forever. I really don't like sounding like an older person thats all bitter aboout relationships (lol), but I would still say that you'll meet other people and this might turn out to be just a small thing when your 15 years older than you are now.
Can you talk to a parent, like maybe your mother? An older sibling or another relative? That might help you too, to get more advice from family. But, I can understand if your afraid of getting the whole "You shouldn't date anyone who isn't Jewish, and besides your too young to date anyways". But if your parents do tell you "You can meet a nice Jewish boy", as corny as it sounds it is a possibilty (though I wouldn't be that restrictive, myself). But at least that way, maybe religion wouldnt be a problem.
In a nutshell: you want to stop, but you cant. But if you dont, it will possibly get worse...so breaking it off now might be better, even if it isn't easy. You might want a relationship with him, but he says he cant...so possibly talk to him and if he cant be budged on this just tell him "Sorry then maybe its time we are just friends".
I'm hoping for the best for you. GL.
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Anyone in Central Illinois might be able to help me with this one better than anything, but its worth a shot since Google aint been much help..
Some of my friends have been to this supposed Satanist Worship Temple called the Kalyx Center. My friend and I were going to walk out to it, but chickened out cuz its like a half mile walk out into the woods and neither of us could get cell phone signal in case something did happen. Our friends have told us horror stories of being out there.
I was wondering if anyone knows what the Kalyx Center really is. I googled it and it comes up as a "wooded paradise" adjoining to Allerton Park.
Theres a halloweed party out there and everything, so it really doesnt make since why my friends don't want me going out there and say its a satanic worship temple.
Can anyone tell me what this place really is?
*Note* *It was originally used for some guy that owned a local radio station.* (link)
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It sounds to me like a bunch of kids trespassing on the land, and they think "Kalyx" sounds cool so they go ahead and use that name. Then they call it a Satanist Temple. IMO its possibly part rumor (people heard 'alternative retreat' and figured it must be bad) and part kids being kids and making up stuff as they go. Throw in the fact that its in a secluded woodland and has a barn, and well there ya go...
I'd like to hear these 'horror stories' myself rofl. But then I'm a bit older, and I'd just drive out there myself to see whats going on. What you need to do is call 'bullshit' on your friends - even without hearing specifics it sounds like its crap to me, heaven forbid what the actual stories are.
I highly doubt a Satanist Temple (lol) would be sponsoring a Womans Fund Masquerade fundraiser: https://netfiles.uiuc.edu/ro/www/VolunteerIlliniProjects,Inc./events/index.html on Oct. 28th. If you are really all that curious, I'm sure there is a way to look into this legally (as in, w/o trespassing) and without having to walk alone through the woods and listen to silly Satanist stories. It just sounds lkike a place that the dude owns and possibly either rents, or donates the space for occasional activities.
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Theres this guy, russell, well I like him alot, like i want to go out with him, he says that he likes me 2 and i think he does, but he dosent want to go out with me cause he said that he wouldnt have time 4 me that often. well we r freinds with benefits now and we have bin 4 like 2 months, and im really into him, like hes exactly what im looking for in a guy, i mean exactly what im looking 4. well he knows that i want to go out with him and he even warned me not to get too attatched to him cause he "cant" have a girlfreind and he dosent want me to be upset or dissapointed or hurt if he dosent ever goout with me anytime soon. well he is going to b getting his drivers liscense soon during this year so then he even admitted that he would come drive and see me more often so then it might work out then. well today we were in the auditorium during class and it was really dark and loud and we were sitting next to each other-imagine that!lol- and he started playing with my hand, rubbing it, holding it and running his fingers over mine and stuff and was rubbing on my leg and kept looking at me and smiling, and well, now i think he REALLY likes me but i dont want to keep pressuring him to go out with me cause he might get annoyed if i keep bothering him about it. how could i talk to him and explain to him about how i feel and stuff without him getting all weird and bugged about it? plz help!! (link)
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Bits&Pieces beat me to most of what I was going to say rofl.
I'm not saying he isn't attracted to you, he obviously is. In and of itself, thats a good thing...but if he cant or wont 'date' you, then you are better off stopping everything right now.
Friends with benefits can be an ok thing if both parties are fine with it going in and are adult about it. Even then it can be tough. But if you aren't fine with just being each others physical playground every once and awhile, I'd drop him and find someone who IS willing or able to date you.
Unless you are certain that its his lack of a DL that is keeping him from wanting to commit, I'd be cautious. A lot of people will come up with some silly excuses, especially guys (and I am a guy saying this LOL).
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Hey!!!
I have a question. I am a girl and I wanted to know how to ask a guy out??? Please help me...
signed
confesed
P.S. All of the guys out there, is it easy to ask a girl out? Do guys ask a hirl out right away??? (link)
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Well, its just like a boy asking a girl out. Men are simply expected to do the 'asking out', but don't let that stop you.
One of the best ways I've been asked out, so to speak (and I'm a guy), was when this woman said to me while at dinner "So...are we going to date, are you going to ask me out...or are we just really meant to be friends?" I was surprised, though not totally, as I had been asking myself the same question. But this way at least I knew she was interested, and its cool having (at least in my mind) having someone be forward and not having to play games.
As a guy, answering the 2nd part:
No, its never easy, at least for me lol. I like to get some clue that the attraction is mutual before I am the one to possibly make the first move and look like an idiot. Flirting = a good thing.
As for asking someone out right away...usually I dont, I'd rather get to know someone a little bit first. But sometimes you have to, for various reasons. But all guys are different, some guys are totally fearless and ask out women they have never met wherever they go, no matter what. Other guys are hesitant, and take their time.
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Okay so I'm 15/f and there's this guy (duh isn't there always?) and hes mormon and I'm Jewish. He's 16 though so hes allowed to date now. I know he likes me; he told me so. He said he can't ask me out because of his parents and that hes only supposed to date in the church. However, we were hanging out when all of the happened and after he said that and during we was just holding me in his arms (which I fit into perfectly by the way).
It kind of tears me up inside because it feels like we have something special and I realize I'm only 15 and am not in love or anything like that, but I can see a future with him probably a lot because of his religous principles. Like he won't cheat on me or anything.
Anyways I dont really have a specific question or anything but I would really like to know how to handle this! (link)
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Oi vey...
1. Be careful with the thought: "I know he likes me; he told me so". Just because someone says they like you doesn't mean you can take it to the bank as fact. Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. President Clinton told the media he wasn't having sexual relations with Monica Lewinsky, and we know how all that turned out. If it was that easy, I would write a letter and tell Angelina Jolie that I loved her, and to get rid of that Brad Pitt guy.
2. If he cannot commit to you for whatever reason (parents, church, blah blah blah), then I would recommend moving on. It may sound harsh, but if he says he cannot even ask you out, I would assume anything more is out of the question entirely. Becoming MORE involved with this guy could very possibly cause you even MORE hurt and pain in the long run. I say cut your losses now.
3. Its easy to become comfortable with whoever you are currently with; its also easy to fall in love with the idea of 'fitting perfectly' with someone. In my experience, unless you only ever date or love a single person, eventually you will find others that will hold you in their arms (and you will fit perfectly into those arms, as well).
4. He cannot, or will not, ask you out due to his situation, as per religion. Yet, you say you can see a future with him 'probably a lot' because this must mean he wont cheat on you. Well, IMO you could date Atheists or Wiccans and not be cheated on any more than by a Mormon...and the difference here is that he cant even ask you out in the first place. I guess what I am trying to say here, is that I don't understand how you can see a future with him based on how devout he is, when this is what is possibly keeping him from asking you out in the first place.
5. I'd suggest not worrying over this guy, it might not be meant to be. Either keep your eyes open for someone of your religion if being devout is important to you, or dont be picky about religion per se and hope that they will feel the same way.
6. Would you convert for him? Would he convert for you? If one, or both, of the answers are 'NO', then "Houston, we have a problem". If you are unwilling to convert for someone else, then you REALLY should be looking for someone else who is Jewish. I know this might sound a little too intense at 15, but if you are going to start dating then its time to take these things into account. Once someone falls in love, or once someone gets pregnant, its too late. And trust me, things can change in a hurry too.
GL in any event, I hope things work out for you.
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can anyone please tell me what the techno song "Spelar Dota" means, by Basshunter.
thank youu (link)
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First, "DotA" as I understand it is for "Defense of the Ancients", some custom map thingy made for Warcraft III. So thats the DotA part.
Basshunter is from Sweden, so its in Swedish as far as I know. The title "Vi sitter i Ventrilo och spelar DotA" is Swedish for "We're on Ventrillo playing DotA". So "Spelar DotA" is literally "Playing DotA" as well as being shorter and a whole lot easier than saying 'Vi sitter i Ventrilo och spelar DotA' for those of us who cannot speak Swedish.
Ventrillo, if you are not familiar, is a program used by many, many online gamers as a way to talk to other gamers both to talk shop as well as organize and help strategize while playing whatever game it is. I've used this myself, as well as Teamspeak. Basically you get headphones and a microphone, download the program, and you are in business (sometimes you need to purchase a server to host I believe if there are too many people involved).
One site alluded that the only 'real' thing in the video was a shot (or shots?) of 'Dreamhack', supposedly (shrug) the worlds largest LAN Festival: http://www.dreamhack.org/dhw06/se.100.html
A site with ALL the lyrics, unfortunately in Swedish: http://www.completealbumlyrics.com/lyric/130996/Basshunter+-+Dota.html also hosts a video at the bottom of the page, but I didn't bother looking lol.
Closest I could get to a translation other than the title: http://www.blizzplanet.com/?act=News&id=1045
"We're sitting here in Ventrilo playing some DotA. We push on and we're owning, with the opponents we're toying. We're sitting here in Ventrilo playing some DotA. Running around creeping, the opponents we're sleeping."
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I have to decide which person to hire for my company. One person has a lot of experience. The other has some experience. Obviously I should hire the first person. But the second person is struggling financially and has been for years. I don't know if it's up to me to end his struggling by hiring him or what. Who should I hire? (link)
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Unless you know one or both people personally, I wouldn't get this involved at all.
I myself would like to hire the struggling person, into any job at all, to help him or her out, while hiring the more experienced person for the job at hand. Unless the more experienced person was some anti-social hire that might well cause problems down the road, I'd probably go with the more experienced person.
I, myself, could be in this position currently as the less experienced person - I've been on the hook for some time now waiting for an interview with a specific company. Even then, though, I would understand if I got passed over (though I wouldn't exactly be happy about it TBH).
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I have 3 sisters and 1 brother, we are all over the age of 40, and except for me, nobody has small kids anymore.
In general we all take turns in hosting the various Holiday Meals (as our parents are no longer alive). When it is my turn, invariably my wife and I do virtually all of the cleanup of the dishes etc. In other words, my family doesn't help out in the clean-up. However, when it is my sister's turn (my brother doesn't host as he lives out of state), I always lend a hand in cleaning-up.
Now, one of my sisters wants to host Thanksgiving Dinner, this will be the first time that she is hosting (in the past, my parents were the host). She has stated that she will need help in cleaning up. Do I take this opportunity to mention that nobody helps me in cleaning up? or do I just help out and say nothing? or any other ideas?
Thanks (link)
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My family goes through the same ordeal on holiday meals. Its at the point that really only one family actually wants to host, and my aunt is a masochist when it comes to hosting so she doesnt care.
I don't know that I would come right out and mention that no one helps you when you host(Though I would WANT to personally), as it might come off as petulant and whiny to everyone else, even though it isn't and its simply the truth. I would probably bide my time until someone were to make the suggestion that you host again, or ask you why you haven't recently.....and then make the statement that you and your wife simply do not want to go through the cleanup alone.
Another route to go, is that in response to your sister asking for help cleaning up, you say something to the effect of "Sure, as long as you can give us a hand when its our turn". That might at least get your sister to reflect on the fact that you have recieved no help in the past.
One question I do have, is that in the past when you hosted, did you ask family to help clean up? If not, you could be in for the old "All you had to do was ask, we would have helped". I know that sounds somewhat silly, especially if you think that you shouldn't have to ask in the first place (an offer is at least expected in my family, though its just a token and usually refused) but by not asking (and not making an issue of it) you might have been giving your relatives an 'out' so to speak, when they are stuffed from eating and honestly dont really want to help, if they can avoid it. By asking as your sister has done, people are now in a position where they do not want to seem ungrateful and very well might help, even though they might rather go watch the football game or simply go home.
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I'm in 8th grade and we get A LOT of homework. i hardly ever have time to do it, cause i want good grades but i also want to have fun and not always be a book worm. anyone have any time savers or different ways to do homework? thanks! (link)
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It doesnt get any better trust me. You'll look back at the 8th grade someday and wish you had that little homework again.
Get into the habit of taking the time to do your work now. The demands get worse usually, especially into college. Fun is fine and all, but failing your classes isn't.
I'd advocate just knuckling down and doing your work, and then trying to find time to have fun second.
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I don`t get why its so dangerous to walk by "the tracks" My school's started a campaign to keep kids away from local train tracks. I mean, why are they so bad, wouldn't people hear a big, noisy train coming and get outa the way before they get hit? (link)
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The right-of-way on most tracks are not maintained for pedestrians. Its VERY common for crews and repair gangs to get injured, especially twisted and broken ankles, from the ballast. So if you are up there screwing around and break your ankle or twist it...I hope you can crawl off the tracks fast enough when a train comes by at high speed. Especially when you consider that many large, loaded trains take over a mile/mile and a half to stop.
You can concievably get stuck, ties and rail shift.
While its easy to hear a train coming on a single track, if there are multiple tracks/spurs and lets say more than one train, you very well might not hear another train coming on another track. If there is several Engines idling nearby, they are so loud that good luck hearing another train coming by on the next track.
Often people assume that once they are a few feet away from the strack they are safe. You can misjudge and be hit by a piece of a car jutting out, or by freight that extends out.
People have been killed just playing around on uncoupled cars. Kids playing around and undoing the hand brakes can allow a car (many are over 60 tons empty if I remember right) to coast onto other tracks, or into crews/trains/cars further along the track. And heaven forbid if you get caught in the couplings between two cars, its happened before. Its not common, but its happened. Also, you would really be surprised at how quiet a 'loose' car coasting from its own weight can be.
NM all the hazardous freight and chemicals that the RR's carry, which make those areas dangerous by default.
Kids shouldn't be on the tracks anyways, it isn't even remotely close to being a playground.
I come from a RR family, almost all of us work for one RR or another, or are retired from railroading. And I can tell you, from hearing stories from both family and train crews themselves, that the crews often can see who they are about to hit and there isnt anything they can do other than sound their horn. Its far too common to hit people/vehicles on the track, and when a train does hit you, you probably aren't going to walk away from it.
So, in answer to your question of "Why are they so bad?" I'll answer: If people would stay away in the first place, and be careful, there wouldn't be a problem. Yet every year people get killed on the tracks, its an immutable fact.
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Okay...so people always talk about mixed signals and all that...
How do you send them on purpose??
Don't tell me not to, just tell me how to do it. I've always been really straightforward and I wanna play a little game with someone...I have to know how to send mixed signals.
I'm a girl, btw. (link)
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As a guy, let me say that whenever I get mixed signals, it makes me think one or more of these thoughts:
1. I am either being played, or I am a joke to someone.
2. This person is a player, and flirts with anyone who has a heartbeat whether she likes them or not.
3. My time is better spent with someone who doesn't...play...games.
4. This woman doesn't know whether to flirt or not, and my time is better spent somewhere else rather than responding to 'mixed signals' that might turn out to be a bust. That, or leaving that woman alone until she gets herself straightened out.
Being a guy I look at this really simply. If a woman likes me, she will flirt. There is no mixed signals. If she doesn't like me, why would she flirt? If a woman flirts, and then when I flirt back I get the cold shoulder...well, that isn't someone I want to waste time and effort on.
Unless the guy KNOWS it is a game, and is open to participating (most men wouldn't), then dont do it. You will be taking an awful chance playing with someone like this, and I myself wouldn't put up with it. Unless, of course, its understood in a relationship as being JUST a game.
I don't know where so many women get their ideas about flirting (this isn't directed at you, but this is in general). I've known women that think its ok to flirt with men whether they are interested or not, giving men all the wrong impressions (They then ask 'why are all these guys trying to date me?'). I've known women who don't know how to flirt, which leads to some sad cases. And then there is this, which just confuses men generally...and many men, when confused, go looking for someone who is more straightforward.
If you like this guy, don't play games. Seriously.
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I just got a razr phone and it's cingular and on my old phone, I used to be able to get on aim and on the internet but this phone won't let me do it. It says I have to set it up and it asks for "GPRS APN" and I have no idea what that is. Can someone tell me what it is and how I can get it to work? Thanks! (link)
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GPRS = General Packet Radio Service
APN = Access Point Name, it is the access point for the above
I'd go back and try the location where you got your phone from, first. Depending on why you are getting this, they might be able to help, change a setting, give you a new sim card, etc etc.
If they dont/wont help you, head over to the Cingular forums, specifically the messaging portion: http://forums.cingular.com/cng/board?board.id=messaging
I looked around a bit, and there are a ton of problems like this. Some phones dont support AIM. Some providers have problems with it. Not to mention network/sim/phone compatibility issues. You would probably be best served going on the forums and giving them as much info as possible, I'm sure your problem isn't unique.
As far as I can tell, there isn't a simple 'code' or somesuch you can input yourself.
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You dont have to answer all of these,, just the ones you may know. I am thinking of going into the army national guard.
Could someone give me information on this.
1) If you're a junior your allowed to go the summer between your junior and senior year- How long is it for? (basic training)
2. Also what do you do in basic training?
3. Whats the odds of getting sent away?
4. The average you'd get paid and when do you get paid?
5. Useful information you may have
Information to help you answer these.. I am going for nursing, and I am going for only 2 years. (link)
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Well I was Active, and not NG myself. However, I'll give it a go anyways.
1. Normally basic by itself is 8 weeks. However, a lot of MOS's roll basic and AIT together (OSUT-One Station Unit Training if I remember right) and that can be even longer. My guess for you though is 8 weeks.
2. Well, its the Basic stuff. Marksmenship, physical fitness, bivouac, etc etc. A big part of this is just the Drills out to "Break you down and build you back up". But remember that Basic can vary a great deal; some people go through hell, while others feel theirs wasn't too bad at all. I went through hell, but it was fun in the end.
3. Sent away? By this do you mean deployed? Well if so, I would first assume that you wont get sent before your training is finished, and I would think you wont get your MOS specific stuff until after you graduate. Then once you finish your training, its all about "The needs of the Army". If they need people of your MOS deployed, then you prob will be. Remember that a lot of people are on their 2nd or 3rd deployment in Iraq/Afghanistan atm, and that retention is difficult...so you might very well get sent as a replacement. I would say COUNT on this happening, that way if you DONT get deployed, then hey even better.
4. I am assuming that since you are going in as a nurse, and doing vanilla basic, that you will be enlisted, though I could be wrong. But the pay is a LOT better now then it was 10 or so years ago. For example, I think that as an E-4 with 4 years I made like $1,000 to $1,200 a month (but its been awhile and I am not going to go dig my paperwork out lol), and I'd be making even more nowadays.
http://www.1800goguard.com/money/money_rank.html
at the bottom is a link to the complete pay scale in PDf format.
I am also unfamiliar with how the NG pays, it could be different as it isn't full-time unless activated and I was Active Army myself. You could ask your recruiter.
5. Well, its nice to only have a 2 year stint, though I have heard that they are offering some decent signing bonuses for longer enlistments. I would say that you need to make 100% sure that when they tell you 'nurse', they aren't referring to 'medic'...thats completely different. Also remember, that recruiters sometimes leave out facts and smudge things a little bit....recruiters aren't recruiters by trade normally, they are some poor soldier who simply came down on orders for recruitment, and now have to pander to kids to get them to sign up and often have a quota to meet. If I remember right, soldiers who do poorly recruiting can get a letter of discipline in their records and thus was a hated duty, though this could have been a rumor. I can remember several NCO's I knew who were furious they got recruiter duty and had to move to some podunk town rather than doing what they were trained to do. Dont be intimidated by your recruiters, or let yourself be hassled, ask questions and dont be afraid to say no if you arent interested.
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ok this is going to sound stupid, but i bought the cologne Jake from Hollister
ive never used cologne before, always stuck with Axe spray
so how do i know how much to use and other basics like that?
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Most cologne is pretty strong; unless you want to walk around in a cloud of cologne like some senior citizens, use it VERY sparingly. If you have a SO, just try a small spritz on your wrists and ask whoever if it smells too strong.
I myself have several bottles; it takes a long time (years even) to use a lot of cologne up unless you wear too much or wear it every day.
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Well, my two best friends & I went & got our cartlidges pierced two weeks ago. Today I chanqed mine, I cleaned it & put a different one in. Then I felt a bump on the back of it. I`m wondering is it a assist ? my step mom had hers pierced & said that the second week hers hurt alot [mine doesnt] but there was a bump on the back & it was a assist & she had to let it close up. im scared it is, can you tell me if it is or what it could be ? (link)
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Where, and how, you had the piercing done can lead to this. I'm almost sure you had yours done with a stud gun (correct me if I'm wrong, or put a comment in for me, I'm actually quite curious). It can be something else, but I've seen this so many times on myself and others after cartilage piercing with a gun that I would, honestly, be suprised if it was something else. Also why did you take one ring out when you cleaned? If you had to because there wasn't enough play, you might have the wrong type of ring in...there are much better rings to use when cartilage is pierced, and remember cartilage doen't fully heal for quite a long time.
Often when people get their cartilage pierced with a 'stud gun', the cartilage is forced outwards from the piercing causing a lump. I myself have several lumps still on my ears even though I let all my piercing grow back in (I was getting them ripped out on a weekly basis doing construction).
A lot of places either don't know how to properly pierce cartilage, or don't have the equipment, or both. Unfortunately for myself, I didn't have the advantage of having met anyone knowledgeable on this till I had already had several piercing done. I've heard from many piercers over the years that using an actual piercing needle is the best way; supposedly the needle will take a 'plug' of cartilage out of your ear (or at least cut cleanly through), rather than forcing the cartilage around the stud.
Many professional, die-hard piercers wouldn't touch a piercing gun if you paid them to. I don't trust the little booths and such you find in malls; these kind of places are ignorant of overall piercing guidelines, occasionally have infection/health problems, and many simply do not care about the people they pierce. Albeit many of professional piercers often turn people off by their decor and clientele (piercing, scarring and tattoo freaks everywhere), but seriously most of these people know their stuff, seriously they do...though you still have to check each place out. If your ear continues to bother you, I'd actually recommend finding one of these places rather than going back to where you got the piercing done (assuming it wasn't a professional place in the first place) and having someone take a look at your ear.
Also the type of jewelry is key here, you really get what you pay for when it comes to preventing allergic reactions and infections. Not only material, but type of jewelry. If you have a low-quality stud, the ones that have the clip on the back...get rid of it. Either get a stud with enough play to be able to move it back and forth when cleaning the piercing, or get a good quality captive bead ring.
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The other day I got a message from one of my really good friends that said, "I Love You!!" Over and over agian, I have a huge crush on him. We have been texting eachother and he told me the he, "Loves Me," again, but he is going to leave his girlfriend for me and it is one of my friends. I don't want her to know why he leaf her and hate me. He told me is goign to ask me out and I don't know what to tell him because I sometimes say, "Loev You," back to him. I don't know what to do about this when I liek him. (link)
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This depends on how much you value your friendship with his GF. Even if he breaks up with her before the two of you do anything, its quite possible that when she finds out the two of you got together she'll be furious at you.
And, heaven forbid, what she will think if she were to find out that you were telling him you love him, WHILE the two of them were together.
If you really do love this guy, then maybe its worth risking losing a friend, same if you don't consider this girl to be a good friend. If however you do hold her in high esteem, and/or this guy is just a passing fancy and you think you may not really love him, then it might be better to avoid him and not be with him. Not to mention, it might be a good idea to stop telling him that you love him.
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How often do mail-in-rebates go according to plan?
If I purchase a Motorola Razr cellular phone from TMobile's website, can I trust the likelihood of the rebate? Or would you advise against it? (link)
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Usually they do, unless something comes up.
For example, on retail merchandise that has been on the shelf for a while, or has been shuffled from store-to-store, the possibilty is rather likely. The rebates don't stay valid indefinitely.
In your situation, I'd say that you are looking at an almost guaranteed deal, especially if you redeem it while the offer is active. Wait too long though, and the promotion drops, and you'll likely end up with a worthless rebate form.
I worked a couple years in retail, and the only time I had to deal with those types of problems was on old, out-of-date merchandise (boxed years before with rebate forms), or people that forgot about them and then tried to use them too late.
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Okay,
So, my boyfriend, Craig, enrolled in the army about 6 months ago, and left right away for Iraq. Well, a month after he left, I went to a party with a couple of girlfriends. Some man put a drug in my drink, and I passed out on the couch. The man picked me up and took me to a back room and raped me. I ended up getting pregnant, and sine i am pro-life I did not and will not abort the baby. After 5 months of pregnancy, my boyfriend came home and rang my doorbell. When I answered, he saw that I was pregnant and took off.
Now, he won't talk to me, answer any messages on myspace, answer my phone calls or anything!!
what do i do? (link)
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He went to Iraq, and was back in 6 months?!? Lol, there are probably guys lined up for that short of a tour...
Weeeell...people are saying that he is being immature, but remember that in the Army its legendary (seriously) to have women cheat on the soldiers while they are away. I mean, they have SONGS about it, cadence calls they march to, stories about it. I'm sure he has heard horror stories, I sure did when I was in the Army, and for him to come back and - 'surprise!' - find you pregnant, well, it doesn't look good.
I am going to tell you this solely so you understand the mindset. When I first joined the military, a few guys told me when we went out, that if I wanted to 'hook up' on a regular basis, I needed to go down a pawn shop and buy a wedding band. Then I needed to wear it enough to get a tanline, then go out to the bars. You see, many women cheat on their husbands/BF's in the military (its not just on TV, being away for a year can be lonely), and they DONT want a single guy because they can get clingy and cause problems...they just want someone else who is married thinking that it will be one night only and neither side will get back in touch. And sadly enough, in my years in the Army, I actually saw this work.
Off topic possibly, but my point is that in the military there is a sense among the servicemen that women, all too often, simply aren't all that trustworthy. Fair? No, of COURSE not, but if this guy is in the Army, you need to realize this. And if he goes to his unit and mentions this, he will be buried under cries of "I told you so" and "Dude, thats the way it is".
Not only should you have gone to the police for reasons other people have already mentioned, but also for him. See, if you had gone to the police, and this was sorted out and 'official' so to speak, he might believe that this happened. As it stands now, you stand a very good chance of him simply thinking you slept around, and that anything you tell him about being 'raped' is simply a convenient cover story. I'm sorry this answer sounds so harsh, but again...this is a distinct possibility.
But anyways, I'm sure you are more interested in getting him to talk to you again rather than hearing all the "You shouldas". First, keep trying to call him. Second, WRITE HIM A LETTER and explain in detail what happened, and that you would like to talk to him. Third, talk to his parents, explain to them the situation (and make DAMN sure that its clear you aren't trying to trap him with a child!), and if his parents are willing they might talk to him. Fourth, try to find out where he is stationed at now, his unit, contact info, etc. If he is enlisted (E1 to E4), try to get in contact with his 1st Sgt. (by mail if overseas, otherwise by phone stateside), sometimes you can explain the problem and they can have a "Look, talk to the girl, dumbass" discussion (happens a lot). And if he is enlisted, chances are he will do exactly what the 1st Sgt. advises, lest he run the risk of "Pissing the Old Man off". Fifth, remember that if you CAN get this guy to talk to you, remember to avoid anything that could appear like you are trying to entrap him with a child, this happens, like it or not. And 6th, look out for yourself...if you are feeling depressed or have bad thoughts, try to get some counseling and/or people to talk to. This isn't easy, but it isn't the end of the world either.
Its going to be tough, don't kid yourself. But whatever you do, dont try the whole "No its your child" and just say its 6 months along not 5.
If you have any more questions, you can shoot me an E-Mail at Erronius@Hotmail.com, and I'll try to answer as best I can. Sorry this is so long, but this is a complicated situation (and probably more common than you imagine).
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