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will he ask me out??
Theres this guy, russell, well I like him alot, like i want to go out with him, he says that he likes me 2 and i think he does, but he dosent want to go out with me cause he said that he wouldnt have time 4 me that often. well we r freinds with benefits now and we have bin 4 like 2 months, and im really into him, like hes exactly what im looking for in a guy, i mean exactly what im looking 4. well he knows that i want to go out with him and he even warned me not to get too attatched to him cause he "cant" have a girlfreind and he dosent want me to be upset or dissapointed or hurt if he dosent ever goout with me anytime soon. well he is going to b getting his drivers liscense soon during this year so then he even admitted that he would come drive and see me more often so then it might work out then. well today we were in the auditorium during class and it was really dark and loud and we were sitting next to each other-imagine that!lol- and he started playing with my hand, rubbing it, holding it and running his fingers over mine and stuff and was rubbing on my leg and kept looking at me and smiling, and well, now i think he REALLY likes me but i dont want to keep pressuring him to go out with me cause he might get annoyed if i keep bothering him about it. how could i talk to him and explain to him about how i feel and stuff without him getting all weird and bugged about it? plz help!!
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Bits&Pieces beat me to most of what I was going to say rofl.
I'm not saying he isn't attracted to you, he obviously is. In and of itself, thats a good thing...but if he cant or wont 'date' you, then you are better off stopping everything right now.
Friends with benefits can be an ok thing if both parties are fine with it going in and are adult about it. Even then it can be tough. But if you aren't fine with just being each others physical playground every once and awhile, I'd drop him and find someone who IS willing or able to date you.
Unless you are certain that its his lack of a DL that is keeping him from wanting to commit, I'd be cautious. A lot of people will come up with some silly excuses, especially guys (and I am a guy saying this LOL).
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He is not exactly what you are looking for, or you would not be asking for advice. You and he want different things. He wants a to be free to fondle whomever he feels like and not be tied down to one girlfriend or have to take her out on dates and spend time and money with her when he could just be getting physical. You want a steady boyfriend who is faithful and adoring and eager to go out with you! Am I wrong? Holding hands etc. with a hot guy is exciting, but it does not transfer into a relationship. You should never feel weird about talking to a guy that you have already been touchy with and it is too bad that you feel that your true feelings would only bother him. What is it you want? Do you want to let him dictate what kind of relationship you have with him, or do you get a say in the matter? If you continue to be the girl that gives it away without a commitment, then it is doubtful you will meet the guy you really want. You will continue to attract and be used by guys who are looking for the easy score under this phrase, "friends w/benefits" which is something girls are settling for when they don't believe that they are worth more. Start believing it and demanding it. Don't ever sell yourself so cheaply.
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