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NaMe : Amber

AgE : 17

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BdAy: September 1

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I decided to make this to help people out if they need it. I've been told I'm a good advice giver. So we'll see. =) Feel Free To Ask Me Questions About Anything! Hope I help.




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okay my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months.. the thing is.. he recently went on vacation for a week and he just got back last night and we only talked for a 1/2 hour this morning from the whole week and he didn't sound happy but he said he had a good time.. plus he didn't sound like he wanted to talk to me and he was grumpy so we got off the phone i said i would talk to him later. Ever since i have been trying to call him ALL day and hes not picking up his phone. His dad did once and i told him to have him call me back but he never did.. i tried callin till 11.. now i think hes gunna dump me!?.. one friend told me he thinks its cuz hes bored.. cuz we haven't made out yet.. but i don't think thats it.. but now im afraid next time i talk to him he'll dump me.. i really love him!

Well, you are gonna have to face your fear and talk to him. And if he is going to break up with you, you are going to have to let it happen and not avoid it. I know how you feel because I've loved someone and then something changed out of nowhere and it was over, but if it is meant to happen it will, and something better will come along the way. Talk to him though, you really have to. Hope I helped.. *Amber*

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okay so there is this guy (grant) who is 16 (and im 15)that i have been talking to for about 3 n a half months and before school got out he told my best friend that he wanted to wait until summer to get with me that way he has more time to spend on me since hes busy w. school and now..its like he doesnt have enough time for me. i like him sOo much and he knows it but it seems like hes even more busy now that school is over. i dont know if i should wait for him or find somebody else but everytime i look at another guy i compare him to grant and there is just no 2nd place. some of my friends tell me that i should give up and my other friends tell me that i should wait but grant is everything that i ever wanted in a guy..HELP!

Of course during summer plenty of people are busy with vacations, friends, and what not. What you should do is talk to him, email him, IM, call him or something. Ask him where he stands, if he wants to be with you or not. And tell him yo'd like for him to try and spend more time with you. And if it doesn't help, then yes you should go on and find someone else. And then, you shouldn't compare him to everyone. Every person is different and won't have all of the same ways and sometimes its hard to accept when what you had wanted isn a choice anymore. Talk to him and see where it goes. Hope I helped. *Amber*

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Hey, (14/f) I am friends with my exboyfriend. We talk a lot, and are pretty close. I am going to a different school this year so it's going to be really hard to see him and talk to him, but i really value our friendship. Whenever we talk though he alwayse brings up other girls, and how hott they all are. I know that I shouldn't get jelous since we are just friends now, but i do. So I can't deside weather he is making me feel jelous so i dont forget him, or if he is just talkin to me like a close friend.

-Really confused

First of all beings friends w/ ex boyfriends is a good thing so good job,lol I always try to. But about your question. How long agodid you guys break up? & Who did the job of breaking up with the other? Because that depends on what your answer is. If it wasnt really long ago and you broke up with him (or even if he did it) there is a pretty big chance that hes talking about other girls to make you feel jealous so you want him or whatever (been there). But if its been kinda a long time sinc eya'll broke up hes prolly move don and just wants to share his feelings with you as a friend. But if it starts to bother you, maybe you should talk to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel, If your really good friends he should understand. *Hope I helped* -Amber.

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i want to give my bf head, cept i am afraid bc he wants me to swallow, but i dont know will i throw up? everyone says that u would if it hit the back of the throat but i didnt think they came that hard? do they? and will i throw up? i really want to do it? any advice? and will i get sick?

Well, you do what you want to. If you don't want to swallow you don't have to. & if he doesn't understand that, then sorry to say but he's an ass. I've never heard of anyone who threw up.. I guess its possible if you gagged yourself or something, but its not that hard not to. How hard a guy cums depends on the guy. But don't worry because I doubt it will hit the back of your throat and make you throw up.. I'm sure that probably doesn't happen much, so no worries. Bascially when you do it just be calm with it.. relax your throat and it'll make it easier. Most likely you will NOT get sick, considering cum is supposed to be good for you. But it could depend on the person and how they react to the taste or something, but it really isn't that bad. So don't worry.. And make sure your comfortable with swallowing before you do it, and if you decide your not ready, you don't have to. "Hope I helped" -Amber.

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Have you heard of any ways that a girl could make her vagina tighter?

Well, she could do Kegal exercises..They tighten and strengthen your vaginal muscles (& when done regularly can possibly make child birth easier, lol) I found some websites that could help you. http://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html or http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/Spa/4502/vagex.html

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I am obsessed with taking exposing and inappropriate pictures. I can't help it. It is just a lot of fun and addicting. Does this mean that i am prolly going to be heading toward the career as a porn star or something in that catagory? TELL THE TRUTH bc that wouldnt seem like a bad job to me. I might actually enjoy it :-)

Well, It doesn't necessarily mean anything like that. It could just mean your proud of what you have and you like to show it off. And if thats the case, then its good that you are so confident in your body. But I supose if you wanted it to head in a job-wise direction it could.. but that would happen through yourself, I can't predict it. And if it wouldn't seem like a bad job for you and you'd want it then go for it. As long as your happy with what you do is all that matters. "Hope I helped" -Amber.

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How do I know if I got an orgasm or not? Me and my boyfriend were dry humping and he asked me if I was finished but I don't know what it is supposed to feel like!

An orgasm is "the peak of sexual excitement". According to dictionary.com (lol), it is usually characterized by strong feelings of pleasure or "involuntary contractions of the muscles of the genitals". Basically its just the time when everything feels even better. There are "waves" of pleasure throughout your body. You can prolly find out anything you need to know by searching for it on the internet. Thats what I always do. Haha. Well, "hope I helped" -Amber.

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What is up with guys and their refusal to ask for help, or directions?

Umm.. I don't know since I'm not a guy. But I guess its because they are stubborn and think it would make them look like less of a man if they did or something. They are silly.

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I want to have phone sex with my boyfriend. He always talks about it and seems like he's into it. He says that he's done it b4 and he always starts them out or w/e but im not sure that he is joking or not. I want to go along with it, but idk how to have phone sex. Please give me an example or instructions or something. Please help!!!!

Well I'm not really much of a "phone sex" person, but it can't be that hard. Make sure he starts out if you want to do it and just go along with what he says and make stuff up that is "erotic" or whatever. And if your not sure if hes serious then ask him. Thas the only way you know unless your psychic. But theres no script or anything I can give you to do it so I guess just go along with what he says.. "hope I helped" -Amber.

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I think I'm a lesbian and i dunno if i should tell anyone. I wanna let ppl know so i can get a girl but .. nobodys gonna support me! what do i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-gettin horny in the girls locker room, ca

Well I guess it depends on if your ready to "come out of the closet" or not. I takes time for a lot of people. And if people really care about you, they should respect your decisions and support whatever you feel. It all depends on when your ready to tell people. Don't force yourself, ya gotta feel ready and KNOW you are. Good luck :o) Hope I helped.. - Amber.

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My boobs have hurt for 2 years and I don't know why :o( do you think it is b/c i caress them too much ??
Nicole - 28 - female

Hmm. If this question wasn't so funny and I didn't know who it was from I would try to be serious but its not working. You must caress them too much, sorry to say. Or maybe you are growing or consistently about to get your period. Pick one. "hope i helped" :-P

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I realli wunt 2 giv muh boyfriend head but i dunno if he wunts it. How can I tell if he duz or not? Thx.

Well the only way you can know if he wants it is to ask. And if your ready for that in your relationship it shouldn't be weird afterwards, unless thats all he actually wanted from you. But who knows.Hope I helped. -Amber.

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Do guys get pleasure from pleasuring girls or is it more so a thing just to be nice? because u don't think that they would be disgusted by the stuff that come out of girls? Thanks

It seems a lot of girls think that guys would get grossed out, but I've asked a lot of my guy friends before, and they say it doesn't gross them out. And i've also been told that they do get pleasure from doing stuff to the girl because the fact that they are pleasuring them turns them on and what not.. So I guess thats your answer, lol. Hope I helped :o) Amber.

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I am 16 years old and i seem to be much into pleasuring my boyfriend. We've been doing the normal 'not-ready-to' sexual pleasuring things such as fingering, jacking-off, head, etc. And those such things are getting to be kinda boring. I want something that would knock me off my feet. He is always telling me that he would be ready to have sex, but I'm kinda ready...should i.. i would use protection and everything...? help!

Well, first off.. you only said you are kind of ready.. so unless you are completely sur eof your self, don't do it ! You'll end up regretting it if your not 100% sure that you are ready for that step. Sex is a huge step in a relationship and you definately shoulbn't jump into that step too soon. How long have you guys been together? If its just a few months, I wouldn't recommend it unless you are sure it's gonna last. Which, you can never be 100% sure can you? But I can't tel lyou what to do, and its always up to you, but this is what I think. If you wanna make other things more interesting, try doing it in different ways, ya know like different techniques and whatnot.. those always keep it interesting. But basically don't take the step of having sex unless you are sure your ready, so you don't regret it. & when you do decide too, don't forget protection. Hope i helped..-Amber

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There is a girl I like. She knows I like her, but won't really let me know how she feels. She has a lot of emotional baggage caused by emotional abuse by her parents, and ex-boyfriends, and friends in general. She has problems being open with others. How can I get her to see that I won't hurt her if she opens up to me?

Well I can sorta get the way she feels considering I've had trouble opening up to people in the past. Basically, just talk to her. Let her know that you aren't going to hurt her, and that you only want to help. Tell her you care about her and you would really like for her to open up to you and show you how she feels. But if you talk to her, hang out with her and she starts to learn in he rmind that you care, she'll most likely open up to you. It migh ttake time, but if you truely care about her that won't matter. Hope I helped... -Amber.

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I'm really insecure about my body. I'm not fat, but I really wish I could get in better shape and get a toned stomach and stuff. Do you have any ideas of what I could do?

There is no reason to ever feel insecure about your body, just let yourself feel beautiful in your skin. But if you wanna get in shape, exercise. Run, do sit ups, pushups, stretch, whatever works for you. Or you could go to a place like Curves. I've heard its really easy to learn stuff there & what not. You are supposed to go 3 times a week for 30 minutes. A couple of my friends go there, and they seem to enjoy it. Also, try and eat healthy, its good for your body! I know its hard when their is so much good food, but at least try.. even a little helps! Hope I helped :o) -Amber

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i have a 2 inch penial help me please?

HAHA, I'm sorry. Have you tried that penis enlarging stuff? lol, its okay, big things come in small packages. haha..

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Lately my friend has been acting different & thinking in ways that are just not her, getting bad ideas. I want to talk to her about it, but i'm not sure how? What do I do?

Well the main thing is, just talk to her. Tell her how you feel and what you think. Maybe something going on between her and someone else and she hasn't been herself. Tell her that your worried about her and you don't want her to get too crazy.. as silly as that sounds. What kind of "bad" ideas has she been having? That would help me out here. And has she been acting different to everyone or just you? This question is a little fuzzy, so if you want to help me out and give me a little more explanation, you can. If not.. hope I helped! - Amber

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