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hey i'm courtney! :)i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.
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So I had a boyfriend, that i was extremely good friends wtih when i met him last august, well we talked alot and i always went to bed with a smile on my face after our conversations. He asked me out in the beggining of november and i couldnt have been more happier. he dumped me mid may because hes moving soon and didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend still. so he was known as the goofy player type. and i thought i had changed him from that, but the day after he broke up with me, he went back to his playerish self and was all over girls. now when he broke up wtih me over the phone, he told me he still wanted to be friends. now i see him at dances and gatherings like that, and its so awkward because he is all over everyone, and it hurts. the day after he broke up with me when i saw him, it was an awkward hi and hug, and my friends werent being that nice to him so i felt really bad. but i talked to him at it and he even got a bit teary eyed, but i didnt know if he actually cared or not. parts of me think he did and parts of me think he just wanted to make me feel better. well the day after that, i called him to make sure he was okay and he said yeah and that the question was if i was okay, and i said im alright, and im like i guess, i just felt really bad about how people were acting. well now its a month later, we had a dance, he was with this one girl and his one guy friend knew how i was feeling and told him later that night, so then my ex apologized and said he heard i had looked dissappointed and said he shouldn't have done that and asked if i was okay, and i told him he can do what he wants because i have no control over that, and i just dont move on as fast as others, especially because this is my first relationship. i saw him saturday, we hugged and said hi then when we were leaving he said bye and lifted me up, but i dont know. he was even trying to flirt, dance, and kiss my friends? im like oh thanks. i miss the friendship we had, and i feel like whenever we talk its awkward, or i have NO CLUE what to say. and i just want the friendship to be how it used to be. I feel like i have no time because hes moving in a month and a half. i feel like the more i cared the more i made it worse and the more pain i caused myeslf. people tell me i deserve better, but they don't know what i saw in him when i went out with him, it was when i was the happiest, if anyone could tell me what i should do, or how i should feel, it'd be really apreciated, i apologize for the length of this! lol
first of all, it doesn't matter what people couldn't see in him. what matters is what you saw. and yes maybe you could do better.. but you didn't want to, and it's your choice your friends are suppose to support you no matter what. and since he's moving you guys can still talk on the phone or over the net. it doesn't have to be a final goodbye. and he cant' be over you if you guys were talking and dating as long as you said. even if he is a 'player type'. he was just putting on a show trust me. tell him you miss the friendship, and most of all you miss him. there is nothing to be ashamed of. and if he totally rejects what you say, then it's sad to say this but maybe it's time you find a new guy, one that can also make you feel like so special and happy. there are more guys out there dear, and ones worth fighting for. you have to decide if he is worth fighting for or not. also, friendship after a breakup can be very difficult because of awkwardness. you need to just give him some space possibly, and yourself too. hope i helped a bit. :) goodluck dear.
what is the best way to get great abs?
honestly try doing crunches a lot, but start out in small amounts. like, maybe do 30 a day, then 40, and etc. getting great abs is a process that takes time, you really do need a lot of patience. but the outcome is more rewarding. :)
Can baby oil help me get a tan if I lay out in the sun.?See Im really white.!Ive tried everythingg.!I get in the tanning bed every day for an hour and im still white as everr.!Ive started laying out in the sun every day and I havent seen so much as a sun burnn.Ive used every kind of tanning lotion and oil there is 2 usee.!I need helpp.?and a friend told me 2 use baby oil and that would get me darkk.!DOES IT REALLY WORKK.?
baby oil works very well yes. i use it almost always, it does get sorta messy, but it still attracts the sun. but it doesn't prevent against sun-burns. so if you are really white like you said, chances are the first time you layout with baby oil you will get burned.
Ok so I last had sex March 24th, it was protected and there was definately no tears.
My period was due around the March 25th or 26th and didnt come, yesterday morning (April 20th) I THOUGHT my period had came, it was light as it usually is on my first day, but there was ONLY a very small amount, nothing more for the rest of the day. Then today i woke up and was fine for a few hours and then the same thing happenedagain, a very small amount in my underwear.
Now I cant see how I can possibly be pregnant.
Do you think its my period?
I know you are not doctors, I am going to see one in a few days I can't get an earlier appointment. I would just like a bit of info to put my mind at ease.
this happens with my period almost everytime. it just means that your cycle is a little bit off. don't fret, i doubt you're pregnant, you said you used protection. so just wait it out and see. :)
my friend is talking to this guy, and he is considered kinky, but she is the ultimate good girl, she get on to you for cussing, doesnt mess around with guys etc. so this guy likes her alot, and she doesnt like him as much, but she likes him. im afraid they are going to go out, and she is going to get into ANOTHER bad relationship where the guy pressures her into doing things she doesnt want to do. i've already told her that i dont like that kid, and why.
what should i do to keep from seeing my friend get hurt again?!
im a f/16
you just have to let her make her own decisions and tell her your opinion though. and if you think he is going to hurt her- when he does, don't play the 'i told you so card' on her. be there for her, and let her vent and support her. that's what friends are for. i mean, you need to tell her your opinion of this guy, but don't let it ruin or start drama with your friendship, in the end it's her decision and possibly her mistake to learn from you know? good luck hon!
Can you get pregnant while having sex during your period? I didnt have sex during mine, but im on yaz and im supposed to be getting my period today, but it hasnt come yet? But that has nothing to do with it.
you can get pregnant anytime. even while you're on your period, or about to start or were suppose to start or whatever. anytime is possible, because you don't know what days you're ovulating.
When you get your cherry popped, is it true that you can't feel it pop sometimes? Ex: Playing sports.
you're skin 'cherry' cannot be broken through by playing sports, it has to be physically broken through with. like possibly even using a hand wouldn't break the skin, a penis would. so yeah sports wouldn't affect it at all. and you don't really feel like get popped when you have sex anyhow, you just take it easy during, and you know you're sore.
its almost 5 months for me and my bf-were both 15. and i think i love him and i want to tell him.but we both take saying "i love you seriously" so we havent said it yet. i really want to but some things he does are keeping me. like it seems like he likes music more then me sometimes-which he says isnt true (because hes a big musican).and we only get to see each other 1 a week becuase he lives 30 mins away. and i feel if were on the phone he'll sing and i feel like hes not listening-i'll even go "right?" and he'll go "right!" and i didnt even ask him anything...but when im with him i want nothing but to be with him, at school i cant stop thinking of him and i just wanna be in his arms..its just on the phone when were not together things are -off.but when im with him.i get that feeling like i wanna tell him i love him really bad.but i dont wanna tell him i love him and him not feel the same way-because i dont kno if he feels the same way-.idk what to do..what do you think i should do?
i think you two need to just talk abbout how you feel. i mean that sounds embarrasing and lame maybe but i think it will do you both some good. ask him how he feels lately about you guys, and tell him what you told me.. you sorta want to say the 'l' word but of course you don't want to seem pathetic or whatever. good luck!
15/f
even though i don't think there are many gay people in ym school being harassed, should i still do the day of silence? i support it and everything but i don't want it to be pointless
any advice?
if you feel like it's something that cold make a difference even to one person, and it would make you feel satisfied than do it. there is nothing wrong with helping out only a few people at a time, as long as their is one.
INLOVE?????
There's a difference between lust,like,love,and inlove.
Well I have 2 questions.
Is it possible to TRULY be in love at 14/15?
And 2......
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE IN LOVE???????
love is measured by how old you are, it is possible for you to be inlove now yes. but no one can tell you when you are inlove and aren't. it's up to you to decide. and being inlove means that you're always happy with this person, loving them unconditionally, giving them the ability to love you back. you will just know for sure, when it happens.
hi im 17/f i just starting having sex with my boyfriend (we were both virgens) about 4 months ago so i decided to go on birh control pills.we used condoms everytime we did it before the pill.i started the pills on april 4 the same day i started my period.i havent missed any pills and i take them all around the same time. i stoped having my period about after 5 days then this brown gooy stuff was coming out of my vegina for about 4 days i thought it was just some old blood or somewthing i didnt think much of it but then i started to bleed in little amounts and i havent stop sence.im hoping its just the effects of the pills but im scared it mite be something else like a miscarriage cause ive been nauseas or maybe im just stressed too much. please give me some advice
it's more than likely just affects from the pills. sometimes results like this happens, but if it continues over two weeks, maybe consult with your doctor about it. also, sometimes girls think that brown gooey stuff canbe blood, when it might be unhealthy discharge.
Well i like this boy alot i mean alot and like he knows that i like him and he likes me to but only as a freind. But like i have a class with him and stuff and sometimes he be flirting with me and like im a very shy person andi heard that if u like a guy and he flirts with you, you should flirt with him back but if he dont then thats justt throws them off. But i just cant flirt back with him and i try to talk to him and stuff but i cant because its just to hard. And also i found out there is like two other gurls that like him which is gonna be harder for me. What should i do? How can i talk to hima and how can i flirt back?
tell him he shouldn't be flirting with you, he must like you as a girlfriend, why else would he be flirting. just talk to him, and if you want him, then fight for him. don't let other girls push you aside.
Ive been in my current relationship for 2 and a half months.Don't get me wrong i really like my boyfriend a lot, like a lot.The problem is, every time i see my EX it's like my heart skips a beat and everything plays in my head that we went through, and its like all i see is him.. I dated him for almost a year, he lived with me and i lost my virginity to him, I was in love with him. Part of me thinks i still am. The reason we broke up was I Found out he cheated on me with my cousin.I forgave her and him since its been about 6 months since thats happen.I want to forget about him. I want to stay with my current boyfriend but i cant help these feelings when i see him, when i don't see him its another story i feel like my current boyfriend is all i think about. How do i get over these feelings for my EX i feel so guilty. What should i do? I am lost.
your first love, the man you lost your virginity too will always be in your heart. you said he lived with you, which means you guys were outrageously close. feelings don't go away for a very long time. all i can tell you is distance yourself from you'r ex. it's the easiest way to deal. but nothing will be easy i'm sorry, the situation is messy, and it must be hard on you. if you ever feel like you don't want to end what you and your ex had, (since you forgave him), then don't lead on your current boyfriend on. i hope i helped. :)
I'm a girl and I always put on makeup. I wear contacts and a little later after i put them in, they start irritating me. I take them out and there's brown specks on it and its hard to get it out of the lenses. I think its make-up.
helpful advice would be great
i too have this problem. it's probably eyeshadow or eyeliner and it falls into the lenses. you just have to clean the contacts. i put mine in before i do my makeup. and make sure my eyes are completely closed when applying makeup to the one eye.
i got my curse this week (my period) and I have REALLY bad cramps. I don't know what to do to make them better!
help please
15/f
some say that light exercise or yoga helps, i know .. who really wants to exercise on their period? but i guess it does help with cramps.
or heating pads where the pain is most, is suppose to help as well. also if you tried drinking a lot of water and herbal teas. :)
okay me and my boyfriend text alot. alot of the time he texts me first, but when he doesn't i dont want him to think im obsessive or anything cause if he is hanging with his friends i dont want to disturb that i guess. but on the other side i dont want him to think i dont want to text him.. so i dont know!! haha f/13
if you are unsure just wait for him to text you. or just ask him, tell him you don't want to be too obessive.
So, I know if you have sex with a guy and you're a virgin, he'll "pop your cherry" but what is it like? I mean is it really awkward or something? And no, i'm not having sex anytime soon lol, i'm just curious :]
the first time can be many things.. but it won't be right unlless it's with someone you want to be with.
ive been hanging out with this guy lately, and i really like him, but how do i know if he likes me?
16/f
thanks!
surest way to know is to ask him. or try paying attention to him when you see eachother, and if he acts like he does. :)
Lately everytime I go pee, it burns a lot under the hood of my private. I asked my mom about it and she said since I have a cold that it might have affected the rest of my body also. I need to know what I can do to releive the burning because I go to the bathroom a lot and it hurts A LOT.
you might have a bladder infection. go to the doctors, and if it really hurts that bad, then go sooner than later.
Soo I am 16 years old and I am pregnant and this dude asks me out. I told him that we needed to just be friends because I didn't know him. We was friends for about a week before he asked me out again. I said yes..But I never told him I am pregnant. What do I say to him that won't make him break up with me? I feel weird for asking people this on the internet...
you can't really be sure about how people will react.. you have to just hope he understands you. :/