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My boyfriend's family doesnt really like me all to much. They [ had ] a reason to . This past summer[ 07 ] i kissed another boy , i made a horribLe mistake but he was gracious enough to still love me just as much and give me another chance. We have been dating 11 months and 3 weeks. Once his family fount out [ a lonng time ago ] They just never really cared for me . I can totally tell from before i cheated , to after. His family was rude to me to my face and still are . His mom isnt the same around me to , Iv tryed so hard to show his family how completly sorry i am , i respect them to the max and im polite . But they still havent forgave me , [ i can tell ] i just wanna know what to do . They have had more than enough time to get over it , if justin [ boyfriend ] can deal with me , then why cant his family who i never see? (link)
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If it is bothering a lot you should talk to them. I would ask the mom out to lunch or just go see her and tell her everything you just wrote. Most mothers would apreciate it. The parents should know that their son has control over his life and they shouldn't treat you differently because it is up to their son not them.
Show them that you care what they think and you really want them to like you.
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Im18/f and my cousin is 17/f.My cousin and i have been best friends like foreverr and in the past few years shes been kinda mean to mee. not really treating me like a good friend. but ive always forgiven her. And shes always the one who gets the guys and alwayss flirts with them and i have never had a bf beforee. Shes more outgoing and im kinda shyy. but this passed december she gave this guy my phone number for his friend and me and his friend started talking and we started to like each otherr. and i was so happy becasue i actually thought that i would get a bf and then on christmas when she was over my house she asked me for his phone number and i gave it to her. and she texted him and they started talkng and the three of us hung out at her house one dayy. and i kind of noticed that maybe they like each otherr. then he asked me why i told his friend why i liked him just as a friedn and i said that i want to be just friends for noww cause i felt like i didnt know him that well yett. so then he started talking to my cousin and he told me that he liked herr and then i found out that she liked him and now they are going outt. and one time she talked about me to my other cousin who im reallly close with and she said some mean stufff. and now the guyy is such an asshole all of a sudden.i mean i dont like him anymore or anything but it just pisses me off that they both got what they wanted. and i didnt do anything to either of themm. and me and my cousin havent talked or anything in like a month.
what should i doo? please hellppp. (link)
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My cousin is also my best friend. We have been that way since we were born. My father always told me that it might not last. The reason why your cousin might be doing this stuff is because you are her family. She thinks you will always be there for her no matter what she does to you because you are family. It sucks that it happens but I think that is why. You have to show her that the stuff she does is not always going to be forgiven.
Family grows apart especially with close cousins. You aren't like her and she knows it. Hang out with some people that aren't friends with her. You may be able to step out of your shell some more. Know that she is family and I am pretty sure that she will always be there for you.
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The past month i have been suffering relationships with all of my friends....first im being blamed 4 everything when it isnt even my fault and they just dont seem 2 want 2 b around me....please give me advice!!! (link)
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I would follow the other two answers and also remember that some people are really immuture and might be listening to other people. maybe one person is mad at you for some reason and everyone is following suit. Talk to the one that you think will tell you the truth. Tell them you can't do anything to fix this until you know what you are doing wrong.
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okay I need to find a household lube for masterbation I am a 16 year old girl can you use unscented lotion or vitamin e or aloe vera. Please tell me something I can use (link)
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Another thing you could do which is a little harder is to just use your spit. i have heard that it is the best lube.
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14f How old do you need to be to get your belly button pierced? I dont want to tell my mom but I want it done. Is there anyway around that?
Could you pierce it yourself? I seen it done in the movie thirteen.. they made it seem easy. (link)
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I agree to tell your mom you want it done and tell her you will pay for it. Ask her if there is anything you can do to prove that you are responsible enough to get it done. Make sure she knows that you don't want it just to show off your belly to people(even if you do want to). i think if you approach it right she might at least listen to you and maybe make a deal.
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I was wondering what you would recomend for exercise if I don't have a treadmill during the winter (link)
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I am probably not the best to ask but I would recommend runnning up and down stairs and push ups and sit ups. Or you could see if you could join a gym.
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So i had a sleep over with some friends and we got to the subject of where we want to have sex with our husbands when we're older. a couple of us named off in a hot tub, but a couple other friends said that it's bad. they heard a girls ovaries got busted doing it because of the water pressure.
i was wondering if that's true. is it even possible or risky? (link)
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I think they are exaggerating. I have never heard of that one before. It is bad for you though because water it dirty and if that gets into your body it can cause a bladder infection. Pools and bath tubs are bad too. Believe me I know. Have sex in the water once and you will more than likely regret it. Some people don't get infections from it but believe me they suck and you shouldn't risk it.
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13/m
A year ago i met this girl in 4th period. We instinly became really good friends. After a few weeks we started flirting a little bit. Over the summer i didnt see her but i thought to myself if i liked her. I still liked this one girl so i knew that i didnt. in the beginning of this school year i decicded to ask her out. She said no. A few days later this one girl asked me out. i said okay so i could find out if i would grow into liking her. She ended up breaking up with me for my friend then breaking up with him for my best friend. This made me pissed. Anyway, i started liking the girl i met a year ago. so, 2 weeks later i asked her out and she said yes :-). unfortunatly she broke up with him because she still had feelings for the person she likes. Everyone said she didn't however. Now i dont know if i like her or not. We're closer then ever and flirt all the time. I keep telling myself and everyone i dont like her (which im sure that i dont like her) but everyone says i do. I tried talking to her about this but she sounded like she didnt believe me. Even though i don't like her all i want is a second chance with her. My mind says another thing.
I have 2 questions:
1) how can i get her to make the move to ask me out or something like that
2) how can i get everyone (including her) to stop thinking i like her.
thanks in advanced (link)
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Then stop acting like you do. People are seeing something that you don't. I am pretty sure you like her if you are that confused. Just give in. Really think about it. If you want to date her that means you like her. i know it is confusing but once you stop trying to shove your feelings down things will clear up.
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I'm bored! I have no friends and I have no life. Well, I have a boy friend. But he's always busy with work or something. I play in a band. But practice is like once a week. every other day of the week, i spend sleeping all day and it really depresses me. I have a puppy, but she can't go out for walks until she gets her rabies shot. My bike is broken, and i can't afford to fix it... even if i could, It's too cold to go out riding. I MISS SUMMER =( I don't start college until next weekend. So help me get through this last week, please? (link)
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I am bored to! Write to me!
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so i had sex with this guy ive been inlove with for 3 years the other day
im 14
anyway
it hurt but like felt good at the same time
i obviously broke my hymen cause it bled.
well
does it bleed the second time?
does it hurt the second time?
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It shouldn't hurt again...but it might...don't freak it will stop! I never hurt the first time so I don't know but I do think it only happens once.
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Ok well im a 17 year old female and am a senior in high school. And this year I've been hanging out a lot with my best friend since like 8th grade more than usual. I'm over her house like all the time, and I think I might, I don't know if i really do, a crush on her little brother. Her brother is in 10th grade, and is 15 (going on 16 this summer).Like he's two years younger, but hes pretty mature for his age, and we do get along really well, and we flirt, but in a way where were both kidding. People have commented on us before, but we both kind of were like "oh yeah right hes/shes like my brother/sister". But no matter how much I tell myself no way, there still a part of me that always wants him around when I'm over there, or gets disapointed when hes not there. When I'm not around him, I think that i don't like him, but when I'm with him I second guess myself. I don't know, I'm so confused about the situation. He is really young and hes my BEST FRIENDS younger brother. Help! (link)
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Talk to your friend. It might be weird but it would also be weird to be friends and have you dating her brother. I don't know...if you like someone you should go for it. Just make sure it is ok with your friend.
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ok my birthday is in 2 days and i am really excited about it. So tonight my 2 friends and i are hanging out. they said it will be a little party.just a little get together. but i was telling my one friend H that i was going to wear a pin that said birthday girl on it just to be cute. and she said that would be bragging. i said no it won't because everyone has a birthday and i am happy about mine. and my other friend S had a crown on when it was her birthday and it was 1 day before. and H didn't get mad at that.now she is mad at me and i don't want to go now. Do you really think i was bragging? and how can i tell her that it is not bragging? i need help and fast! (link)
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Wow she needs to grow up! She needs to realize that it is your birthday and you can do what you want. My friends always do that stuff just to be cute and it is pretty fun. Tell her that she can do the same thing when she has a birthday. Bragg your heart out it is your b-day not yours just make sure you aren't annoying about it saying it over and over again.
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Well me and my friend invited two guys over when they werent supposed to. and we got really drunk....
my parents came home early and found out.
got pissed off.
and i guess im grounded for eternity.
any ideas on how i can get degrounded? lol
i dont like bein all locked up in the house.
it SUCKS. (link)
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Don't whine to your parents.That is one of the key things. Show them that you know why you are grounded and that you are sorry. Show that you are responsible by doing well at school and maybe doing chores. Slowly ask them if you can have a friend over (while they are home of course) if they say yes then you know they are loosening up. Make sure that they know that they don't know the reason you are being so good or they will never let you do anything. If you go slowly and not mention it they might forget that they grounded you in the first place. Good luck...hang in there!
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i lost my mom a few years ago. & my dad isnt goin to last long. i have a 6 year old sister & im 16 years old. what will happen to me & my sister if my dad dies? where will we go? will we go into foster home? will we ge split up?
please only answer if you know. (link)
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I am very sorry. I think that if your dad does not specify you will more than likely go with your closest relatives if they are able to take you. If you have none they will try their best to keep you guys in the same household.
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hmmm
where to begin?
okay
im 14 year old girl,
a freshman in high scool
this is going to sound pretty lame but
theres this guy i like.
well its more than a like
i have extreme feelings for him.
no physical attraction whatsoever.
i like him for his personality and who he is on the inside.
now this guy likes me back,
just as much as i like him.
but ive been waiting for about 5 months now for him to ask me out.
as i grew tired of waiting for him,
my friend told me about this other guy that liked me.
now when she first told me about him
i didnt care much
i didnt even know he existed
but i talked to him on myspace for about 4 days
and unfortunately,
i developed some feelings for him
i finally met him at school
and he kissed me.
i had no idea that was coming.
we walked around school holding hands that day.
and my other love interest saw me.
i saw him later on in class
and he asked me if i was with that guy and i told him no.
so the next day i made out with the other guy.
we were holding hands again and once again my other friend saw me.
he was really mad at me.
the other guy aked me to get with him and i said yes,
fully knowing that this was a horrible decision
since then my friend has not talked to me or even looked in my direction
i just wish i could go back in time and change it all but i cant.
so what i want to know is that should i stay with my boyfriend,
knowing perfectly well that i have lost a good friend and that the relationship will only last a few weeks,
or should i break up with him and ask my friend for forgiveness
and possibly create a wonderful loving relationship
that is of actual substance? (link)
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I you think it won't last long you should definetly try to salvage your realtionship with your friend! A fling is not worth losing a friend over.
The guy shouldn't be completly mad at you though. You weren't tied down. You weren't dating him at the time. If you two were dating you wouldn't do that.
I don't think you really did anything wrong but you need to get your friend back. Especially since you like him so much. Good luck!
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I'm in college. There's a guy in my class I'm interested in but I just recently found out he has a girlfriend. I still want to make some sort of a move because he is very attractive and I may not have an opportunity to see him again. I don't know him very well. We have hardly spoken to each other. He seems to like me but then again he is very friendly with everyone.
I found his profile on myspace and I'd like to contact him but I don't know what to say considering we hardly know each other.
Any advice would be great. (link)
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Talk talk talk! Just talk and listen to him. Don't act extremly flirtatious but maybe drop subtle hints. Make sure to not get your hopes up that he will dump his girl for you. If it is meant to be you will get with him.
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i have these pills and i had them in a little bag to carry in my purse.. the bag got a little damp and got the pills wet.. on one side they are puffy.. but not broken.. its still attached.. are they still ok??? haha i feel like a loser.. just double checking.. thanks! (link)
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yeah through them...besides wet pills taste so unbelievably gross...lol
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Ok I am a 15/f here. I have been with a guy for the past 6 months and I care about him a lot. The problem? Well he kind of treats me not so good, and shows that he doesn't care that much. He says he loves me, but I don't know what to believe. He will verbally be mean, and just not really how he was in the beginning of a relationship. I get that when you get farther in a relationship, things losen up, but this bad?
Also, I recently started getting really close to another guy. I talk to him a lot at school, and out of school. I feel guilty because I know i am starting to like him a lot. He seems like he really cares about me. But he has been single for a while, and I don't know if i can trust him. Anyways, I can't bring myself to think about leaving my boyfriend.
I still love him and I actually get to the point of throwing up, and physically unstable when i think of us ending.
I know that's unhealthy but I don't know what else to do.
If you were in my postion what would you do? (link)
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oh boy...I am currently in some what of the same position. I also get sick thinking about it. Your guy is not letting you grow as a person. If you think this other guy will treat you better maybe you should be with him. I know you love him and you will always love him but sometimes you have to let the things you love go. No one should treat you like that. your boyfriend might say he loves you but do you really know people who treat people they love like that.
I know that it sucks to hear what I have said but I know if you do break up you will get through this. I am having the same issues right now so if you need someone to talk to I am here.
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She didn't have a reason because when I said to her, "A why didn't you invite me to your birthday party?" All she did was walk away and no one was calling her or anything she just walked away. What should I do? (link)
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I am sorry to say this but I think she is using you and that she is not someone you should be friends with. Either that or someone may be telling her not to hang around with you. I have had that happen to me many times.
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How do you get a friend to open up to you?
Ive told her im always here for her if she needs someone to talk to and stuff but i just cant get her to break down to me.
Any suggestions? (link)
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some people just don't do that. They keep everything inside. I don't think it is healthy but you can't really force her to do that. If she wants to she will. Just be there.
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