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Q: i have so many guy friends. all of my friends are guys except a select few. but ive never had a b/f. could there be like a vibe im giving thats saying im not interested?!?! anyway my question is : What can i do to show a guy that i like him without telling him ?

thanks

heyhey alright my advice and what i do is flirt and like tickle him or everyone in a while look at him and when your eyes meet turn away.. and call him at times just because (not all the time) when you to are about to head home or something ask him for a hug ( ecspiceally infront of his friends because they will be like "dude i think she likes you " or something like that) good luck

Q: i wanna know what are some good presants to get my mom she is turning 50 and i love her so much she is my best frined and i am 15 and i have about $150 to spend i already have her a card and some victoria secrets spays lotions and soaps and looking for toe rings online and were going to concert but is there anything else that would make it a birthday she wouldnt forget?please help thanks

hey i think you should try taking her out to diner and a movie. To spend like the day with her i think that you being with her on her birthday is what she really wants thats what my mom always says to me and she just has a blast like hanging out at the park or laying in the sun or tanning or something to that sort. well good luck

Q: my dad moved out of my house but my parents are still married. my dad has a girlfriend. he dosent think we know but we do. he always promised me he would move back home but he hasnt and a few days ago he called me saying that hs not moving backhome. he told me and my sister it was bc of my mom and how shes changed. he has gone to a divorce lawyer of whatever theyre called. my dog has a brin problem like he was born that way so he does stupid things and he cant help it. he chases his shadow and pases 24/7, literally. my dads a vet and said he mat need brain surgerey or be put to sleep so i hae been asking for a pug for like 3 months straight and my dad keeps saying no. right after he called and told me hes not moving home he said "you know, i was thinking that we should get another dog to keep him (my dog) occupied and so he has a friend. were gonna get a pug. " he is like trying to beibe me so im not mad at him !!!!!!!!! also my mom cries a lot and is so upset. my sister dosent cry when she s upset, she just holds it all in and flips out and goes to her friends houses anddosent come home for a couple of days. what should i do? my family is falling apart. omg and i forgot to say something. i went far away last week with camp from tues to fri and my mom went to the spa with her friends from tues to thurs. while we were gone my dad stayed at out house with our dog and my sister. people told me mom that my dad ahd another woman in my house. what shuold i do?! its his girlfriend. please gimme advice,..PLEASE!

hey im really sorry for what is going on in your life at the moment i no its tough, you should tell your mom how you feel and tell your dad how you feel you should tell that we no you have a girlfriend and we no shes been over hang out with friends more often to keep your self busy and keep your mind off the subject a bit. dont worry about crying because its not good to hold it in tell your dad bribing you isnt going to work. good luck i hoped i helped a little bit

Q: okay so the guy ihave had a crush on might come for my b-day but if he doesnt his sis is and i want to write him a letter telling him how i feel of him but im afraid that we will lose the freindship we have cause of that so any suggestions on what to write or any other stuff try not to make it nasty make it okay for a 14 year old guy
will rate HIGH!!!

hey im ash and i think that you should just be like i really like you and even if you dont like me how i like you i really hope we could still be friends and explain youur feelings just lets you heart pour out and at the end say if this doesnt make to much sense its because it all came from my heart i didnt think while righting i just wrote how my heart feels about you. good luck Ashlee

Q: Hi! (this is kind of long...)

I'm 14, and most of my friends have dated or are dating. I feel like I stand out, almost like I will never be able to date. Whenever my friends talk about dating, I am happy for them, but I just think I'm never going to date, with hopelessness.

I have tried finding girls by being friends with them and then after a while, asking some of them if they have BFs. Some of them do, and most of them don't. I am still friends with them, but whenever I'd ask the ones without BFs if they'd like to do something together (almost like a date), they usually say "no" or "maybe not" or "sorry, I'm busy". I know they are either not ready or they just wouldn't want to date me. Sometimes I feel terrible or depressed about it, but other times, I get a strange feeling like I would want to stand out and not date.

My analogy on dating with comparison of my friends and me is that dating for my friends is like taking an airplane from ME to CA, but for me, it's like walking there and I can't find any other way to get there. I feel like I'm hopeless, like no matter how much I try, I'll never find a girl. :-( I am a very nice guy, at least that's what my friends say, but I'm not sure why I haven't been very successful. I just can't seem to figure it out.

If you have any advice, I'd be glad to hear what you have to say.

Thanks. :-)

hey alright im 14 as well and think of it this way you only 14 you have plenty of time to date people thers some one out there for everyone i have a problem dating guys i lost my trust in them because ive been cheated on so many times and i easly for give and for get so if y ou want to talk some more my aim- badassash002 yahoo- bad_ass_ash_002 my cousin made up my screen names lol well i hoped i helped you out a little good luck Ashlee

Q: ♥ okay..I have an appointment @ the OBGYN today @ 3 but I am trying to look more into the "pap" smear and the exam so that I will know what to expect such as does it hurt? what does it feel like? what do they do to you "down there"? 1-10 how bad is the pain with 10 being REAL bad...please hurry with lots of good informating please! Thanks in advance, I'll rate 5's for good answers...

alright im mom made me go get one down its no sweat i thought it was going to be bad i none my friends h ad it down so i got really really nervouss and scared but its no big deal it doesnt hurt bad just lay back close your eyes and relax hope i helped Ash

Q: (FOR THE LADIES)
What could a guy do to get your attention and make you feel like the most special girl in the world?

Hey alright.. tell her she means the world to you flirt with her (make it obvious you like her) make her laugh and smile DONT IGNORE HER ROUND HER FRIENDS!!! call her just out of no were she asks you to call her back or can you call me later do it. hope i helped ASh

Q: Well my exboyfriend and I decided that we wanted to go back out. But he found some one else..so he started rubbing it in my face that she is so much better than me. And it really hurts my feelings, him and I were together for over a year and im only 15. I cry every day, and everything that happens reminds me of him or a memory of us. And then last week when he was "hooked-up" with the other girl, he came over, and it was the first time that i saw him in a month. He said he wanted to make love to me, and i said if you love me then get rid of the other girl and be with me. He said i cant right now but when she calls me tonight then i promise i will tell her. So we had sex and then he said that he didnt want me right afterwards. Basically he used me. We still talk like every other day and i want to hate him so much but i cant. I am in love with him, and there is nothing i can do. Now he is going out with her, but hes always saying "I still love you" and crap like that. I just dont know what to do anymore im so confused and he is breaking me to a point where im so depressed. He was my best friend and now he wants to throw away a year for some girl. Please help me...Ill rate high

hey listen he shyt you dont need him if he going to use you and play you like that sorry hun but thats bull it might take time getting over him but you dont deserve that you better then him there is more guys out there and i no you will find the right one he hurt you terrible and you 15 you cant love yet concantarte on your friends not exs or guys you think your love you got plenty time for that spend a night out with the girls or something i hope i helped good luck Ash

Q: I went out with this guy for like a couple months n then we broke up becasue he moved. Then we tried going out again but it lasted like a day (damn tipical long-distance relationship scenario). Since then I have talked to his friend alot and he even asked me out a couple times but I turned him down cuz I didn't like him like that at all and they were both on the phone trying to make me chose between them and I wouldnt so then the guy got off and i was stuck talkin to his friend but he said he thought i should go out with the guy I'd gone out with before...this would be so much easier with names...so here...lets say John and his friend Gary were talking to me and John got off and Gary said he figured I should probably go out with John again. I don't see any of this working out in the long run or anything, but I agreed because I figured I liked him alright and he'd be kinda a fall back guy...kinda like when I've got no one better to have a relationship with. I know that sounds really horrible, but it's not really like that...I do like him he just lives lightyears away is all. So should I keep going out with him or what? I don't know what to do...

o ya...16/f

i dont know if this will help but i don tno what else to say i live in Ohio my boyfriend lives in California were going on 7 mths July 20th good luck -Ash-

Q: I'm 15/F turning 16 in october. I'm desperate to get a babysitting job, so my cousin told me to make flyers to put around my neighborhood.

What should kind of information should I put on the flyer, like my name and phone number.

How should I decorate it and what additional information should I add?

Lastly, what SHOULDN'T I put on my flyer?

Thanks guys. ♥

Dont put:
Last Name
Address
or any information leading to your house

Put:
Experinces
First Name
Number To Reach You
Price

Decrate

GOOD LUCK ~ASH~

Q: I think I’m suffering from depression. And my relationship with my family is going down hill. I feel like I’m such a burden and I feel like something is seriously wrong with me. I want to tell my parents but it’s just so hard to tell them how I’m feeling. I’m 17 and I love my parents very much but I can’t live with them and get the help I need. I'm not sure if I should tell them or just let things go on the way they are and be miserable?

hey i was going threw something like you are now i loved my family but felt left out and out of place etc i talked to my close friend and she told me what could happen if i dont tell because i was very depressed such as i could start cutting or sucide etc, and i dont waant that to happen to you i might not know you but you have alot going for you and tell your parents you need to talk to them and tell them everything you wrote here i know they will sit down and listen because do they but you close do they feed you do they hit im sure not and if so still try to explain how you feel good luck ~ash~

Q: well im 14 yr old female but ill be 15 in october and i painfully lost my virginty 3 days ago with a boi that i thought was 17 or 18 but turned out to be 20 or 21!! i have two problems now....

1) er'body in town keep askin me about it and sayin im bad and he really dont look like the type that would go around tellin er'body but im wonderin should i start denyin it or...what?

2)after i lost ma virginity i bleed(alot kinda) it was all on the toliet paper and dripped in the toliet but ma friend who don it twice didn't bleed like that but ma first time bleed worst them hers and it even bleeded today...and this happen 2 or 3 days ago....is sumthing wrong wit me?!? :( (and i kno its not ma period 4 sho)!! :(

hey well i lost my virginity as well and i really do regret it but you need to see a doctor i confronted and told my mother and i found out i have cancer thats why i bleeded after that. good luck and make sure you tell an adult you dont have to say with who its better to tell now before they find out by some one else. good luck -Ash-

Q: how do i get a girl to like me

hey im a girl so i think i would no lol.. well talk to her invite her to the movies be sweet treat her the same all the time dont act like a big shot in front of your friends. comfort her when shes sad hug her .

Q: heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..

ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!!

hey alright lets get down to bussness lol listen if i were you id tell him how you feel and id dump in a sec cause hun you dont need a man you trys to act like such a big shot in front of his friends your much better then that you need a man you acts the same way he does when your alone as he does with his friends around like holding hands and stuff it took y a while but i finally found a guy who acts tha same all the time around me you will to give it time. good luck -Ashlee-

Q: ok this might be long but people PLEASE bare with me i need your advice. ok now.

im a kinda girl that gos thru boyfriends alot like jumps from one to one (no im not a slut) ok well last year in school i started going out with a kid i really liked him not only was he my first kiss but he was kinda perfect. he was shy tho but it was kinda good since he wasnt annoying you kno? and sometimes he couldnt hang out and all. and we were on and off for like ever. and it seemed i was always the one to dump him and he was always the one to ask me back out after all the times i dumped him. i guess i kinda got selfish and i heard some other kid liked me that i went out with before. he was also hot and called you alot. so i dumped my old boyfriend for him and went out with him. everything was alright until like i dont kno i heard he didnt liek me anymore and all. and he just is such a jerk now! and i really want my old boyfriend back but i dont kno if i should ask him back out and how to do it. just please help i need advice.

ps. please dont just tell me to talk to him and all. i need help weather to ask him out again and how to stuff like that

thanks

hey well ive been in a situation and still am. here is my story so you dont think im lieing i went out with this guys who was shy and seemed perfect until i liked him so much i was afrid to hurt him he still liked me from a couple days ago well i was dating some one and i guess he found some one and he stoped talking to me because he wanted to get over me they broke up and he still dont talk to me and i regret ntot taking the chance to have him back and i miss him. if you feel the same way i do then do it change your route though what ever you dont break up with him if you truly love him apoligize and tell him how you feel about him because im sure if you guys were on and off im sure he still loves you good luck -Ashlee-

Q: I have a best friend, and we have always had each backs..But, she got this boyfriend, that she had a crush on for a long time. I didnt like him, when she was crushing on him, but now that i really know him...i really really like him. I've been flirting alot with him..and kidding around with him. I wanna know, if there is anyway i can tell him? OR at least tell my bff, without her over-reacting.HELP!

okay i think you should tell your BFF about how you feel but tell her your willing to never put your friendship before a guy. Trust me i no how it feels i had a friend you liked my exe boyfriend and she told me and i kind of flipped out but i appoligized and she forgave me and turned out the guy was JA

Q: ok well last year in 7th grade was the most roughest time ever i could think of!! i was so liked at the begining of the year and people started making rumors up about me and i lost almost every friend....i also got beat up once well i didnt get beat up thats what everybody says i just got in a fight ok and i am just having such a miserable summer bc thats all i ever think about is next year how im not going to have any friends to be with and where im going to sit for lunch and all that ughh i dont know what to do and all my mom says is "i dont know what to tell you" all im really worried about it one person bc she was friends with all the 8th graders and all the 6th graders and shes mean to me and hates me and she could prolly get everybody else to hate me and shes tall and is friends with all the popular people and shes not afriad to come in my face and say crap to me [ITS HAPPEND BEFORE] =[ it just started out i was hanging out with the popular people at the beegining of the year [ i guess thats what i wanteed the most ] and i dont know what happend but they all started hearing roomers and crap and yeah i started to get bad grades and i almost failed 7th grade and all this crap ughhh im not sure if god made all them hate me for a reason? im just so confused=/ somebody please help me ive been going through this forever and i really really need some help please =(
-ashlee

Alright i went threw this also but in 6th grade but things got better i started hanging with kids with the same problem and then more and more people wanted to hang with us.. i ignored those other kids who starting a bunch or BS its stupied.. and about this summer dont worry about take things one step at a time dont think a about the school year think about what is going to happen over this summer and when school starts.. dont worry about those things forget about it they will eventully do the same good luck

Q: Okay, I'm 15/Female if that matters and I've liked this guy for about a month. He liked me at the beginning of the school year for a long while but he never told me that because I had a boyfriend at the time. Now, I'm single and I'd like to go out with him but here's the problem .. he's been dating this girl for a month. I don't get why they're together though because everytime he wants to hug her she just pushes him off, she never wants to hold his hand, kiss him, or anything and I don't know why because they're going out .. but my question is, should I wait until him and his girlfriend break up so I can ask him out or should I go ahead and try and like some other guy or do something else?

my opinion is if you like this guy and doesnt seen that his current relationship is going so well maybe he is wating for you but doesnt want it to be obvious .. flirt with him a little call him more invite him to movies or watch a movie at your house or something good luck ashlee

Q: ok.. im 13 years old and ive known this cute guy for a couple years now but we never really had a conversation. this year were going to florida together cuz both of our brothers play on the same baseball team so yeah. but i wuz just wondering wut little things i culd do to like become "friends" or get to know him better. thnx

if you want to become friends with this kid well start a convo with him first talk to him alot start the convos. ask him if he wants to hang out etc. show him your not shy and once you guys become friends maybe then flirt a little giving little hints. good luck - ashlee -

ps have fun is florida

Q: *13 f*

i'm goin out with this guy n i like him alot...but i keep thinkin...is he goin out with me cuz he really likes me or is he jus goin out with me cuz hes desperate for a g/f? wut should i do to know if he really likes me or not? HELP!

Alright here is my opinion to your answer.. ask your self other questions.. does he want to hang out with you or does he make up reasons not to hang out with you? does he make time for y ou more than his friends? does he let you come hang with him in his friends? good luck -Ashlee-

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.