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Q: Hey guys. I'm 14 and I am dying to see the movie Thirteen. I've read the script and I've seen almost every clip there is to see on the internet! The movie is rated R though. I'm pretty sure I can convince my mom to let me see it, but she'd want to see it too.. and the movie has parts where Tracey cuts herself. I cut myself also, and I do not want her to catch on about my self injuries until I'm ready to tell her. Any ideas on what I should do?

She wont know you cut herself. She'll just be like "Ok Tracy is a cutter". Why would she think you are a cutter? When the part comes on just dont act different or anything

Q: Hi, I'm 14 and a freshman in highschool. As you know I would have to start thinking about a future job and what I would like. I have 3 things chose. 1) A crime scene investigator 2) a teacher or 3) an interior designer ... now with # 1 I can't stand blood thats coming out of the body in large amounts, would I usually see this if i was a CSI??

Yep. If you were a crime scence person you would definatley see blood, and guts and stuff. But dont let that not want you to become a CSI. Cuz thats an awesome thing to do..when your a CSI you'll be used to seeing all the blood and stuff.

Q: Hey guyes,
I am 5'11" tall and I weigh 165 Lbs. But still I am looking thin. I guess I need to put on weight on arms and legs. I tried doing Exercise but didnt really help. How can I do that? Please give ideas. Thanks.

http://www.ivillage.com/diet/features/herbs/qas/0,,200941_1266,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=2 (Gain weight the healthy way)

Q: anyboday have good pics of him or have any websites?? i already googled!

http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Makeup/2886/davidgalleries.html , http://www.tvtome.com/tvtome/servlet/PersonGalleryPage/personid-1670/

Q: ok i have this kid in my grade and me and him flirt ALOT and he liked me and im not sure if i like him like i dont no im like the bad girl in the grade that everyone has gone out with and my ex-boyfriend is his best friend and i went out with his friend 4 6 mouths and he is just like the type of guy you can see your self with cause like its him does anyone understand? and everyone is telling me he is going too ask me out what should i do????

If he asks you out, and you like him..go out with him. Yeah you have dated his friends and stuff but your over them and you now like him. Go for it:)

Q: my friend and i want to be singers and we have written 1 song and we always try to write another song but we just can't....anyone have any good ideas or a good song we could sing that is original??...thnx i rate

Just think about past problems in your life, love life familys relationships etc. And think about what happend, and how you dealt with it and stuff..good luck

Q: I showed my friend how to use this website and how to become a columnist, b/c i thot that she'd be awful at it. But now ppl are asking her direct questions and not me. And i dont want to be jealous, but i'm the first one who was here and now she's taking my place. What should i do?

Well start getting more popular, and add fav columnists so they can add you back. Just promote your column (If you want I'll add you as a fav just leave one in my inbox) and answer lots of questions. It takes a while to get popular so yeah.

Q: Theres this guy I like at school but there's only one problem....I have never met him! I do have a connection though. I am really good friends with his best friend! His best friend knows I like him, but he just doesn't think about introducing us! The guy I have never met (and like) seems like a pretty nice guy...but he doesn't know I exist! All though I have seen him look at me a couple of times...pretty odd. I wonder why I even like a guy I have never met! I want to like him, but I'm too afraid to like walk by and say hi to him. I'm shy like that. What should I do? How do I meet him?!
Thanks!
~Chloe, 14

lol I answered this one already;) Good luck though:)

Q: I like this guy at school and theres only one problem...I have never met him! I'm afraid to just go up to him and say hi. I do have a connection though. I am really good friends with his best friend! His best friend knows I like him and he just won't introduce us! I wish he would! The guy who I have never met (and like) seems like a pretty nice guy, but he doesn't know I exist! Well...I have seen him look at me a few times...which is odd. I don't even know why I like him?! I mean I have never met him! I want to like him, but I'm just wondering why I do? What should I do? And what can I do to meet him?
~ Anonymous, Age 14

You probably like him just because he is cute or hott or whatever. Bt thats not a bad thing, you need to find more about him and see if you like him more. Why wont your friend help you out? I have an idea, invite all of your friends to like the movies or something...Then go up to him one day and be like "Hey..My name is ____ and I heard your best friend was ____ and thats my friend. Well anyway, were all going to hang out on (the day)..you should come!" Why would he say no? His best friend will be there and he could meet new people. If he does go, just talk to him a lot and flirt. Maybe even get his number. I know it probably sounds hard to just go up to him and say that. But your friend wont help you out..so you need to do this! I hope I helped..good luck!!

Q: I am a 13 year old girl. I have a really good guy friend who is also 13. i am starting to develop stronger feelings for him everyday. I drop hints alot, but he just acts like nothing happened most of time. Other times he will flirt back. A few days ago he put his arm around my waist but I don't know if it was a friendly gesture, or if its because he likes me. We have a really close friendship and don't want to ruin that. Should I keep on flirting, or just be firends? If he does like me, what are the hints I should be looking for?

If he's touching you like that, then its no friendly gesture. Just have some of your friends ask him if he likes you..and if he does keep flirting and see what happens!

Q: okay i am thinking ahead about prom because I am trying to find a way 2 ask my friend who is aboy if he willdance with me! i am not so sure if he will because he is going 2 bring another girl from outside of school! and this is his senior and i just want one dance with him that's it!! what should i do?

Ask him if he could dance with you at the prom..only 1 song..I mean why would he say no? its not like hes ditching his date completley.

Q:
I had this bf named zack that i really liked. we were really cute together and he always gave me hugs and kisses and stuff. We made out like prolly 10 times in the 3 weeks we went out...lol. but his old gf was really mad at me cause she wasnt completely over him so i dumped him and told him that she needed time to get over him and we could maybe get back together in like a month or as soon as she gets a bf. But then 1 day we were tlking and he confessed to me what he was trying to tell me for weeks...... he only went out with me at first because of "what" i was and not "who" i was. aka, he just wanted some ass. but then as time went on he started to like me but then i dumped him. I really miss him a lot and i'd give nething to be back in his arms again. only now, he has a gf kaitlyn and they've been together a few weeks now and they rnt breaking up ne time soon. they really like eachother alot. kaitlyn and i are sorta friends we dont really hang out but we tlk alot during school. zack and i are friends now but nothing more. how do i get him back without "stealing" him from kaitlyn. or in other words, how do i get over him?

Ellen B. 13

Do not go out with him. I mean, you know all he wants is sex. So why go out with him. He'll just break your heart again. Yeah you'll be happy if your with him but then that happieness will be gone..and the pain will last forever. Your setting yourself up to get hurt. Just find a new guy that just doesnt want you for sex.

Q: See, my sister and I we both like this guy right?! Well this guy has a girlfriend. But he took my sister to the store today and he was all saying how he likes her and he wants to kiss her and stuff. And I think that is wrong, he has a girlfriend. He also told her that he's afraid to be without a girlfriend and that he is only with his girlfriend because of that and he wants to date my sister but he is afraid of rejection. And this guy knows I like him. I mean, I don't like him majorly. But it's enough to make me weak in the knees, ya know. And I mean I know I'm jealous here. But they rub it in my face and I don't want to tell her that so is there anyway else I could cope with this situation without being sad or crying. My sister keeps taking everything from me. She took my friend too. I mean I still have my friend but she hardly will talk to me now.. Ah, please help.

First of all, thanks for saving me from boredom!

Your situation is pretty tough. If me and my sister both liked someone, and he liked me and wanted to go out with me. I'd say no cuz I dont want my sister getting hurt. But I guess your sister doesnt care..But try talking to your sister and talking to her about how it'll really hurt you if she goes out with this guy. If she gets mad then leave it alone. You will find soo many new guys..your young (i think) and you have lots of times to meet better guys. Just think about people in your classes, or anything that you might like. It takes time to move on but eventually, you'll hate him and love this guy named Johnny Appleseed. Then Johnny wont be hott anymore so you'll like Billy Joe Bob. So yeah, lots of guys..you shouldent worry about this one!

Q: i want my hair to grow longer but i dont have really thick hair adn mine takes forever to grow. its blonde and sholder length but i want it past my boobs any ideas on what to take or what to do to get long locks??
muha
Lisa

Well if you trim it every month, trim not cut...It will grow because its more healthier that way. Or you could get extensions..Oh and go to a salon and let them thin your hair.

Q: my boy friend has been ubducted by the new game halo 2...he is obsessed! how can i get him back???

Until he beats the whole game haha. I guess when hes not playing, have him call you..I dont know? or talk to him about it at school and ask if he's ever gonna hang out with you.

Q: There's this guy at my school that I really like, I'm friends with him and everything. I've asked him out a few times but he said he'll think about it, then he ends up saying no because he thinks I'll use him to make my old boyfriend jealous. I try to tell him I won't, and he stil says no.

He's friends with pretty much everyone. He's the nicest guy ever. He's cute, and he's just...awesome. I don't get to see him that much so I can't like let him see how I act...so he doesn't know my...way of...YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, very much. So he's like clueless to how I act. You know?

So my question is, how the heck can I just get him to like me? I mean, if he just kinda sorta likes me i'd be fine, even if we don't go out. Just help me...PWEASE.

I really wanna know how. Please help! Sorry this was so long. ^-^;

I agree with SnakeEyes. I think its an excuse to turn you down easily. Just let it go and find new guys! Good luck.

Q: This is a really.. stupid.. question.. but.. here goes anyway:
I want to buy some condoms (im a girl) and i think its kind of embarrassing.. i mean.. i dont want everyone to know im having sex. I cant drive.. and if my sis or parents found out i was buying them.. they would KILL me.. Anyway.. when i work up the nerve to buy them.. whats the best kind to buy... i prefer lifestyles or trojan.. so whats the best.. and cheapest at that.. to buy

thanks!

Trojan is "americas most trusted condom" so get that. You can buy them in big packs or packs of like 1,2 or 3. When your at the store just look for the cheapest trojan ones. And dont worry-the people that work there arent going to say anything to you. At least your being safe

Q: Umm... I have relatively straight hair. Like there is a tiny lil bit of wave in there, but it's straight for the most part. AND IT IS REALLY THICK. Is it possible for me to scrunch? And how do I do it? What gel to I use? Im just askin cuz i get bored of wearin my hair the same way all the time, since its hard to style cuz of how thick it is. Thanks.

HeY! I am the master scruncher ha! All types of hair can get scrunched. Okay when your hair is wet, not damp..Get lots of moose and i mean a lot! And put it all over your hair. Take peices of hair in your hand, and just make a fist. Do this all over your hair, tighten your hands and yeah. You dont have to use gel. But when your done scunching, spray hair spray all over. Then in a ferw hours your hair will be dry and curly!

Q: I'm in 8th grade. This is my last year at m school, and I have become like really close with these two girls. Like and we are going to differnt highschools, but they are the only people that I can actually tell them stuff. I'm like really scared because i need one of them to talk to at school..to help me with my problems and stuff! how am i going to survive with out them?! i am totally scared! mauhh

kmul

All three of you will meet different people. Theres a good chance you'll have new best friends and you wont have much time for your middle school friends. Thats just how it is, after middle school you usally grow apart and find new people to hang with. but that doesnt mean you cant hang out with your old friends once in a while.

Q: ok i have a rash on my back, it has little red bumps going all down my spine.. its really ichy and really red! im really scared because i dont know what it is!! PLEASE HELP ME IM SO SCARED!!!!!!
Thanks so much for all y'all who can help!
*mar*