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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

Much love, Teza

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okay so im starting to get acne on my face and also on my back :( its not alot but i want to do something before it starts to get like wicked bad.i know i`m not gonna need proactive because its not so bad but what else is thee that isn`t so expensive? i rate high 5`s

Nutrogena works really good. There are acne face washes and body wash. Wash your face every night and morning and just take care of it. Put lotion on and just keep it healthy. The body wash works pretty good too because I've had this problem and it went away. Also, at Walgreens you can buy this product called Klear Action. It has all of the ingridients as Pro Activ and it's much cheaper. It works pretty good too.

13/f ; okay so i got my 1st period last year in november. then it came december, then january. i haven`t gotten it since like the 2nd week in january and now its may. is there something wrong with me? i rate 5`s.thanks.

There isn't anything wrong with you. It's actually normal. A lot of girls skip their periods for some reason and it doesn't mean you're pregnant or something. Talk to your mom or someone and ask her to take you to the doctor. You might have to be put on birth control. It just makes your periods come regularly.

my breasts really arent big so i was wondering if there are any foods to give me the nutrients to grow breasts thanks

No there isn't. You're going to develop breasts as you grow. You have plenty of time. Just because they might be small now doesn't mean they will be like that forever.

i'm 12 and a girl and my shoe size is 8 1/2 sometimes 9 depending on the shoe. and im not fat or anything. is this way to big? is there any way to make my foot smaller besides surgery (probably not but w/e)

That's not big. You'll grow into it so don't worry. There isn't anything you can do to make your feet smaller.

i really need to get tan in like a month and i cant go in a tanning bed is there any other way to get really tan in like a month? thanks!

Well, there is mystic tanning. If you go to a right place, it won't turn you orange and it won't leave spots. You would have to go about 5 times to get a good color but it only lasts for about a week or so. There are also lotions and sprays you can buy but those always leave spots and sometimes turn you orange. So you can eather lay out in the sun or go mystic tanning.

i really want to lose some of my stomach my summer. im not fat, its just i have a little extra under my belly button and the botom of my sides, toward the back. situps arent seeming to do anything, and its soo anooying. what excercises can make it go away maybe by summer?
thanks xo

Situps probablly aren't working if you didn't change some of your diet. If you still eat a lot of fats, sugars and such you won't see much results. Also, if you eat about 3,000 calories a day that could also be another reason. Lower your calories to about 2,000 if you already haven't. Eat healthy meals. I'm not just saying that, but that's very important if you're looking to lose weight or just some of that extra fat. Make sure you drink plenty of water. That's really important too. Try to eat veggies and fruits. Don't have much junk food because that's no good. If you keep up with that and exercise, you will see results pretty fast. For exercises, run, jog, walk, sit ups .. anything really. It shouldn't have to be just for the stomach. Walking, swimmings works every part of your body and that will help. Good luck with it.

ok well u might know this already know this well i am 14 years old and i get good grades and do what i am told and in reward i get mosly everything i need and want.but i am allowed to have a boyfriend but this guy likes me and i like him but he is younger than me.i am in the eighth grade and he is in the fourth grade.so that means that he is 10 and i am 14.is that wrong that i like him.but i was with him the whole day yesterday and whenever i am with him he treats me like a princess but than i think if about a lot of parents and how they have a bigger age difference like 10 years compared to my 4 years with him.but i need help and i want to know if it is a bad thing that we talk to eachother everyday on myspace and on the phone.and sometimes i seee him like during the week cuz he goes to my litte cousins school.but when i was with him last night i kissed him on the cheek a lot before he left and when we call eachother we say i love you and i know we both mean it but is the age difference a bad thing.please help me

The age difference is a lot. You're in the 8th grade and he's in the 4th but you guys seem to like each other a lot so that's all that matters. It's fine that you guys talk and it's not wrong that you like him. You can't change your feelings and you shouldn't have to. If you really like him, don't worry about what other people will think or say. If he makes you happy that's all that matters. So what about the age differnce. That's not what love is all about.

hey, ive been wondering this for a long time
well i know you can only get pregnant if you have sex AND you have your period, but what if you've never had your period before and you have sex? could you still get pregnant?

Yes you can. It happens rarely & I'm sure of it because I asked my science teacher that question and she said it was possible.

for ladies-- no men allowed!

today i bought a box of slender regular tampons. usually i use pads but its a hassel wearing them to school because after a few hours they get sticky and very uncomfortable. also, i can never find the time in between classes to change them so i desperately need to learn how to use tampons.

ok first of all, i am aware of the dangers (like if you leave one in too long and etc.) so all i need to know is where to put it. i looked on a doctor website and found a diagram but its so much different on myself. there's like, too much skin. i hate talking to my mom about it because its awkward and if i asked her where then that would get EXTREMELY awkward.

help? (please this is like life depending... ill rate big time!)

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html That website is so helpful. It shows you pictures of where to put it in correctly and other important information. It's nothing gross. It's easy if you put one leg of the toilet seat and one down. But just visit that site.

so,lately i have noticed brown stuff on my undies.(no its not poop)put there is barely any. and i no it is coming out of my middle whole. and is it my period?
i have never had it before

It is your period. Sometimes, the blood isn't always red. Have you gotten discharge before that & have you had your period before? Well, it's nothing bad and it's normal. Just your period. Wear pads or pany liners and it won't last for long.

I was just wondering, is "Katlyn" pronounced the same way as "Caitlyn" && "Kaitlyn" && all the other ways to spell it?

Yes it is. This girl I know spells it with a K & it's pronounced the same. :]

How do i get motivated to lose weight? Everyone one says just buy a ofit that you want to fit in and that should motivate you. Well that doesnt seem to help for me. I really want to lose wieght over summer break and i've tried so many times already but i just cant stay motivated. Can you please give me some motivation ideas that might work for me? Thank you so much it means alot to me. Ill rate high to !!

First of all, think about why you want to lose this weight. If you don't have a reason, you won't be motivated. My motivation is being healthy & going shopping for all new clothes. If you like boys, think about them and maybe that could get you to commit. Think about all of the obese people and maybe that will also motivate you to eat healthy and exercise so you don't end up being like them. Just find a reason that you want to lose weight. It might be just to look hot in a bikini or something but whatever it is, make sure you commit to it and keep motivating yourself to lose that weight.

I am really sorry this is a really really dumb question and I feel really stupid about asking this but what is orgasm and whatdoes it feel like?b/c my boyfriend says when we have sex i will get an orgasm and i dont know what it is. but i know that fromlistening at my parents door, that sex takes a lot of effort and grunting wth moaning.Also can you like be fucked? while having sex like my boyfriend said he wanted to fuck me and have sex so i was like okay and then i was like wait a minute i dont know if we can do that at the same time(i said that to myself) and then i went researching it but they never said what fucked was. I know what sex is but not fucked? plzz help me he wants to do it tonight and imtoo afraid to ask my friends b/c i think that they will just laugh at me and say im retarted.plzz help!!!sry if u think this sounds stupid but im confused :'(!!! after you reply i have to explain to him why we can't have sex and be fucked at the same time so please help me explain how i can explain it to him?THANK YOU SOO MUCH TEZA I MIGHT TRY TO IM YOU IF YOU DONT REPLY AFTER 9:00 PLEASE THANK YOU TEZAAAAAA!

Don't worry about the question. =) Anyways, an orgasm is basiclly a really good feeling that you get during sex or masturbation. I don't really know how to explain it but just wait until you expirience it. I don't really understand what you mean but can you be fucked? Fucking and having sex is basiclly the same thing so it's nothing really different. If it's going to be your first time, tell your boyfriend to start of gently with you because you won't feel pleasure right away. It might hurt you a bit but make sure you guys have protection. =D Just be careful and try to make your first time fun lol.

okay. i have had my period for about two years now and it has always been regular. this month im about five days late so far. i have never had sex, but is it possible for me to get pregnant still?... when i suck my stomach in, there is a little lump there and like wehn i push on it, it feels funny... could i be pregnant?!

You can't get pregnant if you have never had sex. Periods are never really on time. It's okay if you're late. I skip about 2 months and I was never pregnant so you're fine. If your period continues to be irregular ask your mom to go to the doctor and see if he would put you on birth control. It just makes your period come on time.

i know its more than one question - but its all the same topic so i just put it on one.. sorry.

1) if i reject a question - does it go to be public?
2) if i ask a public question [ like this ] - is their like a maximum number of answers?
3) is their a maximum number of favorite columnists you can have?

if you can answer all 3 - automatic 5.

1. No, it doesn't go to the public.
2. No, there isn't an amount of answers.
3. No, there isn't an amount of favorite columnists you can have.

Ok so im 14/f n i've been getting my period for a while now. I'm going on a school trip soon and I'm pretty sure i'm gonna have my period then. I've never used a tampon before but there is no way i can wear a pad with my bathing suit on this trip. The problem is i'm afriad to use a tampon and i don't know how. Anyone wanna help!?!

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html Visit that website. It will show you a picture and explain on how to insert a tampon. It's nothing gross but it helps. If you do it right, it won't hurt you. Just relax and don't be scared of them. You should start out with the smallest ones and then if you bleed a lot, get super.

well there's this guy.. and i liked him for like 3 years on and off. hes known to be a playaaaa & everyone says not to like him. he flirts & hugs with almost every girl and he hugs me like once when no one was around. and yeah people talk shit about me and it seems like that he listens to them sometimes.. well someone said somethin & hes over it but now it feels like if i dont like look okay that day he wont talk to me. and like hes embarrased of me & i dont know. i really like him.. and the other day i said i love you to him and he said it back. and im soppose to give him head. but i dont know if i should because that might be all he will want & than keep asking for it or forget about me.. and idk what i should do -------
helpppp

Honestly, this guy is using you. He doesn't like you and all he does want from you is head. You're seriously wasting your time on him and you're just going to keep getting hurt. You need to move on and I wasn't trying to be rude but he doesn't like you. He's really shallow so just forget about him and I know it might be hard to since you like him, but if you don't want to keep getting hurt, you will try to find someone else.

Is head when you stick your head into the person?

No.

okay my forehead is like 2inches from my eyebrows to me hair line. yea i know , it's HUGE. ugh - how can i make it smaller !? im 13 so i can't get plastic surgery.

There's nothing you can do to reduce the size of your forhead without surgery. Do you have bangs? If not, you should get them. Side sweep bangs cover most of your forhead and you can't really see it so just try a new hair cut. Sorry.

Okay, so it's almost summer time and I would like to look good in a bikini. I'm 14 years old and about 4"10. But I'm not sure which exercises to do. What exercises should I do for:

Thighs?
Stomach?
Love Handles?
Upper Arms?
&&&&&&&
Calves?

Oh And BTW ... I loveeeeee your advice sight. It helps alost. =].
Thankssss

Thighs: You can do squats. They work your butt muscles and the muscles on the front of your legs. You can also do lunges. Stomach: Ab reach is mainly for love handels. Crunches on a work out ball also help with the stomach area & you can just do a regular crunch. Arms: Push ups, tricep extentions, & hammer curl. Chest: Swimming. Back: Two-Arm-Row. You should do that if you have small weights. One of the best exercises that you can do is walking or jogging. You use a lot of muscle and it's really good. Another great exercise is swimming. It works every part of your body and it helps lose weight. Just eat healthy and do a couple of those exercises a night and you'll get down to your goal weight. If you don't know how to do some of those exercises just let me know which ones and I'll explain them and if you need more info about anything, let me know. & thanks so much. I'm glad my advice helps. =)

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