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Q: Okay, let's get right down to it, I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm constantly comparing the amount of friends I have to the amount of friends other people have. For some reason, I always have less, and it is really starting to bother me. Also, I don't have that many guy friends that are my age and stuff (I'm a girl and I'm 14). I probably have about 10 good friends but I feel like I should have more. Is that an okay number, am I just over paraniod, or do I really not have that many friends at all? Should I make new friends and how? And pleas edon't suggest more actvities because I'm wicked busy during the school year.

By the way, I often suffer from lonlieness and depression.
you dont need many friends. your good friends, are your close friends i think the more friends you have the more you got to be watching them because sometimes your cant trust them

if you feel as if you need more friends. then just go up to some girls and guys that seen friends and you would like to get to no.

Q: my friend is alwayyss flirting with my boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. she even sleeps with them and it makes me soo mad. how can i overcome this feeling or deal with this problem?
if your friend is flirting and sleeping with your boyfriends / ex boyfriends. shes not a very good friends. i would tell her homw you feel if she keeps on with this i would tell her i dont want to be friends with her no more Good Luck

Q: Ok so, I've been dating my brother's friend Mike who lives in a diff. state for almost 3 months now, and we didn't tell my brother or my parents. But, my parent's found my Myspace and everything about Mike in it. They flipped out and my brother found out and got really mad. And if this one just a random relationship I would have just ended it .. but I really do love him, and I cannot live without him. I'm pretty sure I should just stay with him. but I don't know. so could you help?!? =)
Sit your parents and your brother down and tell them how you feel about him. if you thought it was just some silly relationship you would have just ended it. Good LUck

Q: I am a 35/f whose teenage daughter has been living with her father for most of her life.

When her father and I divorced it was decided she would live there because I wasn’t financially stable enough to give her a comfortable year-round home but she has always spent most of the summer with me.

While things have changed a lot now. I make a good deal more money, pay child support and have a much more comfortable home for her. She’s decided she wants to move in with me for the rest of high school because the high school in my area has a much better art classes and several of her friends attend it.

I’m delighted of course, the thing is, she is afraid to tell her father about this decision. She says she’s mentioned maybe moving in with me before, and it’s upset him or he has taken it as a joke. She has asked me to come over and be with her as she discusses the move with her father.

So my question is: Should I be there while she tells her father she has chosen to live with me next school year? I want to be there for her, but I don’t want her father to feel threatened or ganged up on. Part of me thinks she is old enough to be able to talk to her dad about this herself (I’m sure he’ll be a bit hurt, but he isn’t an ogre or anything, he wont go nuts.) So I’m quite torn, please advise.
I think you should sit down there. tell him the reason that she wants to move in with you in till high school is over im sure he will understand. if he knows and under stands the situation. Good Luck

Q: ok i live in condos. with only my dad is
overprotective, and i really want to exercise but he wont let me go outside by myself. so i end up not getting exercise. :(
someone tell what to tell my father, or what kind of exercise i can do inside plz
thx
there are plenty of exercises you could do at home. tell your father,that if he wont let you go out side and exercise to buy you a running machine and one of them bikes they work wonderfully. my personal favorite is the Ab Lounge.

Q: So my dad tells me how nobody in reality is going to respect me because i have a tongue ring. I thought respecting somebody wasnt because of how they look [as in having a tongue ring] and because i have 17 piercings. I swear he is embarassed of me and he wants like the perfect little daughter or something

Ew. he makes me so mad. blahh
Hello, i no where you are coming from my parents wont let me have my tounge pirced until im 18 and i get it done my self. you should talk to your father and tell him how you feel. Also tell him that the pircings make you who you are.

Q: 13/F
Im like really loud. I don't know if its like in the annoying way, but I'm like always hyper. Even thought I don't eat things with a lot of sugar. Like I'm really friendy & I love talking to new people. I acuallly just love talking period. So yeah anyways. I don't know if I'm annoying or something. So do you guys think its annoying to meet someone new thats really loud & stuff? if you do how can i change?
to figure out if you are annoying you should ask some of your friends tell them you would like an honest answer and you wont be hurt what they say. but i have a friend like that i find annoying because shes to hyper and tend to hit people although she doesnt mean to. Redialin (not sure how to spell) ask your parents to take you to the doctors. its nothing serious. it just calms your body down. i have alot of friends that take it.

Q: ok soo me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and he thinks im to jealuos
-i hate this girl he use to like
-i hate that he whatches porn
-talks to other girls thats are sooo stuck up and snoby and thinks there hot errr!!
-talks about girls but jokingly he says!!
-stares at girls and then when i ask him what are you looking at hes all like umm i just thought i knew her!!
this stufff tottally drives me crazy i hate it do you think im to jealous and what should i do about it and do guys not like it when girls act jealous!!
i belive you are jealous. and its nothing to worry about because i no am to. you just got to put up with it. there really isnt anything you can do except try trusting him

Q: Ok, so I have been best friends with this boy since kindergarten. I recently switched schools and asked him out. I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt about him. He ended up saying no, and I was crushed. I haven't talked to him since. What should I do?
write him another email telling him you dont want to ruin your friendship over what you had asked him

Q: I'm just curious. About how much money does an average parent spend on his/her child per year, including food, insurance, school, clothes, furniture, everything?
i asked my father and he said probly about 12000 but thats on the high end.

Q: I have 2 neighbors that I've been friends with for a long time. I'm a girl, 15, and they're both guys, 2 yrs younger than me, if that matters. Anyway, we used to always play outside together or play vido games at each other's houses a lot. About 2 years ago, due to personal family issues, I wasn't around very much for a long time, and I havn't really seen either of them at all. For a long time if I saw one of them on the bus or something, we'd just say "hi" and that's it. For the most part they ignore me. All the family stuff is cleared up now, but since school's out, I still havn't had a chance to talk to them. I want to still be friends with them, but what am I supposed to do? Do I just call them and ask if they want to come over like I would have two years ago as if nothing's happened? Do I tell them I feel like I've been ignored? Please help me, and sorry this was so long!
if they dont already no that your family has been having problems then tell them. yes i think you should call them and ask them to come over to hang out.

Q: I just moved in to a house in Lake Park, NC. I have lived here for a week and I like this girl that lives across the street. I don't have the nerve to ask her out. Can someone tell me a good way to ask her out.

Signed,

newkid
Yes i think you should use your dog. When you go to get you dog. Introduce her self. Then ask her if she would like to go to dinner . and pick a night and a time.

Q: I have had a crush on a guy from the first day i met him. me and him were pretty good friends we hung out on the weekends and at recess at school but this was about in 1st grade and Im now in 10th grade. we have stayed close through the years but as you know when u get older you split apart. Well things have changed when I got into 5 grade are parents got married. so now he is my stepbro and I cant get over my crush towards him at all. Its weird because everyone knows I like him and says its wrong but within the last yr. things have changed between us we have gotten more sexual and Im realizing I want out of all of this. so how do I get out of these feelings?
i dont think, its wrong for you to like your step brother. he is your step brother and you had feelings for him before your parents got together. but since you want to get over him. you should find another guy and flirt with him. get to no him so you can move on

Q: ok. i really like this kid.
& like i dont think he likes me.. but idno.. i wanna see what other people think

At this party..everyone screamed JACIS HERE! (thats me)
& my one friend, told me that the kid i like, got a really big smile on his face & looked at me & then looked down.
& then he was really shy around me.
like he'd talk to every girl but me.
(which i thought was bad but idno)
at this big dance..
all of his baseball friends were like..
are you jaci? do you like colin? or theyd just go are you jaci? & then smile at the kid i like, & he would just look down.
everyone said he looked over at me when i would be on rides or something & watch me.
& then at this like baseball field..
he was with this one kid.. & they kept whispering & the kid i like, would just say sshh shut up , she might hear you.

& stuff like that.
so do you think he likes me?
or no?
& if he does.. how can i make him tell me or something? without telling him i like him?
From what you say. i think he likes you. he seems to shy to make the first move so you should

good luck

Q: Ok my parents are divorced. Im 15 yrs old and I have been able to choose where I want to live since I was like 12. Well I have always lived with my mom and seen my dad on the weekends. Well since I have gotten older things changed I go to my dads when I wanna and I have moved to my grandma's. well with it being summer I go and stay at my dad's house to see him and my step family. Well the last yr or more they have been bugging me to move in. I dont have a good reason not to other then my mom saying I cant.She tells me I cant move out she hasent even came to terms I live with my grandma. she has told me over and over I can never move in with my dad. My question is how do I move in there with out things changing between me and my mom?
as you said before you saw your father weekends and mother during the week. maybe you should see your father week days and your mother weekends and week days maybe go hang out once in a while rent a movie and popcorn on a weeknight stay the night and go back to you dads on weekend.

good luck

Q: there are A LOT of hott guys in the church i go to. it's AWESOME! sometimes i wish i can get to know that person better, but it's a church. you can't talk, and the only time you can is when you tell "peace be with you" to everybody. it would be weird to talk to them then. we don't stay for the whole mass, because my little brother doesn't have enough patience for it. we only stay until we get our communion. what should i do?
Maybe try writing in a note to a guy that you would like to talk to him more out side of church. maybe meet up for lunch or something.

Good Luck

Q: well my name is rachel and there is this girl in my skewl who i thought was perfect.... i mean, she's pretty, smart, FUNNY, loves sports, and is BAD (GETS IN TRUBLE AND STUFF)TOO. and the best part is, she doesnt knw it.....she's so nice and she's a foreigner! now, i want to b just like her, i want to dress like her act like her the whole package but i knw that that is never ganna happen. i asked her wt i should do and she told me that she doesnt do all this on purpose, she just acts as herself! now my question is, since i cant b her, i want to have an email like her. she has lots of emails but her hotmail is sqwirt09@hotmail.com and i want to make my hotmail sqwirt_08@hotmail.com. would that b considered copying her, do you think she'll notice or get mad. i dont think she'd mind but i want to make sure first. wat do i do!?!?!?!
HELP PLZ
alright my advice is dont copy her be your self theres plenty of other email address you could have besides her. she may get a little upset.try coming up with your own idea be your self with a little of her personality it may help if you all become friends.

Good Luck

Q: i really want a cute loveing boyfriend that is sweet. but i cant find him and idk how to...i mean im not fat or ugly. but i still cant find some1 who likes me. i neede aome advicee.


thanks
Its really hard to find a good guy that you like and he likes you back. give it time. if you find a guy you really like. flirt with him a little. so he gets the hint you like him.

Q: Just tell me.. Should I tell him I like him?

Me - Fifteen. Single.

Him - Sixteen. Going out with a girl.. who
according to my friend who knows both of them, is 'an exact replica [sp?] of me.

Us- Close friends. He used to like me, and I didnt know how I felt, so I tried to just stay friends, and put down his attemps to get close/hold hands/ect. I grew to like him more and more and now I really realllllllly like him.

Currently - Even though he has a girlfriend, he always makes it a point to tell me he loves me and Im the only one who can keep him up all night talking, and how he cant wait until after Highschool so he can see me everyday. Yet, his girlfreind is still his girlfriend?

So what do you think? Should I just tell him? And how should I? I dont get to see him that much, we go to different schools, and he lives one town over. I usually just talk to him on aim/texting.. rarely on the phone but I just hate phones.. I might invite him over but I dont want to tell him in person with just me and him there.
Hello, if i was you i would tell him like..

remember that one time when you liked me and i wanted to keep it as a friendship, well ive really grown on you and well to get to the point i like you.

Good Luck..

Q: I dont know wat I should do. Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and for his friends 18th birthday he is inviting all his close friends to his party at a stripclub, and my boyfriend is invited. I first heard about this when I was on my boyfriends myspace. My boyfriend go an invite and had told another friend that he should come as well. I didnt think i should ask about it so I just kinda decided to wait to see if hed bring it up with me at least. A few days later he told me that his friends wanted him to go but he knew that I wouldnt want him to so he wasnt going. But he also told me that his friends were trying to convince him to go and just not tell me anything about it. Im glad he told me and Im even more glad that he said that he wasnt going to even if I gave him permission, but Im still a little nervous. I know he wont hook up with girls there, and I trust him but Im worried hes going to go behind my back. I heard from a friend of his that he had told them he was going. What should I do? Do i confront him? I really dont want him to go but I dont want to be unreasonable. I dont think its right if we r in a committed relationship and hes out looking at other girls... Am I overreacting?

no your not overreacting. i would act the same way. but you need to understand that since your boyfriend is older. he is going to want to do things that you wont approve of. you should tell him i am happy that you told me about this and said you werent going to go. although tell him that he can look but not touch. and for you that night you should get a bunch of your friends together. and party the night away.
good luck

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Sweet_LiL_Angel
My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.

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