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Q: OK I asked before about what the things on my legs were, turnrs out yes they are stretch marks. Now, my mom refuses to buy more cream so i cant buy any cocoa butter stuff but I raided my closet and foudn hand cream with cocoa butter... will that work even tho it's for your hands?

You never know if you try! I think it'll still work though:)

Q: I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love yoI love you I love you u I love you I love you I love you

HOw can I fix that

lol why would you want to fix it..and since ur so nice.,.i love you too haha

Q: I know this is an extremely vauge question but its meant to be. Is there any colleges that you can get in on a dancing scholorship?

http://www.varsity.com/scholarshipsearch.asp , fill out as many as possible and see what happens! Godd luck! Oh and also, to get into Juliard you need to know how to do a instrument as well (piano, viloin, etc) just thought you needed to know that!

Q: I'm 13 and wondering...

Having sex with yourself.

Q: today me and my boyfriend were surpose to hangout...well his parents came home early from work so i was going to go to his house...but then he called me and he said he was going to go buy a game with his older brother real quick and hell be right back and hell call me when he got back...he left @ 2 30 today.....its now 4:20!! i called at 4 but his mom answered and said he still wasnt here...im giving him till 5 to call me....when he calls me later when he does get home and its past 5...what do i say? how do i handle this? its pretty rude what he did....

Umm, maybe he didnt mean to? Maybe he bought the game, and when he came home he started playing it and he lost track of time. Guys and video games..haha..why cant you call him?

Q: I am a very shy, quiet person. I guess that you could also say that I am also somewhat of a geek... I kinda live on the computer... but. I have two friends, and don't get me wrong, I love them and appreciate them soooo much! But neither of them go to my church. The kids at my church are very rude and mean to me. They always leave me out. I am the outcast. I hate it! I mean, I am too shy to do anything about it, but I can't stand them just being so rude! I sit by myself, I talk to myself, I am always by myself because they are so mean! They make fun of me and stuff all the time! I don't care what they say, I have learned to let it bounce off. But I still don't have friends at my church. I also dress differently. I am very self conscious, and I can't help it. I dress in non-form fitting clothes, and I don't wear skirts. I don't put myself out there. I don't have a b/f. I do have a lot of family/home problems, that kindof makes me really quiet and insecure. Am I being too shy and quiet? What are some ways to get over being so insecure? Is there a way to get over self consciousness? I have several mental blocks against : guys, men, letting my hair down, form fitting clothes, and large crowds. I know that I can't get over some of it because of my home life. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry that it was this long, but I had to make myself clear.

Hey I'm sorry about your church! Maybe you should try going to a different church? Not wearing skirts and stuff doesnt make you a bad person. Thats how you like it, so fine. But maybe you should try wearing a skirt and a cute top to church once..and have your hair down and see everyones reaction. They'll be like :-O haha Cmon its not gonna hurt..if you dont like it you can always go back. Make sure you curl or straighten your hair too.

Q: I'm a 16/m thats moving from California to Rhode Island. its the biggest change of my life and i'm not sure what to do about it. How will i ever fit in?? How do i get accepted by my peers? Whats that style/fashion there? Can anyone give me advice on how to make a smooth transition into Rhode Island?? Thanks!

dude zach! dont make me cry! I miss you like a slut 1/2! :-/ And dont worry about it...with your pimp styles you'll make friends..join like a dance team or something over there! i love you like i love eyeliner!!

Q: i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

Try buying ProActive. It really works. I know people with bad acne and they used ProActive and their skin cleared up after a while!

Q: what does it mean after u give someone advice.. and it says cheatspeak or whatever and type in english?? how can u get it off.. i have been answering peoples all dya it just does it randomly.. pleas ehelp!!

Because your spelling things wrong. You need to spell everything correctly and not use IM languge.

Q: im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be??

Just because you have sex doesnt mean its cool. Your friends are actually stupid for doing it at like 14 and stuff. You should wait until you feel the guy your going to do it with is special to you..dont do it just because your friends are.

Q: Hey! I was just wondering if anyone had any advice of how or where i can record songs and music? I have a record studio at my school but i was wondering what else could i do to record? is there a website?

Umm, no.. just do it at your school.

Q: My best friend Nicole has been my friend since 5th grade and were in 9th grade now. We're so close and we talk about everything together. One of our good friends who was 17 yrs old just passed away on december 5th from cancerous tumers on his brain. It was so sudden. We all got so scared after that becasue in our town, theres been alot of deaths from cancer. We didn't think it would actually effect someone so young, an ready to go off to college. The worst part about it is that his mother had already lost 2 other sons before him. So she basically just lost her 3rd son.
Sadly to say, just last week, about 2 days before Xmas, my best friend Nicole was diagnosed with cancer. The doctors said that the lumps on her neck were the beginning of Mono, but they were wrong. Her tests came back, and she now has cancer. Shes gonna be at Westchester hospital for about 4-5 weeks going through kemo and stuff. Me, and a bunch of our other friends are worried sick about her becasue its so sudden, and we dont want to lose her like we lost our other friend. I'm so sad, and I desperately need someone to make me think of positive things about her right now, becasue really all i can think of is our other friend who just died and if shes gonna end up like that. This is a very hard time for me, can anyone give me any advice on this? I just dont know how to think about something good. Thank You!
_Janine_*

I dont know if your religous or not. But I am, and I'll be happy to pray for your friend and get other people (from my church and stuff) to pray for her too! You need to stay positive for her, if she knows your all sad she feels that their is no hope.Be strong for her, and she'll stay strong! I know I didnt help a lot but I'm sorry and I hope your friend does ok!

Q: My computer for some odd reason just started to go very slow, and akes awhile for everything to load on it. We just took it to a 'computer doctor' in may, and its doing the same things over again. We have more popups and the internet doesnt come up right away now. So, Instead of paying another 70$ to get it fixed again, what exactly do I have to do to stop all of this? Even as I type this now, the popups keep coming and interupting me. I just cant stand this anymore, can someone just please tell me wht to do!? Thank you very much.
_janine_*

You might have too many programs on your computer. Go to "My computer" and then find "Add or remove programs". Remove everything you dont use! And remove anything that you think is causing problems. Also you cold try to get a spyware blocker. Its like $20. I suggest buying SpywareStormer. It works great and its not a joke just to get people's money. It really takes off the spyware!

Q: my cousin and i are really not on good terms right now but it is really horrible because hes best friends with my old friend thats now being a jerk to me and getting everyone to hate me and he is also going out with my friend who is also becoming best friends with my old friend its horrible because now my friend is introdusing all of the guys that i like to my old friend and now she is going out with all of them and getting them to turn against me which is horrible because i really like my cousins best friend and he just went out with my old friend and my old friend even got my cousin to hate me i know that this is confusing but i have no clue what i should do what should i do??

Hmm, forget about them. You can find new firends cant you? Hang out with new people, or hang out with old friends that you havent talked to in a while. Or friends from sports teams, or clubs or anything. To get back at your friends, (I know this is mean) just start rumors about them. haha. I know, childish but hey..their ruining your life :D!

Q: 15f, okay ive realized that having like 2 or 3 best friends is perfect, no drama no nothing, and then they started hanging out with their old friends who are totatlly bitches, sry, but i could care less then at 300 in the morning last night i get these stupid phone calls of them making fun of me and my boyfriend, i just feel really hurt and betrayed by them because it wasn't them saying things but they were telling them to say things obviously because i tell them everything and to only them. i just wished that they could have made the other girls stop calling me. i just hope that you guys got that, its hard to understand, but what should i do, now all i have is my bf and his friends? should i talk to my best friends about what they did?

Yes talk to your best "friends". Ask them why they did it and that you thought you guys were friends. Once and if they open up to you and tell you why they did it..ditch them. Really. You were hurt and thats just messed up. They probably dont care about you and your feelings if they called and said those mean things. You can do better. They dont deserve you as a friend.

Q: ok.. i dunno what to do. me and my bf well he used to live here, and he moved to florida. and we talk all the time, every free minute he has, we are talking. and, he has been talkin to me bout movin to florida when i graduate this summer. and i dunno what to do. i keep thinkin bout it. but all that comes out of it is negative things. like.. what if he dont wanna b with me no more. b/c i dont have a car or anything and he said he would put me on his insurance, and help me find a job and stuff.. but then it just worries me that he will like a girl that looks better than me. i dunno what to do.. there is alot more but i dont feel like sayin it all

Your right. What if you guys break up? You'll be kicked out of his apartment or where-ever..and even if you have a job you'll probably end up having problems. I think you should just tell him that you;ll visit him, but living in Florida with him isint a good idea. Of course its all up to you..and do what you want and all. But think about what your getting into and think about the problems that could happen and all. Good luck!

Q: are we allowed to have chatboxes in our advice columns?

I dont know. Probably not. But if you put it on your site the mods wont come looking for you. I havent found chatboxes on any columns so far though..so do what you want

Q: My period is really weird- it comes every 2 to 3 months, lasts for ages (around 10 days), is excruciatingly painful and has a VERY heavy flow. Is there something wrong with me? Please help,
Zoinatrobe.

Nope everyone is different. I have a friend who has it every other month, another friend who has it ONCE a YEAR. Which is awesome I wish i had that haha. Just take Advil for the pain! or any other medicine that works for you..dont worry!

Q: MI go to Texas like, every summer. And two years ago my older cousin met a boy (let's call him ****). He hung out with us, and I didn't think much about him. This year they became A LOT closer. They love each other. And now that I think about it, **** is really hot and funny and nice. I LIKE him. And my cousin has him, what do I do??

You cant do nothing about it. Their together..you need to find someone else to like. And if they break up, yeah maybe you could go out with him but that wouldent be a great idea. Trust me, you'll find someone else to like soon!

Q: I'm friends with a bunch of guys, but there is one I kinda like a little more. I spend a lot of time with him & his little brother. I talk with his dad a lot because he's the youth minister. How the heck to I act? I just want to be on safe ground right now - we're nothing more than friends. & that's all I want him to know. HELP!

Act normally. Even flirt..most flirting doesnt even seem obvious. Unless your like sitting on his lap..haha Act the way you wanna act! Act normal and maybe he'll ask you out or something. You never know.