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these 2 girls got in a fight..k and e. k is the one that they are mad at for no reason. e got one of her friends and then she got involved. at lunch , and friend that got involved pour a whole container of milk of k 's head and her friends' head. i was friends with all of them. now, the involved friend with e called and asked if i was mad and if i still wanted to be their friends. i said i was mad so now they are mad at me!!! wat do i do.
im friends with k... not e
alright well, what you should of said is "i'm not getting into this" and then neither k or e could be mad, for you are not taking sides. but since you did you should just talk to e about it and be like, ok listen i'm just mad cuz i don't think it's right that you poured milk on her, like yeah you guys are having problems but you could just talk them out without doing that. or, say what you really think about the whole thing, speak the truth girl!
seriously. why the hell does everyone have a problem with emo kids? like..i dress emo but that doesn't necessarily mean that i go around cutting myself. and even if i did, why do people notice emo people more than everyone else? and why do people say stuff about them? its stupid. half the kids are obviously depressed and i don't think people should make fun of them. then the other half just dresses this way because they really like music.
grr. it just really pisses me off.
i know that wasn't really a question, but still.
people judge because they are different
i don't like emo people as a whole to be quite honest with you
its just how i am
i'm not changin my beliefs anyime soon
so as the person under me have plainly put it
"get used to it"
Hey,sorry if this sounds a little gross
i'm 15/f and its been about a year and six months since i got my period and everythings been good but a few days before christmas i got it but it was kinda brown and not that much i mean i didn't really need a tampon or anything but then basically from christmas for a week it came normal but since about the 29th or so i've been bleeding but just the smallest amouth and its been brown? and then today i put in a tampon just to be safe at school and i bleed quite alot..at least i think..so is this normal to have my period for about two weeks and have a very little blood but the blood being brown??
sorry if its gross but i'm starting to get a little worried and thanks to whom ever answers this it'll help me out a ton!
hmm it sounds to me as if you might have an infection because of the color being brown, but i don't know i'm no doctor. it could be normal though, every girl is different. i think that just to be safe you should go to the doctors or gynocologist
ok theres this guy that i work with and to make a really long story not so long he has a gurlfriend and hes really famous for playing mind games and than breaking hearts hes a want to be player and he knows that hes playing mind games with me and that i being really stupid telling him things that i shouldnt like how much i like him and that i really cant trust myself around him he knows that im vurnable and he uses it against me im a virgin i havent done anything untill i meet him but i gave him head and he fingered me and afterwards i feel really sluty becuase he talks to his gurlfriend right afterwards and than he talks to me about all the other gurls he fucked and left, he flirts and flirts than sometimes nothing until he wants something so should i just drop him or become friends with beneifits you know just get the good with the bad because im 17 and still a virgin and he was my first oral but he wants to take my virginty but i know because of what kinda guy he is so should i stick it out and see what happens and hopefully he turns my way but than i think that hes cheating on his gurl that he suppossidly loves with me and every time i try to say no he sweet talks me and runs down my defenses, or should i just tell him that im better than that and just stay as friends and nothing more and try to work with him and not let him force and talk me down to it please help me lost and afraid
i really just think to leave this guy alone. he's no good for you. if he's manipulating you to get stuff from you, he has no feelings for you, he just sees an easy target to get stuff. and he has a girlfriend, that he cheats on, that he probably tells he loves her. all the stuff that he will do to you if you guys actually ever go out. and he will try to get your virginity. he will manipulate you and manipulate you until you give in. do you want that? because i don't think you do. so you should really just stop talking to this guy, but the decision is up to you. hope i helped
i'm 14/f
LAtely i've been thinking about my life and things i think i want to become or do for myself. The thing is i've been getting really scared because the person i wanna be is the exact kind of person my friends don't like. I want to move on in my life, but i don't wanna loose somthing really special. I love my friends but the more i spen time with them the more i realize we have pretty much nothing in commen and it seems i don't fit in, and somtimes it really seems like they see it. So what do I do ? Do i stay with them pretending to be somthin im don't want to anymore or do i change and risk loosing my friends?
i know how you feel babe. i did it. it was hard man, a lot of tears from my friends that i left and stuff, but i look at it now and i realize me and my old friends are happier now that we aren't friends because i am finally the real me and they are the real them. we aren't trying to just make eachother happy. think of it like this, if/when you lose your friends, your able to expand your horizons. you can be friends with whoever the you want now! but if you don't wanna then don't i mean its up to you. in my opinion i think you'd be happier if you would finally be yourself
Ok so i have this ex boyfriend and sometimes i tend to see him around,he works at a restaurant and the other day he gave me and my friends free food, and to everyone else he can look in the eyes and act normal but when i get close he tends to act like tough and hard and cannot look at me in the eyes, i look at him but he just stares down...and i tell him thank you for the food and he says ur welcome but still does not look at me.Im just wondering if anyone could advice me on what this could mean...it has me really confused.Thanks
its probably because he still has feelings for you, and looking at you will make him sad cuz he will be able to see what he's lost. he acts tough because he doesn't want you to think he's sad over you because he doesn't wanna seem pathetic. and he's probably afraid if he looks in your eyes you'll be able to see his sadness. bottom line, he still likes you.
Hey Advicenators!
I'm 13, female.
I have a best friend named Chelsea and I want to make a scrapbook and special things with her.
Anyone know of quote sites, icon sites, books, or songs that could be perfect for us?!
PLEASE!
well i don't have any actual sites. but, if you go on xanga and search for friends quotes you will get a ton of sites with them, i use xanga for quotes all the time, hope i helped!
is there anywhere i can get a fake nose stud? i dont want it pierced but i just want a fake one thats not a hoop! do the magnetic ones work ? thanks
the magnetic ones should work, just be careful not the get it stuck in your nose =)
I have a really really important question. It's gonna be long,,sorry, but plz answer!! I will rate.
My best friend told me her deepest darkest secret. Her secret was that she was raped by her cousin as a child.(7 yrs old.) He actually had sex with her, but she doesn't think that he "popped her cherry". She didn't really know what was going on...and she told her parents about it and everything when it happend. (we are 14 now) My question is: is she a virgin?
no she's not, if you have sex you are considered to be not a virgin, whether her "cherry" was popped or not. send my condolences to your friend
okay i am a virgin, so i haven't had experience with guys pleasing me "down there". i am getting married next month and i know it is something that will come up soon, so i want to know how i could make sure that it is fresh. so it doesn't smell or taste nasty. thank you:)
hmm summers eve is a good one. like the last person said, it's in the tampon and pads section.
and i would like to say congradulations and i hope you guys have a long happy life together!
Hello, I am a 15 year old female. I am asking for advice on harasment. I am a tall girl who is rather skinny, only one problem, I have really big breats. I am a 36C and I constiantly look very disproportianed. I am constiantly made fun of and harrased because of my big breasts. Mainly boys, but sometimes girls, say really mean things to me and make up nick names for me that I do not like. There are these boys inparticular who are constiantly nudging me or hitting me in the breats because they are so big. Girls have also made fun of me and spread gossip about how I take pills to make my boobs bigger, which is NOT true. Boys give me nick names and use mainy words that are unappropiate, such as titties. I am asking you for advice because I know you will be honest, and that to me is good advice. Thank you!
i am glad you trust me with this question. and well honestly, i'm not sure on what to tell you. sticks and stone may break your bones but words will never hurt you. NOT TRUE, but seriously just blow them off. and you should go the the principles because if people are harressing you, that's not right. just go the the priciple or your guidence counslor and be like "Sir(or Madam), there are a group of boys that verbally harress me daily, they are (enter names here). I don't know what you could do about this but anything would be nice because they make fun of my chest size and always try to touch my chest and i am feeling very violated." and for the girls, hun THEY ARE JELOUS! they are jelous because they want big boobs and they don't got them. so to feel better they go after you. don't let those pathetic kids bother you hun, your a great person, and anyone that makes fun of you can honestly just go jump off a cliff. best of luck, tell me how things work out!
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
hey buddy, if you don't like the site or the advice we give, DON'T MAKE AN ACCOUNT. no ones making you help people. we come onto this site looking to maybe, just maybe help someone with a hard time. sorry if that's a crime. it's people like you who make me sick
Okay, so this 19yr old guy is a foreign exchange student from Germany (duh) Haha, anyways he's really cute and seems uber cool. I'm 14 btw. Anyways, I want to talk to him more but I don't know what. He's in my math and gym class but other than that, there's nothing much to go on. Any ideas of what I can say or do to get him to notice me? Don't lecture me about age difference!!! Haha, but he sucks at math and in gym, we have diff. teachers so we don't see each other much.
yeahh you could learn german he'd probably like that. and maybe just talk to him about his home town and stuff. and take this from someone with expierence...DO NOT LET YOUR FATHER KNOW HE'S 19. it won't work out good
To start im 13 and im a girl.
Ok well I was really good friends with this guy. We will call him C. So he was like my best friend, then I started to like him a little. so after i startedto like him I was determinded I was not going to go out with him cause it would ruin our friendship. But he was always playing with my hair and flirting with me then one day he wrote me a really sweet note about how he had always like me because Im nice and Im easy to talk to and stuff like that. The next day when we were on thanks giving break he asked me out over text message so I said yes.
Then later it was so weird going out with my bestfriend that i dumped him after only a week by writing him a note. It made him mad that I didnt say it to his face even though he asked me out by text msg. Well I moved on and forgot about him, but it has been a month since we broke up and he is still writing things about me on his myspace about how he only went out with me to make someone jealous and how im annoying. He wont talk to me anymore either.
what does this mean? what should i do?
that's what all boys say. he's probably still hurt that you broke up with him so he makes up excuses and stuff. i think you should just talk to him and be like "what's up with you, you NEVER acted this way towards me and it's been a month and your still sayin stuff about me"
I started cutting when i was in 6th grade but i didnt like it. but now i am and i have huge cuts on my hips and i burn my self with really hot water or something really hot like metal. I know i shouldn't. i wear a razor on my neck at school and people look at me and interrogate me and say...''DO YOU CUT!'' the only people that know that i do this are my two friends who help me out a lot... an especially one... she helps me to convince people that i don't cut. i just wished i could stop but im so caught up inside.
aw hun, well it's good that you know it's bad and you want to fix that. i comend you on that =). like this may sound retarded but one night i was laying in bed and i was like WHAT AM I DOIN WITH MY LIFE, I'M LOSING FRIENDS, I'M LOSING PEOPLES TRUST. and then the next mornin i got up and stayed away from everything sharp or hot. then i started to go running and workout. and it really got my mind off things. and tell your friends and see if they will go with you, they'll want to. and if it doesn't really work you could wear a rubber band and snap it enough to make the urge go way. good luck, i wish you the best
okay so i pretty much have it all set of wat im getting my friends for christmas.. besides i need help for my best bestfriendl.. i have no idea what to get her and i want it to be something really good but cheap.. cause im kind of low of money nothing like jewlrey.. but i was thinking about a gift basket? good idea? not? help me please and suggest ideas. thankyouu..
14/f
you could do the gift basket and fill it was candy and stuffed animals and cute stuff. or you could like take pictures of you guys and make a scrap book or a collage cuz those are always fun and cute. hope i helped. Merry Christmas =)
how do you know when you like someone enough to actually have sex with them
well you just feel it. if you are about to have sex and your having sex and your getting second thoughts, you shouldn't do it because you may regret it the next day
Alright. (I'm 21) So I live 1400 miles away from my boyfriend. We'll call him C. How I met him is a little complicated: my ex boyfriends cousin- his [ex]fiance is my boyfriends best friend. (still got it? haha) Anyways, I've been with him for a few months now and I haven't been by him yet. Now, there's this girl that really likes him (we'll call her B) and is trying anything and Everything in her power to get with him. He wants NOTHING to do with B. So the past few months I've received some nasty threatening emails from B. B recently hacked into C's account and wrote me a message. And C wrote me saying that it wasnt him and whatnot, which is true because B changed his password to something that can be traced back to her... I have my connections on how I know that. Now it wasnt just me that received a message through his account from B. My best friend is coming with me to go by him and she received one from B as well. Now, my father recently saw these messages and told me to print them out and maybe put an inquiry in to police because it's over state lines (federal). He knows my friend and I are taking a trip by C, so of course he's worried. So I guess what I want to know is, should I put something in about this? I mean, I'm a couple years older than B. And I'm not threatened by her At All. And I'm not the one to do something like this. But my father says its for protection, blah blah. So should I do this? She's friends with some of C's friends. So I don't want to start anything. That's the last thing I want to do. Should I talk to him about what my father told me to do?
I'm at a loss here.
Please help!
If you dont understand or need more info, write me a message and I can let you know.
Thanks in advance!
I will rate..
alright well it depends on how serious the threats are. because if B's just like "i'm gonna beat you up" ...whoop dee do. ya know what i mean. but if she's like " i'm gonna come to your house and kill you if you don't back off." get your ass to the police station! and you should talk to C about it because if you are really starting to feel threatened you should tell him about it. he's supposed to want you to feel safe. so if you say your threatened and wanna go to the cops for protection he shouldn't be mad even if his friends are. good luck!
ok so im going to have sex with my boyfriend. we tried last Saturday but it hurt bad and well, it just didnt fully happen (like everything is still in tact). im just wondering when i do do it, and if i bleed alot, how do i take care of that? i mean, i dont want to do it on my bed if im bleeding 'cause everyone knows thats a pain to wash out and i dont want to do it on the floor like we were doing so what do i do after? does it stop bleeding after a while? how long after? help people, asap
yeah you should make sure your ready. you could put towels down or something because then it won't go on the bed or floor. or um you could do it on tiles so you can just get some water and it depends on how much your hymen is stretched. because it might be just a little so it will bleed more than if it's almost broken. hope i helped
make sure you use condoms =)
16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.
aw hun i'm sorry. everyone feels depressed every now and again. but you are stuck on death it seems. you can't be like that. i mean life is a one time deal. it's the only one you get. don't you wanna have fun? i used to be like you a while ago and i'd like cry all the time and hated all the people who were my friends and despised everyone who smiled or laughed because why the hell are they happy and i'm like this. i understand where you come from. listen i know these seems like a typical 5 year old advice. but if you just think positive everythings gonna work out. once you hit rock bottom you can either try and stand up again and risk getting knocked down again, or just lay there and do absolutley nothing to help yourself. hunny stand up! you can't worry about things as much. if you do then nothing will come. you have to just go with the flow and trust in yourself that everything is gonna go good. if you spend so much time worrying about every little thing your life is gonna just go by and your gonna miss it. and i know you don't want that. i hope more than anything that you'll be ok. and i hope i helped. if you ever need anything put something in my inbox. i'm here to help you! anything you need. just don't do something you will regret!