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Q: I've known renee since the 5th grade we became best friends in the 6th grade she never really got any guys because she just wasnt liked by guys and i was usually the one getting the guys now we go to different schools and were in the 8th now its the other way around but she brags in my face about it and rubs it in my face which i never did to her she thinks shes all that and pretty now our relationship is totally crushed and i wanna hit her what do i do?

wow, either sit her down and tell it to her face that she's not better than you. or leave her alone and quit letting her drag u down.. there are plenty of other friends to hang out with.

Q: How does a person get rid of stubborn black heads...especially on the nose...My nose looks like a strawberry(except skin colored)
Please Help! I RATE!

this may sound weird..........but! there is a special over-night mask u can use (just for your nose if u want) that is for getting rid of black heads over night. its called mint julep and can be found at places like walgreens, eckerds, target, etc.. if not that route try face wash with microscrubbers

Q: my friend didn't get a single thing for christmas what should i do? i feel so bad! so should i get something?

hello! giver him/her one of your coolest gifts or take him/her out shopping for what they really want that no one was quite able to get for him/her.

Q: help help help...we will rate u... we no someone who is thinking about killing/cuting/or running away! She is the type of person who would really go out and do it. but whenever we try to call her she hangs up and now she wont answer her phone and she isnt on AIM anymore...we dont know what to do or think...all we think about it what the worst sanerio is!!!
HELP
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PLEASE!

find her, get over to her house and go into lockdown mode. don't let her move until you've gotten her to talk herself to sleep or something.

Q: My best friend and I dont ever hang out anymore. Her and I got in this really big fight back in November and we didnt speak to eachother for a few weeks. We both kind of brought our parents into our fight so now my mom doesnt like her and she never lets me go over to her house. Its like her and I are only friends in school and not outside of school. And sometimes in school she'll be with her other best friend who is a guy(my ex) and when she is with him, its like I dont exist to her. What do I do? It just seems like her and I have completly drifted apart. What can I do to make our friendship stornger.I havent really hung out with her or had a decent converstion with her in well over 3 months. When we talk on the phone she is always on her computer and I am wathing TV or listening to music and we dont even talk on the phone, we just sit there and it bothers the fuck out of me. We honestly can be on the phone for like 2 hrs and we will only have said maybe 5 mins of a conversation. PLease help me!

get together and talk it over in person, if yall can't accomplish that then you can't do anything.

Q: i appologize now for this being long...but i just really need some advice!

ima 14 female freshman...
it starts off in 7th grade, me and this guy got 2 gether..we dated for a year. broke up in 8th grade..he messed with sum 7th graders. we were supposed 2 get back 2gther, but he ended up switchin schools. during the summer after 8th grade, we kept in touch..talked on the phone, chilled @ the movies and all that...and yes we were frends wit benefits!!...freshman year started we didnt talk so much, thats wen i met this guy..we dated 4 2 months, and juss a few weeks ago i broke up with him..once my ex boi found owt i was single again..we started talking...(and b4 i broke up wit my boi he told me he would b waiting 4 me!)...so it was true he was waitin 4 me!...we been talkin alot latly! im guessing we do go owt..its juss i dont know if i can trust hiM!..i know how he is..im just scared ima get hurt again!..bkuz he sorta did mess roun wit others back in 7th grade!

why not, live a little. its better to love and lost than to never have loved at all. your young, enjoy it while ya got it!

Q: my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend and i still like him too.. but i was the one who broke up with him.. i told her i didnt still like him because she really likes him and he likes her back! but im pretty sure he still likes me because he still acts like it. i am fine with my best friend going out with him because she actually asked me before but i will just be so sad.. i dont know what to do!

be a real friend and suck it up, but do let your friend know how u feel incase u flip out on her later in the future.

Q: I'm 16 and I'd like to try out for the school musical, but I'm really nervous. what should I do to have a good audition?

SMILE! its not the end of your life but the start of something short and fun. who care's what they think, in 5 years you'll never see them again anyway right? leave them with a bang and don't hold back. don't be afraid to laugh at yourself either, they'll laugh with you rather than at you.

Q: I have these two friends... they shall remain nameless... but i have these two friends who really dont like eachother.. they dont get along at all.. they like despise eachother... one is my brothers girlfriend who ive known for like 2-3 months.. and she a really good friend of mine.. we became really close.. and the other is my best friend of 4 years... they dont get a long.. i recently moved... and my friend of 4 years is coming to see me... well my mother invited my other fried to stay with me for that same week... UGh... they have to drive 4 hours in a car together.. with my brother.. and stay together for a week and hang out... well my question is how do i get them to get along... i dont want to hang out with one at a time because i dont want one to feel left out.. and i dont want to deal with them fighting the whole week.. they already said they werent going to start anything with eachother out of respect for me and my mom.. but i know they will at some point... how do i get it so all three of us can chill and no one argues or feels left out?

sit them down and tell it to them straight... but be loving! lol. there's lots u can do, like find common movies and activities.

Q: ok i am 15 do u think that its ok for kids my age to be dieting? is there diets that u've tried and actualy worked becided working out? people tell me im getting fat and i want to drop a few. thanks

no more soda, its really really bad! eat more breakfast and less of other meals. stay away from grease and salt, drink lots-o-water. water is the key to life. and the key to losing weight. its your best friend, it washes out your entire system in time.

Q: I weigh about 131 pounds and I'm 5'4 (I'm a female) I'm kinda curvy, but I would like to weigh around 115. Is this seriously a realistic weight? If so, how should I go about losing the weight in a healthy manner?

instead of targeting an exact weight, eat healthy, eat what you feel is good, but tone up! don't focus on numbers, focus on how u feel when u look in the mirror. you will know when your happy just be able to eat then too.

Q: My boyfriend was living with me for a while, and he just "moved out" today. I can't call him, but I really miss him a lot, I don't know, I just need a way to miss him less. What do I do? We're still going to see eachother and stuff, it's just going to be less than when he lived with me. (He had to move out because my dad never knew he lived here, and he was really mad)

ouch...u don't have to live with him to love him. if its true love you'll find a way to make it. relax and talk to him to see how he feels.

Q: My sister has had a pretty tough year, and I think she's finding the festive season a bit overwhelming. She hasn't wanted to get involved with any of the usual things she enjoys this time of year, like decorating the house with lights. I'm nervous that tomorrow on Christmas Day, she'll be really down. How can I cheer her up, given that the normal "festive" things she likes are just depressing her?

i personally hate holidays too. the best thing to do could be to get her out and to see a movie or something. try and find something special for her if it doesn't work, you tried and she'll love ya for it anyway.

Q: I wear tinted moisturizer on my skin and nothing else.. except blush. But my question is, since I don't use any powder, would it be bad to use a powder blush? Or should I use a liquid blush.. (or w/e its called.) And does anyone have any reccomendations for fair skin? Like brands that I can buy at Target. Thanks!!

both blushes will do just fine, if your skin is light, keep it to a light shade of whatever u like (pink, red, brown)...

Q: i'll try to make this short. my brother was overseas in the army for three years. he came back in august. i've only seen him a couple of times since he's been back. the problem is we used to be so close and now he's just so weird. he won't talk to me. i went over for thanksgiving and he ate in a room all by himself. i felt bad and went in there to keep him company and as soon as i sat down he walked out of the room. he wouldn't even say hi to me or the rest of the family for that matter. i have to see him tommorow for christmas. should i ignore him or try to talk to him. he shuts me out everytime i try. any help would be great thanks.

don't lower down to his level! he's immature and will grow later in his life to value his family... be nice to him someday he'll remember that u were and reward u for it!

Q: OK today is Christmas and my dad got drunk.Well my mom and him were arguing and my dad sometime hits my mom well I have a brother he's 17 and today he had enough and my brother went and hit him then they began fighting and alot of mess started.I don't know what to do or even think and my brother is leaving to the Army I'm really confused plz helm I'm 14/f.

you need intervention for your parents! call a help hotline they'll know what to do. counseling and help from obsessive consumption. you'll be alright if you keep yourself safe. your brother was right to step in for your mother. stand up and be strong too and let them know where they stand. if they come after you get help. but don't let this go unnoticed, it only grows. there are many hotlines that will help u out with this one, its a growing problem. evern child protective services could take care of thiso one.

Q: ok so i have had my period for almost three years now and the first two were regular. But i had surgery in the begining of july and i had my period at the end of july. But after that i havent had it, its been 5 months and i know tis sounds crazy but i want it. It sso annoying not noing wen ur gonna get it. Is this normal after having surgery? if it is then y did i get it in july and not after?

your body has ben through alot, and is giving you a break. enjoy the break IT WILL COME BACK. worrying is natural tho (for some reason u just don't quite feel like a woman) your young, its normal.

Q: i heard that if u stop eating u will acctually gain weight. is that true?

absolutely! when you stop eating, your body goes into "starve mode," thus preserving your stored fat! eat a little at a time throughout the day, and you will have all the energy you need without gaining weight (if u wanted to know).

Q: I want to make a collage of all the pictures of my friends and set it as the background on my desktop. the problem is, i dont know how. i do have a photo-enhance program, but like the ditz i am, i dont know how to use it can anyone tell me how and what program to use? thank you

this may sound weird, but pasting pictures in paint can do this for u. its an underated program. then just stretch is to fit the screen. if not take a picture of all your pictures on the floor (exactly how u want the collage) and put it onto your computer. then u just have one picture to stretch and make your background.

Q: help....my name is lola and i strip in a strip club. ive been in porn movies and different clubs. i have a hard time finding a guy who can just accept my job and love me for who i am. if i ever do find a guy they turn out to be real asses or just treat me like im a nobody. Just b/c i show my body doesnt mean i dont have feelings. idk it just seems like something needs to happen. porn is the first job i ever had and ive been making good money. should i quit my job and start over or just follow along with porn. if i start over again it would be rlly hard and it would be a long time before i make money again. i dont know what to do anymore i need help...

start over hunny, the hardest things are usually the best and most worthwhile for you. find a talent besides this that's inside you or a passion for something. follow your heart and someone will find you. best of luck.

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