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hey! 16/f
so my good friend joe and i were hangin out tonight with his little brother and my cousin. well my cousins parents were gone so we were being all crazy and joe always takes my stuff like my keys and my cell phone so i have to go chase him and like flirt with him in order to get it. joe has a GIRLFRIEND and he claims to really love her but i dont know. joes like a really good friend but I wish we could be something more and im not sure if he gets the hint because one time it was me and his little brother in the same room and hes like OooOh you like joe i know you do and im like uhh no we are just best friends as we call each other and so i dont know if he was just saying that or he could tell that i did. the problem is im a HUGE flirt too. i cant tell him i have feelings for him..im just not that way and it will be awkward and it would ruin our strong friendship but i have REALLY strong feelings for him. he always like talks to me about his girlfriend and like gets advice from me. like tonight hes like allright we have to have a talk so we went in the parents bedroom and he locked the door and it was just me and him talking =) and like when i was standing in front of him turned away i know he was staring at my ass and he like always looks at me! i know he sees me as a friend but then he was like always touching me and flirting and laying right next to me and hes always "punching my stomach lightly" and we did a handshake and we kinda held hands. well like i was trying to get my keys back they were in his pocket and i went to grab them and he like grabbed my hand and we linked hands together like him trying to hold me back it was the cutest thing ever and it felt like we were boyfriend/girlfriend. stuff like that always happens he always grabs me and holds me when i try to get my stuff back from him! i just dont know. please dont tell me to talk to him about it im not going to. but is there anything else i can do? and please dont suggest to wait it out and if they breakup he will go to YOU! the problem is i have a feeling they will be going out for a loong time. i dont want to get over him i like being around him but its hard for me at the same time..

Keep giving him hint storng or weak after a while he should get the point and if he doesnt say anything about the hints he only wants to be your friend but if he tals to you about them then...yay
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katie
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On Friday my freinds and I are going to the beach. We want to meet hot guys. How can we get guys to notice us and come up to us? We don't want to be like slutty though. Thanks in advanced!

Maybe wear a bikini thats not to slutty and with your friends go in the water witha ball pass it around giggle jump around and on -accidentally-haha miss and hit someone and be all sorry and then put the moves on

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I hat my mom.She wants me to get new friends because she thinks that all of my friends are horrible (ugh i HATE her)so I wanted to go somewhere with A friend and she won't let me go b/c there is gonna be drinking but i see it all the time...even my dad drinks she is so stupid she alwayts thinks that she is making the Best disision.So my question here is how can i get her to let me go places????

she is making the best desions...i mean shes thinking of your future...so you need to respect her and telling people that you hate her isnt the way to do so.What would you do if you get in a fight with her tell her you hate her then she dies before you can tell her your sorry..Drinking when your how old is illegal if your not over the age of 21 being in the same house with beer and you have posession...what would schools or collages say to a kid with posession...She is really thinking ahead where your like thats in a billion years only now counts get good grades do your work everything i know it may seem weird cause when my family told it to me i was shocked but edication is first not friends so dont go to that party cause it is illegal!!!
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katie

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My parents think every plan for a cellphone is expensive! That's why i'm wondering if that kidconnect plan from t-mobile for 19.99 a month is actually good? I don't care that it has only 50 minutes. Is this plan good for a 13 year old girl?

me no but if you only have a couple friends and talk a little then 50 mins should last you well pushing it but a week!!

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My long-term boyfriend & I have recently started having sex. He wasn't a virgin but I was (I'm 18, he's 19). The sex is getting better each time too. The thing is, sometimes he'll make a face or we'll like bump heads by accident & I'll think it's hilarious. He doesn't think so, and stays so serious. I would like to lighten the mood a bit and get him to loosen up even though sex is serious, but how do I go about doing that?

Tell him to lighten up derring sex

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well, first of all, im REALLY uncomfortable putting this up, but i need to know.

for some time now, my 'area' has had throbbing 'desires' i should say. it feels gross and wrong. is this just being a teenager with hormones or something else?

Just hormones.......

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Alright, this may seem a little strange that I'm asking this.. but I have no idea what to wear the first day of school. I start the 9th, next wednesday, in Texas. So maybe you could help by giving me examples of what you'd wear the first day?

jeans and a t o wore a shirt that sai dthis is the worst day fo my life and everyone loved it so

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katie
tootierollsweet

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Last year at school things got really bad for me, i have depression and last year it got really bad. I mean as in my attitude got bad but i never talked bad against a teacher or anything... Now this year parents are saying that if i go to school they will pull their kids out. And the kids are making up things like i physically hurt them when i did no such things! Do i fight back or just let them get what they want and go to a different school?

i know we aren't supposed to say this but please?

thanks in advance...

you go back to school and tell everyone i didnt hurt them your kids are lieing if you believe me or not im ging to school here to show everyone that that was last year when things took a bad turn but i found the map ok so if you wanna pull your kids out go ahead feel free but im going to school here
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katie
tootsierollsweet999
go to the same school that you been

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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and at the beginning of the month, he broke up with me, and he said we needed a break. We were broken up for two weeks and then FINALLY we started to go back out. Now, yesterday, he told me that maybe our break wasn't long enough. He told me that we just needed to be friends for a least a month and that he loves me, but I'm not sure he does. How can he keep hurting me like this and still love me? A month is a long break, I just don't know what to do. But, Please help me out.

He may not be ready for a relation ship and may be scared.so you need to stire him that direction.wait a month even tho how long it is you need to hear him out and he probly still loves you and is doing this not to hurt you in the end
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katie
tootsierollsweet999
listen to him but them help him

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My mom said that if I live with her while I'm in college, I'm going to have to pay her $300 a month on rent. When my mom told me that, I was shocked. Come on, I can pay less than that to share an apartment with one of my friends. Who could do that to their child right out of high school? She lived with my grandparents free of charge while she went to college. They even bought her a car. She isn't doing this because we're poor, because we aren't.

Anywho, is my mom acting like every other mom or is she just being really selfish? She KNOWS that the job I have doesn't pay much.

She's getting you ready for the real world im sorry but 300 is really cheep a apartment alone is now maybe 1000 so be thankfull she wants you to know that you need to learn how to have a budgetits like 300 for room and board.which is food so what she is doind is telling you that when you fall in the real world that you dont have pillows to fall on you fall on sharp edges so shes showing you how to put your own pillows down shes giving you a great life lession and you dont even know.While you are living woth your mother save up money for a car or apartment when your out of collage
hope i helped
katie
tootsierollsweet
Hopes it all works out
And remember if you pout your own pillows down the fall wont hurt to much

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ok, well i have had a HUGE crush on this girl thats one of my friends and shes a year older than me. well when she went into high school i didnt talk to her much, but now im goin into high school shes talkin to me more. well ive had this chrush on her for over a year and a half, but i never had the courage to ask her out. well i found out she has a boyfired now and idk what to do. im 14 btw and shes 15 if that helps. please help me.

Age shouldn't madder.She's your friend so to her your just like her so.You need to ask her about her relation ship with this other guy ask her about problems or good things.Then ask her what she shes in this guy so you now what she is into.Don't change yourself for her she should like you for wat you are so im not saying you need to go to the mall and dress diffrent.Learn not to say crap infront of her that makes her mad.Then start acting diffrent infront of her start giving her sighs that you like her but very slowly like smile at her give her complaments on her outfit and ect.Make her feel good about herself.Then only time can tell if she like you more then a friend or if your just her really close guy friend.It's really cute that you like her but i must warn you getting close to someone you like as a friend then wanting to be more is a big change.Then if you guys breck up it'll be okward if the breck up is about she cheeted or you then it would be hard to still be her friend no madder how close you are with her.So make your actions slow but confinsing.
hope i helped
katie
tootsierollsweet999
I hope all works out for the best
and when one door closes another one opens.

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15.f

Okay so last night i stayed at my boyfriends house.. I didn't sleep in the same room as him.. i was in his sisters room.. anyways..
We was watching a movie in the lounge and we started kissing and then we was touching each other like.. had our hands down each others trousers and underwear etc.. He got an erection.. and then he layed on top of me, still fully clothed and we kissed some more..
I am worrying that i could be pregnant even though we were fully clothed.. Because i no you can get pregnant through clothes etc..

But what is the possibility of me getting pregnant through his jeans and boxers AND my combats and thong? Like.. is this likely?
I dont know whether he came or not or anything.. and i didnt notice or feel anything wet\sticky on my combats.. But when i went to the toilet i noticed a tiny, tiny little stain, mark type thing kinda just above my private area but i dont think it went through.. infact it may of been something i spilt on there?

What do you think?
Also..
When i came home today i noticed my urine is a really dark colour and very warm to pass.. and i have been discharging a bit aswell.. My period isnt due for another week at MINIMUM.. and i am not or never have been sexually active

Any suggestions? i just really need to stop worrying or have some kind of reassurence or to know the truth about if this is possible because otherwise it might delay my period and i'll think the worst!
Sorry its long!

trust me your deffenitly not pregnante jean and combat pluss underwear theres no way but if want to be sexually active use a condom or birt controll

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i have a guy friend. weve been good friends since we were five years old.A couple of years back i had a HUGE crush on him and he didn't feel the same way about me, but when i FINALLY stopped liking him he started calling me every night and claims he still doesn't like me.Do you think he likes me more than a friend or do you think he just wants to talk as friends? and if you think he likes me WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
cuticle sistas!

let him do the first move because if u ask him if he likes you them you may seem like a complete idiot if he says no were only friends i told you this before okward ho ya so let him ask or what ever then say what your thinking

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well i think im kinda chubby but people tell me all the time im not.. but i have stretch marks on my inner thys and my hips.. and i dont like them.. how do i make them go away. and i have a gut. how do i get that to go away?

well coco butter gets ride of strech marks and go on a diet and cutt down on your eating and do sit ups and maybe a mouth BAMM your good to go

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My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.

Ask the actaul father to be around more not for you but for his child.he helpeed making her so he should pay welfare and maybe have her for weekends.he should have a part in raising his daughter its his lose if he doesnt want anything to do with her which isnt fare cause its not her fault she has a deadbeat dad as i said he helped with the holl in the inpregnant part so!anyone can be a father it takes someone special to be a daddy.I know it maybe hard trying to fill in both places but if you have the money take his butt to court and futher!its not your responibility to fill them in cause you cant.if none of this works then tell her that shes to young to understand,wait till your older and then she can ahve alittle understanding of the issue .


hope i helped
katie
tootsierollsweet
billiejoessugar999@yahoo.com
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My husband and I have been married for almost two years. We married after finding out I was pregnant with my son. I've followed him to his home town, far away from what I know. I've had a hard time relating to his family. He promised me stability, (a house, a good job for him, an opportunity to go to school) We've been here 6 months living off unemployment. He finally got a job, but wants to quit. We just moved out of my in-laws place and into an apartment. (more bills)
He is even considering the Army national guard. We were active Army before, (where we met)I spent my whole pregnancy alone, cause he was deployed. I don't want to go through it again. I can't divorce him, nowhere to go. I am afraid of what a divorce will do to my son. Any advice? Experienced advice appreciated

well dont you have framily that will take you in cause hes not going anywhere with you so kick him to to the curb you need soeone that will fill your needs anyone else is not good enofe you need to find a daddy that will be there for you and chur son

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i'm thinkin aboout being a foreign exchange student but i don't know anything about it! i need all of anything you know about it! please help i'm desperate. i also was wondering if you knew if the programs you go through will check out the family you are going to see and see if they are ok if you know wat i mean?

STOP MAILING THIS TO ME GOD!!!!!!I DONT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT IT SO stop!~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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hi i have a problem i was friends with this woman and i told her a secret about me and a man i was seeing 20 yrs ago she promised that she would not tell anyone but she told aload of people in a chat, now she stalks me around the net and im sick of her i wish she would leave me alone she has been warned off moderaters but it just comes back and starts trouble again.

Start swearing at her be like leave me the (beep) alone stop stalking me you (beeping) (beep) i dint don anything to me so leave me alone you frieck ok ill call the cop you weirdo!!!!!!!!



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katie

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Hello, I'm a girl and I'm 14. I have a lot of fat around my buttocks, thighs, and my stomach. I'm actually had a woman at an amusement park ask me if I was pregnant! (If I was she wasn't going to let me ride a certain thing.) I didn't think I looked that bad until that day so now I'm worried about losing weight. I'm 130 pounds so I figure my goal will be to lose 20 pounds, but more importantly lose the fat. Has anyone got any tips, rountines, and exercises I should try? I like in the country so I haven't got any good places to run and it's so hot here. I can't swim, btw. Anyway, please help me lose the extra pounds so I can feel confident again!

For the fat around your stomachs sit ups would work the best while your watching tv run in place for your legs and eat healthier and exercising healthy food should lose weight all around your body but you wont lose it like all at once it withh take some time
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katie

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what does it mean if i have stretchmarks on my boobs? does it mean they are growing because lately they have seem to get a little bigger..

your boobs are growing and its streaching the skin to make room for the bobage i guess lol

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