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So Upset
Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and at the beginning of the month, he broke up with me, and he said we needed a break. We were broken up for two weeks and then FINALLY we started to go back out. Now, yesterday, he told me that maybe our break wasn't long enough. He told me that we just needed to be friends for a least a month and that he loves me, but I'm not sure he does. How can he keep hurting me like this and still love me? A month is a long break, I just don't know what to do. But, Please help me out.
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He may not be ready for a relation ship and may be scared.so you need to stire him that direction.wait a month even tho how long it is you need to hear him out and he probly still loves you and is doing this not to hurt you in the end
hope i helped
katie
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listen to him but them help him
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Did you know that the average length of time for a long-term relationship to last these days is 2 years? A lot of younger people especially in relationships find that at the end of their first two years together, they hit a 'rut' and a lot of relationships don't survive it.
Having been through this myself, I can assure you that yes, it is a very difficult time but you CAN work through it, as long as both people are willing to make the effort.
Judging from your boyfriend's actions, it seems he lacks the commitment required to cope with the rut, which is not great at all for you, because he keeps trying to make you wait for him while he gets his space.
Space isn't always a bad thing. Lots of couples take breaks and find they realise the strength of their feelings for each other as a result. However, my suspicion is that this is rare and in cases where a partner insists on taking repeated 'breaks' in a relationship, sadly, it suggests that they may not be happy in the relationship but are scared to finalise the end of it.
I'm SO sorry that your boyfriend has been acting this way towards you. After two years, it sounds as though you have grown to truly care about him a lot and now he keeps basically messing you around, with hopes of getting back together which he then dashes vefore they get truly realised. You need to put a stop to this, because it's pretty clear to me that this isn't the guy for you, however much he might feel like it.
Ask yourself this, even if he does care about you, why would he need to take a break in the first place? Better yet, ask him because I think you have a right to know. Whatever the answer, I think you need to stand up for yourself here because he's not finalising the end of your relationship. Instead, he just keeps you waiting for him while he goes off and does....what exactly? You need to get answers. Try and meet up with him and calmly talk about it. Ask him why it is that he feels he needs these 'breaks'. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't and it's unreasonable of him to keep you waiting while he tries to make up his mind. I know you care about him but you need to tell him once and for all, if he doesn't want to be with you, then he needs to tell you and end it once and for all because if he does feel that way, you owe it to yourself to go back out there and find someone who will give you the love you deserve.
There is a guy for you out there who is sensitive and loving and caring and when you meet him, there will be no 'taking breaks' or 'temporary splits' because he won't NEED them. You sound like a really nice girl and I'm sure you won't have any trouble finding someone but please don't let a guy treat you this way because you should never waste your time with someone who can't make up his mind what he wants.
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To years is a long time to be with someone. I guess you and you boyfriend are in love because of the amount of time you have bein together. But sometimes people need a break from each other. He obviously loves you because he hasnt said "ooh your dumped", and hes let you down gently and its not like your not going to get back together is it? Don't be harsh on yourself he probz just wants to spend mroe time with his friends.
Having a break from a reletionship can be a good thing because then you will both realise how much you do love each other and how much you want to be together, don't worry its normal and dont be harsh on yourself, he probs just needs more space.
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Two years is a pretty long time in a relationship. A lot of times after you've been with someone for so long, you start to get annoyed of each other and you start taking breaks because there might be a lot of fighting after a while.
I imagine that your boyfriend really loves you. But, you both may need time to take to lives of your own. When you get in relationships, people tend to cling up to each other and spend time with them non-stop. I'm not saying that you both don't have lives, but the only reason he may want a break is because he needs a life around you or he possibly might only want to be friends so he can date someone else and if you aren't sure of which one it is, ask him. He might be signaling that he wants to try someone else because he's been with you for a long time.
So here's what you should do:
If you both have been fighting and there hasn't been a lot of alone time between you two, then talk with your boyfriend about the break and see what he really wants the break for. Is it because of fighting, or wanting to date someone else?
-TheTeenGirl
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well for one, this isn't your fault. have a talk with him about how you're feeling and ask him why he's doing this. and for what reason a break is needed. tell him that you love him and that you think a month is a little long for a break. if he loves you, he'll explain and you'll understand. communication is the key. best of wishes to the two of you! (:
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