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sex = always serious?
My long-term boyfriend & I have recently started having sex. He wasn't a virgin but I was (I'm 18, he's 19). The sex is getting better each time too. The thing is, sometimes he'll make a face or we'll like bump heads by accident & I'll think it's hilarious. He doesn't think so, and stays so serious. I would like to lighten the mood a bit and get him to loosen up even though sex is serious, but how do I go about doing that?
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Oh, I totally understand what you're talking about! It's so awkward when the other person doesn't laugh with you or make noise at all.
He's definitely insecure about his abilities, otherwise he wouldn't get upset with you laughing. Talk to him. Tell him that you laugh because it's funny and laughing makes you feel good. Tell him that he also makes you feel good. Blow a little smoke up his ass (figuratively).
Also, let him know that you'd enjoy yourself even more if he could lighten up and just have fun with you instead of being so serious.
If he can't get over it then toss him and find someone who can. It's his problem, not yours. Sex is fun, and sometimes funny!
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try lighting candles && turning on music. or play a fun game. blind fold him or play a game with naughty dice. whip cream is always fun to ;] play more games
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Have some romantic music maybe. Ask him if he can lighten up so you can enjoy it more. Men will possibly accept because they want their girl to be in a sexual mood, not a gloomy mood or they don't want to do it. Maybe begin slow, and try to make the serious sex act, a little fun.
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Tell him to lighten up derring sex
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Just talk to him about it and see what he thinks about it. Maybe he's insecure about himslef and you laughing isn't helping.
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some of us think its pretty serious and the rest of us just think its another play time <my oppinion of it lol!! you cant change his oppinion though and i wouldnt take it as such a big deal but no it doesnt always have to be serious and you could talk to him about it.
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Talk to him about it.
I'm right there with you on this one! Sure, sex is serious, but it's also one of life's biggest jokes. You have to see the humor in it.
But laughing, without talking about the humor you see in it first, will probably make him insecure or feel like he is being laughed at. Like all pleasures when it comes to sex, the pleasure of a good laugh must be mutual or just causes trouble.
So talk to him about what you find it funny, explain how that is okay and it is one of the ways you show your enjoyment. Explain you aren't laughing at him but that you think laughing, even about sex, is an important part of a relationship. Sex should be fun! Laughing is part of fun!
If he is still shy about it, put your own dignity on the line and try doing something funny at your own expense during sex (farting loudly might be a good one, it can be pretty easy to pull off during sex) and encourage both of you to laugh at that.
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