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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
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Is it true that If your on birth control your body reacts like its pregnant?
I heard that somewhere and I just want verification.
Sometimes After sex i get these weird feelings...and i was wondering if its that.
thanks alot!
I've been on birth control for two years and I've never experienced such a feeling.
If it persists, talk to your doctor.
so, my friend brian likes my friend ashley. but ashley's not sure how she feels about brian. brian asked her out again, but in their past relationships, ashley always broke up with him without really giving it time. usually always gives it a week at the MAX. brian has asked her out again, and she has taken 2 weeks to answer. she says shes not sure how she feels about him, but hes really tired of waiting for and answer that has a 50% chance of being a no. Should he keep waiting for the answer? or just forget and move on?
Psht he should definitely move on. Ashley sounds like she's really immature and CLEARLY not interested.
There are other fish in the sea.
hmmm
where to begin?
okay
im 14 year old girl,
a freshman in high scool
this is going to sound pretty lame but
theres this guy i like.
well its more than a like
i have extreme feelings for him.
no physical attraction whatsoever.
i like him for his personality and who he is on the inside.
now this guy likes me back,
just as much as i like him.
but ive been waiting for about 5 months now for him to ask me out.
as i grew tired of waiting for him,
my friend told me about this other guy that liked me.
now when she first told me about him
i didnt care much
i didnt even know he existed
but i talked to him on myspace for about 4 days
and unfortunately,
i developed some feelings for him
i finally met him at school
and he kissed me.
i had no idea that was coming.
we walked around school holding hands that day.
and my other love interest saw me.
i saw him later on in class
and he asked me if i was with that guy and i told him no.
so the next day i made out with the other guy.
we were holding hands again and once again my other friend saw me.
he was really mad at me.
the other guy aked me to get with him and i said yes,
fully knowing that this was a horrible decision
since then my friend has not talked to me or even looked in my direction
i just wish i could go back in time and change it all but i cant.
so what i want to know is that should i stay with my boyfriend,
knowing perfectly well that i have lost a good friend and that the relationship will only last a few weeks,
or should i break up with him and ask my friend for forgiveness
and possibly create a wonderful loving relationship
that is of actual substance?
If you think your current relationship will only last a few weeks, why not end it and go get your friend back? I think it would be a good idea to go and talk with him right away.
Explain to him that you had really strong feelings for him (you may or may not mention that you still do) and you were tired of waiting around for him to ask you out. Definitely apologize for hurting his feelings. At that point, he'll probably be super happy that you said that and ask you out on the spot.
As for your current boyfriend, apologize and say you have feelings for someone else. He'll understand I'm sure. It's for his own good really if you don't feel the same way about him.
I'm in college. There's a guy in my class I'm interested in but I just recently found out he has a girlfriend. I still want to make some sort of a move because he is very attractive and I may not have an opportunity to see him again. I don't know him very well. We have hardly spoken to each other. He seems to like me but then again he is very friendly with everyone.
I found his profile on myspace and I'd like to contact him but I don't know what to say considering we hardly know each other.
Any advice would be great.
Since he's in your class, it should be pretty easy to start a conversation. Be like "Whoa! That paper/test sucked! What do you think of the professor?" Or something along those lines.
After that, introduce yourself formally and ask a little more about him. I.e. his major, where he's from, where he works, etc.
Don't contact him on myspace until you talk to him in person. That might creep him out.
Anyway, once you start talking to him, invite him out for coffee or to the movies with all your friends. In college, it's really easy to get people to hang out with just by saying "Duuude... what are you doing this weekend?!" And if they aren't busy, you'll probably end up hanging out.
I promise it works. :)
In french class i accidently asked the teacher (in french) if i could drink the toilet when i should have asked if i could go to the washroom and now im SO embarrassed! Everytime i think about it, i really wanan kill myself from the embarrassment. Is there anything i could do that will help me forget about it?
Just learn to laugh at yourself!
You're not the only person in the world who makes mistakes! It could have been something worse!
It always helps to make fun of other people too! (Just kidding!)
I'm in German and my teacher was showing us different hand gestures. I asked her what it meant to hold out your fist with your thumb tucked inside and she was in complete shock! It means something so bad that she still won't explain to us!
Your teacher understands you are learning and if people tease you about it, just laugh it off. When they see it doesn't bother you, they'll stop bringing it up.
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I am graduating 8th grade in june. and i'm turning 14 in june too. i need help finding a graduation present. it can be up to $250.00 and i want it to kind of be like one big thing. I don't want it to be a tiffany, or doney and burke. no diamond and yeah please help!
How about a fancy Ipod?
A Nintendo Wii or a Nintendo DS?
A new phone?
A digital camera and a digital picture frame?
A new TV for your room?
Maybe just ask for cash and go on a shopping spree?
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ok so i am not sure how to break this to my parents that i am moving out into my boyfriends families house. I am moving anyway in june into my own apartment while i go to cosmetology school. Yet to live with my parents is like to not go to the psych ward its crazy. I Just know that in my heart that this is the right thing to do i have been thinking about it for a couple of months now and i believe this is my time. The problem is what is great for me isnt for my parents they are all about waiting to get married. my older sister moved in with her boyfriend and they got a divorce two years later because of his gambling problem and they see the same happening to me yet i am not planning on living at his parents house for five years like her. I am only going to be there for a couple of months. I have already told my mom this its my dad who i am scared to tell. My boyfriend gets along with my dad but he thinks that if this is whats going to make me happy then he supports me. I guess my question is how to sit both my parents down and what i should say and what i shouldnt say when i move. Sorry that this is so long
Offer to take the two of them out to dinner. It will be in a public place, so no huge fight breakouts will occur. And just calmly tell them what you're doing and why. If it would make you feel better, write down everything you want to say to your parents. Read it a few times before the dinner, and then give it to them straight.
Since you've already talked to your mom, maybe she can help the situation some.
Your dad may or may not be pissed, but assure him that you're not gone forever; you're just out of the house. Promise to visit and call. It will make them feel better.
Either way, you're an adult and this is your decision. Your parents will understand eventually.
Every year we have a 2 mile run in order to stay positive and against drugs. Each year our grade is to design the logo and its like a contest. This year's theme is patriotism so we have to have our slogan be something to deal with patriotism. This slogan is printed on everyones shirts who run in the race and as of right now, i dont have any ideas! if anyone could help me out that'd be great! all responses are helpful! (: thanks!
"flag-waving + drugs = lots of injuries"
I don't know I thought it was funny/catchy!
If I think of anymore I'll let you know.
So your on a date and its extremly horrible. Whats a legit excuse to leave?
It's always important to have a friend call you at a specific point in the date. Twice if you're really worried it won't go well.
Have them call about an hour into the date. Excuse yourself from your date for a bit, and update your friend on how things are going. If it's horrible, make up an excuse that your friend is really sick and needs you help with something. Then get out of there fast!
If things are going fine at that point, have your friend try back in another hour or so and do the same things then.
You could always say there's a family problem, your best friend is really upset about something, your professor/ teacher called and there is a problem with the paper you submitted, etc.
Just remember the excuse you used. Try not to make it a huge like because you may get caught later on.
Ok i just want to know peoples opinions on these types of things. Do you believe in them? Do you think they actualy work? just whats your opinion on them?
I think things like that are meant more for fun than to be taken seriously.
Sure, there's that random horoscope that describes exactly what you've been going through, but there's always a horoscope that has nothing to do with what's going on in your life.
Fortune cookies are cool because they give you something to think about. Sometimes they say weird stuff that doesn't make any sense. But, again, it's all meant to be for fun.
I think fortune tellers are full of crap, personally. Random people that don't know me who claim to know my future are after one thing and one thing only: money.
Some questions about guys (it would be helpful if guys answered this to)
1)Is it true that guys do like a little something on a girl, and not someone that really bony and skinny?
2)How is a girl supposed to react when a guy puts his arm around her waist (sitting or walking)
3)do guys like more quiet girls, or girls who are outgoing and not afraid to say something.
4)whats the main reason a guy would break up with a girl?
I think thats all
Thanks:)
I think I learned a thing or two about guys, so I could probably help you out.
1) I'm going to say yes. Of course, there's always that random shallow guy that thinks a typical girl should be perfectly skinny, but modest, cool guys like a girl that is confident with her body.
2) If you like the guy, lean into him a little bit. If you don't like him, gently move his arm.
3) Guys I've met prefer outgoing girls. Girls that are shy make guys nervous because the guy feels like he has to always steer the conversation. Don't be loud and obnoxious, but it's definitely good to outgoing and not afraid to talk to a guy.
4) The possibilities are endless here. Perhaps you could think of some reasons you would break up with a guy and I'll bet they are quite similar to reasons a guy would break up with a girl.
I hope this helps!
what does sex really feel like? does it always really hurt the first few times?? does it hurt after the first few times?
To put it bluntly, the first time feels a lot like trying to shove a shoe in your vagina. Of course, your body will stretch and adjust to it, but I'm not going to sugarcoat it for you. It hurts like hell.
That's why it's extremely important to have your first time with someone that cares about you so they will be gentle and take it slow so you can adjust.
Ok there is this guy who thinks I am pretty and nice. He has never talked to me but he wants to get to know me. My friend is friends with him and she gave him my number. He seems nice but he won't talk to me in person. He isn't that attractive. And I don't hang out with his friends so I wouldn't want to hang out with him and his friends and he doesn't really talk to all of mine. I don't think my parents would approve of him either. But just because the color of his skin. He is like indian. but i don't know what to do. What if I really am not in to him? I don't want to be bitchy about it. I really don't know what to do he isn't my type really.
All you have to do is be honest. The guy hasn't even talked to you in person yet yet, who's to say he will? He's obviously really shy. I wouldn't worry about this guy coming on to you. The least you could do is be friends with him.
No one said you had to date him, but why not make a new friend out of the situation?
He has a girlfriend, but i really like him. And me and him talk a little bit. And at one point i thought he liked me, but then he dropped the sentence that he had a girlfriend to one of his friends. I was just wondering, (im not going to steal him from her. Im not that kinda girl) but i was wondering how do i get him to notice me? and i mean like really notice me? I know the flirting and crap. But i just want to know how i can get him to see me and not see me as invisable if you know what im saying. Thanks
Talk to him! Make jokes with him! Share experiences with him!
Waiting for him to notice you won't get you anything. Step up and talk to the guy. Don't make it obvious that you like him, just make it obvious that you think he's cool and you want to get to know him.
All you can do is get to know him and be friends with him. Once you get to know each other better, and I mean REALLY know each other, you can both decide where your feelings lie: as friends, or more than friends.
I would like to read the bible, I am christian , is there a place i can read it online?
http://bible.christianity.com/
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should I be upset if all my boyfriend (of over one year) is "supposidly" getting me a postar for valentines day? I mean, I feel it's a taky gift. Or am I being spoiled. Cause I mean even my friends who havent beeen with their bfs that long are getting more than a POSTER. COme on people. Flowes say I'm sorry. Choclates say I love you, and a poster says i'm an imature little boy who needs to grow up. SO any comments?
Sure, a poster isn't the nicest gift to receive on valentine's day, but it's the thought that counts, right? I'm sure your boyfriend thought long and hard about something he could get you that you would like and use for a long time. Yeah, it probably didn't cross his mind that you were looking for something a bit more romantic.
Guys aren't the brightest when it comes to gifts, but at least they try to make us happy. They need help with that sometimes.
If you're worried about it still, next time give him a list of things he could get you so you won't be disappointed.
I have these little white marks (like horizontal lines almost) in my fingernails. I've had them since I was little. What could they be?
A doctor once told me it's due to a vitamin deficiency. Start taking daily vitamins and they will go away.
They aren't a serious health issue or anything, but that's what causes them.
Okay, first. I am 17/f. Last October my best friend,lets call her Katie, stated dating this boy, lets call him Mike. Mike is the biggest jerk in the history of the world and he completely hates me for no reason at all. Since she fell head over heels for him we stopped hanging out and talking since then pretty much, not including the fights every once in awhile. Okay well, so. Supposedly they’re completely in love, although he calls her a slut, treats her horribly, and breaks up with her every other week. Last weekend she found out he is moving this weekend halfway across the country. Messed up, right? So, I really want to talk to her and make sure she is okay because supposedly she hasn’t eaten in days and is like totally depressed. I still love her and im really worried about her but she really hurt me when she started ditching me for mike. I want to forgive her and all and help her through this but at the same time I want her to apologize before I forgive her. I am afraid she wont apologize for awhile and when she does it will be too late for me to help her. I don’t know what to do.
I think that, for the sake of being a better person, you should reach out and help her in her time of need. Even if she doesn't apologize, I'm sure that deep down she loves you just the same and is sorry she hurt you. Go and help her feel better. Hopefully, she'll realize what a great friend you've been all along and will appreciate you much more in the future.
You don't necessarily have to forgive her for the things she's done, but you can still be there for her and remind her why you are there for her more than this Mike character.
heyy everyone!!
this years my senior year, but we dont have a good prank.
we want it to be hilarous, but we dont want to hurt anybody.
were not scared about getting in trouble, but we really dont want to hurt/insult anyone.
ive googled and goodsearched and checked yahoo, but i cant find any pranks that arent hurtful.a lot of them involve animals or assembling a car inside a classroom, but neither of those work.
any suggestions?
thanx so much!!
p.s any ideas for cute stuff to do in school for valentines day?
thanx so much!
I have the perfect prank!!!!
OMG IT'S GENIUS!!!
The day before Senior Skip Day, have every Senior bring a battery operated alarm clock to school. Set all of the alarm clocks to go off at the same time the NEXT day and then lock them in random lockers throughout the school.
When they go off the next day, all the Seniors will be gone and the school will have to go around and turn off each one individually!
Hilarious!
I'm trying to get my dad to build me a new room downstairs and i think i can get him to do it but he was to build walls and all that but i'm going to get a new bedroom i want black furniture with red walls i need to find new furniture that's not too expensive but cute does anyone have any ideas? i need help finding stuff so i can show him what exactly i want it's going to be a pretty big room also i'm going to get someone to write who are you to judge the life i live i know i'm not perfect and i don't live to be but before you start pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean in black and cursive pretty big on one of my walls. i found some cute stuff online at target but i need more ideas. help please?
What a cute idea!
You should definitely look into an IKEA. If there isn't one in your area, you can shop online. They have really cheap furniture sets, plus anything else you might need.
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/rooms/bedroom/