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f/16
Its not the first time i have done it but im freaking out a little.
My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday i went down on him for the first time and he went down on me. I also jacked him off for the first time and he cummed. He said he didnt touch his cum because i put my towel over his penis when he was cumming...so i let him rub me down there. Could I get pregnant like this.
Ps He dosent finger me he just rubs my clit and a little lower then that. (link)
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YES! you can get pregnant anytime you have a penis making a direct contact with a vulva or the opening of a vagina you risk the chance of pregnancy. even if he came on a towel! thats even more dangerous beacuse he had some remain sperm in his urethra ( where it comeout of) and if he did rub his penis in/around your vagina then be worried especially if you get your period and it stops suddenly. sperm is microscopic you cant see them with your naked eye do you know how many thousadns or millions can be in a drop? or in a finger nail? your vagina is below your clitoris. sperms only mission is to fertilze your egg and get you pregnant. please get more sex education before having more sex...in which you are now more curious. I hope this helps
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My boyfriend rubs me down there and yesterday we did alot of first time things.
Its not the first time he has tried to finger me but everytime he tries to go near my sex hole it hurts bad and feels uncomfortable. He says im really sensitive down there and tight. He ever tried his pinky and it was soooo uncomfortable. Is not like there is no lube because i get wet but its just I dont know whats wrong. Is it because im uncomfortabe because we sneak around and do this but still when i try to relax I cant do it.
What should I do?
Whats wrong with me?
sorry for any bad grammar...
and thanks ahead of time (link)
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First off nothing is wrong with you. its ok to feel pain/hurt. thats the beauty of the human body if it hurts its tell you something is not normal, even when you have sex and "loose Your virginity" it can hurt and if does thats your bodys way of telling you stop its hurting because this is not normal. now what can you do to make it less painfull? here are a few choises ...you might or may not like them either way you are more than welcome to ask for more of my opinion.
You let him know it hurts..yes again, and that its not getting any better and be honest are you ready for this? are you ready for this sexual experience? theres nothing wrong with waiting just like theres nothing wrong with you exploring but with either way you need to always have bounderies if you want. if you do not want him to finger you tell him thats a no no its just something that you are not ready for. people will not like this but you really may not be ready for his or anyones finger or penis or sex and again theres nothing wrong with that you are in no rush to have sex or explore this level when you do get fingered let it be because you feel like getting fingered will be your choice, what he really should be doing is slowing down and in my opinion stop!! hes a teenager he has no clue what he is doing I bet he cant name 7 parts of your vulva and he most likely doesnt know exactly why its hurting you, and its not cause your tight or sensitive...its because your tense!! and because he is not being patient with you or being supportive instead hes putting alot of pressure on you and i think that doesnt make you feel comfortable, you never imagined someone would touch you down there. like the way he wants to touch you and let alone let someone put their finger inside you or even a penis.. thats way bigger than a finger..now imgine how he is behaving and its his finger!! imagine if he can get you convinced just for one moment to let him slide your panties off and open your legs and put his penis in you imagine what support and pressure youll be getting from him. I really am not trying to judge you or him its just that i really think that you both should slow down and he needs to STOP!! i mean he can really really hurt you in many ways ..this issue is more sensitive than many think it is. for some its such an easy thing and thats ok but thats them and this is you and right now you dont feel 100% comfortable. I would like it if you read this part of my opinion before i can give you sexual advice, for right now read and think this over ok?? then if you still need sexual advice we will go from there ok.
I want you to please read this slowly
Theres nothing wrong with you, I know you are beautiful and sexy and attractive but thats not all. you are your much much more than special you are unique and you feel inside you that you really arent ready for this..this sneaking around and exploring sex in a way you ..well you just dont feel that its the right way. You are doing the right thing in expressing your thoughts and taking the time to read this besides being gorgeous you are incredibly intellegent and i know you will feel better if you slow down and enjoy sex being part of your life not sex being your life. He needs to also get some advice some really good advice. Id like also if at all possible ask you why do you want to get fingered? did he tell you about fingering? has anyone told you about the risks involving fingering? sex? oral sex? theres a whole lot more to sex besides feeling hot theres a whole lot to learn. id also like to ad just ask him this ask him ok? tell him hey when you get hard can strok your penis shaft dry with sand and salt on my hand with hot sauce and even if you tell me it hurts it will be ok if i tell you your tight and sensitive? ask or better yet tell him you want to try that and see his expression. If he keeps pressuring you let him go you dont need someone who will not care about you, or worry on your true feelings he should be walking down the street with you not across the street on the otherside and yelling "IM WITH YOU" oh and if he ever threathens to tell everyone about you and him dont ever let anyone try to make you their sex slave.
I hope this helps
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I tend to ejuculate within a minute of penetration...how can I avoid that?
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try having sex with a half to full bladder, try having sex with her in control ( on top) try not having foreplay part of your agenda. I hope this helps
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My boyfriend wants to finger me. I don't really care if he does or not but I'm just nervous because I never got fingered before.
I shave down there but i don't shave the whole area I leave the middle. From a girl's point of view do you guys shave the whole thing and if yes, step by step direcions would be helpful.
Also where the thighs sorta begin (near the vagina area) should I shave that too? Please don't tell me "do whatever is comfortable for you
Also I'm still a virgin so is there a chance while he's fingering me, my cherry could pop? If it does what do I do at that moment?. (link)
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No offense but it sounds to be like it does matter.
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what is an orgasimm?? what happens 2 yu wen yu have it??(dnt judge me!!) (link)
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An orgasm is the result of sexual satisfaction. both male and women can have orgasms, while women do release a fluid it is unlike a male that will release semen and sperm. You do not die or go blind or mutate but what you do get is the satisfaction of the experience. although the most popular way to climax/orgasm is by means of sex you can also argasm via arousal, or stimulation. both men and woman can have an orgasm/climax/cum while being unconsious (wet dream).
I hope this helps
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Which sex position prevets early ejaculation? (link)
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When you are o the top he will last longer, also if he has a half to full bladder will keep him from orgasm before you. I hope this helps
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it's just too hard. i've wanted to kill myself for ages. i mean i remember standing in front of the mirror when i was seven and think how nice it would be if i was dead. this can't be normal. and aside from the fact that i am totally screwed up, i have no friends, no talent, no family. there is no one who loves me, and yes, i am sure of this, BELIEVE ME. see as well as being depressed, i have this thing. it's a form of escapsism, really. i basically pretend to live in a different life, soemtimes it a futrue i hope that i could have had if i didn't kill my self. but then it like reality hits and it all comes crashing down. i know it not healthy, but can't i just live in my world? at least im happy there. i know i have to face reality, and postphoning my inevitable suicide, is pointless, but i just like it there. it makes me think that im normal, though, obviously im not. im not on here, because, 'obviously im just crying out for attention, and i don't really want to kill my self', so don't bother with that crap, i know, i've given advice to people as well okay. and don't say that someone must love me, or there's soemthing i must look forward to. even my fasasies are way too exetreme to be possible. the advice i want is simple,( and answer honestly, because either way, i WILL DIE, so deal with it): should i fantasise more and commit suicide, just a tiny bit more happier, or should i just kill my self, and spare myself any more pain? please, don't be stupid or naiive about this. i don't care about god. i don't care about the right to live, i don't care about thereapy. i just came on here for some advice. and if you do try and give me some crap rather than answer it, then thanks a lot. you should just let me suffer by myself, rather than mislead me. it not like im not trying hard enough to get by as it is, okay? (link)
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Im glad you have decided to think about killing yourself tomorrow and not today? giving yourself the opportunity to find a solution is the greatest hope you have given yourself, know this that you are a champion but you need to believe it to be it..life is hard but compare to what?!! I can understand why you feel so low but giving yourself the opportunity to solve your problem is in my opinion something to admire. We have always admirerd the greatest minds for the incredible impact in their problem solving skills. You might fantizise about death and you never know maybe your area of expertise could be in death, forensic scientist, Coroner, Mortician, embalmer there are so many talents that even though you may have not yet realized but they are in you, you just need to learn how to bring them out as safely as possible. If you truly are ready to give up and not deal with a life that many would love to live then no matter what anyone here says will impact you. Your god may have failed you but who was your god? was it you yourself that thought you could accomplish it all? whas is your family? your looks that failed you? or has it been that you never had a god and never gave God the opportunity? Im not encouraging religion because that wont save you, but what is it that you beleive? In life you will never be able to control anything... friends, family, money hell even sex but you can control one thing and that is your Attitude and if your attide is to beleive that you are not a winner then you are that.. not a winner but if your attitude is to know that you cant win everything but that you will win then you have just turned everythign around. You are a Champion..now start living like one.
I hope this helps
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Hey guys....so my first love and I just had an unfortunate break up. Its been really tough on me, and it certainly had been a confusing split. I'm dealing with it as best as I can with some help from my friends and a counselor.
Now all thats left is for me to have my alone time to just be sad and cry. Can you please recommend some good break up songs? Something that will make me cry. Thanks. (link)
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Try writing some of your own believe it or not this can help you grieve and recover and make you stronger and a benefit that it can bring is bring out a talent in you. Ive written many many many songs and although they have never made it to the billboards ..not that that was the plan ..when i read them i smile and get amazed as how well i expressed myself. I wouldnt mind sharing but im not here to make you sad im here to give you the best advice to help you.
I hope this helps
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I was laying on my boyfriend on a couch, we were both on our backs. We hadn't even kissed that whole day. He was playing with my hands, and I realized his pants (where his junk is) was really warm. I didn't want to look because that would make him feel awkward. What does this mean? (link)
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Yes your boyfriends Public area will get warm. along with his entire body during arousal. his penis will get a rich supply of blood pumped by his heart which will make his penis erect (hard) and ready for penetration. If he was not aroused by you its still possible for him to get an erection horomone changes that you or he will not have control of all of the times. Nipples go through a similiar stage. when a woman or even a guy gets aroused the breast Yes even guys have breasts will get warm the nipples will become erect.
if you just felt warmth in the area that does not mean he had an erection it is possible to feel warm down there and not have an erection. if his legs were closed heat can become trapped and that could be the reason why you felt it warm. Now if you felt something "poke" you or hard then he could have had an erection. I hope this helps
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Ok, this is kind of a weird question... recently I noticed that my butt is un-even. My right cheek is larger then my left. I don't mean it's way bigger, but it is noticable. It doesn't really bother me too much, I guess that muscle is just bigger? I was just wondering why that is... anyway thanks :) (link)
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Alot of factors can play a role as to why we are not perfectly balanced it could be that we sleep on one side more, apply more weight on side than the other during sitting, unbalanced support of the bodys weight on one side during standing, if you play sports using one side more than the other..or just plain and simple the beauty of being a human being that is not perfect :)
I hope this helps
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the last period i had lasted for 2 weeks why would that be? 15/f (link)
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You are still young and your body is most likely still regulating/adjusting itself. changes in weather, environment and in diet may have something to do with it along with your mood/emotional satus. I have read some studies that show that there are young females that can have a period of 3 days!! wow!! and as long as 2 weeks...even more wow!!. Do not feel bad. My advice is to stay relaxed and write down as many questions that come up share with your mom or a trsuted someone and take to a doctor or Gynocologist.
I hope this helps.
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I'm sixteen years old and I'm a 34B, and I have stretchmarks on my breasts. I'm wondering what is up with this? Like, is this normal? What caused this? (link)
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Well your body is changing and im sure you know that. Stretch marks can occur for many reasons heres a few:
your breasts are changing if they are getting bigger the skin needs to stretch.
If you have lost alot of weight due to working out more then. theyre changin size smaller and there is now loose skin (i said loose not sagging) well when they were fuller they were tighter and now because some fat has been lost the signs of the stretching now remains.
diet you could be lacking Vitamin E or other skin nutrients, your body needs to have a good supply of nutirents and vitamins to repair damaged cells replace calcium and to repair skin damage and keep it young. if your breast are getting larger or staying the same and you do not have the supply to keep that skin in healthy condition the skin will not be able to hold its forms and since breast carry fat tissue which does weight it will stretch your skin. in other words eat well and get pleanty or rest, use a comfortable bras to help support and take the weight off or chest/skin
Do tone your body mild with mild excersise.
consider using vitamin E oil. Apply on your breasts and stretch marks, using cocoa or coconut butter oil i have also heard helps. But if you need more helps consider seeing a professional.
I hope this helps
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Hey. I am 17/f and he is 19/m. We have been dating for almost 3 years. He's a sophomore in college, and im a senior in high school. My entire life, all I've wanted to do is be an elementary teacher, and to be a mother and a wife. Im a nurturer. I cannot imagine a life without children and a family. I love cooking and i can deal with cleaning. Strangely, my dream is to be a housewife in a place somewhat south, such as North Carolina or something near there.. Although we haven't talked about it in-depth, only small hypothetical things, because i don't plan on marriage or children until i graduate college, my boyfriend, chris, has made it perfectly clear he does NOT want kids, nor marriage. He said he just wants to, "act like we're married, but not actually make it legal. Weddings are stupid and a waste of money." He wants to go into business and start his own company in upstate new york, or someplace cold because he likes cold and snow. I love him with all my heart. I don't really know what id do without him. He is the most important person in my life. I honestly don't know what to do. His little brother, who is now 9, irritates the hell out of him. Chris describes him as a spoiled brat who gets "instant gratification". While this is true, i believe that every child should have a chance to go through that stage. Chris said his little brother ruined kids for him and now he HATES kids. Now i need your advice. I dont want to put this harshly, but should i stay with him, or am i (i didn't know how else to put it!) wasting my time with him? I know at this point in time, there is no possibility of him wanting to have children. I asked him, what if i got pregnant by accident, and he said, "if you're not comfortable with abortion, that's fine. We would just put the child up for adoption." Should i try to convince him that children aren't that bad, or should i try to find someone else who shares the same ideals with me? Also, i dont know if ill be able to let Chris go. I love him so much, and hes pretty much my whole world, and i want to start a family with HIM. I don't know what to do or how to convince him. Please, help me? Thank you! (link)
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My opinion is this:
I dont think his brother has ruined anything for him i think he really does not want to have children for what ever reason being? I really do not know. I do know this, I think when we truly really fall in love we really do not see ourselves not happy with or our love instead we do see ourselves happy, and being married is one of them ...now im not saying dating for a long time isnt ok but what i am saying is that you see yourself having a career and gettirng married, having children...believe it or not that is being happy and that is ONE of the ultimate goals in a couples future. I do not think you are doing wrong. Here in Califonia it is against the law for an adult to have sex or be in a relationship with a minor however many do not know that if its within 3 years apart and depending on the offenders age and crime/act the punishment will be based and if the victim wants to press charges. an example is that a 15 year old gets with an 18 old if she is not willing to press charges and because of the age difference theres nothing law enforcement can do , however if a 15 year old and a 25 year old get involve then its a diffrent story...sorry i got sidetracked...I would be glad if id were you...why? well i can only give him one good point and that is...he is being honest which is a good thing for you...why?
You now know what you are dealing with. In other words you have the right to choose if this is something that you can work with. If you feel you have no doubt that his is the guy who you know will always be there for you that will have a different opinion but will never fight you then this guy is your future husband. However I always advice this: If you have problems before the marriage then expect those problems to roll over into the marriage..in other words you will not be able to ever convince him and thats his rights to want or not want, just as its your right to do the same. You can prevent a horrible future. If he does not love children or is open or even willing into considering a possibility of one day having a child with you. You can prevent that child from just having a ..excuse my language...sperm donor and not a Daddy,Friend,guide,counselor,and a teacher. You really can prevent your future child from suffering.
I can say this I do not think this guy loves you...at least not in the way you want to be loved..I cant understand why he would not want to love a piece of you in a form of another human being...its confusing if he says he loves you but will not love a part of you...wierd!
I dont think he will be Loyal.you can really see right now in plain clear view that this man yearns for you?, that he feels that he can live with you..rather than feeling that he cant live his life without you. Id rather be with someone that feels the same as i do...that i cant live my life without. also i can tell he is a stress hazard.
Now when you say he is your whole world then theres a bit of a problem there. I will always say to girls and even guys write down all of the bad things that you do NOT want in a girl/guy and make a list, hang that list on your wall in your car in your binder everywhere you go take that list and read it a everyday learn to teach yourself that this is what you do NOT want in your life...and avoid it. I know you might think of him as your world right know and its true and do you know why? ...because you have never seen that in this world there are so many diffrent options, there are woman out there with his mentality. Just like I know there is a man who is with all of the qualities that you would like to share your life with. I would not stay with "chris". One thing i would like to say and this might offend alot of folks but here it is...hard to believe but alot of problems can be avoided if from the begining love, respect and communication is used for a foundation, sex well it can ruin alot of relationships before it even begins, now im not saying youve had sex with him...but if you have i can understand why it will be very difficult for you to let go and might be because when you are having sex. to you its all of the three things i mentioned happening at the same time of your sexual pleasure which is a high to you and thats ok theres nothing wrong with that..thats your satisfaction...but his i think is just sex and the satisfaction of getting that pleasure...and that is all.
I hope this helps
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I've been told that Guys can't pee if they're erect, and can't pee when ejaculating.
What about girls? I'm afraid I'll embaress myself. can Girls be trying to ride an orgasm, but instead, end up peeing?
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Thats not the case for all guys. Some guys can pee if they are erect. its true guys can not pee at the same time as having an orgasm due to sperm does not leave the bladder. Theres a myth that girls can gush and that they can orgasm in a manner thats looks like pee but the reality is that you can never orgasm that much fluid. and you can lose grip and pee yourself if you orgasm. Best advice empty your bladder before you you have an orgasm. both girl and boys have hold/delay an orgasm on a fuller bladder (last longer).Hope this helps
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17/f
i understand that sometimes one boob can be bigger than the other, but it is NOT noticeable. with me, my friend noticed it once, i didn't think it was so noticeable. but anyways, so my left boob is bigger than my right. im right handed, if that helps anything.. and i was wondering if there is any reason behind this.. i dont want to have one boob bigger than the other. my left boob is like half a cup bigger than my right. is there anything i could do or..? anything? :)
and im afraid to wear some booby-clothes, in case people notice the difference! *cringe*
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true the great majority of the times breast size cannnot be very visualy noticeable but it can be Breasts will be differ in size. sometimes its the other way around they might look the same but they really are not. in your case it might have to do with many things one could be the side you sleep on since the breast is composed of muscles nerves and fatty tisue weight and skin streches gravity will also effect how far or how low the breast will hang " lag" and depending on how much fat there is in the breat will aslo effect the "plumpiness"/ shape and genes play a role also, even though one would think that the side of hand you use the most would cause the breast to be bigger beacuse of the muscle you might build its actually the other way around since you work that side more out burn more calories and fat and since there will be less fat on that side..itll be thinner/smaller. You might try using your left arm a bit more. You also can try and add more volume to your breast but it most likely wont work you might end up having a bad diet gaining weight and they might grow but they still be uneven. I hear many woman message the breast thinking they might stretch the breast indusing enlargement but in my opinion i think they end up breaking up fat tissue and resulting the breast to shrink. & i think you'll only be stretching your sking and opening your self up for saggy breasts...and i dont think you want that. I always encourage women/girls to have their breast examined by a professional and to practice self breast checks...im sure you mom or some one has explained to you how to do this and why its so important to have a breast exam at least once a year!! I hope this helps
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I dont want to break up with my girlfriend, because I dont want to be known as the jerk by all of her friends. To prevent this, how do I get my girlfriend to break up with me? (link)
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if you have treated her with respect and you have not failed as a boyfriend youll never be a jerk...only in her mind which really isnt that bad if you are more concerned about hooking up with one of her friends then you need help. If you have lost interest in her your gona have to be honest the " its not you its me routine" is just that its a popular routine and shes heard it more than likely,,that will fire her up. so dont lie just be honest and tell her if you dont have does feelings anymore be honest but if you want to work things out with her tell her your lossing interest but that you really want to work things out and that your asking her for help. now if you just had sex with her then shame on you now you dont need help now your in trouble and you set yourself up for that so step up and be a man and tell her its over.. i mean if youve just been with her for sex then thats cold and you may as well finish your mission but if you havent then walk away and be honest you didnt take anything away from her except her time only. I hope this helps.
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Id like to ask you a question. Why do you want to break up? ex: not feeling it anymore? not emough time? is she pushy? rude?
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does a body wrap actually work?! i want one and might get it done today but idk! any info please! how long does it last? is it worth the money?! (link)
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well the little that i do know about body wraps is that its only temporary usually 2-3 days and in some cases weeks (2) what the wraps really doing is sort of reshapping your body but you can never beat the good old watching you intake (food) sleeping well, excersiing and i think you know what i mean. I hope this helps
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female
i have NEVER orgasmed...ever. i mean, when i have sex im reaaally wet , but i never orgasm. most of the time after a few minutes of sex i go numb ! i want to feel what everyone else does. ive had sex with guys and girls and i just never do. it feels reaallly good but i never hit a point where its amazing and i cum. lol im sorry.
ive tried to figure out what can make me cum by masterbatin, and i mean it feels good but i cant make myself do it either
its driving me nuts that i cant ! why is this ? (link)
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i think you might need to get first visually overstimulated and then get physically stimulated and have someone who is going to be very patient and explore together with you your sexual desires and fullfil some of your fantasies. some women let themselves get extremely " hot" then have intercourse. depending on who you have had sex with and their attitude it will have an effect on you reaching into orgasm. Physical advice try this. when you touch yourself and are stimulated "wet" lay on your bed on your back with your neck hanging over the bed, when you feel extremeley good after stimulationg you clitoris tighten your pelvic muscles as you feel your blood rush through your head and body, this rush might help you orgasm. there are more options i can explain but try that and see if helps
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19/female. virgin.
so i read one of your answers about sex. you told someone to think about all different things before someone has sex. i started to read what you had said and started to smile, because the guy ive been wanting to have sex with is someone who you described. hes the only guy ive EVER trusted. hes the only guy ive ever felt comfortable around. he never has and i know he never will hurt me. he respects me and my decisions. hes always there for me. i know everything about his past, and he has only had sex with one other girl and that was his ex girlfriend. i know this is true too. the only reason i'm doubting is because we aren't dating right now, and i dont know if we will ever be in a relationship. we're not friends with benefits, but he was hurt in the past from his ex girlfriend of 3 years and doesnt want a relationship right now, and i dont want a boyfriend either. we've talked about it before, and i was like... i'm scared :( and he was like.. you have no reason to be scared. i dont get embarassed talking about things like that with him. and next year he will be going to a college to play hockey for a D1 school, meaning that i most likely wont see him much because he will be so busy. im having all these feelings. hes the only guy ive ever thought about doing this with. i dont let guys into my life because i have been hurt and ive known him for about 5 years now and hes the only boy ive ever let into my life. urghh..
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As you probably read from some of my previous thoughts...its wonderful to be a virgin its one of the best experiences you can have and feel..and when the time comes to deciding if you are ready to take the step into allowing body to accept a new and permanent change well its not that difficult but it feels oh so tough to decide.. the best opinion i can offer you is to analyze your thought and your feelings.its great to talk about sex believe it or not but its also very important to put a limit on how much info at one time you should intake i think its important to go slow because you dont learn to walk from one day to another just like you never learn to ride a bike in minute and you dont learn not even to play a video game at one moment it takes time right? so by taking your time even if its in a time sensitive situation its better to say hey i know i can always have sex tomorrow. the problem is after having sex and you all of a sudden think wait i should have done this in a diffrent way...in other words once you take the step and you live that moment you cannot remake it you can try to erase it but you and i know that you will only be trying to erase what happend. i personally think that if you do not have sex youll do great and yes even if you do have sex you will be fine i dont see you loosing value, we sometimes need to take a step forward to reach our maturity. I dont advice you to have sex yet..even though he might not be pressuring you to have sex i dont think you should either if its not important and a big deal to him then be very glad that you have an incredibly rare special someone who really is just interested in loving you and will be wishing you the most concentrated amount of love..if he tells you look we dont need to have sex even though i love you with all of heart with every pure good intentions i have ever felt in my life. i will not take this special moment from you or me because if i know that i am not going to be with you forever then im taking a special moment away from my best friend i dont know him but i call him my best friend because he will make you happy and i will owe him my life if he does and the only thing i can offer him is a good example of my actions so that he may follow and for you to see that there is still dignity and honor in this world...
i know you might think .. what are you talking about there isnt a guy that way...
I had the priveledge is seeing this in my life and i give all of my respect to this person for doing this i never regret this person from doing this i will forever see him in a very high honor. let me say this to you also a scary part of sex...it can be addictive once you have felt it the first time you dont enjoy it as you think you should you sometimes feel like ok was that it? it may very well hurt or not, youll still be left confused and youll wonder still did i do the right thing? and then you will wonder let try again and see what happens then the secon time you say hhmmm interesting lets see a third and then you go its starting to feel better and good and then you can have a problem.
the sad part that can happen is he goes away you both move on then when you least expect it you meet someone and he is pure at heart and then it haunts you. never think you have nothing to loose always think about the future, he has had sex and he would like to feel it again he might feel inside that you are special which is why he hasnt tried anything yet but he still want to feel sex again and i know youthink he isnt a random guy but if he leaves wouldnt that make him a random guy? yes true you knew him but you didnt get to know him..in other words you never finished learning who he really is. I think you woul really like it if you both stayed together for a long time, even yes even maybe get married? if you said yes then i think it wouldnt be a right step for you because you seem to be a loyal, commited, loving patient,caring, intellegent, respossible, and loving girl who deserves to be happy and not having that person in a long term relationship would heart break you. You would always feel like hes gone and he took that part of me that i gave from him rather than I knew him my first true love at a young age and I have great memories of him that i will always rememeber for being my first true love that i experience a clean relationship. ...i guess what im trying to tell you is that i wouldnt want you to feel sad when he is gone because he will be gone but you will be left with that emptiness not only emotional but now also physically. never doubt in believeing that there may be someone waiting for you to make you happy even if its not with this guy, if you are not meant to be together and he is meant for someone else and he falls for her and moves one how will you feel of shes a virgin and she waited for him and he gets to relive and enjoy that moment again and you meet someone else and he has never given his virginity to anyone then how will you feel? what will you feel that you have to offer him? the memory of your ex?..i am sorry i do not want you to feel bad beacuase im not trying to make you feel bad really im not even though i dont know you i do care..thats why im giving you my opinion..i really hope this helps and feel free to ask.
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I usually ask questions about my crush for my friend on here (crush1) but i also had a crush for my other friend (crush2). My funny cute n random first crush is the one i cant get over even if i avoid him now the problem is my other friend whose nice funny loyal cool n collected is the one im getting feelings for to. We talk about alot of things and i can tell nearly anything to him he knows my first crush n that i like him (crush1) but doesnt know i like him (crush2) but i can tell that he likes me too but he has a girlfriend already what do i do i like both but crush1 sorta likes me n so does crush2??? Im so confused (link)
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well I think you should always respect even more a persons relationship. Now im not trying to be mean or rough on you. I wouldnt let my feelings get too deep for the crush with a girlfriend...see sometimes what happens is that girls dont know is that when a guy has a girl his confidence levels goes really high and he feels he can be himself wihout being too shy anymore this confidence is found very attractive by girls being either single or in a relationship and it causes confusion. As i mentioned earlier do not let this crush feelings take over he is in a relationship and just cause hes been a friend and talking to you does not mean he might be trying to be with you...how do you think his girl would feel if he would to dump her? not nice huh? im pretty sure shed 1.feel heartbroken 2. sad 3. didnt expected it and doesnt know why its going on or 4. all of the above? I know you might be are yearning to have that special person in your life but consider this...if he was your boyfriend would it be fair to you if his female friend got in between you two? or didnt respect the bouderies? or more importantly respect not just him or the relationship but more importantly you? i bet you would not like the feeling...im not saying go with the other crush but what i am doing is trying offering a soft cushing as to how you can explain to yourself why it wouldnt be a good idea to try something with him. I think many girls would greatly appriciate it if another girl would tell the guy hey you have a girl and i may not know her but i wouldnt like it if someone did that to me. there may be a future in store for the other crush but id take it slow and really try to focus on what you DO NOT want in a guy and what you do.
I hope this helps
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