Question Posted Thursday January 11 2007, 11:57 pm
My boyfriend wants to finger me. I don't really care if he does or not but I'm just nervous because I never got fingered before.
I shave down there but i don't shave the whole area I leave the middle. From a girl's point of view do you guys shave the whole thing and if yes, step by step direcions would be helpful.
Also where the thighs sorta begin (near the vagina area) should I shave that too? Please don't tell me "do whatever is comfortable for you
Also I'm still a virgin so is there a chance while he's fingering me, my cherry could pop? If it does what do I do at that moment?.
kmappzz answered Monday April 5 2010, 3:28 am: yupp im in the same situation as you. its been 3 days sense he asked me and ive thought it over and i might let him do it but im worried about the same problem as you. i say just do what you want/are aready doing, if he really loves you he wont care ! ! and also a very imortant issue for this topic is what other people would think of you- ive already have one of my close friends say that if i did shewould lose al respect for me. rumors fly and people may ccall you a slut, whore, ect. so if you are going to let him just ake sure you talk to him first about it and tell him he shuldnt tell anyone about it. good luck with your situation and wiish e good luckk wiith mine ! :)xx [ kmappzz's advice column | Ask kmappzz A Question ]
LoveNJstyle answered Friday January 12 2007, 9:23 pm: it'd be good if you shave your bikini line and most of it (at least a good trim). that's the most common i think.
there's not a good chance that help pop you're cherry. ask him to use one finger (vs. 2) or just rub your clit if you don't want to fell pain/have that awkward moment. don't be nervous, you'll be fine. <3 [ LoveNJstyle's advice column | Ask LoveNJstyle A Question ]
BitsandPieces answered Friday January 12 2007, 6:06 pm: You don't care whether he does or not, is not the same as you want him to. Think about that for a minute. Girls are not usually the ones trying to get sex from the guys. The guys are the ones who are more aggresive and the girls often have to be the ones to set the limits. This is historically and statistically true all over the world. So, I want you to ask yourself why you would not care about something that is about your private body and your decision sexually? It is only for you to decide when you WANT to do something that concerns your body and emotions. Girls should not be just giving in in order to please the guy, and lowering her standards to meet his never-ending requests for more and more. Believe me, this is only the beginning and he will keep asking for more. Your body and your sexuality should be something that you alone are in charge of, and not something negotiable that you don't care about and will give away easily to make someone else happy. Guys care very much about getting sex from girls and many will do and say anything to get sex or sexual activity of any kind from any girl who is willing. You should not be thinking about being prepared for the sexual activity in what you can do to best please him, but you should be thinking more about what you want and when and how. There is no right or wrong way for you to respond to physical touch or sex. You don't need to shave extra...very silly idea that is best left to the porn industry. Every woman remembers what it is or still goes through sexual pressuring from the guys. Be strong and don't give in to anything you don't yourself really WANT to do. It is your body not his and anything you do together should not be the result of just you giving in. He gets the sexual experience he wanted, but will you get anything you want? Don't just be a pleaser. Your body is not his right as a boyfriend or community property. It is yours alone, so do only what your whole body brain and heart decides. [ BitsandPieces's advice column | Ask BitsandPieces A Question ]
Imperialistic answered Friday January 12 2007, 9:26 am: I sometimes shave the entire thing off but sometimes I leave a "landing strip".
To take it all off, I first trim all of it with scissors (be very careful, I once cut myself and it was so painful). I put shaving cream where the hair is, but I'm careful to not let any get inside. I shave in all four directions because the hair doesn't grow one way.
I don't think you need to take all of it off. Just shave your thighs, and the front part. You can leave some near the opening.
Seriously though, he won't care. Guys are so happy you're actually letting them touch you, nothing else matters as long as you don't smell really bad.
Your cherry shouldn't pop unless he's finger-banging you in your vagina and I'd stop there if he was trying to do that.
But before you do any of that, please make sure to think about what you're doing and how you feel about him. Is he the only one who wants to get physical with you or do you feel the same too? Also remember to make sure he washes his hands before he does anything and set limits before you start fooling around, i.e. he can't take his pants off. [ Imperialistic's advice column | Ask Imperialistic A Question ]
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